Is Dating Really That Awful?

IN THIS EPISODE:

• I would like to think that I've changed a lot since my divorce, and I think that, and I speak to that, not only through the Divorce Over 40 community, but also on my personal Instagram, about what I believe is a need for all of us to really self-reflect as well as kinda go through this self-discovery, or this rediscovery process, as we kinda call it. (2:47)

• It's really helped in navigating someone through their divorce journey, whether they're in the middle of it or they're coming out of it from a healing standpoint, and I think that a lot of us is when we get divorced, we feel like we're on an island, and the circumstances that we're experiencing are unlike any others. And some of them are very toxic and painful, and sometimes some kind of breeze through it, but nonetheless, when you hear stories of other people that have gone through the same situations as you did, it's kind of like an aha moment where it's very therapeutic for people. (6:08)

• And so what I've tried to do is, at least, I pass along whatever wisdom I can when it comes to data on how to approach it and make it something that's a little bit more positive and fulfilling than just all the negative stuff that you keep hearing about, and how people get easily triggered by behaviors of people that they're talking to. (8:46)

• Even though you're more open to having a day just to get to meet someone, I think you still, at the same time, tighten your filter a bit to say, I'm protective of my time, and if someone isn't aligned with me, I don't want to waste my time on that person. And so I think there's a lot of benefits from taking that stance and dating. (13:25)

• Here are the four or five things that are absolutely non-negotiables, it could be religious, what your faith is, and whether or not that aligns to someone. It could be stage of life. As an example, when I first started dating after divorce, I was dating a lot of younger women, and many of which had never had kids, and I learned pretty quickly, I don't want kid. My youngest graduates in a year from high school, and I don't want to raise kids for another 20 years. and so that became a non-negotiable for me for in that I don't need to be dating women that are looking to have kids. (18:50)

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