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136: Gay Man’s Manifesto For Living: Part 1 – Rick Clemons

As a gay man, have you ever struggled? Felt exhausted by trying to do the right things for your life? Felt like everything was in vain and just wanted to give up? Maybe it's time for a Manifesto, one that inspires you each and everyday to life your life on your terms. This three part series explores 12 manifestos that I have uncovered for gay man that truly inspire them to live and be who they are in the world - no excuses, no fears, no apologies. Let's get started with the first four manifes...

135: Why are gay friendships so hard to make? – Rick Clemons

Friendships. Gay Friendships. You either have them or they are completely absent from your life. This is what I hear over, and over, and over from gay men. They can't seem to maintain friendships, and it has nothing to do with hooking up. So why is that and what do you do about it? Let's explore that dilemma! Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time ...

134: Date Smarter. Sexier – Andrea LaRosa

If your dating expectations constantly leave you disappointed, and the only compatibility you can find is hooking up on Scruff or Grindr, it's time for you to do some introspection and turn your dating habits around. Start connecting with compatibility, connection, and getting up-close and personal and get off the apps. Ok, keep the apps for the occasional, let's just get naked moments, but let your hormone sharing do the work for you by meeting in person, now that we can again, and start dat...

133: How To Start Having Better Sex Now – Rick Clemons

Most gay men enjoy sex. Doesn't matter what that looks like. Whether it is simple intimacy, to dolled up in Leather, or playing in an orgy. We gay men love sex...well for that matter...we men love sex. So how do you tip to through the penises when the sex is no longer so great with your boyfriend, husband, partner, or in your polyamorous relationship? Here's 10 tips to help you ask for and to have powerful communication about having better sex. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who ke...

132: Dating for the modern gay guy – Tyler Greenberg

Dating is a pain in the ass...and not in a good way. For most gay men, the dating and pursuit of Prince Charming, is a frustrating, just give up scenario, that leaves most little energy for even a hookup. Or, you aren't really serious about dating and say you are, but haven't found the right way to start the dating adventure and make it worth your time. How about instead, trying a new way of connecting with intention and having a real conversation on that first encounter rather than depending...

131: Getting Over Your Money BS – Martin Cowart

Money, money, money. Never enough, always wanting more, and being judged for having to much or too little, and we haven't even started on the vicious judgements from other gay men if you don't have money, money, money. So what's a guy to do? Hookup with money in a powerful way, and dump the rest of that trash talking money gremlin that is eating you alive. Today we're exploring money, the truth about it and the how to make the heart space for it in our lives as gay men with Martin Cowart, fou...

130: Break free from the “You’ve done so much wrong” syndrome – Rick Clemons

You're a liar. You're a cheat. You've broken trust. You're wrong by being gay and not worth knowing. To many of us as gay men have been told how - WRONG, WRONG, WRONG - we are. From coming out, to living our truth, so many people want to tell us how wrong we are and how we've done them wrong. If this is how you are feeling then listen to the podcast to break free from the "You've done me wrong," chains that bind. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing...

129: How To Break Free From Your Hidden Addictions – Rick Clemons

Sex, Drugs, Food, Video Games. We all have addictions, but we may not OPENLY admit to them. Another possibility, is we don't seem them as addictions, because we have become so used to hiding them that we just don't even realize they are an addiction. As gay men we've become victims, or numb to the gay guilt, the gay shame, that to often we can't even see our addictions for the trees in our lives. Here's a few kicks in the pants to get you off the hidden addictions merry-go-round. Hey Guys, ...

128: Quit Bitching and Step Up To The Plate – Rick Clemons

We all complain. We all want more. We all wish it was easy. Check, check, check. But WTF happens when all you do is complain and never step up to the plate go get that home run you so desperately desire? You've got to stop the bitching and take the action. Grab your self by your man parts and hold on tight as we explore 6 ways to kick yourself in the ass and get moving towards WTF you really want out of life. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? Yo...

