40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk.
290 episodes - English - Latest episode: 19 days ago - ★★★★★ - 15 ratingsWelcome to the only podcast exploring the messiness, awesomeness, of masculinity of being a gay man over 40. Each episode is about sparking idea, addressing challenges, and diving deep into what it looks like to be a vulnerable gay guy. We talk about the stuff us gay guys have a hard time talking about, man-to-man: masculinity, sex, careers, our bodies, parenting, sexuality, failures, success, and aging, relationships, coming out - nothing is off limits.
40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk is the revamped version of 40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk podcast and is a short format podcast that's easy to digest. We take deep dives - one topic at a time - digging up the truth of what it’s like to be a gay man, instead of some contrived expectation of masculinity. We’re reclaiming manhood and our masculinity by facing our fears, making bold moves, and living life without apologies. Join us, but you've got to drop your BS, forget posturing, and be ready to explore the comical dysfunctions of our lives as gay men 40+ years of age!
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How to align your heart and your art - Rick Clemons
November 12, 2019 15:30 - 6 minutes - 8.82 MBSometimes stuff just falls out of your mouth and they you think, "Boy that was some pretty profound shit I just said!" Ever felt that? Well I did, just the other day while coaching a client. I said "If your heart's not there, then your art's not there!" Without heart there is no art, and all of life is art, so that's why I decided to riff on this idea, hoping some of you guys will see that there is truly an art to getting your heart and art aligned. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy ...
How to create connection with your emotions - Alan Cohen
November 07, 2019 15:30 - 23 minutes - 32.4 MBWe're all emotional beings. Except as men we're told not to show our emotions and then we wonder why we lack connection. What a bunch of bullshit. When we bottle up our emotions we can not connect, we men suddenly become ticking time bombs and then like a spoiled, angry brat, we explode, splashing pent up crap all over everyone, making ourselves and our emotions the evil twins. Yet when we connect, deeply connect with ourselves, our emotions, and others, we find peace, harmony, and ways to b...
The truth about being openly... - Rick Clemons
November 05, 2019 10:30 - 7 minutes - 10.1 MBThere's a phrase used in the gay community, "openly gay." It's always bugged me a little bit. Why should anyone have to be "openly" anything...except who they are. I'm exploring this thought on today's solo podcast of life would look like for a guy to be openly... Would you be happier? More successful? Less stressed? If you were just openly who you are, no hiding anything. Would love to hear your thoughts. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You k...
Age is all in your heads boys - Matt Marr
November 01, 2019 15:30 - 28 minutes - 39.1 MBAging isn't a disease it's a reality and if you don't feel it you can't heal it, or at least that's what therapist, actor, and podcast show host Matt Marr says. He's the one person who can tell it like it is better than I can and when we get together behind the microphones, the truth will be told...between our snide remarks and giggles. It's two queens up, which means two gay guys dishing it about aging with grace and dignity, while being a little bit disrespectful and trash talking all at t...
Keeping it real - Shane Mallory
October 29, 2019 15:30 - 21 minutes - 30.3 MBMost of ust guys have a hard time keeping it real with ourselves, let alone others. We put on these costumes of manhood and pound our chests and that's supposedly our real self. We're calling bull shit and keeping it real with my buddy from down under, Shane Mallory, who's going to give us a prescription for keeping it real as men in today's world. About Shane Shane is an incredibly entertaining and engaging speaker, emcee, presenter and performer. With a strong record of achieving results...
Making Multigenerational Work Environments Work - Adam Lippin
October 25, 2019 15:30 - 19 minutes - 27.2 MBImagine you own a business, or for that matter work in a business, and you are the oldest guy in the group. You try to figure out how to relate to the Gen Z's and Millennials but it is a constant struggle. And, while that's all happening, you want to learn from them and want them to learn from you, but man that generational gap can be really a challenge. So what's a guy to do? Startup founder of the HearMe.app, Adam Lippin works with a team of 19-25 yr old's where he feels challenged to che...
Dumping the excess weight - physical and otherwise - that's killing you! -David Conley
October 22, 2019 15:30 - 25 minutes - 34.7 MBYou're too fat. You're tired of being called stocky when what people are really saying under their breath is your fat. It's all about the extra weight you are carrying, but it's not just the physical weight, it's about everything else that is killing you as a man. The weight of stress, success, relationships, perfection, confidence, lack of confidence, money, debt...it's all excess fat and weight that needs to be slimmed down so you can live your exceptional weight-free life. David Conley a...
