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Put An End to Self-Blame! Episode 89, Season 4

Ever notice how when you’ve made a mistake or failed at something, your immediate reaction is to see yourself as dumb, stupid or a complete loser? In this podcast, find out how you can quit hurting yourself with self-blame and deal constructively with the mistakes and failures we all fall into!  Listen to all Up! Podcasts here.

Redefining Failure, Episode 88, season 4

What do you do when your life is OK, but you’d really love to have some piece of it be “WOW”? Like climbing a mountain or recording a song or contributing to world peace. But you figure there’s no way you could do any of that, you’d fail at such lofty dreams, so you go back to your OK life, which is, well, OK. How depressing! In this podcast, you’ll be introduced to a simple shift of perspective that can transform your fear of failure into an unexpected path to those lofty dreams of yours. I...

Ready, Aim, Fire!, Episode 87, Season 4

You’re ready to stand up for yourself, hurrah! But you can’t figure out quite how to do so effectively: you’re either too shy or too bold in your approach. It’s not working. No worries! In this podcast, you’ll explore an easy three-step process that can lead to you being heard in a constructive, problem-solving way, which will facilitate your getting what you want. Yes! https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.NoelleNelsonUp  

The Power Of Words, Episode 86, Season 4

The words you hear from loved ones, friends, bosses and co-workers are powerful, you rely on them. But here’s the thing: are they trustworthy? How do you know if their words are to be believed or not? In this podcast, you can discover how to sort out the words you can trust, and those you’d best ignore – without becoming paranoid in the process! https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.NoelleNelsonUp

Fairy Tales Do Come True, Episode 85, Season 4

How do you go from knowing what you don’t want in your life to knowing what you do want? You’ve been so conditioned by other people’s definitions of what you should want, you’re stuck in the land of ‘nowhere.’ But what if there were an easy way to get yourself going where you want? In this podcast, find out how to get out of ‘nowhere,’ to the wonderful land of ‘somewhere’ and live the life of your desires! https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.NoelleNelsonUp  

Panic vs. Problem-Solving, Episode 84, Season 4

Do you ever feel like you’re not in charge of your emotions, that panic is swirling within you, ready to engulf you in a tsunami of dreadful feelings? In this podcast, find out how to differentiate between facts and feelings, such that you can take charge of your emotions and take back your life the way you want it to be! https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.NoelleNelsonUp

Pearls Before Swine, Episode 83, Season 4

You give, you give, you give – while others take and take and take. How do you break this vicious cycle without becoming a selfish egomaniacal uncaring individual? In this podcast, you’ll explore how to take charge of your giving, whether that’s of love, of your talents or your time – so that you don’t end up a taker or being taken advantage of – without turning into a narcissist. https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.NoelleNelsonUp

The Lost Art of Patience, Episode 82, Season 4

Patience may be a virtue, but you have yet to find anything virtuous about what seems to you to just be a monumental waste of time. Be patient for what? Why? With whom? In this podcast, you’ll discover what patience really is, and how it can work for you in your life – without feeling like you’re wasting even a second of your precious time. https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.NoelleNelsonUp  

What, No Guarantees? Episode 81, Season 4

Ever wished life were simpler, less complicated? What happened to the ‘good old days’ when things were easy and you were just bopping along, happy? In this podcast, you’ll be introduced to a couple of easy techniques so that whatever is going on, you can find a path to the safety and security that will allow you to enjoy a happier and more successful life. https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.NoelleNelsonUp  

The Negativity Grinch, Episode 80

There’s a far worse Grinch than the Grinch that stole Christmas, and unfortunately that Grinch, the Negativity Grinch, lives in our own minds much of the time. Yet negativity, in and of itself, doesn’t have to be a Grinch.  In this podcast you’ll discover how to use negativity in its right and proper way, so that the Negativity Grinch doesn’t take over and suck the very joy out of your life. https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.NoelleNelsonUp  

From Needy to Deserving Episode 79

You don’t want to be seen as needy or clingy, or – even worse – desperate, yet you want to be loved, appreciated, valued! And yet, you have every right to want what you want to feel good, to be happy. In this podcast you’ll explore in specifics how to turn ‘needy’ into ‘deserving’ – and with that, be able to get that love you so richly deserve. https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.NoelleNelsonUp

If You Want to Mountain Climb, Episode 78

Too often we don’t stop to consider what we want our lives to look like, much less how to get there. We just go along, hoping to somehow stumble into that perfect job or lover or whatever else it is we desire.  What you’ll learn in this podcast is a surprisingly easy way to respect yourself enough to go for a life that truly brings you joy. https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.NoelleNelsonUp