127: Why Validation and Attention Seeking is F*CKING You Up! – Rick Clemons

Look at me. See me. Love me. Want me. Hell just notice me. This seems to be the quest for most gay men, but it's also the quest that kicks us in the ass. Instead of posting on social media with your shirt off, or your ass half exposed, why not ask yourself this one question "Why do you need that validation?" Noting wrong with wanting to be seen and loved, but how is that helping your confidence and self-esteem in the long run? That's what we're exploring today, so buckle up and learn how to ...

126: It’s Fat Loss Not Weight Loss For The Gay Man – Jack Kunkel

Give me those abs, pecs, guns to hang on and that bubble butt to salivate over. Sound like a pipe dream? Or is it more of a nightmare because you just can't lose weight? Diet, diet, diet. Workout, workout, workout. Yet nothing works and it gets worse as you get older. Well, what if it wasn't that hard and it was more about losing the fat than losing the weight? Dr. Jack Kunkel, swears it's more about fat loss than weight loss, and that's why I decided to ask this straight-handsome hunk (sorr...

125: Infatuation or love…what is it you really feel? – Rick Clemons

You're hot for him, or you're hot about the thought of love with him, or both, or are you just confused? If you're confused, welcome to finding love. No one, literally no one, simply waves their gay magic wand and finds the perfect balance of love, sex, and infatuation. It takes work, and that work will pay off...if you allow yourself to do the work to define what love, infatuation, and sex mean to you and only you so you know what you are looking for. Let's get clear on what you really want...

124: Should you be OUT at work – yes or no? – Rick Clemons

Even though there are Federal and State Guidelines and laws prohibiting discrimination at work because you are a gay man, doesn't mean every gay guy gets a hard on and excited about being out at work. And, if you're pushing someone to be out at work, otherwise you're just not gay enough, then you need to sashay away and shut your trap. Everyone deserves to be gay their way, even in the workplace. Here's some tips on how to do that. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggli...

123: Stop being commitment phobic you silly homo – Rick Clemons

I want a man. I want a better job. I want to lose weight. I want, I want, I want. Yes, yes, yes, and yes. Gay men want a lot but for some silly reason they are commitment phobic with a capital "C" and a capital "P." Listen up guys, "You can't have it both ways." You have to commit to get! Here's why you are where you are and what to do about it. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re goin...

122: Confidence For The Queer Guy – Yannick Picard

Confidence doesn't come easy, or so they say. But confidence for the gay guy can really be an uphill climb unless you have some guidance. Slaying the confidence saboteurs is Yannick Picard's mission, as he works with individuals to build up their self-worth to be confident in their world, in their own way, as themselves. Don't miss this wisdom filled chat about being your confident self. About Yannick Yannick Picard was only 16 years old when he was bitten by the coaching “bug”. He was wat...

121: Gay GHOSTING is Not Pretty on you – Rick Clemons

About Mike Mike mi-KAL-o-wits is the author of Profit First, Clockwork, Surge, The Pumpkin Plan, and his newest release Fix This Next. By his 35th birthday, Mike had founded and sold two companies - one to private equity and another to a Fortune 500. Today he is running his third multi-million dollar venture, Profit First Professionals. Mike is a former small business columnist for The Wall Street Journal and the former business makeover specialist on MSNBC. Over the years, Mike has travele...

120: Dadding, Careers, And All That Gay Stuff – Hans M Hirschi

The struggle is real. From managing a multinational relationship, to raising a child, and doing your career. May sound like no big deal, but when you are a gay guy over 40 dealing with the complexities of juggling the challenges of getting older in a world where laws about being gay shift from one country's border to the next, plus being a father and a husband, life is a little crazy. I hook back up with my friend Hans M Hirschi for the candid talk about, parenting, aging, writing, romance,...

119: How not to FREAK out when the sex dies – Rick Clemons

He's not so into sex. He must be cheating. That BJ you were so fond of, he's no longer interested in giving it to you. He must think you are ugly. These and other thoughts run rampant in our minds when suddenly, "Sex is no longer important," or at least not as important. Well, that just means it's time to put some effort into your relationship, or your sexual escapades and figure out what is really going on your dangling parts or at least the thoughts about sex in your head - both of them. T...

