You Can Mentor: A Christian Mentoring Podcast
373 episodes - English - Latest episode: 3 days ago - ★★★★★ - 83 ratingsYou Can Mentor is a network that equips and encourages mentors and mentoring leaders through resources and relationships to love God, love others, and make disciples in their own community.
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230. What is Mentoring? What is a Mentor? // Mentoring Minute
April 25, 2024 11:56 - 8 minutes - 7.65 MBAll of us are here today because of our relationship with “that person”. You know, the one who made a profound impact on your life. For me, a few men made me who I am today. It was a man named Bob who invested into me when I was in college and helped me see my need for Jesus. It was a man named John who discipled me and taught me how to read the scriptures. It was a man named Steve who showed me the father heart of God and helped me overcome my fatherless past. Who got you to wh...
229. Words Matter // Mentoring Minute
April 18, 2024 10:00 - 8 minutes - 8.03 MBWe’ve all done it. We have said something like “Wow, Brian is the best. He is such a good kid.” You may think there’s not a thing wrong with that statement. But what about this one, “Geez. Brian is the worst. He is such a bad kid.” While we wouldn’t think to say that about or to a kid, we should at least recognize that both statements exist on the same spectrum of thought and action. But what’s the worst part of thinking about someone (or something) as being bad? Well, bad things d...
228. The Rule of Three // Mentoring Minute
April 11, 2024 12:43 - 4 minutes - 4.6 MBSafety is the name of the game when it comes to mentoring. You always want to have safety on the mind when you are hanging out with your mentee. First priority is always to keep the child safe, but another aspect of safety is following rules and procedures so you stay above reproach and free of any possible accusation. One of the best ways to keep everyone safe in the mentoring journey is called the rule of three. The rule of three means that there are always three parties involve...
227. Are You Sure? // Mentoring Minute
April 04, 2024 06:00 - 5 minutes - 5.28 MBIn my line of work, I hear these three little words all the time. They come after I give something to someone usually or offer to help someone do something. My nonproof is based on Jesus’s words to his disciples: “Freely you’ve been given, freely give,” so I practice the act of remembering whatever I have is really God’s and not mine anyway. WE’RE NOT CALLED TO DO THINGS HALF-HEARTED When I hear someone ask, “are you sure?” it has less to do with their questioning my decisiveness ...
226. First "You", Then "Them" // Mentoring Minute
March 29, 2024 00:04 - 6 minutes - 6.25 MBI hate to fly. I hate everything about it. Getting up 72 hours before your flight so you can drive to a crowded airport with terrible parking. I hate the 19 lines you wait in to do all the things. Take your shoes off. Put your belt back on while scurrying to go buy a $12 bottle of water in a gift shop so you can sit on the floor next to a power outlet and charge your phone. Hurry up and wait. Do you have unassigned seating on your flight? Well, that’s just the worst. The anxiety o...
225. Find Your Tribe // Mentoring Minute
March 21, 2024 05:01 - 6 minutes - 6.15 MBIf you’ve ever hiked up a mountain, it is no easy endeavor. There are easy parts and there are hard parts. Storms can pop up from time to time. Times of fun and times where you are challenged. But if you stick it out, the view is almost worth the struggle it took to get there. One thing I know to be true about climbing a mountain is it is always easier when you do it with other people. People can pick you up when you fall down. Can encourage you when you get tired. Can celebrate...
224. Giving Gifts // Mentoring Minute
March 14, 2024 12:21 - 6 minutes - 6.3 MBGiving Gifts Giving gifts or purchasing things for your mentee is one of the more complicated topics you will face as a mentor. You want to be able to show your care and affection for your mentee through giving gifts, but so often they can become distractions in your mentoring relationship. Let me be the first to say that this is a gray topic. It is not black and white. We are just giving you our perspective that we gained through years of mentoring. We never want our mentee or...
223. Mentoring is Baseball // Mentoring Minute
March 08, 2024 16:15 - 4 minutes - 4.23 MBMentoring is Baseball Did you know that the average of every baseball player in the hall of fame is a combined .303. That means if you hit the ball 303 out of 1,000 times, you are considered one of the greatest baseball players of all time. That’s 697 misses! 3 out of every 10 makes a great baseball player. And I could say the same is true for mentoring. When I first became a mentor, I wanted a home run every time. I thought my mentee would love me and tell me how great I was an...
