Be You Not Them

#75 - A Bittersweet Goodbye (For Now)

THE END OF AN ERA. This is a tough and short episode for us, but we pride ourselves on being open and honest with you guys. So, we knew this episode had to be done.  Today, Nina is stepping away from Be You Not Them and she explains why. No, we didn't get into a fight guys! We're still BESTIES4LIFE. But unfortunately, sometimes things serve a purpose in our life for a short time and we have to make the decision to walk away.  So, this isn't the end of Be You Not Them... this is just a sh...

#74 - Good Things Take Time

STOP RUSHING INTO EVERYTHING. Guys, we’re tired of this culture of immediacy. Are you guys with us? We’re talking about expectations to get things done ASAP and as quickly as possible, especially when it comes to our work, but also in many other areas of our lives. We’re going to talk about the negative sides of this type of culture (SPOILER: there are MANY cons to it) and what we can do to set expectations on our side.   [2:30] What is this Culture of Immediacy?? The woes of instant gra...

Mini Pick Me Up - What Makes Us Feel Young

Welcome to your mini pick me up! In light of our last episode that was basically a vent session of us feeling old, we're going to be asking ourselves today:   What is something that makes us feel YOUNG?   We’d love to hear how this episode resonated with you! As always, you can hit us up on the typical channels below! Make sure to subscribe and leave a review as well. We would really appreciate it! Resources:  Find more silliness & love at beyounothem.co Slide into our DMs on...

#73 - Baklava Session - When You Feel Old

Welcome all to another Baklava Session, where we go on rants and unscripted discussions about life, being a woman, self love, and whole bunch of other topics. Today, we're discussing on our recent feels about getting older. From not recognizing songs on the radio anymore to our insides sometimes feeling like we are actually 65 years old, we cover it ALL.   Resources:  Find more silliness & love at beyounothem.co Slide into our DMs on Insta @beyounotthempodcast Connect with us on Fa...

Mini Pick Me Up - How Being Judged Hurts

Welcome to your mini pick me up! In light of our last episode, we're going to talk about the negative effects of judging others and gossiping. We've all been there - we've judged others and made assumptions about them based off of how they look, how they reacted to something, their mood, etc.   But, we have ALSO been judged by others as well. So it's time for some self reflection that can help us become a little bit more aware about passing judgement on others.   So we're going to ...

#72 - Stop Being So Judgy!

WHY DO WE ALWAYS JUDGE EVERYONE?! Have you ever judged someone? Have you ever made assumptions about someone’s character based on their appearance? We’re going to be honest… WE HAVE. Back when we were a lot more judgemental and much less confident in ourselves. But don’t be too hard on yourself, because it’s human nature to sometimes put people in boxes. However, today we’re going to talk about why we need to be a little bit more self aware before we starting judging everyone else.   [2:...

Mini Pick Me Up - Mental Health Impacts of Cancel Culture

Welcome to your mini pick me up! Today we're going to ask ourselves and YOU what are some of the mental and emotional impacts that cancel culture may have.???? We’d love to hear how this episode resonated with you! As always, you can hit us up on the typical channels below! Make sure to subscribe and leave a review as well. We would really appreciate it! Resources:  Find more silliness & love at beyounothem.co Slide into our DMs on Insta @beyounotthempodcast Connect with us on Fa...

#71 - Baklava Session - Cancel Culture

Welcome all to another Baklava Session, where we go on rants and unscripted discussions about life, being a woman, self love, and whole bunch of other topics. Today, we're sharing our thoughts on cancel culture and why it is so important to have a conversation before jumping the gun. Social media platforms, especially, are where we see this happen the most and we discuss how incredibly easy cancelling someone can be on these platforms. Resources: Braving the Wilderness by Brene Brown F...

Mini Pick Me Up - Changing Your Life With Values

Welcome to your mini pick me up! Today we're going to continue singing praises of Core Values. We both have identified ours and it really has been LIFE CHANGING. Keeping that in mind, we're asking ourselves, and YOU, this week: How has knowing your core values changed your life??? We’d love to hear how this episode resonated with you! As always, you can hit us up on the typical channels below! Make sure to subscribe and leave a review as well. We would really appreciate it! Resources...

#70 - What Are Your Core Values?

FINDING OUT WHAT MATTERS TO YOU. Helloooooo, little Be You Not Them family! We have an episode that will have thinking and evaluating what is important to you… Your core values! This is something that both of us have identified in our own lives and have helped guide us. So we wanted to share our tips for finding out what your core values are today and why they’re helpful to know.   [1:00] What Do You Value?? Sometimes we think of core values as work related… every company has their core ...

