Understanding EQ. Emotional intelligence is the ability, skill or capacity to recognize and modulate the emotions that you are going through and the people around you. Most people are stuck in the Immature Emotional Intelligence Feedback Loop, and at the end of the day they feel guilty, embarrassed, ashamed, disappointed and depressed because of how they handle life situations. Luckily emotional intelligence is a skill that can be learned, and through practice it can be improved tremendously. The advantages of such a skill are out of this world. That is why you definitely need to listen to the episode and the following episode on EQ vs IQ.