Mentoring is Baseball // Mentoring Minute
March 08, 2024 16:15 - 4 minutes - 4.23 MBMentoring is Baseball Did you know that the average of every baseball player in the hall of fame is a combined .303. That means if you hit the ball 303 out of 1,000 times, you are considered one of the greatest baseball players of all time. That’s 697 misses! 3 out of every 10 makes a great baseball player. And I could say the same is true for mentoring. When I first became a mentor, I wanted a home run every time. I thought my mentee would love me and tell me how great I was an...
222. Creating a Logic Model: Help Fundraise, Gain Clarity, & Build Team Unity with Kayce Strader of Save Nine Consulting
February 29, 2024 07:00 - 50 minutes - 46.4 MBLogic Model A logic model is a tool used by nonprofits to illustrate their impact. It is a one-page explanation of the connections between what you plan to put into a program and what you expect to deliver. It can serve as a powerful tool for focusing and articulating vision. It also serves as a built-in monitoring system to check in on programs, compare to goals, and make adjustments when needed. Finally, it can also increase donors and funders’ trust in the organization that i...
221. Identity Based vs. Skill Based Mentoring // Mentoring Minute
February 22, 2024 07:00 - 8 minutes - 8.02 MBIdentity-Based vs. Skill-Based Mentoring “Just like a good tool doesn’t make you a handy man. Knowing skills alone doesn’t fulfill your mentee’s potential” Skill-based mentoring usually goes like this: Think of things you think your mentee should know Shake a hand, tie a tie, resume, etc… Teach them these things Hope they use them to reach their full-potential -- Skill-based mentoring is good, but I believe it is secondary to Identity-based mentoring Skills are no good if...
220. Connection over Content // Mentoring Minute
February 15, 2024 13:02 - 8 minutes - 7.86 MBConnection over Content - Let's keep it simple: Pursue Kids: Are you going after them? Pursue Jesus: Are you staying filled up so you can pour out? - What does it mean to connect? Are you reaching out consistently? Are you interested in what they are interested in? Are you remembering important issues in their life? Are you showing up? Games, events, etc… Are you speaking life? When they leave your presence, how do you want them to feel? - “A kid doesn’t care what you kno...
219. "We Don't Have a Resource Problem. We Have a Connection Problem." with Paul Hemminger of The Mentoring Partnership
February 08, 2024 06:05 - 39 minutes - 35.9 MBCheck out Story Connect: https://www.storyconnect.love Check out Mentoring Partnership: https://www.mentoringpartnership.org Purchase John's Book: Mephibosheth! The Search for Identity, Purpose, and Community Purchase the You Can Mentor book: You Can Mentor: How to Impact Your Community, Fulfill the Great Commission, and Break Generational Curses youcanmentor.com
218. We Need Your Help!
January 25, 2024 06:05 - 5 minutes - 11.9 MBPlease give us a 5 star rating wherever you consume podcasts, visit our website, and join our mentoring network. Also, please share our information with anyone who you’d think would benefit from it. If you’d like to share any ways we can best serve you, or if you’d like to join our podcast, please reach out to us at [email protected]. We’re here for any ideas, suggestions, or comments that you have. Purchase John's Book: Mephibosheth! The Search for Identity, Purpose, and...
217. The Pain & Peace Cycle, Replacing Lies with Truth, and "Don't Say / Do Say" with Dr. Dee Dee Mayer
January 04, 2024 06:05 - 36 minutes - 83.6 MBDr Dee Dee Mayer is the RelateStrong Director for the Boone Center for the Family at Pepperdine University . She also continues to serve families and couples as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) through both in-person counseling and telehealth at Restoring Hope Therapy in Westlake Village, CA. She spent over 12 years at Oaks Christian School serving in various roles including Associate Head of School for Spiritual Life and Social Emotional Learning. She is a published autho...
