212: The Most Important Episode For Mom Entrepreneurs

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Welcome to episode 212. Let's talk about overwhelm. And then we're going to end with a very actionable insight pertaining to how you can play offensively whenever it comes to overwhelm as a mom entrepreneur. If you don't know me, I'm an executive coach for mom entrepreneurs and what I help you with is turning imposter syndrome into your asset. I also help you nip overwhelm in the bud and realize the power of networking. All of this has to do with something that every single mom entrepreneur has to do, which is putting herself out there. So I wanted to just share that with you. I also wanted to share with you one really, really huge, huge opportunity, which is today.

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TRANSCRIPT

So here we go on the topic of overwhelm. Some of the overwhelm that you might be feeling could be self inflicted. And I want to share with you a story where I inflicted upon myself way more harm than good and I felt overwhelmed. And it wasn't just emotional overwhelm, but physiological overwhelm. One day when I was writing my book and going through the editing, I had my entire manuscript in front of me and I decided to sit down at my desk for 12 hours straight in order to edit every single sentence.

And the amount of focus that I applied to every single sentence was fairly extraordinary. Because for me, if I miss out on a fact, or if there's a typo, or if there's a misunderstanding, I feel it very personally. And I'm sure that if you have a book on your heart and you have yet to write the book, maybe that's something that you think would happen to you, or maybe that's why you haven't written your book yet, because it feels so personal.

So ultimately that day I sat there for 12 hours and I was saying to myself, okay, I want to get this out to my book interior designer and they might close up shop for the holidays. So I've got to sit here and just grind it out. Right? And so that's why I say it was self inflicted. Ultimately this was a vendor of mine.

I was paying this person and for some reason I wanted to punish myself to meet her deadline. So there's that in terms of just, um, how irrationally I was behaving in that moment in the moment, I felt like a fast moving train. I was not operating rationally. I was emotionally driven. which is something that is very, very common when you attempt to do something on your own without a third party to see what's really going on there and help you avoid a train accident.

Okay, back to the story. So I sat there for 12 hours and all of a sudden I felt like my central nervous system was lit up like a Christmas tree. And that is when my own figuring out what went wrong journey began. So in the middle of an overwhelming season of my life, I added more to my plate. I now had to add in the middle of that moment.

Visits to doctors, blood tests, figuring out specialists and booking appointments with them. So there was a lot that I had to do because I did not respect and honor the fact that as the CEO of my own business, I was able to actually nip overwhelm in the bud. By actually splitting up my time in the review of my manuscript or hiring more help in order to be sure that my deadline was met.

And so there were a lot of things in hindsight I could have done differently, but in that moment I had to now add doctor's visits to my plate. So isn't it funny how when you feel overwhelmed, oftentimes you will then have to add more things to your plate in order to overcome that feeling of overwhelm.

I've seen this as a coach for mom entrepreneurs where my clients have felt extraordinarily overwhelmed. And ultimately they've had to add to their calendar therapist visits, or they've had to add to their calendar more workout regimes. And so it's, it's a little ironic, right? As far as how productive we really are.

When we decide to ignore the signs of overwhelm. So, in that moment, I had to make a couple of decisions. I had to really honor the fact that I wanted to know what was going on with my health. And it really behooved me. And I thought to myself, well, if this was one of my kids, I have three little boys, would I have just sat there for 12 hours just continuing on the path of editing my book if someone came over to me and said, Mommy, I feel weird?

No, if you are overwhelmed, if you have been historically overwhelmed with your business, so just go through 2023 and 2024, you have a more ambitious goal. I would invite you right now to really, really comb through that goal. Really comb through that goal. I want you to think through at a very micro level.

What are every single, what are the steps you need to take on a daily basis in order to accomplish that goal? And do you have to do them all at one time? Might any of those steps be avoidable? Might you want to outsource any of those steps? Might you want to completely toss any of those steps? Because what you don't want to do is feel overwhelmed because you put it on yourself unnecessarily.

That's something that I think a lot of times gets lost. There's this externally focused sort of blame. Like, I feel overwhelmed because I have to wash all the dishes, or I feel overwhelmed because my client has these unreasonable expectations, or I feel overwhelmed because my social media strategy is not working for me.

