Wild & Sublime
138 episodes - English - Latest episode: 4 days ago -A podcast about sex for everyone, no matter your preferences, orientation, or relationship style — based on the popular live Chicago talk show, hosted by sex educator Karen Yates. Panelists, interviews, stories, Q and A, and more reflect a dynamic and all-encompassing view of sexuality. Join the juicy party!
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Fat & Sexy with Carina Shero and Jezebelly
April 22, 2021 11:00 - 21 minutes - 15.1 MBWhat would happen if you gave yourself permission to celebrate your body, no matter its size or shape? Burlesque artists Carina Shero and Jezebelly of the Femme FATales discuss burlesque performance, being fat and fabulous, the censorship impact of FOSTA-SESTA, and intersectionality through period costumes. In this episode: Carina Shero - Fat community maker, model & performer Jezebelly aka Iridessence - Burlesque performer, producer & model Bare Necessities live show - Nov 2019 Loving ...
Are Great Expectations Killing Your Relationships?
April 15, 2021 11:00 - 19 minutes - 13.8 MBDo you swipe left so much you give yourself tendonitis as you look for the perfect person? Or do you date a lot, but no one meets your needs? Sexperts discuss relationship expectations and how to get better at dating. Plus a Sermon on the Pubic Mound on resentments. In this episode: Tazima Parris - Sex coach & pleasure mentor Matthew Amador - Psychotherapist for love, sex, and gender rebels Peter Navarro - sex-positive therapist specializing in embodiment Feb. 2020 live show Loving th...
How Much Porn Is Too Much?
April 08, 2021 11:00 - 45 minutes - 31 MBHas your porn use ever felt like a problem? Where’s the line between “often” and “addiction”? Learn to differentiate between the two in this ep as Karen speaks with a sex therapist and a somatic sex educator. They talk about shame, pathologized behaviors, and compassion toward ourselves when we feel out of control. In this episode: Corinne Diachuk - Yoga therapist & somatic sex educator Helen Wyatt - Relationship & sex therapist Erotic Creativity podcast episode Joseph Kramer's Porn Yo...
What to Say During Kinky Play
April 01, 2021 11:00 - 23 minutes - 16 MBA listener asks, “It's hard for me to communicate during a kink scene … Suggestions?” Our sexperts discuss kink communication — before, during, and after. Plus, a steamy story from the Pride Parade that’s sure to make you sweat. In this episode: Mksthingshappin - kink and relationship coach Diane Long - self-defense instructor & somatic bodyworker Matthew Amador - sex-positive psychotherapist Deb R. Lewis - storyteller December 2018 live show Join our monthly membership club The Afte...
What Turns You On?
March 25, 2021 11:00 - 22 minutes - 15.6 MBHow do we discover what turns us on? Does the erotic come from taboo, longing, surprise? How can we get more of it to juice our relationships and fantasies? Panelists offer tips to cultivate more eroticism in our lives. Plus host Karen Yates' Sermon on the Pubic Mound on sex positivity. In this episode: Jera Brown - sex writer Mksthingshappin - kink and relationship coach Elmo Painter - sex-positive psychotherapist Erotic Creativity podcast episode Anything That Moves podcast episode ...
How to Get Good at Sex
March 11, 2021 12:00 - 21 minutes - 14.9 MBAfraid of putting a desire out there? A newbie kinkster question leads to a surprising answer from our sexpert panel. Plus Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound on vulnerability and asking for help. Join The Afterglow for bonus creator notes, monthly Q&As, and more! Or make a one-time donation to support our sex-forward content. In this episode: Tazima Parris — sex & intimacy coach Jason Best — therapist & founder of Best Therapies Brandon Hunter-Haydon — surrogate partner & intimacy coach ...
From Iowa Boy to L.A. Leatherman
March 04, 2021 12:00 - 48 minutes - 33.3 MBPup play, leather, kink, sobriety, and the search for intimacy: In this erotic biography episode, one man shares his journey from Iowa musical theater kid (with a girlfriend) to out-and-proud L.A. leatherman — how he moved out of shame and hiding, and into making the deep relationships he was looking for. History of ‘The Eagle’ leather bars More about Leather Culture Join The Afterglow, our monthly membership club, for bonus creator notes, monthly sexpert Q&As, and more! Or make a one-time...