216. Getting on Their Turf, Investing into the Family, and Counting the Cost with Michael Clark from KICKO
December 28, 2023 06:05 - 40 minutes - 93.1 MBCheck out KICKO: https://www.kicko.org/ [email protected] Purchase John's Book: Mephibosheth! The Search for Identity, Purpose, and Community Purchase the You Can Mentor book: You Can Mentor: How to Impact Your Community, Fulfill the Great Commission, and Break Generational Curses youcanmentor.com
215. Using Your Network, Speaking Identity, & Sacrificial Mentoring: Mentoring at the Movies with Hustle
December 21, 2023 06:05 - 38 minutes - 88.5 MBOne of the best things about art is how it represents the human condition. Movies in particular have a unique ability to comment on hot topic issues in a way that can be thought provoking and challenging. Interestingly, there are plenty of movies in existence that contain some aspect of mentorship; an older figure guiding the next generation into adulthood. This week John and Zach drop a new episode in a series about mentoring seen in different movies. In discussing Hustle this ...
214. The Power of Saying Yes, Eating a Meal Together, and Making Yourself Available to Listen with Michael Birkland
December 14, 2023 06:05 - 42 minutes - 96.7 MBThe greatest gift you can give your mentee is your time. Mentoring isn't about coming in, teaching somebody some life skills, and moving on. Mentees are not "projects". Mentoring is about relationships. It's about coming in, pouring your wisdom and knowledge into somebody, and continuing to guide them through the next stage of their life. While often that relationship is for a season, the impact of that relationship is for a lifetime; because relationships change lives. The ti...
213. Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield on Letting God Lead Your Mentoring Relationship, the Importance of Self-Care, & Varsity Level Apologizing
December 07, 2023 06:05 - 49 minutes - 113 MBMichelle Watson Canfield, PhD, LPC, is a national speaker, author, licensed professional counselor of 28 years, and founder of The Abba Project, a nine-month group forum for dads whose daughters are in their teens and 20’s. She writes guest articles regularly for journals and magazines (online and print), as well as her own bi-monthly Dad- Daughter Friday Blog, and has been interviewed on numerous radio and television programs. Her best-selling book, Dad, Here’s What I Really Need F...
212. The Characteristics and Dynamics of One-on-One, Small Group, and Organizational Mentoring
November 30, 2023 06:05 - 36 minutes - 83.9 MBMentoring can come in all shapes and sizes. It can come when it's least expected or it can be intentionally sought out by either the mentor or the mentee. It can be as simple as meeting intentionally with a student in your neighborhood on a regular basis, or partnering with a local non-profit mentoring organization to pour into one or more students at the same time. Each mentoring relationship is unique, but the specific type of mentoring relationship tends to have similar charac...
211. 8 Types of Mentors, Why Mentoring is a Team Sport, and Style Week
November 23, 2023 06:05 - 38 minutes - 53.5 MBEverybody has a unique personality. Their life experiences, worldview, and socioeconomic status influence how they interact with other people and relate to one another. That personality in turn affects how a mentor interacts with their mentee: their "style" of mentoring. Some are encouragers. Some are challengers. Some are networkers. There's many different styles of mentoring, and they each have their own unique strengths and weaknesses. This week, Zach and John hop on the p...
210. Why I Mentor with De'Onte Garrett from Mentoring Alliance
November 16, 2023 06:05 - 32 minutes - 44.7 MBEvery mentor has a different story. They come from different backgrounds, experience different things in life, and can bring unique elements to the table in a mentoring relationship. The organization they get plugged into for support also affects the ways in which they mentor through different trainings, mentoring philosophies, and equipping. That's why asking a mentor their why is so important. Each mentor has a different reason for pouring into the next generation; to voluntee...
209. Lessons on Longevity with Coach and Athletic Director Lanny Williams
November 09, 2023 06:05 - 46 minutes - 107 MBEffective mentoring means being in it for the long haul. It means continuing to show up and pour into the mentee, even through the hard times, offense, and dry spells. It means doing whatever it takes to meet the needs of the mentee. Mentoring well means showing constant, sacrificial, self-less love for the mentee. But effective mentoring is also draining. Continually showing up like that can drain everything you have; especially when you don't feel like you're starting to see ...