Mini Pick Me Up - Small Habits Building Our Ideal Day

Welcome to your mini pick me up! Today we share one small habit that we have been incorporating for ourselves to manifest our ideal day and digress into how moving should be the only thing that we can press fast forward to. We’d love to hear how this episode resonated with you! As always, you can hit us up on the typical channels below! Make sure to subscribe and leave a review as well. We would really appreciate it! Resources:  Find more silliness & love at beyounothem.co Slide into...

#69 - Building Your Ideal Day

[2:24] A Little Inspo. We share a little snippet of how Tony Robbins built his ideal day to help better explain what this means. [6:39] The Vision Story. Building your ideal day is not about your day and night time routines...it is MUCH MORE than that. We dive into how to create your vision story and what it encompasses [9:30] Nat's Ideal Day. Nat shares how she built her ideal day off of her vision story created at a mastermind retreat with her fiance Ben. [13:35] Nina's Ideal Day. T...

Mini Pick Me Up - Reconnecting With Your Child Self

Welcome to your mini pick me up! Today Natassia is talking about how she feels more like her 8 year old self now as a 32 year old. Ok, that sounds a little weird, but TRUST US. It's time to reflect and figure out how we can regain some of that child-like wonder and confidence now as adults! In light of that, we ask ourselves the following the question for this week: How are you, as an adult, similar to how you were as a child?  AND What's something about you as a child that you would...

#68 - Finding The Little Joys with Natassia

HAPPINESS DOESN'T HAVE TO BE LOUD. Welcome to another solosode episode! Today Natassia is sharing something that helps her deal with days where she feels stressed, overwhelmed, or just an overall feeling of MEH. Finding Little Joys. These are small little moments throughout your day and life where you feel a sense of joy or happiness.   Natassia shares some of the little joys in her life to help you reflect on what Little Joys may look like to you. What are some little moments of peace o...

Mini Pick Me Up - Tips for When the Meh Hits

Welcome to your mini pick me up! Today's topic was inspired by Monday's little Baklava Sesh where we just openly talked about our MEH feelings from last week.  In light of that, we ask ourselves the following the question for this week: What are something you can do to help you process that MEH feeling? We’d love to hear how this episode resonated with you! As always, you can hit us up on the typical channels below! Make sure to subscribe and leave a review as well. We would really a...

#67 - Baklava Session - Catching Up

Welcome all to another Baklava Session, where we go on rants and unscripted discussions about life, being a woman, self love, and whole bunch of other topics. Today, we're sharing honestly where are at from last week, the lovely feeling of MEH. We are not only using this as a catchup session for us both but also what we are both going through at the moment! Resources: Find more silliness & love at beyounothem.co Slide into our DMs on Insta @beyounotthempodcast Connect with us on Face...

Mini Pick Me Up - The Effects Of a Better Night

Welcome to your mini pick me up! Today's topic was inspired by Monday's discussions about NIGHT TIME ROUTINES! We talked about our struggles with developing better sleep habits and what worked for us! Trust us, we're total morning people now. In light of that, we ask ourselves the following the question for this week: What was an unexpected change that happened once you found a good night routine? We’d love to hear how this episode resonated with you! As always, you can hit us up on ...

#66 - Building A Night Routine

WHEN YOUR SLEEP IS MESSED UP. As two people who have suffered from sleep deprivation and insomnia in the past... we're here to tell you that you need to set up a night routine. Because we're boring adults now and we go to bed by 10:00 PM at the latest. You'll thank us later!   [1:20] Why Are Night Routines Important? We have experienced what it's like to be perpetually EXHAUSTED. So lets talk about the benefits of developing a night routine that works for you.   [2:07] How Our Night ...

Mini Pick Me Up - That Moment of Self Love

Welcome to your mini pick me up! Today's topic was inspired by Monday's little Baklava Sesh where we talked about what self love actually FEELS like. Self-Love is topic often talked about but the actually FEELING behind the moment of self-love is a little bit of a puzzle in which dove into on Monday. In light of that, we ask ourselves the following the question for this week: What was the moment where you actually FELT that you loved yourself? We’d love to hear how this episode reson...

#65 - Baklava Session - What Does Self Love FEEL Like?

FEELING YOUR SELF LOVE. Welcome all to another Baklava Session, where we go on rants and unscripted discussions about life, being a woman, self love, and whole bunch of other topics. Today, we're discussing on what self love ACTUALLY feels like. Contrary to what many believe, the feelings of self love are not happiness or simply an outpour of joy. Sometimes, "feeling" self love can be absolutely CHALLENGING but we go into how walking through these challenges lead to our idea of what self lov...