And oftentimes you want to just take a step back and say to yourself, wait a minute. What part of this is self inflicted and what part of this is totally outside of my control based on my revenue goals, right? And again, we ask ourselves, what part of this is self inflicted because those revenue goals, are they based on the fact that you have extra costs that could be avoided?

Again, really think through what part of your overwhelm is self inflicted and also understand that you're not a robot. And ultimately, what's important here is that if you do have a goal on your heart, the importance is actually in seeing it become real.  Will you still be alive after achieving this goal to actually see it become real?

Something to ask yourself. So on that note, I think what's really important for today's episode is for you to have a really good understanding of how to actually nip overwhelm in the bud in 2024. And I want this to be interactive. I would love for you to reach out to me on Instagram. At Melissa Lorena, I want to understand what are your 2024 goals.

I want to understand which ones intimidate you, which ones feel like they're going to be overwhelming in order to accomplish, given your life experiences in 2023, which ones might be. Unnecessary. And that's a question we could actually discuss on DM. But I want to understand, like, how are you setting yourself up for overwhelm in 2024?

Like, how are you making it harder for yourself? How are you inflicting upon yourself this extra ness that is then going to put you in a place where you will then have to add more to your plate? Such as doctors visits, therapist visits, or whatever else might make sense for you. So really consider this as you think about your 2024 goals, really consider what you think it's going to take in order to see them through.

Really consider. Are they totally aligned with who you want to be in 2024 and really consider if they bring out the best in you. I will say if I'm feeling any degree of uncertainty with regards to my physical wellbeing. I'm not like the happiest, most joyful mom. I'm more like scared and nervous. I'm hesitant to do things because I'm just like, Oh my God, am I going to break myself?

So consider that too. I know that you have really big dreams in your heart. I know that you want to serve amazing human beings. But I also know that oftentimes, You, me, all of us have blind spots and in order to more healthfully navigate our blind spots, we need someone beyond ourselves to let us know when we're going a little too far.

We need someone on the outside of us to be brave enough to tell us, you know what? It's your fault you put yourself in that situation. We need someone outside of us to give us a totally different perspective on how we approach our goals. And how we might want to approach our lives too. And so I want to invite you to reach out to me on Instagram with just simply sharing your 2024 goals.

If you're a mom with a business, if you have been at this rodeo before, like I have for 12 years now as a coach, I invite you to just be honest with yourself. Are you setting yourself up for overwhelm in 2024? Might you be making it harder on yourself and how can you ensure that you bubble wrap your sanity so that this way you can use your imagination when you need to When you need to compete in the market when you need to be nimble and change your strategic approach When you need to actually be that present and loving and playful mom There's so much that is on the table for you And it is so important that if you're setting yourself up for overwhelm in 2024 You understand that a lot of it can be resolved by just taking it off your plate.

So, why not start out the year in a way where things feel a little lighter, things feel more clear, and things feel more near also, right, to just go with the rhyming there.  I invite you to send me a DM on Instagram. Let me know your 2024 goals. I want to help you think about whether you are making it harder on yourself. @melissallarena

I want to help you tease out whether some of them are self inflicted. And I also want to just close this off by saying you are totally invited. To participate, join me live in terms of today's webinar, Mom Mogul Makeover. It is at 12 p. m. Central Standard Time, and we will be going through some insights that have absolutely helped me really accelerate my business goals and really figure out how to use imposter syndrome as an asset.

How to nip overwhelm, although I am human, there will be times when it will absolutely affect me especially if I don’t have a mentor who can see its signs early on. Hint: the irony is that I can spot the signs on others and yet it’s hard to read a label on a jar from its inside. Funny how that works?

I digress: But at the same time, I'm here setting out to do something about it. And I also want to use it as a learning tool for you. I want you to absolutely just open your eyes and know that you might be setting yourself up for overwhelm, but you also have the power to change this before it happens.

To actually nip it in the bud and part of the strategy is networking because you don't have to do everything on your own and you don't have to guess as much as you might think other people have already accomplished your business goals. So why not find them, leverage them in an authentic, genuine way and enjoy that connection too.

Alrighty. 2024 definitely really important for you to figure out if you're setting yourself up for overwhelm. It doesn't have to be.

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