208. The Dangers of Taking Offense, How to Stay in the Mentoring Game for the Long Haul, and Keeping the Main Things the Main Things
November 02, 2023 05:05 - 43 minutes - 101 MBOffense, or taking things personally, is one of the most common tactics the Enemy uses to tear down relationships. When somebody feels hurt in a relationship, their tendency is to pull away and isolate, which then leads to an even greater rift between the two parties. This is true for all relationships, but mentoring relationships have the tendency to experience this on a much more frequent scale. Oftentimes, the mentee is testing the relationship to see exactly how much the ment...
207. How to Leave a Mentee With Abandonment Issues, Starting with the End in Mind, and Helping Your Mentee Process Their Past
October 26, 2023 05:05 - 42 minutes - 98 MBMost mentoring relationships come to an end at some point. Life circumstances change, you or your mentee move away, or some other event occurs that makes it impossible to continue the formal mentoring relationship in the same way. In doing so, however, ending a mentoring relationship can be a challenge, especially when the mentee has a history of struggling with feelings of abandonment. You, as the mentor, become just another person in a long list of people who have abandoned the...
206. The Power of Owning Your Story with Kevin Harris from Radical Mentoring
October 19, 2023 05:05 - 43 minutes - 101 MBEverybody has a story to tell. They have a past, a present, and a future. They have significant elements to their story that shapes them into who they are today. Telling that story, however, isn't always easy. Sometimes those elements include trauma or suppressed memories. Even so, your testimony is a powerful tool. Through it, healing can come to others who have gone through similar experiences; especially if you have already received that healing. This week, Kevin Harris fr...
205. What To Do When Your Mentoring Transitions Into Discipleship - Discipleship Top 10
October 12, 2023 05:05 - 50 minutes - 115 MBAs relationships evolve, the roles can change frequently. Parenting a toddler looks much differently than parenting a teen. Children oftentimes become the primary caregiver of their aging parents. The same holds true for mentoring relationships. What started as a mentor match can evolve into a discipleship relationship for the mentee. As the mentee is led towards the cross, the mentor is better able to start teaching them how to live a life like Jesus. In order to do that, how...
204. Is Mentoring Discipleship?
October 05, 2023 05:05 - 42 minutes - 96.8 MBIf you look in the Bible, there isn't one mention of the word "mentor". However, you can find the word "discipleship" all over the place. As Christians, we're called to "go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you." (Matthew 28:19-20) But, if you look at mentorship and discipleship, aren't they really just two words that mean the same thing? After a...
203. Respecting Parents, Creating Unique Experiences, & Knowing Your Influence: Mentoring at the Movies with Dead Poets Society
September 28, 2023 05:05 - 49 minutes - 113 MBOne of the best things about art is how it represents the human condition. Movies in particular have a unique ability to comment on hot topic issues in a way that can be thought provoking and challenging. Interestingly, there are plenty of movies in existence that contain some aspect of mentorship; an older figure guiding the next generation into adulthood. This week John and Zach kick off a new series about mentoring seen in different movies. In discussing Dead Poets Society th...
202. Why I Mentor with Rich Thompson from Mentoring Alliance
September 21, 2023 05:05 - 36 minutes - 84.1 MBEvery mentor has a different story. They come from different backgrounds, experience different things in life, and can bring unique elements to the table in a mentoring relationship. The organization they get plugged into for support also affects the ways in which they mentor through different trainings, mentoring philosophies, and equipping. That's why asking a mentor their why is so important. Each mentor has a different reason for pouring into the next generation; to voluntee...
201. The Write Stuff pt. 2 with Nick Poe from Tall Pines Publishing
September 14, 2023 05:05 - 43 minutes - 98.7 MBHumans relate to each other primarily through the sharing of stories. And since that’s true, it means that anybody can write a book. After all, a book is just sharing a collection of thoughts through the story-telling process. While anybody can write a book, however, the publication process can be daunting and confusing. So much goes into publishing a book, whether it’s type-setting, editing, cover design, or marketing, that it can be overwhelming to the author who wants to publ...