COVID and Dating: Feb 2021 UPDATE
February 25, 2021 12:00 - 33 minutes - 22.7 MBWhat’s the state of dating during COVID now? Get the lowdown. We follow up with hashtag open's Sarah Sloane on dating and hookups a year into the pandemic and get tips you can use. Plus, Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound on staying steady in hard times. In this episode: #open - dating app for nonmonogamous people and their partners Tazima Parris, sex coach Wild & Sublime: Episode 1 - COVID and Getting Laid Find us online: Wild & Sublime on Instagram Wild & Sublime on Twitter Wild & S...
Andropause, Desire Discrepancy, and MORE
February 18, 2021 12:00 - 29 minutes - 20.4 MBAndropause: Is it real? Sexperts chat about testosterone and sex drive as we age and offer surefire suggestions for upping your mojo. We also tackle desire discrepancy in relationships. And a storyteller recounts losing his virginity in the height of a Texas heat wave. Therapists Korey McWilliams and Jason Best, and sex coach and pleasure mentor Tazima Parris respond to a listener’s question about andropause and reduced sex drive. Excerpted from this month’s bonus Q&A on The Afterglow, our ...
Carnival: Reclaiming Communal Erotic Joy
February 11, 2021 12:00 - 55 minutes - 38.1 MBIt’s Carnival next week, and we’re diving into the eroticism of this major festival. Sexologist and theatre artist Onika Henry joins Karen for a deep talk on the community, sexual freedom, and the roots of resistance that can be seen in the Carnival of Trinidad and Tobago. Onika Henry Onika’s Tedx talk A Valentine’s treat at The Afterglow! Sign up for our monthly membership program on Patreon in February and get a free book download -- any title from the SinCyr Publishing erotic lit cat...
Erotic Lit for the 21st Century
February 04, 2021 12:00 - 38 minutes - 26.4 MBSnowed in? How about some spicy reading material to keep you warm and cozy? Karen interviews therapist Meg Weber on her new memoir about a BDSM relationship, and publisher Sienna Saint-Cyr speaks about creating the consent-based erotica they always wanted to read. Plus Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound on following your hunches. Therapist and writer Meg Weber reads from and discusses A Year of Mr. Lucky, her memoir of a yearlong correspondence and relationship with a Dom she first met onlin...
Get into Your Body
January 28, 2021 12:00 - 28 minutes - 19.3 MBIf you’re not in your body, where are you? Panelists respond to a listener who asks whether checking out during sex might be a sign of trauma. And a somatic therapist leads a guided visualization to bring pleasure into daily experiences. A sneak peek of a recent Q&A from The Afterglow, our monthly membership club. Somatic educator, body worker, and empowerment self-defense teacher Diane Long; kinkster and relationship coach Mksthingshappin; and psychotherapist Matthew Amador answer listene...
Communicating In and Out of Bed
January 21, 2021 12:00 - 37 minutes - 25.8 MBAre you saying what you really feel and want in the sexual arena? Panelists offer strategies on communication — before, during, and after sex. Plus Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound on anxiety and what it takes to move forward. Sex and intimacy coach Tazima Parris, sex-positive psychotherapist Brandon Hunter-Haydon, and kinkster and coach Mksthingshappin discuss strategies for communicating with partners. Recorded lives at Constellation Chicago in May 2019. Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Moun...
What Open Relationships Can Teach Everyone
January 14, 2021 12:00 - 52 minutes - 35.9 MBWhat kind of relationships do you want to make? In this deep long-form conversation for ALL relational styles, ethical nonmonogamists discuss relationship structures, communication skills, trust, jealousy, and the all-important work of getting to know ourselves. Plus Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound. A discussion on ethical nonmonogamy and what people in monogamous relationships can learn from ENM, with author and raconteur Cooper S. Beckett; Maile, Director of Product at #open (the datin...
Body Confidence in the Bedroom
January 07, 2021 12:00 - 29 minutes - 20.4 MBWhat would you do if you had complete body confidence in sexual situations? Our audience responds. Panelists offer strategies for getting out of your head and leading with pleasure. Plus Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound. Panelists discuss the roots of body shame and techniques to get out of it. Featuring psychotherapist Niquie Dworkin, sex-positive psychologist Pat Cochran, and Matthew Amador, a psychotherapist for love, sex, and gender rebels. Recorded live at Constellation in Chicago, N...