Let's get real about happiness - Rick Clemons
October 18, 2019 15:30 - 12 minutes - 18 MBI'm so happy. Everything is great. Nothing could be better. Really? Or, are you just blowing happiness smoke up your ass just to make yourself feel better and to make other believe that your life is filled with happiness, happiness, happiness. Don't get me wrong, if you're happy, you're happy. BRAVO. But, most men, in fact, most people stake their claim on false happiness and then wonder why they are miserable, stressed, dealing with chronic pain, and actin like an asshole. So let's break t...
Why some guys initiate divorce – Stephen Warley
October 15, 2019 15:30 - 25 minutes - 35.4 MBDid you know that only 30% of men ask for divorce? And when they do, it's like they've committed the ultimate sin. So what happens when you're a guy, who realizes it is just not working for you and it's time to say "I love you but, I can't be with you!" No infidelity, no money issues, you simply just aren't on the same page. Stephen Warley, founder of Life Skills That Matters, takes us on a very personal journey about his decision to ask for a divorce and to free him and his wife to be happi...
Why Every Guy Has A Coming Out Journey - Rick Clemons
October 11, 2019 15:30 - 9 minutes - 13.4 MBHey guys. Hate to say it but you need to come out of the closet. No, I'm not accusing you of being gay or bi-. Don't make that assumption. Nor am I saying that if you are gay or bi- that you aren't already out of the closet, even though some of you might still be hiding. What I'm saying is every one of us guys have multiple coming out journeys we get take in life. Hating your job - come out of that closet. Not happy in your relationship - come out of that closet. Aching to start your own bus...
Why One Thing Changes Everything - Rick Clemons
October 08, 2019 15:30 - 9 minutes - 12.9 MBFocus. Focus. Focus. You ever heard that or been told that? Of course you have. But sometimes us guys just don't want to listen to that advice. Yet, when we focus, especially on the ONE THING that we most desire, a majority of the time we get what we desire. Here's my take and some recommendations on how to get that ONE THING that you most want, right now, in life! Trust me, it works. It really does. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know th...
Embracing and Loving Your Self-Image - Darren Main
October 04, 2019 15:30 - 23 minutes - 32.1 MBIt all starts with that very first, "You're a dork," or "Be a man,' and from then on we as men question the image of who we are in our own minds. Struggling day-in and day-out to embrace and love ourselves, often doing more damage than good to our self-image. Yet, when we begin to accept ourselves just as we are and work on embracing our self-image, it becomes so much easier to become the man we strive to be. Everything from our physical form, to our soulful presence is rooted in our self-im...
Why a guy needs a break - no guilt necessary - Jim Kukral
October 01, 2019 15:30 - 21 minutes - 30.1 MBWe all have a lot on our shoulders. But what happens when you're the primary breadwinner? Does that weight eat at ya? Make you nervous? Or does it pump you up because, he that's what mean are supposed do is carry the load. Take the stress off and give yourself a guy break, no guilt necessary as my buddy Jim Kukral and I explore the other side of a guy needing a guy break and some guy time, and why it's hard for men to find that guy they can have intimate conversations with about the challeng...
Fitness, Knitting & Being a Man - Jon Giswold
September 27, 2019 15:30 - 31 minutes - 43.9 MBWhat happens when your life suddenly takes a detour, your career as a boutique fashion designer suddenly comes to a halt, and you wander into a fitness studio at the suggestion of the owner of the studio? Probably not what you thought, but then suddenly 30+ years later fitness is your life and we do mean your life. Jon Griswold, fitness consultant and international master instructor/trainer, talks about his life in the world of fitness where for many years he was a stand out, simply because ...
What manhood really means! - Ryan Sallans
September 24, 2019 15:30 - 24 minutes - 34.5 MBWhat defines a man? Ever asked yourself, or been asked that question? The answers are as varied as there are men, yet when we step back, most of us guys have more in common in our definition than we have differences. Yet manhood becomes a whole different thing - at least in many peoples eyes - when a woman who was actually a man trapped in a woman's body, takes that brave step to be their authentic self - a man, or as most would say a transgender man. Ryan Sallans, an amazing transgender hu...
Just because life hands you lemons, don't be a dead beat Dad - Steve Bates
September 20, 2019 15:30 - 19 minutes - 19.8 MBDivorce isn't easy for anyone, but it doesn't mean if you can't hack it, that you need to become a deadbeat Dad. Yet, society sure likes to assume that a lot of Dads are deadbeat Dads, but that's not necessarily always the case. In fact, most Dads going through divorce would like to be as involved with their kids as possible. Steve Bates is one of those guys and he and I talk candidly about divorce, losing jobs, and making it through the times that we thought we would be able to during our d...