#64 - Trusting Your Talent with Natassia

Ready for a new solosode?! Today, Natassia shares her own experience with struggling to recognize her own talent and skills for many years. Imposter syndrome is REAL, guys.  Natassia shares a recent experience she had that truly made her realize that she ALWAYS had the skills she needed to succeed... she just didn't recognize it in herself earlier. She also shares some tips on how to grow that trust in your own talent. Let this episode serve as a reminder to you that you're probably doin...

#63 - Dating Yourself with Nina

Welcome to another Solosode! Today, Nina is taking over the mic to discuss something that has been so transformative for her: DATING YOURSELF. We have been talking in previous episodes about productivity and resetting your energy levels and in light of this, this little solosode comes at the perfect time. Nina breaks down what it means to date yourself and the difference between being alone and feeling lonely. She shares her own hurdles with this and how dating herself really came about. L...

Mini Pick Me Up - Switching Up Your Routine

Welcome to your mini pick me up! Today's topic was inspired by episode 62, where we talked about how soooo many of us our living our lives on autopilot without stopping to reflect if we're making the right choices! We ask ourselves the following the question for this week:   How do you switch up your routine to make it less predictable?   We’d love to hear how this episode resonated with you! As always, you can hit us up on the typical channels below! Make sure to subscribe and l...

#62 - Living Life on Autopilot

STOP SLEEPWALKING THROUGH LIFE. A perfect episode to kickstart your week. We are definitely not stranger to this… and we’re sure many of you can relate on some level as well. While it seems great to be able to do some things on autopilot, it can truly rob us of living our lives if most of our decisions throughout our day ARE made on autopilot. I   [1:20] Let’s Share Some STATS. Your girls came prepared with some stats from a report by Marks & Spencers in the UK… and they’re eye opening. ...

Mini Pick Me Up - Hyping Ourselves

Welcome to your mini pick me up! Today's topic was inspired by Monday's Baklava Sesh which was all about being our own hype women and celebrating the amazing women that we are. We ask ourselves the following the question for this week: What is one thing you say to yourself to hype you UP? We’d love to hear how this episode resonated with you! As always, you can hit us up on the typical channels below! Make sure to subscribe and leave a review as well. We would really appreciate it! R...

#61 - Baklava Session - Be Your Own Hype Woman

SING A PRAISE FOR YOURSELF. Welcome all to another Baklava Session, where we go on rants and unscripted discussions about life, being a woman, self love, and whole bunch of other topics. Today, we're discussing being your own hype woman. This is sometimes so hard for us but why? We can easily do it for others but not for ourselves. TODAY, we are changing that because we need to lift our own spirits and remind ourselves of the queens we are.  We hope you guys enjoyed today's episode. As alw...

Mini Pick Me Up - Stop Feeling Guilty When You're Unproductive

Welcome to your mini pick me up! Today's topic was inspired by Tuesday's episode which was all about protecting your energy levels and identifying when to take a step away and reset. We ask ourselves the following the question for this week: How can you stop yourself from feeling guilty when you're unproductive? We’d love to hear how this episode resonated with you! As always, you can hit us up on the typical channels below! Make sure to subscribe and leave a review as well. We would r...

#60 - Being Unproductive Can Be GOOD

YOU ARE NOT YOUR PRODUCTIVITY. We have a perfect follow up from our last episode, which was all about about low energy levels. You know what contributes to low energy and burnout??? Not. Taking. A. Break. Our society thrives on being productive 24/7 and the "hustle hard" mentality. However, we're here to remind you that sometimes you absolutely need to be unproductive.   [4:10] Purpose Filled Life Versus Living Out Your Purpose. We talk a little bit about how we NEED to separate our iden...

Mini Pick Me Up - The Saving Grace

Welcome to your mini pick me up! Today's topic was inspired by Tuesday's episode which was all about protecting your energy levels and identifying when to take a step away and reset. We ask ourselves the following the question for this week: What is the saving grace we turn to when our energy levels are so depleted? We’d love to hear how this episode resonated with you! As always, you can hit us up on the typical channels below! Make sure to subscribe and leave a review as well. We w...

#59 - When Your Energy Levels are Non-Existent

Feeling tired? Overwhelmed? Kinda like you are in a bit of a haze? No, this isn't an advertisement for a sleeping pill but rather a wake up call that your energy levels are out of whack. This episode we dive into all the signs, situations and triggers that cause our energy levels to go out the window and how to reclaim it back.  [2:37] Signs of Energy Drain. Feeling lethargic, unmotivated and just simply tired? We talk about the signs of energy drain includes: - Fog, daze - Taking longer...