Your True Sexual Self
December 31, 2020 12:00 - 48 minutes - 33.4 MBWhen it comes to sex, who are you… really? In this cabaret-style episode, Sarah Sloane defines demisexual, aromantic, and asexual — and why labels are good as we understand more deeply who we are. Panelists offer tips to avoid projecting old experiences onto new relationships. And a storyteller shares how becoming a Domme helped her discover her true self. What’s Up with That?: Sarah Sloane of #open, the dating site for nonmonogamous people and their partners, joins host Karen Yates to defi...
Masturbation and Mindful Erotic Practice
December 24, 2020 12:00 - 48 minutes - 33.1 MB"It's dress-up, it's try-on, it's 'let's see,' it's what else, who else am I?" Karen interviews somatic sex educator captain snowdon on developing a mindful erotic practice that centers pleasure and embodiment. Plus, a joyful poem for Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound. Tis the season… to join The Afterglow! Come visit our members-only virtual afterparty with bonus goodies galore, starting at $5/month. Or make a one-time donation to support our ongoing sex-positive work. In this episode... ...
Bust Out of Your Sex Rut
December 17, 2020 12:00 - 34 minutes - 23.4 MBMonogamous, polyam, kinky or solo — we all get into sex ruts! Our panel discusses how to climb on out and bring a sense of play back into your sex life. The audience asks questions. Plus Karen's Sermon on the Pubic Mound on confronting trauma when trying new things. In this episode: sex-positive therapist Jason Best sex and intimacy coach Tazima Parris sex educator Heather Rider Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski Science for Sexual Happiness by Caffyn...
Sex Journey, Kink Journey
December 10, 2020 12:00 - 41 minutes - 28.3 MBWhat’s it like to embark on a new sexual lifestyle in middle age? Or to figure out—after unfulfilling long-term relationships—what kind of sexual being you want to become? Two real people tell their stories. Plus, Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound about the possibility of change. In this episode: Check out our monthly membership perks in The Afterglow, starting at $5/month. Or make a one-time contribution to our work. Therapist Pat Cochran tells the story of her development as a sexual pe...
Taming Jealousy
November 12, 2020 12:00 - 34 minutes - 23.7 MBThinking of opening up your relationship? Planning a three-way? Or just chatting with new people at a virtual party? All great and highly recommended, but… what happens when jealousy enters the room? Our panel offers strategies for talking down the green-eyed monster. Plus, a storyteller’s forays into nudity on the internet, and Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound on sex-positive community. Wild & Sublime will be taking a 3 week break after this to plan our next season! Panel talk on jealousy...
Getting Laid During COVID: Long-Term Relationships [Re-broadcast]
November 05, 2020 12:00 - 41 minutes - 28.3 MBAs we face another round of public-space restrictions this fall due to a rise in COVID cases, we wanted to revisit this episode. Our panel gives great suggestions for thriving during this strange time, especially if you and your partner both work from home (and maybe also have kids). Plus a sexy Burning Man story, and host Karen Yates’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound. Sex & intimacy coach Tazima Parris, sex-positive psychotherapist Matthew Amador, and Sarah Sloane, Director of Operations and Com...
Getting Laid During COVID: Long-Term Relationships [Re-broadcast]
November 05, 2020 12:00 - 41 minutes - 28.4 MBAs we face another round of public-space restrictions this fall due to a rise in COVID cases, we wanted to revisit this episode. Our panel gives great suggestions for thriving during this strange time, especially if you and your partner both work from home (and maybe also have kids). Plus a sexy Burning Man story, and host Karen Yates’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound. Sex & intimacy coach Tazima Parris, sex-positive psychotherapist Matthew Amador, and Sarah Sloane, Director of Operations and Com...
Sexual Transparency and Intimacy with "Group" author Christie Tate
October 29, 2020 11:00 - 44 minutes - 30.8 MBHow far would you go to feel better? Karen speaks with Christie Tate, author of the memoir Group on writing about sex, listening to the body, and her quest for intimacy through an unconventional process of radical transparency. Group is the November 2020 selection for Reese Witherspoon’s book club and a New York Times bestseller. Links: Christie Tate “Group” on Bookshop Are you in our membership club? Starting Nov 1, sex experts will answer anonymous sex and relationship questions just f...