A Misunderstood Virtue, Episode 77

Do you confuse being modest with failing to acknowledge your own qualities? Too often, we confuse owning our qualities with arrogance, or entitlement, and certainly we don’t want to be indulging in that! In this podcast, you’ll discover how recognizing your qualities is in fact what gives you the tools to better navigate the challenges of life. Your super-powers! Never to be ignored or denied, just used appropriately, to enhance your life. https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.NoelleNelsonUp  

Mindless Reaction or Mindful Choice?, Episode 76

It’s so easy to have negative knee-jerk reactions to events in our day, which more often than not lead to a generally angry/irritated disposition for the whole day. Who needs that?  In this podcast, with hardly any effort at all, you’ll discover how to make mindful choices rather than oblivious reactions. With that, you can enjoy a pleasing rest of your day instead of an irritated, angry one. https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.NoelleNelsonUp

The Joy of Meaningfulness, Episode 75

Too often we go about our days by rote, never really looking at the why, as in “what’s it all about and why am I doing this anyway?” which too often lead to a profound sense of uselessness, of meaninglessness.  In this podcast you’ll explore in specifics how you might be able to find the value and meaning in your everyday activities, which in turn can lead to much more personal life-satisfaction. https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.NoelleNelsonUp

More on The Positive Power of Response, Part 2, Episode 74

It’s amazing just how much time and effort we can put into what someone else is thinking about or why they’re doing what they’re doing. Usually coming up with lots of negative conclusions that do absolutely nothing for our self-esteem.  What you’ll learn in this podcast is a surprisingly simple way to bypass that kind of questioning altogether, and instead use a much more self-affirming and pleasing approach. https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.NoelleNelsonUp

The Positive Power of Response, Part 1, Episode 73

Isn’t reacting just part of life? How can you possibly choose something as automatic as your reaction to things? You can’t. But what you can choose is how you respond to whatever it is. In this podcast, you’ll discover how your response is what allows you to operate from choice, your very valuable and personal choice, and can make all the difference in how your life goes. https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.NoelleNelsonUp

Quit The “I’m Sorry” Syndrome, Episode 72

Do you find yourself apologizing for other people’s misfortunes or unhappiness? Saying “I’m sorry” because they are suffering however, even when – and most often when – you had nothing to do with their particular unhappiness? In this podcast, you’ll discover what’s behind your “I’m Sorry” syndrome, and how to release it so you only say “I’m sorry” when you legitimately have something to be sorry for! https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.NoelleNelsonUp

The Way To Your Heart’s Desire, Episode 71

We are blessed with both a head and a heart. You’d think that would be enough to get us successfully through this adventure called ‘life.’ And yet, too often, we use one to the exclusion of the other, or use them upside down and backwards, as it were. In this podcast you’ll explore in specifics just how you might be able to use your head and heart together, harmoniously, to further your happiness and success! https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.NoelleNelsonUp

Try A Different Approach, Episode 70

Ever wonder why no matter how much you browbeat yourself for doing something wrong or never getting ‘it,’ you just can’t seem to do better? Are you that incompetent? Heck, no! But It’s often how you approach something that keeps you stuck. In this podcast, you’ll learn a surprisingly simple approach that can make that vital difference between never getting ‘it’ (whatever ‘it’ is) and getting ‘it.’ https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.NoelleNelsonUp

The Value of Intent, Episode 69

Why should ‘intent’ matter anyway? Isn’t the point that you do what you’re supposed to do, what’s ‘right’ and that’s that? No, In this podcast, you’ll discover how ‘intent’ matters to what you do. How without meaningful intent, what you do is often just a shallow display of “I’m better than you are” instead of something that brings you – as well as others – genuine satisfaction. https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.NoelleNelsonUp

On Addiction, Episode 68

Addiction isn’t just something that afflicts other people and involves heavy drugs. Most of us have some form of addiction, even if it’s to seemingly benign activities – like working out obsessively or overworking that credit card or the remote. Those too often activities get in the way of our having the full and rewarding life we deserve. In this podcast you’ll discover how to engage the healthy, functioning parts of yourself to help you heal whatever addiction, major or minor, gets in your...

