#32 Why I Want a Midwife (at my next birth)

We've talked a lot about how modern midwifery fall short of truly supporting the physiology of birth, and honoring the sacred aspect. You can hear my personal experience of this in my birth story (and here's part 2) . It's subtle, but after Olin's birth, I know I want something different next time. So I decided to think out loud for you today: why do I still want a midwife at my future births?

 

You'll hear about:

An update - including an exploration of my own views on my worth, and how I'm shifting stories to one of expansion. (Using tools we talk about in our course, Wise Woman, Sacred Birth.)
How Sara's birth story and video re-inspired me to imagine the type of midwife I am calling in.
This is a topic full of nuance, there is no black and white. There is a midwife for very woman, no one way of serving is better.
Midwives are all their own people with their own stuff! Just because a midwife is labeled as whatever, means nothing about the way she practices, what she believes, her trauma and training and stories, etc.
I don't feel like I NEED a midwife! I don't need someone to do testing and offer education. I don't need a 'professional' to be on hand to make birth safe. I don't need to be saved.
But I WANT someone to hold space. To reflect myself back to me. To anchor me so I can dive deep into personal transformation.
The difference between that and doing nothing. Because that kind of support often looks like doing nothing. And why I want this support from a midwife as opposed to a friend, my mother, etc.
I can feel the skill set I'm looking for in a midwife when I am holding MotherCircle. It's a powerful attunement. Clicking in like this is an everyday super power.
My mantra for my next birth - what I want a midwife to help me hold
How I'm already calling in the energy of my future midwife
Midwifery involves the physical and the spiritual - just holding one or the other does not a midwife make.
I don't want to birth alone! I don't think most women do. I do think most women deep down would want different support than what is offered, hence the allure of freebirth.
My prayer for the world: Make your own decisions! Ditch the dogma Feel what is deeply right for you, regardless of anyone else.

 

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Mentioned on the show:

 

Sara's most recent birth story
Do Midwives Make Birth Safer - Taking Back Birth
My own birth stories (part 1 and part 2)

 

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