Anything that Moves
October 22, 2020 11:00 - 39 minutes - 26.9 MBBisexual? Pansexual? Heteroflexible? What's up with that? Plus, our panel answers questions about kink, queerness, and LTRs from a live audience. A storyteller shares spicy episodes from his erotic life. Then, a Sermon on the Pubic Mound on owning your pleasure. What’s Up with That? Sarah Sloane joins Karen to sort through the nuances of “bisexual,” “pansexual,” and “heteroflexible” in collaboration with #open, the dating app for ethically nonmonogamous people and their partners Q&A: Audie...
Erotic Creativity
October 15, 2020 11:00 - 58 minutes - 40 MBAre you stuck in a sex rut? Karen talks with three knowledgeable guests from different corners of the sex-positive world about erotic creativity and how to sustain it. Their juicy in-depth conversation ranges from roleplay and kink to tantra and mindfulness. Guests: Corinne Diachuk is an advanced teacher of Therapeutic Yoga, a somatic sex educator, and a faculty member at the Institute for the Study of Somatic Education Goddess Erica is a Sexual Empowerment Coach, Orgasmic Birth Doula, ...
Queerness and MORE
October 08, 2020 11:00 - 30 minutes - 20.8 MBQueer once meant gay, but does it still? Sarah Sloane talks gay vs. queer, and how a once-maligned word has taken on expansive new meaning. Matt Griffo sings a spooky-sexy song. Aiden Nicholson discusses the joys and importance of regular STI testing and getting comfy talking to partners about sexual health. Karen shares a sexy poem by Nobel Prize winner Louise Glück. Sarah Sloane of #open, the dating app for ethically non-monogamous people and their partners, joins What’s Up with That? to ...
Fantasy and Taboo
October 01, 2020 11:00 - 46 minutes - 32.3 MBThe great philosopher Ludacris once asked, “What’s your fantasy?” Our panel discusses how to make your fantasies reality—or not. Therapist Carrie Jameson shares details about how to find a therapist who’s cool with kink. And Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound about getting erotically comfortable with yourself. Panel discussion: “How do I live my fantasy?” with Mx. Maya, education coordinator at kinky summer camp Twisted Tryst; Caitlin V. Neal, sex and relationship coach; and Brandon Hunter-H...
What Is Sex?
September 24, 2020 11:00 - 46 minutes - 31.6 MBWhat is sex? Nudity? Bodies? Orgasms? Maybe that’s just the tip of the... something. Our panel discusses. Logan Pierce returns to talk about gender pronouns and deadnaming. Deb R. Lewis shares a fantastical fisting story. And Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound about getting out of a sexual straitjacket. Panel discussion with writer Jera Brown of Rebellious Magazine, sex coach Caitlin V Neal, and kinkster Mksthingshappin on “What is sex?”, defining it for ourselves, and reflecting on what we ...
Better Sex Ed with Heather Corinna
September 17, 2020 11:00 - 40 minutes - 27.9 MBHow much sex education did you get in school? Was it (how can we say this politely) at all useful? Sex educator and writer Heather Corinna talks about founding the popular website Scarleteen and their books on sex and relationships for pre-teens, teens and young adults. Storyteller Archy Arch J tells a tale of high school sexual experimentation with (gasp!) his girlfriend. And Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound about making more room for pleasure in everyday life. Karen interviews Heather Co...
The Sex-Positive Parent
September 10, 2020 11:00 - 52 minutes - 36 MBHow can we get better at talking to kids about sex? Karen chats with sexologist Jennifer Litner about her new online course for parents. Logan Pierce returns to discuss the term “nonbinary.” Audience member Jade shares their life experience of being polyamorous, gender nonconforming, and raising kids. Karen interviews sexologist Jennifer Litner about “Building Ease Talking About the Birds and the Bees,” a new e-course for parents and care-givers who want to create sex-positive home environm...