118: Aging as a Transman – Sex and all that jazz – Buck Angel!

He's in his late 50's. He's a trailblazer. He's done porn, and he's a man. A transman, and he's got something to say about being a man of a certain age in the LGBTQ community. Never one to walk away from a fight or a belief system, Buck Angel is coming out swinging as a man in his 50's letting everyone know that TRANPA is in the house. But what is TRANPA? An elder TRANSMAN who is not going to be told, " Go sit down TRANPA and let us younger TRANSMEN take the lead now!" All Buck is asking for...

117: The Ultimate Circle Jerk – Rick Clemons

Who doesn't like an awesome circle jerk? Ok, maybe not everyone, but most gay men do, but sometimes they love a circle jerk so much the end up jerking themselves into oblivion. Is that you? Are you jerking yourself off for all the wrong reasons? If so, this podcast is for you and how you can stroke yourself into the right place in your life. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to...

116: To Be Out or Not To Be Out In Corporate Life – Jeff Nally

Are you out? Really out? Let's rephrase that question. Are you out in your work life, and really out in a way that represents you, the whole you that you want to bring to work? If not, why not? As a guy in your 40+ life you have lot to bring to the table, and we're not just talking about your work experience. You bring your life experience of coming out of the closet - resilience, determination, getting past your imposter syndrome and so much more. In this candid interview with my friend Jef...

115: Let Go Of Your Ex or Shut The F#CK Up – Rick Clemons

Break ups are inevitable. Don't believe it ? Watch any episode or Queer as Folk, The "L"Word, or Pose and the truth will show you it's real. Of course, what would be a smashing break up without the almighty "pining and swooning after your Ex?" Right? Well stop that crap and get over them already. Here's a handful of magic, and I'm not talking about what's in some man's crotch, to help you get over your ex. Well maybe a man's crotch is part of the solution, but there's better ways to move bey...

114: The life of the party without the booze – Erik Svendsen

What happens when you grow up a good little Catholic boy, who as a young adult gets sucked into the gay scene in South Florida? You drink, you drink, and you drink and realize this is the way you connect, until the day you screw it up. And then, screw it up again, and then again! Red, blue, and gay...and not in a good way. That's what we are exploring today, is when your addiction takes over your life, and you find yourself more lonely and disconnected than ever as a gay man. About ErikI am a...

113: Pushing Past Loneliness As A Gay Man - Rick Clemons

About Steve Mike mi-KAL-o-wits is the author of Profit First, Clockwork, Surge, The Pumpkin Plan, and his newest release Fix This Next. By his 35th birthday, Mike had founded and sold two companies - one to private equity and another to a Fortune 500. Today he is running his third multi-million dollar venture, Profit First Professionals. Mike is a former small business columnist for The Wall Street Journal and the former business makeover specialist on MSNBC. Over the years, Mike has travel...

112: Jealousy and Insecurity – Gay Men’s Worst Enemies – Rick Clemons

"Don't you be looking at my man!" Sigh. Guys we don't own the market on men looking at our men. Unless you reign that jealousy and insecurity in, you are going to be one messed up gay guy. Today we explore ways to manage your jealousy and insecurity in every aspect of your life. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why...

111: Why gay men avoid commitment – Rick Clemons

Gay men can't commit. Really? Maybe some can't but most can and will if given the chance. The truth is most have to give themselves the chance to commit and they don't. In this episode we take a deep look at the commitment struggle gay men have in their relationships and in life. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out wh...

110: Just Be Gay, Gay, Gay…Your Way – Rick Clemons

Whether you're 40+ or 2o something, or sliding into your golden years, someone is going to throw you some shade by telling you, "This is how you do gay!" To that I say, "Sashay away and tell them to stuff it!" If you are stuck in a closet of doing gay because someone told you this is the way to do it, then grow some balls and own your truth and be gay your way. Here's some tips on just how to do that! Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know t...