200. The New You Can Mentor // 200th Episode
September 07, 2023 05:05 - 39 minutes - 91.5 MBYou Can Mentor is turning 200! That’s right, this week is our 200th episode, and we couldn’t have done it without all of you. From the bottom of everybody’s heart here at You Can Mentor, THANK YOU! With our 200th episode, we wanted to announce some major changes coming up at You Can Mentor and how we operate. Don’t worry, we’re still outputting content to encourage and equip mentors throughout the nation. Tune in this week to hear Zach and John discuss the future of the podcast...
199. Evidenced Based Practices in Youth Mentoring with Donnovan Karber from CAYM
August 31, 2023 05:05 - 30 minutes - 42 MBDonnovan began working with youth through Youth Horizons in Wichita, Kansas in 1995, first in a group home and then as the manager of their mentoring program. Donnovan attended one of CAYM’s first training events. He started helping train other ministries through CAYM in 2007 and joined CAYM’s team in 2008. Purchase the You Can Mentor book: You Can Mentor: How to Impact Your Community, Fulfill the Great Commission, and Break Generational Curses youcanmentor.com
198. Unsung Heroes with Coach John Mosley
August 24, 2023 05:05 - 45 minutes - 104 MBJohn Mosley Jr is the the men's basketball head coach at East Los Angeles College, which was recently featured on Netflix's Last Chance U. He is full-time faculty member for the Kinesiology Department and work with The Male Leadership Academy at ELAC, a program that supports the vision of underrepresented Men of Color and supports their success at the Community College. Coach Mosley has found success on and off the court, winning at basketball and helping young men reach their pot...
197. The Six Conversations with Dr. Heather Holleman
August 17, 2023 05:05 - 51 minutes - 119 MBConversations are a crucial life skill. They are literally the way in which we communicate with one another, relate to each other, and feel seen, valued, and heard. It’s something we start practicing as soon as we begin to talk. Even so, we struggle to be able to have deep, meaningful conversations with others; especially with strangers. But what could happen if we were able to change that? What could we learn from each other if we were able to learn to listen well and communic...
196. For I Am With You
August 10, 2023 05:05 - 19 minutes - 44.6 MBPurchase the You Can Mentor book: You Can Mentor: How to Impact Your Community, Fulfill the Great Commission, and Break Generational Curses youcanmentor.com
195. Fruit of the Spirit: Peace
August 03, 2023 05:05 - 28 minutes - 65.8 MB“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control; against such things there is no law.” - Galatians 5:22-23 When we walk in the Spirit, we can’t help but model the affect the Holy Spirit has on our lives. The Spirit fills us up and guides us. He counsels us and convicts us of the things that are not of God. It’s literally impossible to not model the fruit of the Spirit when we’re walking inline with God’...
194. Forerunner Mentoring Coaches Roundtable Takeover
July 27, 2023 05:05 - 2 hours - 171 MBAt Forerunner Mentoring, they help boys meet their potential and become Men of God through implementing after school mentoring programs in the local public schools and matching students who don’t have father figures with a one-on-one mentor. To facilitate those programs, they employ “coaches” in their after school programs. The job of these coaches is to mentor the students in group settings, each working with a specific grade or group of kids. As is the case with working with an...
193. Perspectives of Mentoring
July 20, 2023 05:05 - 1 hour - 270 MBPurchase the You Can Mentor book: You Can Mentor: How to Impact Your Community, Fulfill the Great Commission, and Break Generational Curses youcanmentor.com
192. Why I Mentor with Joshua Turner from Forerunner Mentoring
July 13, 2023 05:05 - 1 hour - 200 MBPurchase the You Can Mentor book: You Can Mentor: How to Impact Your Community, Fulfill the Great Commission, and Break Generational Curses youcanmentor.com
192. Why I Mentor with Joshua Turner
July 13, 2023 05:05 - 1 hour - 200 MBPurchase the You Can Mentor book: You Can Mentor: How to Impact Your Community, Fulfill the Great Commission, and Break Generational Curses youcanmentor.com
191. Why I Mentor with Maxwell Owen from Forerunner Mentoring
July 06, 2023 05:05 - 1 hour - 101 MBWhen someone thinks about mentoring, they think about the child. They think about the benefit they’re receiving of having somebody guide them and show them the way. They think about the growth of the child and the potential they have. They may even think about the experiences the mentee may have. Rarely, however, do they think about the relationship from the perspective of the mentor. They may acknowledge the mentor’s presence and intentionality, but they don’t typically think ...