The Importance of Male Sexual Health - Dr. Dudley Danoff
September 17, 2019 15:30 - 28 minutes - 38.8 MBWe guys, most of us, sure love our penis and using it. Sex, getting off, or cutting loose with a good stream of pee just seem to be so manly. Yet, one of the things most men do is take their sexual health for granted. Sure we will use condoms...from time-to-time, or maybe we will begrudgingly get the old finger up the poop pipes once a year, but outside of that we tend to just think we are invincible when it comes to our sexual health. Dr. Dudley Danoff, author of The Ultimate Guide To Male ...
Embracing The Second Half of Life - Salvatore Sapienza
September 13, 2019 15:30 - 19 minutes - 18.6 MBIf you’re hating on your mid-life, then no wonder you could be in a crisis. On the other hand, you could be writing and publishing your first book, finding your calling that was so far removed from what you thought, and then finding out that your second book was being made into a movie. Sound like a dream? Not for Salvatore Sapienza. This is his 40 Plus life and he’s relishing every bit of it because he’s allowing the surrendering to life to move him beyond the “Now what?” About Salvatore ...
Life Choices & Learning To Appreciate Them - Josh Packard Ph. D.
September 10, 2019 15:30 - 26 minutes - 24.6 MBThere are those moments in life, when you reach the crossroads. You stand there wondering which way to go, and you make your life choice. Then, you wonder, "What might have happened if you had chosen differently?" Even if you don't regret your choice, you may just be curious about what might have happened. Whether it's your choice of career, the mate you settle down with, or following passion, the wonder of what if is always an interesting way to go into some self introspection. Josh Packard...
Stop and push the Pause Button – Darren Tipton
September 06, 2019 15:30 - 18 minutes - 18 MBYou’re a guy who’s found your passion. You pursue it with a loving vengeance. You feel alive and on a roll. Then that roll leads you to realize, “If I don’t chill pill, push the pause button, and step back from life, I’m going to die!” Ever felt that way? I have and it isn’t anything I enjoy feeling. For Darren Tipton, he didn’t have much choice. Diagnosed with a rare blood disease, it was either he take care of him or say bye-by to the life he knew. Hard as it was to step back from his lov...
Dump The Pressure Of Others - Rick Clemons
August 30, 2019 15:30 - 10 minutes - 14.2 MBWe're all under pressure. Crazy, fast-paced pressures of life. Yet, most of us play into this pressure because of some thing that someone else says we should do. It's rare the pressure we feel or participate in comes from our own internal making. Every piece of pressure is designed by something outside of us that we buy into. Some of the pressure is good, most of it is bad. Guys, it's time for some self-care and a deeper look at where that pressure is coming from and how to dump it once and...
Why Men’s Work Ain’t no Circle Jerk – Andrew Newman
August 23, 2019 15:30 - 21 minutes - 19.6 MBMen are more rapidly than ever flocking to men’s work, and we aren’t talking about men working out. They’re going to places where they can feel safe about being vulnerable and able to be open about what they are feeling. But does it work? Andrew Newman, children’s author, well known for his Conscious Bedtime Stories series, shares candidly the benefits that he has received as an active participant in many different types of men’s work programs. While at times it terrified him, he now knows ...
Venturing Back To Corporate Life Does Not Mean You Failed - Phil Gerbyshak
August 16, 2019 15:30 - 18 minutes - 18.8 MBSo what do you do when everything is going well in your business, you seem to be on top of the world, and then suddenly everything flips 36o degrees the other direction. You step up to the plate and do something that you didn't think you would ever do after leaving the corporate world. Phil Gerbyshak very candidly shares why he stepped back into corporate life, when most guys his age are deciding to exit corporate life, and shows us how he did it that made sense for him. Guys if you are str...
Depression isn’t and shouldn’t be a shameful prison – Chris Brogan
August 09, 2019 15:30 - 22 minutes - 21.2 MBI admit it. I suffer from depression. I also take my little one pill a day to keep it at bay…no shame whatsoever. Then there’s my buddy Chris Brogan. A guy who’s written NY Times Bestsellers, talked in front of 100’s of people, talks marketing, startups, and everything biz related to some of the smallest and biggest organizations on the planet, and he’s also not afraid to talk about his depression. In fact, in his world, talking about depression is an act of self-love and self-preservation....