109: What’s Right With Having An Open Relationship – Rick Clemons

Open relationships. They seem to be the hot button trigger in gay men's circles. You're either all for them, completely against them, or not being honest...with yourself and your partner about how you truly feel about them. Rather than become all Judge Judy about an open relationship, why don't you at least open up your mind and conside what's right about an open relationship, even if it's not for your. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know...

108: How To Have the Confidence Of A Porn Star – Rick Clemons

One of the things gay men struggle with the most is CONFIDENCE, with a capital "C." Whether it's our looks, career, finances, or the size of our penis, everything comes (no pun intended) under the confidence gun. Here's some simple tips for having the confidence of a porn star to go make your life orgasmic! Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time t...

107: Determined To Be A Dad – Steve Disselhorst

This guy said "Fatherhood is for me, no matter what, even if I am gay!" He was so determined to be a Dad, her wrote a book by the same name. Speaking candidly with passion about fatherhood and being Gay, Steve Disselhorst takes on a journey of love and Fatherhood in his 40 Plus life. About Steve Steve Disselhorst specializes in personal & professional leadership development and consulting for diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) and is the author of the memoir Determined To Be Dad: A Jou...

106 – Can you really handle an Intergenerational Relationship? – Rick Clemons

  Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…        

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  Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus Men's Circle. Learn about about - Click Here! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - rickclemons.com/manifesto/ You can also listen to the podcast on…        

105: How To Avoid Gay Death Bed – Rick Clemons

It's inevitable. Wait that's not true. It likely - that sounds better - that at some point in your gay relationships the bedroom will die. No not the bed, but the SEX. It happens, and rather than avoid it like a nasty STD, step into the mess before it gets messy and out of control. Here's some straight-forward, knock some sense into you advice for what to do when grim reaper of your sex life enters into you bedroom. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that th...

104: Best Life Hook-up Tips For 2021 – Rick Clemons

Happy New Year Guys! So excited to launch the new version of 40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk, with the slight, fabulous twist to 40Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk. With a quick costume change here we are, stepping into 2021 with more than just a few tips (because the tip is never enough) to make sure you drive a little deeper into happiness and success in 2021 and beyond. Enjoy, be safe, and go start hooking up with your life! Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that t...

103: The One Gift – Rick Clemons

Merry Christmas guys. As you celebrate, however you celebrate this year, I want to invite you to consider this one gift. One that is important, and just might make next holiday season even more merry. Happy holidays. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus Men's Chat's. Learn about about - Click Her...

102 – How To Get Out of Your 40 Plus Life Rut – Rick Clemons

We all get in ruts in our lives. 2020 has only made that worse in so many ways. And ruts, suck. Here's a few simple steps for getting unstuck and out of your rut so you can kick ass in life. And the last one just might have something to do with your Daddy issues. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 P...

101: Finding Your Soul Center As A Man – Chris Failla

At the heart of every guy there is a man who want's to be his own man, his way. A guy who wants to be seen, heard, and understood...on his terms. And, almost every man struggles with finding his masculine identity that fits him and his soul. So just how do you find that inner man, that strength, and that energy to be who you are, regardless of what others think of you. Chris Failla joins me for a candid conversation about manhood, father son relationships, and find your own masculine vibe i...

100: 10 Things I’ve Learned As A Guy Over 40 – Rick Clemons

We're celebrating the 100th Episode with the 10 things I've learned to make me a better man as a guy over 40. What could those 10 things be? Listen and learn and thanks for being my listeners and helping me achieve this milestone event. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus Men's Chat's. Learn abo...

099: The art of Humility & Acceptance – Rick Clemons

Regardless of the fact that some men can't accept defeat and loss (Donald Trump for example) the truth is most of us as men hate to admit we've lost and accept defeat. Why is that? Mostly because we haven't learned the art of humility. Today we explore that art and how to be more humble and less ego driven. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time t...