191. Why I Mentor with Maxwell Owen
July 06, 2023 05:05 - 1 hour - 101 MBWhen someone thinks about mentoring, they think about the child. They think about the benefit they’re receiving of having somebody guide them and show them the way. They think about the growth of the child and the potential they have. They may even think about the experiences the mentee may have. Rarely, however, do they think about the relationship from the perspective of the mentor. They may acknowledge the mentor’s presence and intentionality, but they don’t typically think ...
190. Why I Mentor with Holden Royals from Forerunner Mentoring
June 29, 2023 05:05 - 1 hour - 102 MBMentoring boys without father figures means playing the role of the father in that boy’s life, while simultaneously acknowledging that you are NOT their father. With that unique position is an ability to have hard conversations with them and to lead them in the path of righteousness. But in order to be effective in doing those things, you first need to be modeling them in your own life. Leading a boy in his walk with Jesus means pursuing your own walk with Jesus first. Leading a...
190. Why I Mentor with Holden Royals
June 29, 2023 05:05 - 1 hour - 102 MBMentoring boys without father figures means playing the role of the father in that boy’s life, while simultaneously acknowledging that you are NOT their father. With that unique position is an ability to have hard conversations with them and to lead them in the path of righteousness. But in order to be effective in doing those things, you first need to be modeling them in your own life. Leading a boy in his walk with Jesus means pursuing your own walk with Jesus first. Leading a...
189. Why I Mentor with Jamari Maloy
June 22, 2023 05:05 - 1 hour - 97.1 MBOne of the coolest moments in a mentoring relationship is to see the fruit of your labors start to flourish. When you get dragged down by the details of the current situation or start to think that you haven’t made an impact on your mentee, it can be hard to focus on the positive or to wonder why you’re doing it in the first place. In those moments, looking back at where your relationship started and comparing it to where you are now can be insightful and encouraging. It can give...
189. Why I Mentor with Jamari Maloy from Forerunner Mentoring
June 22, 2023 05:05 - 1 hour - 97.1 MBOne of the coolest moments in a mentoring relationship is to see the fruit of your labors start to flourish. When you get dragged down by the details of the current situation or start to think that you haven’t made an impact on your mentee, it can be hard to focus on the positive or to wonder why you’re doing it in the first place. In those moments, looking back at where your relationship started and comparing it to where you are now can be insightful and encouraging. It can give...
188. Why I Mentor with Ryan Raleigh
June 15, 2023 05:05 - 53 minutes - 74.1 MBSometimes, God does something in your life that just doesn’t make any sense. He may take something away or put you in a new position that you don’t feel like you’re qualified for. He may move you across the country, or change the demographic of the people you thought you were called to minister to. But at the end of the day, God’s plan supersedes yours, and that’s something Ryan Raleigh has learned. In continuing his summer takeover series, Josh is joined by Forerunner’s K-2nd g...
188. Why I Mentor with Ryan Raleigh from Forerunner Mentoring
June 15, 2023 05:05 - 53 minutes - 74.1 MBSometimes, God does something in your life that just doesn’t make any sense. He may take something away or put you in a new position that you don’t feel like you’re qualified for. He may move you across the country, or change the demographic of the people you thought you were called to minister to. But at the end of the day, God’s plan supersedes yours, and that’s something Ryan Raleigh has learned. In continuing his summer takeover series, Josh is joined by Forerunner’s K-2nd g...
187. Why I Mentor with Caitlyn Moudy from Forerunner Mentoring
June 08, 2023 05:05 - 49 minutes - 68.2 MBMentoring in a group setting takes on a whole new set of challenges compared to individual mentoring. You show up and pour into multiple kids all at the same time. You need to be able to see not just the needs of one person, but multiple kids simultaneously and meet those needs all at the same time. You get pulled in multiple directions and need to be able to handle that all with grace and poise. It’s a challenge, but it’s also incredibly rewarding to get to see the growth of ea...