Mini Pick Me Up - The Beauty of Synchronicity

Welcome to your mini pick me up! Today's topic was inspired by our last Baklava Session, where we talked about divine experiences and coincidences in our lives that just seemed TOO WEIRD to be random. So with this theme in mind, we decided to talk about the concept of synchronicity, which was a term first coined by psychologist Carl Jung. It refers to meaningful coincidences that mysteriously occur in our lives. We want you to reflect on this and ask yourself the following: What are ...

#58 - Baklava Session: Are You Paying Attention?!

THE UNIVERSE WORKS IN MYSTERIOUS WAYS. Welcome all to another Baklava Session, where we go on rants and unscripted discussions about life, being a woman, self love, and whole bunch of other topics. Today, we're discussing strange coincidences in life. Whether it's meeting someone at the right time who plays a pivotal role in your life or a sequence of events that seem to be pointing you in the right direction. It's a little woo-woo, yes. But we LOVE it. So sit back and maybe reflect on mom...

Mini Pick Me Up - What You Gain From Trusting Yourself

Welcome to your mini pick me up! Today's little question comes from our episode Monday which was all about trusting yourself. We talked about our own struggles with this and how we sometimes get in our way in trusting ourselves because of fear, not being clear on our vision and also simply, not wanting to step out of our comfort zone.  With this in mind, we are asking YOU: What do you think you can gain when you choose to trust yourself? We’d love to hear how this episode resonated wit...

#57 - Trusting Yourself

You have probably heard this time and time again, to trust ourselves; however, how many of us can truly say we trust in ourselves to make the best choices, decisions, and actions for us? I know that we have been still working on this for ourselves. In this episode, we talk about the challenge being trusting ourselves as well as how to build that trust by sometimes take a little time to disconnect, step back a little. [1:58] Knowing Your Value. We believe that the foundation of building tru...

Mini Pick Me Up - Stopping the Spiral

Welcome to your mini pick me up! Today's topic was inspired by our lovely little catch-up session on Monday. We talked about so many interesting topics, but the one theme that ran current with everything we were going through is UNCERTAINTY.  So with this theme in mind, we are asking: What can we do to stop the spiral into the uncertainty abyss? We’d love to hear how this episode resonated with you! As always, you can hit us up on the typical channels below! Make sure to subscribe and ...

#56 - Baklava Session - Catching Up

Welcome to another Baklava Session, our episodes where things are little more lighthearted and serve as a therapeutic vent session. Today we're BACK after a little break and we are simply catching up on life today. Both of us talk about all the things we have experienced in the last few weeks including which struggle bus we are on currently, tropical travels, sabbaticals, and lovely wedding plans (or lack thereof haha). Let us know your thoughts, guys. You know where to reach us :) R...

#55 - Hot Mess Express

IT IS OK TO BE A HOT MESS. Welcome to another solosode! It is Nina's turn to share a little bit about how much being a "hot mess" is not accepted not only in society but in Nina's own little world. Much like Natassia, this little dialogue was also inspired by a conversation she had with her coach, Angie Sanchez. Nina wants to flip this idea on its head and thus, shares how she has turned to be a hot mess into something successful, beautiful, and transformative. Some of the things Nina disc...

#54 - How to Make Peace with Goodbyes with Natassia

ENDINGS LEAD TO NEW BEGINNINGS. Welcome to another solosode! It’s been a while since we’ve had one of these episodes! In this solosode, Natassia shares some thoughts around making peace with saying goodbye, which was inspired by a conversation she had with her coach, Angie. Sometimes we have to accept the fact that things need to end... whether it’s a friendship, job, place or situation we’ve become familiar with. Natassia shares some of her struggles and the emotions she felt when she nee...

Mini Pick Me Up - Being A Little More Selfish

Welcome to your mini pick me up! Today's topic was inspired by the incredible interview we recently had with Ciara Ladroma, who is a Mindset Expert. We talked about so many interesting topics, but one key thing that Ciara is adamant about is being SELFISH with your energy. Actually, she calls herself the CEO of Being Selfish With Your Energy... We love it.  So with our latest interview in mind, we are asking YOU: How can you be selfish with your energy? What does that look like for you? ...