Birthday Message - Doing Stuff From Your Soul - Rick Clemons
August 02, 2019 15:30 - 10 minutes - 10.1 MBNot going to go all sappy on ya, nor am I looking for a ton of birthday wishes, and I'm not needing your sympathy. Now that we've got all that out of the way, I'm talking from my soul today, because I'm turning 56 in a couple of days, I had a big life event a couple of weeks ago, and I think it's time for us guys to start coming out of our closets and doing stuff from our souls, rather than our heads and our dicks! You can also listen to the podcast on… What do you think? And ...
Weathering The Storms of Life – Mark Asquith
July 26, 2019 15:30 - 17 minutes - 16.9 MBWe all have storms in life. Crazy making storms. Some that we call the S*it Storms of life. As a guy 40 Plus, we can find ourselves right in the midst of a bunch of these storms, pulling our hair out, if we even have any hair left, or managing through them with ease and grace. My buddy and mentor for my podcasts, Mark Asquith, joins me today to dole out some advice on weathering the storms of life. He’s not quite 40 but, I’m slipping him into the mix because he’s a pretty smart bloke most t...
Internalized Homophobia and all that Jazz – Seth Vermilyea
July 19, 2019 15:30 - 19 minutes - 17.4 MBSometimes you get slapped upside the face with your stuff and you didn’t really realize it was sitting there in the corner of your mind just waiting to hit ya! Those things that you’re like, “No, no, no, no, no. This is not me, this not how I am supposed to show up!” Low and behold there you are naked in your truth of crap you didn’t even know you had in ya, like being homophobic! Getting raw, real, and naked with his own internalized homophobia… and yes, all of you need to hear this one be...
Yeah that mind is meant to be mindful! – Will Schneider
July 12, 2019 15:30 - 22 minutes - 20.9 MBOk, I’m going to be honest. I met him on an island in Bermuda. I was drawn to him. I saw things in him that I wanted. And, no I wasn’t some gay guy crushing on a handsome straight guy…well maybe a little. Truth is, I was drawn to his mindfulness and masculinity. His name is Will Schneider, and from that chance meeting at a men’s retreat in Bermuda, I’ve come to call him one of my peeps, my bros, my inner circle. He makes me think, props me up, calls my on stuff and occasionally calls me to....
Making Space For Men To Be Men - Rick Clemons
July 05, 2019 10:30 - 8 minutes - 7.47 MBThere are amazing things you learn when you get a group of men together to be vulnerable. They are either one, upping each other, or being very tight lipped about what they really want to be saying. It's how we've been conditioned as men. But what happens when you make space for guys to be guys? Today I share a personal experience I recently had when I made space for 30 guys to show up, with no pressure to be anything other than themselves. Here's what happened. Hey Guys, Check This Out! ...
Kindness and the Masculinity Factor – Rocco Cozza
June 28, 2019 15:30 - 16 minutes - 15.1 MBHe’s a Jersey boy, an attorney, and built pretty much like a tank. First thoughts? He’s an Alpha Male. In reality he does have a book with alpha in the name and he’s also a kindness kind of guy that makes you go, “WHOA!”. So, don’t judge this book by it’s cover, Rocco Cozza dishes out the truth about why kindness has paid off, just like his Italian Momma taught him. Roll up your sleeves guys because we’re baring our kindness souls today. About Rocco As a serial entrepreneur that happens t...
Just because you’ve got wisdom doesn’t make you old! – Brad Montgomery
June 21, 2019 15:30 - 17 minutes - 16.6 MB“I look up to you because you are older and wiser! You have so much wisdom.” Ok! God, I feel old now. Or you could say, “Wow what a compliment!” Depending on perspective, some of us guys take that as a kick in the gut, and others of us take it as a badge of honor and respect. My buddy and fellow professional speaker, Brad Montgomery, throw down about the battle of aging and being seen as older wiser, and even not having all the answers! About Brad Like you, happiness expert, speaker and a...
Gay, Black, White, Interracial Couple, and an Ex-pastor. Oh my! – Joel Barrett and David Seymour
June 14, 2019 15:30 - 20 minutes - 20.4 MBMan #1 - He was married to a woman. Was a pastor. Then decided he could no longer, NOT live his truth as a gay man. Man #2 – He was black, gay, and ready to mate. Then they met and the magic began. When it seems all the cards are stacked against you because of race, interracial marriage, and a past fraught with religious persecution because you are gay, you gotta wonder, will this relationship survive. Well my buddy Joel Barrett and his husband David Seymour break all the myths about what...