When Agendas Collide, Episode 67

Wouldn’t it be nice if your child/teenager did just what you needed them to do, right when you wanted them to? YES! Unfortunately, that’s rarely the case, and most often you find yourselves butting heads or in a screaming match. Sigh. . . However, there is a very different approach that will get your child/teenager on board with what you want and need. In this podcast you’ll explore in specifics just how you might be able to accomplish that. https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.NoelleNelsonUp  

A Matter of Balance, Episode 66

How do we manage to stay so very connected with everyone on the planet via all our devices, yet somehow disconnect from what our own bodies are trying to tell us? We tend to ignore our bodies’ messages until they get so big, we can’t do anything else than succumb to illness or some other health issue. In this podcast, you’ll learn the incredible value of the mind-body system, and how to listen to your body so you can have the best life possible. https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.NoelleNelsonUp

A Question of Character, Episode 65

What is ‘character’ anyway? And what does ‘character’ have to do with you? ‘Character’ matters, it’s what tells you if someone is trustworthy or not, and trustworthiness is fundamental to good relationships of all kinds. In this podcast, you’ll discover what ‘character’- or lack of it - looks like, and how to determine if someone is likely to be trustworthy or not. https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.NoelleNelsonUp

Seducers, Episode 64

There are people who genuinely like you, are well-meaning and truthful about their attraction to you. Then there are people who only like you for what you can give them in the moment, and are quick to dump you after they’ve gotten whatever it is they want. Yet they are often so wonderful to you that you succumb to their charm, oblivious to the unfortunate consequences that will probably ensue. In this podcast, you’ll discover what separates the genuine people from those just in it for whatev...

The Problem With Control, Episode 63

Wouldn’t it be nice if you could control everyone and everything so they did just what you needed them to do, right when you needed it? Maybe. The reality is, that will never happen. But there is a way, an approach you can use that will get people and situations on board with what you want and need – that doesn’t involve control at all! In this podcast you’ll explore just how you might be able to accomplish that. https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.NoelleNelsonUp

The Temptation of Blame, Episode 62

What is it about blame that makes it so very tempting? And what’s wrong with knowing you’re right and others are wrong? Surely they should know they messed up! The problem with blame is that it may feel good in the moment, but it doesn’t do a darn thing to resolve the situation. Dang. In this podcast, you’ll learn an easy two-step process to bypass blame and boogie on to that success you so desire! https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.NoelleNelsonUp  

What Little Old Me?, Episode 61

Does anything you do really matter? Why do you feel so often like an insignificant cog in some giant wheel? Where you don’t matter. In this podcast, you’ll discover that you really do matter, that what you do – big or small – has impact, not just in some philosophical way, but real, important, viable impact. https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.NoelleNelsonUp

The Agony of Shame, Episode 60

You beat yourself up endlessly over the “I should haves” and “I should have known betters” that punch nasty holes in your otherwise happy life, aka the “shame” of messing up. Yuck! What to do? In this podcast, you’ll find possible answers to that very question, so that you can mess up without feeling down. On the contrary, you’ll find ways to deal constructively with whatever happened. A much happier result than walking around in shame! https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.NoelleNelsonUp

The Choice For Love, Episode 59

Love. Everyone wants it, in every aspect of their lives, from self-love to love of others, to love of how we are and what we do in the world. Too often, though, we are run by fear, not love. Our lives cease to be satisfying, and we are too often downhearted and unhappy. Yet there is a way to deal with fear such that love, in its most expansive meaning, fills our lives. In this podcast, you’ll explore how you might be able to accomplish that. https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.NoelleNelsonUp

“A” Versus “The” Solution, Episode 58

Why is it that the apparently easy one-shot answer to your problem just caused a whole bunch of other problems? You’re exhausted! Understandably so, because you see, one size does not fit all. In this podcast, you’ll learn how to figure out the impact of your possible solution before implementing it, so that your solution really is a worthwhile answer to your problem. https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.NoelleNelsonUp

New Year’s Resolution, Episode 57

You resolve to be nicer, you get walked on. You resolve to be more assertive, people avoid you. What’s up with that? Why can’t you get this dealing with people thing right? Well, maybe it’s not that you can’t get it right, maybe, as you’ll discover in this podcast, it’s because you’ve allowed some very valuable aspects of yourself to go undeveloped and others to rule your life. Hmm . . . Time to find out what and how! https://www.youtube.com/@Dr.NoelleNelsonUp     

On Choosing Enthusiasm, Episode 56

What you bring to life is what you get from it. No, that’s not just a cute platitude, it’s real. As in, you really do get what you give. But how? How exactly do you go about giving to life, your life, what you want from it? Good question! In this podcast, you’ll find possible answers to that very question, so that you can live a life you genuinely enjoy. And watch some of your dreams actually come true. Indeed!