#53 - Being Selfish With Your Energy & Redefining Happiness with Ciara Ladroma

HAPPY, HEALTHY AND WEALTHY. Guys, we have such a fun and exciting interview that we’re happy to share with you all. We sit down for a chat with Ciara Ladroma, who calls herself the Wealthy Minimalist. She helps people change their mindset in regards to happiness, health and wealth. We discuss a lot, from learning to date yourself to protecting your energy and so much more. So sit back and get ready to hear some truth bombs!    [1:15] Who is Ciara at her Core? Ciara talks about who she is...

Mini Pick Me Up - Replacing Negative Coping Habits

Welcome to your mini pick me up! This week, our minisode will highlight what we discussed in Ep. 52, which was all about those negative little coping habits we may engage when faced with challenges. We not only defined what coping mechanisms are and the different types (yes...there are different types, who would have thought) but also shared which negative habits we fall into. So for today's Mini Pick Me Up, we're going to ask each other (and YOU!): What is a negative coping skill that y...

#52 - Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms

#52 - Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms How often, when met face to face with challenges, we fall victim to some unhealthy habits to cope? We are over here waving hands like CRAY because like you, we have all been there.  In this episode, we dive into not only what it means to “cope” but also what NOT to do when faced with what may seem like insurmountable challenges (or annoying ones, really).  [1:38] What does it mean to "cope". We define a little bit what coping means and the different stra...

Mini Pick Me Up - I Don't Fit In Here

Welcome to your mini pick me up! This week, our minisode will highlight what we discussed in Ep. 51, which was about why fitting in SUCKS. We vented about some of our experiences where we felt like we had to bottle ourselves up in order to be liked or please others. So for today's Mini Pick Me Up, we're going to ask each other (and YOU!): Share an experience where you thought, "I don't fit in here" and were fine with it. We’d love to hear how this episode resonated with you! As always,...

#51 - Baklava Session: Why Fitting In Sucks

Welcome to another Baklava Session, our episodes where things are little more lighthearted and serve as a therapeutic vent session. Today we're heatedly discussing why we think trying to fit in SUCKS.  Both of us talk about our own experiences of trying to fit in, whether at work, with friends or even expectations that are put on us by those around us. All in all, if we had to rate how we felt when we were trying to fit into a mold that wasn't made for us, we would rate the experience a ...

Mini Pick Me Up - Changing the Sex Negative Culture

Welcome to your mini pick me up! This week, our minisode will highlight what we discussed in the AMAZING interview with Sarrah Rose released Monday. We talked about everything from sexual empowerment, self-love and healing as well as using tantra to build sexual confidence. Give the negative flack surrounding sex convos, in today's minisode, we just basically vent about how we need to change the sex negative culture into one that is positive, open and less fearful than the one we were all br...

#50 - Sexual Empowerment, Healing & Tantric Practices with Sarrah Rose

YOUR SEXUALITY IS YOUR POWER. We're so excited to have Certified Tantra, Love and Relationship Coach, Sarrah Rose on our show today. Sarrah advocates for how self-love and healing are necessary for both men and women to heal their relationship with their sexuality. The path to promote a more sex positive culture has NOT been easy and she opens up about this with her upbringing and relational trauma. Let’s dive in and find out about these other healing modalities and simply talk about sex. ...

Mini Pick Me Up - Succeeding For The Wrong Reasons

Welcome to your mini pick me up! This week, our question will highlight what we discussed in episode 49, which was all about chasing success and achievement in the hopes of VALIDATION. As two Type A personalities, it really hit home for us. Our question for this week is: What was an achievement that you were chasing for all the wrong reasons? We’d love to hear your experiences! As always, you can hit us up on the typical channels below! Make sure to subscribe and leave a review as well. ...

#49 - Chasing Achievement for Validation

Mini Pick Me Up - Affirmation Against Ghosting

Welcome to your mini pick me up! On Monday, we talked about getting ghosted in our little Baklava Sesh. For this lovely mini pick me up, we are changing things up! No question this week but rather a series of little affirmations that remind you of the bad ass warrior you are, no matter what ghosting scenario you face. As always, you can hit us up on the typical channels below! Make sure to subscribe and leave a review as well. We would really appreciate it!   Resources:  Find more si...

#48 - Baklava Sessions: Getting Ghosted

Welcome to another Baklava Session, our episodes where things are little more lighthearted and we're seriously just winging it. This one we talk about getting ghosted...and no, not the paranormal activity type of thing.  Both of us share being ghosted as well as ghosting others in the dating and relationship realm; however, being "ghosted" extends beyond dating.  We also share getting ghosted in our friendships and in work opportunities. Listen in on some of the most strangest texts that N...