098: You’re never too old to be fully yourself – Colton Ford

"I'm to old for that!" Really, then you must not have any adventure left in your life and your soul. How about instead, you said, "I'm never to old for that!" That attitude and outlook will make you stay as young as you choose to be, because it is all your mental outlook as to what you can and can't do, regardless of what age you are. Just ask musician and former adult film star, Colton Ford. “Figuring our way through challenges, hardships and difficult times is an integral part of life for...

097: Men, Intimacy, and Affection – Get Over It Already – Rick Clemons

You'd have to be hiding with your head in the sand to not hear all the crappy politics going on right now. And this podcast isn't about politics, until today. When a photo surfaced about Joe Biden affectionately sharing an intimate Father/Son moment surfaced on the internet causing some to cry "Creepy, Gross, Incest," I felt it was necessary to say, "Get over it and man up!" Men can show other men intimacy and affection and it doesn't mean there's something gross going on. It means there is ...

096: More To Life and Work After Coming Out Late In Life - Peter McGuire

095 - Embracing a "Why Not" Mindset - Rick Clemons

094: Being Better Beings – Michelle Zellner

How often do you find yourself wishing you were better? Better at your job, better at your relationships, better at taking care of yourself, just simply better, better, better. It's a daily occurrence for me. Yet, I've also learned that the pursuit of better doesn't have to be drudgery, especially when it comes to taking better care of myself. My friend Michelle Zellner, founder of Better Beings, is joining me today to dish out some better being advice for us guys. Yes, we've got a woman in...

093: Stepping Into and Letting Go of Love – Rick Clemons

Not all divorces, job layoffs, or health scares require walking away in disgust from something that we love. In fact, really healthy situations lead us towards honoring the love for something or someone and graciously letting to go to make space for the thing that we love more. Today we explore how to do that without being assholes in our lives. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re goin...

092: Tap Into The Power of Your Younger Self, Even In a Pandemic – Rick Clemons

Life sucks right now in so many ways, but are you really going to let it keep you stuck? In a rut? Causing you to give up? Maybe what you should do is ask your younger self to take the lead for awhile. Today we explore the possibilities that exist, even in pandemics, political strife, global warming, that can be changed just by inviting our younger self into the arena to help us do battle. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you...

091: How your hard “No’s” are ruining your life – Rick Clemons

"NO!" We started learning that word form a very young age. Before we knew it, our life was filled with no, no, no's! So are we surprised that we have a hard time getting to "YES" in our lives? Then add to the fact that when we seek partners, jobs, the perfect place to live, the ultimate vacation, we are suddenly using a list of "Hard No's" and wondering why it is so hard to get what we want in life. Cut the bullshit guys and look at your "hard no's" and ask yourself, "Is this the reason I'm...

090 – Helping men find peace in a chaotic world – Steve Strother

We're living in a chaotic world. Possibly in some ways more chaotic than at any other point in the history of the world. So how does a guy find peace when he is surrounded by chaos? Is that even possible? Steve Strother joins the podcast today to help explore the roots of men finding peace in their lives. He shares his own journey, that continues, in his quest for peace, and how he is helping other men find it too. About Steve Steve Strother is a lifelong learner who lives to support the ...

089: Becoming A Boomer Musician – Michael Fairman

It's time to take a stand against ageism. No more saying, "You're to old!" You're only as old as you buy into the voice in your head. But, you have to believe that too. Breaking the barriers as an artist, Michael Fairman is as a 'Boomer' signer, songwriter, giving the young pop singer crowd a run for their money. His 40 Plus Real Men. Real Talk. story is not only about being a 40+ man, but also about being a 'Boomer' gay man who is going to use his voice to entertain, even when people say, "...

88: Creating Radical Alignment In LIfe & Love – Alexandra Jamieson & Bob Gower

Nothing is harder in any kind of relationship than having difficult conversations. For us guys those conversations make us feel uneasy,vulnerable, and even disempowered. Not any more. Now, you can use the radically aligned technique, to get through big conversations, decisions, and some of the toughest moments of your life - if you're willing to listen and read. Today's guests Alexandra Jamieson and Bob Gower, are repeat podcast guests from both 40 Plus Real Men Real Talk, and Life (UN)Close...