Enabling v Helping, Episode 55

Have you ever been caught between wanting to help a loved one, but worried that in your attempt to help, you’re just furthering their dysfunction? You’re not alone! It’s a dilemma faced by many of us who care about our nears and dears. Yet there is a way through the dilemma that does not involve abandoning your loved one, but rather supporting them in their healing. In this podcast you’ll explore how you might be able to accomplish that.  

A Matter of Focus, Episode 54

It is said that whatever you focus on, grows. Great. Except when you find yourself focusing on yucky hurtful things, which just seem to magnify the misery in your life. How can you use the enormous power of focus, or concentrated energy, to work for you, rather than against you? What tools can you use to keep from dumping into either a miserable victim or angry ranter? In this podcast, you’ll learn an easy three-step process to use focus for your success and happiness!

Approval v. Love, Episode 53

Why is it you can never seem to find the love you seek? That special relationship that would fill you with such joy. What’s wrong with you? Nothing! What’s wrong is how you’re going about seeking love, namely confusing someone’s approval of you with loving you. In this podcast, you’ll discover the profound difference between approval with love and some ways to get to that love you so ardently desire.

Whose Life Is It Anyway?, Episode 52

Do you ever feel like your life isn’t in your control? Like you’re living what everyone else wants you to and you’re not happy, and you don’t know what to do about it? What a painful unfortunate way to spend your days! Well, you don’t need to put up with it anymore. In this podcast, you’ll discover ways to live the life you want to live, without having to run off to a desert island or turn into a hermit . . .

The Power of Mental Rehearsal, Episode 51

Olympic athletes use it, successful performers use it – guess what? You can use it too! When you have to have that conversation you dread, make that presentation for the first time, face that person you’re in awe or fear of, you too can use mental rehearsal to position yourself in the best possible place for success. In this podcast, you’ll learn the mental rehearsal techniques that will help you turn any challenge to your advantage. Indeed!

Where’s The Horse? Episode 50

How can you make sense of the pile of manure you’ve just dumped into? The upset or disaster you didn’t anticipate but is now making a mess of your life? Good question! In this podcast, you’ll explore some of how you turn that pile of manure into something positive and valuable for your life (and it isn’t fertilizer!).

Winner In The Making, Episode 49

Is it ever just all too much? That the marriage or job or friendship you counted on to last forever falls apart? Or some dreaded disease afflicts your beloved child and all you can do is rant and rave? Rather than turning into a perpetually miserable victim or anger finger-pointer, discover in this podcast a far more effective and soul-restoring process!      

Silence Is Not Always Golden, Episode 48

Why can’t you get heard? Why, no matter how loudly, angrily or with tears abounding you speak your distress, your partner stands there like a stone? Aargh! In this podcast, you’ll find out how to express your unhappiness in a way that your partner can hear you and respond. Hopefully appropriately! Oh, the sweet relief. . .

How Judgment Hurts You, Episode 47

You can’t help yourself. When “stuff” hits the fan, you go down that rabbit-hole of dread and despair so fast, it not only hurts, it hurts bad! But what if there was a way to avoid the rabbit-hole altogether? In this podcast, you’ll learn a surprising technique that will help you turn any “stuff” to your advantage. Yes!

When Love Is Not Enough, Episode 46

Are you tired of endlessly “working” on your relationship? Why should you have to be “working” on it in the first place? Good question! In this podcast, you’ll explore some of the reasons why you can’t seem to get your relationship to “work” despite all the energy and effort you put into “working” it – and how to get on track in the first place.

What’s Wrong With Me? Episode 45

Do you ever feel that you can’t do anything right? That you can’t get things to go your way no matter how hard you try? Rather than deciding something must be wrong with you – or with whoever’s not being helpful - discover in this podcast a different, far more powerful and empowering (!) approach!

What Now, Why Me?, Episode 44

Why does it seem like just when life is going along so nicely, something pulls the rug from under you? Like losing your job, relationship, car? Why can’t things just stay steady on course? Like forever? In this podcast, you’ll find out how to deal with some of the ordinary inevitable losses of life so you can open up to the new and better yet to come.    

Transform Parent into Adult, Episode 43

Now there’s a challenge for you! Getting your parent to quit bossing you around when you’re waaaay past the need-bossing-around age. And yet, it’s doable! In this podcast, you’ll learn a surprising technique that will help your parent grow up into an adult, and thus treat you as one. Oh happy day!

What's the point?, Episode 42

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Value of Intuition, Episode 41