Sex Lies
September 03, 2020 11:00 - 42 minutes - 29 MBWhat lies about sex did you learn as a kid? Are they still with you today? Panelists discuss the lingering impact of childhood sex myths and answer audience questions. Storyteller Jessy Lauren Smith shares a tale of dating as a queer adult. Panel discussion with relationship coach Tazima Parris, therapist Brandon Hunter-Haydon, kinkster Mksthingshappin, and host Karen Yates, recorded live at our March 2019 show Story from Jessy Lauren Smith on growing up religious and dating as a queer ad...
DIY Gangbang
August 27, 2020 11:00 - 42 minutes - 28.9 MBWant to host your own gangbang? Storyteller Alan Colorado offers some helpful hints on what NOT to do. Karen interviews therapist Carrie Jameson on how to hear “no” from a partner. Logan Pierce returns for another installment of “What’s Up With That?” Plus, Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound. Karen interviews therapist Carrie Jameson on handling rejection and how to move forward in the conversation, from our Dec. 2019 live show Sex educator Logan Pierce returns to talk about the word “trans...
4 Steps to Ask for What You Want in Bed
August 20, 2020 11:00 - 40 minutes - 28 MBWouldn't it be amazing to get what you REALLY want? Even if it’s outside your relationship comfort zone? Sex coach Caitlin V Neal, educator Ren Grabert, kinkster Mksthingshappin and host Karen Yates discuss and role-play how to ask for what you want with a partner. Plus a sexy song from comedian-musician Matt Griffo, and Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound. Panelists discuss and role-play how to ask for new sexy stuff with a partner in four parts: The Prep, The Ask, The Negotiation, The Takea...
4 Steps to Ask for What You Want in Bed
August 20, 2020 11:00 - 40 minutes - 27.9 MBWouldn't it be amazing to get what you REALLY want? Even if it’s outside your relationship comfort zone? Sex coach Caitlin V Neal, educator Ren Grabert, kinkster Mksthingshappin and host Karen Yates discuss and role-play how to ask for what you want with a partner. Plus a sexy song from comedian-musician Matt Griffo, and Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound. Panelists discuss and role-play how to ask for new sexy stuff with a partner in four parts: The Prep, The Ask, The Negotiation, The Takea...
Sensation Liberation
August 13, 2020 11:00 - 41 minutes - 28.3 MBLiberate your senses! This episode we give you easy exercises to wake up your body sexually, a sexy story, and discuss gender terms in depth. Karen’s interview from our live show (Feb. 2020) with Dr. Pia Holec about desire discrepancy in couples. Dr. Pia offers us a challenge of self-touch -- did you try it? Let us know what you discovered! Chicago leatherworker Emma Alamo tells a story about losing her dick virginity from our May 2019 show. In a new segment, WHAT’S UP WITH THAT?, we tal...
Getting Laid During COVID, Part 2: Long-Term Relationships
August 06, 2020 11:00 - 41 minutes - 28.4 MBAre you and your partner both working from home? Maybe with kids underfoot? How's your libido been? Our panelists Tazima Parris, Matthew Amador, and Sarah Sloane return to talk about sex in long-term relationships during the COVID pandemic. Plus the story of one sexy afternoon at Burning Man from David, co-founder of OUTspoken, an LGBTQ storytelling series in Chicago. From our October 2018 live show at Constellation Chicago. Host Karen Yates closes the episode with a Sermon on the Pubic Mou...
Getting Laid During COVID, Part 1: Dating and Hooking Up
July 27, 2020 11:00 - 44 minutes - 30.3 MBHow has the pandemic affected your sex life? Host Karen Yates speaks with sex coach Tazima Parris, therapist Matthew Amador, and sex educator Sarah Sloane about practical tips for moving forward. Comedian-musician Amy Do performs a song from our September 2019 show, and we close with Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound on COVID and compassion, from March 2020, the last live show (for now!). Part 2: COVID's impact on long-term relationships on the next episode. Links: Safer Sex and COVID-1...
The Wild & Sublime Podcast Trailer - extended
July 14, 2020 15:00 - 2 minutes - 1.51 MBGet a taste of Wild & Sublime as our live Chicago talk show about sex becomes a podcast, and we bring juiciness to the world every week! Subscribe to hear panel chats, interview, tips, stories, and more. www.wildandsublime.com Get tix for our live May 4 show and podcast recording in Chicago--the Jealousy show! Lineup and ticket link here. Support the Show. Follow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!