Get A Grip. Aging is just part of the equation! – Chris Guillebeau
June 07, 2019 15:30 - 15 minutes - 15.4 MBGod I can’t believe I’m aging and turning 30, 40, 50, 100! Yeah it happens guys and I know you know that is true, but what happens when it hits you like a ton of bricks? I know, because I’ve experienced it and it wasn’t pretty. Nor was it pretty for my buddy Chris! At 40 he had his awakening. It was his OMG moment when he went deep inside and thought, what’s next? Now, for a guy who is a New York Times Best Selling Author, one of only a handful of people to have traveled to every country in...
Men of Respect, RESPECT – Mike Domitriz
May 31, 2019 15:30 - 14 minutes - 14.3 MBAretha Franklin, just reading the word RESPECT, will start getting you all sassy in your heads. Some of you even started singing it out loud with the queen of soul. So why you are talking trash, not giving yourself and others the R-E-S-P-E-C-T that’s needed. Ok, maybe you are, but we could all do a little bit better job of it, some more than others. Here to help us R-E-S-P-E-C-T, is my buddy and Mr. Respect – Mike Domitriz. This guy rocks respect like nobody I know, and trust me, you will l...
Taking Ownership When You Screw Up – Gerson Sternstein
May 24, 2019 15:30 - 19 minutes - 18 MBLet’s be honest. Being honest is tough for us guys. Then add admitting we’re wrong to the mix, or that we're a screw up, and that brings on a whole other set of masculinity pushback that we guys just aren’t good at doing. Now imagine you get called out in your profession for screwing up and it means you basically lost everything you know. Eating that type of crow really makes you either man up or curl up in the fetal position. My buddy and friend, Gerson Sternstein, shares his story from th...
Spirituality Is Such A Guy Thing – Chris Tompkins
May 17, 2019 10:34 - 20 minutes - 20.3 MBYes, real men (whatever that means) get spirituality. It’s not some woo-woo, out of this world thing. It’s at the core of who you are as a man. Don’t’ believe me? Fine. Not going to twist your arm, but it is true. Spirituality makes the man. Joining me to have this convo is one of my main men, Chris Tompkins, a guy who knows what it means to be spiritual and who never stops pursuing that journey toward is higher self. Trust me, if you don’t believe in spirituality, you just might think othe...
Divorcing with Dignity – Leo Cardenas
May 17, 2019 10:33 - 19 minutes - 17.9 MBI plan to get divorced, said no guy, as he stands at the alter getting married. Yet, it happens and how we get through it is a very individual experience. This is a real. Raw, honest chat about divorce, with a guy who’s dove into the trenches of being a single Dad and discovering himself and his “What’s next?” after divorce. Leo (pronounced Lay-O) Cardenas is a body language expert, father of one, and taking the road that so many of us have, of being that divorced guy, trying to find his ne...
How You, As A Man, Can Stop Shaming Men and Vulnerability
May 17, 2019 10:32 - 11 minutes - 10.8 MBAdmit it. We’ve all been shamed as men for our vulnerability and it has nothing to do with Brene’ Brown and her work around shame and vulnerability. For most of us men, we shame each other from being vulnerable. That crap needs to stop. It’s not healthy, nor is it useful for us in our relationships, our work, and it sure the heck doesn’t help us with our it’s time to tell vulnerability shame to take a hike and here’s five simple steps for getting there. Hey Guys Check This Out Are you a g...
Why Guys 40 Plus Need This Podcast
May 17, 2019 10:31 - 11 minutes - 10.1 MBI'm a 40 Plus Guy. A dad. A small business owner. A friend. A mentor. A lot of, of lot of things, like most people. I'm also a guy that wants to connect with guys, guy-to-guy on a deeper level, to make me a better man and hopefully help other guys do the same. Kind of like getting naked with our truths, emotions, our vulnerabilities, and letting our shields down. That's why I created this podcast and am interviewing guys and doling out my perspective on what life after 40 is like for guys....
40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk. - Trailer
May 15, 2019 10:30 - 1 minute - 2.58 MB40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk. is a short-format (10 - 15 minutes per episode) podcast where real guys talk about real guy stuff for men over 40.It's a shame free environment, where anything goes, including the B.S. masculinity stuff, which gets checked at the door before you plug those earpods into listen.Join me, Rick Clemons, your tell it like it is host with no fluff, as I take you each week for candid, no holds bar ride, having raw discussions about guy stuff that we're just not talking ...