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Unpack the complexities of heartbreak with Nathan as he navigates through its different types, the impact of betrayal, and the challenge of recognizing toxic traits. Discover the importance of due diligence in relationships and find solace in moving forward.

Introduction

Kickstart a heartfelt journey with Nathan as he unveils the challenges behind the mic of podcast production and sets the tone for this powerful episode on heartbreak.

The Many Faces of Heartbreak: Understanding Its Pain and Impact

Delve into the multifaceted nature of heartbreak. From the deep-seated pain it inflicts to its far-reaching impacts, understand why heartbreak is more than just a phase.

Heartbreak Variations: Recognizing Different Experiences

Explore the different types of heartbreak experiences and learn how each has unique effects on our lives and wellbeing.

Betrayal: A Deep Cut in Heartbreak

Discuss the added sting of betrayal in heartbreak and the toll it takes on trust in future relationships.

Hidden Dangers: Identifying Toxic Traits

Unmask the hidden toxic traits in people that can lead to heartbreak.

Learn how to spot these warning signs early on to protect yourself.

Information Gathering: The Foundation of Strong Relationships

Uncover the importance of gathering information about potential partners before diving into relationships.

Understand how this due diligence can help avoid heartbreak in the long run.

Beyond Heartbreak: Embracing Growth and Resilience

Join Nathan as he shares his insights on moving beyond heartbreak, focusing on personal growth and resilience.

Learn how to not let past heartbreaks define you but instead use them as stepping stones for a stronger future.

Introduction

Kickstart a heartfelt journey with Nathan as he unveils the challenges behind the mic of podcast production and sets the tone for this powerful episode on heartbreak.

The Many Faces of Heartbreak: Understanding Its Pain and Impact

Delve into the multifaceted nature of heartbreak. From the deep-seated pain it inflicts to its far-reaching impacts, understand why heartbreak is more than just a phase.

Heartbreak Variations: Recognizing Different Experiences

Explore the different types of heartbreak experiences and learn how each has unique effects on our lives and wellbeing.

Betrayal: A Deep Cut in Heartbreak

Discuss the added sting of betrayal in heartbreak and the toll it takes on trust in future relationships.

Hidden Dangers: Identifying Toxic Traits

Unmask the hidden toxic traits in people that can lead to heartbreak.

Learn how to spot these warning signs early on to protect yourself.

Information Gathering: The Foundation of Strong Relationships

Uncover the importance of gathering information about potential partners before diving into relationships.

Understand how this due diligence can help avoid heartbreak in the long run.

Beyond Heartbreak: Embracing Growth and Resilience

TranscriptYo, what is happening, guys? Nathan, back once again with another episode of the Unplugged Freedom podcast. And it has been a while, hasn’t it? It has been quite some time since I have made an episode. And, ooh, vehicle in the ditch. Well, there’s. There’s a lot of reasons for that.

I’m super busy. I’m always going, going, going end. It takes a lot of effort to put a podcast together, and I don’t think a lot of people actually know and understand just how much work goes into it. And, uh, as much as I would like to have, let’s say, record this on my iPad and then export it, edit it, clean up the audio, export it again, do all that fancy stuff.

Uh, as much as I’d love to do that, that takes so much work and so much time that I just don’t have time to do it. And then one thing, uh, that’s kind of, like, shitty is that it’s not that I don’t have things to talk about. There’s a lot of things that I want to talk about.

There’s a lot of things that I need to talk about. There’s a lot of things that people need to hear, and so it’s. It’s definitely tough. That’s for sure. So I just said, you know what? I’m on the road right now. Screw it. Let’s just. We’re just going to straight from the phone onto the app and just put it out there, because something is better than nothing, and, uh, so might as well just do it.

Especially, like, when I’m on the road, it’s pretty good. I know the audio is not the best, but, hey, we got to do what we got to do, right? So it’s tough. I’m always on the go, what are we going to talk about today? One thing I kind of want to talk about is

I’ve talked about it before, and that’s heartbreak. Uh, it sucks. I’m sure that you’ve experienced it. I’m sure that you have felt it, you’ve been hurt from it, you’ve grieved from it, and so it’s such a shitty feeling. It’s probably one of the worst. There’s the type of pain where you smash your shin up against something, and it just hurts like hell.

But me, personally, when I think about that pain, I know what that’s like, and it just takes you from zero to 100 in just a fraction of a second, and it hurts so much for just, uh, a minute, little bit of time, and. But it’s so painful. But the thing is, is that I would.

Much rather. I’d much rather take that pain 100 times over than to take heartache, to take heartbreak, whatever you want to call it. It’s such a different type of pain. It sucks. It’s just the absolute worst.

How do you to describe it? There’s so many. For me, I’ve definitely felt it, and I’ve always wondered. I’ve always thought, is it bad for you? Think about it. When you have that gnawing pain,

it just feels like there’s like a knife in your heart, and it’s just sitting there, and it’s just sitting there just like this constant, and you can’t help but feel it, and it sucks. Nothing, uh, really makes it go away. It just kind of sits there, and it just nags at you, and it’s just the worst feeling ever.

And I don’t know. I’m pretty ruthless at times, but I don’t think I would wish that pain on my worst enemy. I don’t think so. If they said, okay, you have three options here to inflict pain on your worst enemy. And if one of the options was the pain of kicking your shin up against something, the pain of 100 bee stings or, like, heartbreak, it would be like, I really don’t like this person.

But m. I also know what heartbreak feels like. I also know what that gnawing pain, that constant feeling feels like. I know what that’s like. And as much as I don’t like this person, your finger is, like, hovering over that button, and you’re kind of looking at them, and maybe they’re the kind of person that just fuels you with anger, and you’re just like, oh, I don’t like this person at all.

And in your mind, you’re thinking, like, I am going to inflict heartbreak type pain on you. And you’re ready there. And you’re looking at them, you’re like, oh, yeah, you deserve every bit of this. But then you just can’t bring yourself to it because you know what it feels like.

You know what it is, and it sucks. Absolute worst. The absolute worst. And it kind of like, okay, I don’t like. You. I hate you, but I don’t think anybody deserves that type of pain. So I’m going to give you the 100 beastings. That’s what you deserve, and that’s what you’re going to get.

That’s just kind of like, if you’ve felt heartbreak before, you know exactly what I’m talking out. Ah,

it’s the worst. And like I said, I always wonder, what does it do to you? Because it’s so od. Because, um, it’s like, uh, not m a real pain. Like there’s a physical pain, just as hitting, uh, your shin on something. There’s a physical pain. But heartbreak isn’t a pain.

Isn’t a physical pain, or is it? It’s so much different, but it’s so painful. That’s the weird thing about it. It is so painful.

You can’t push it away, you can’t brush it away. I can understand as to why people, uh, do drugs or they do alcohol. They do these things that are destructive to them because they want to get away from it. And I don’t blame them. It sucks. It’s the worst feeling ever.

Like I said, it is the absolute worst. It’s just there in your chest, and you’re just, uh. And it’s so tough. It is so tough. And I always wonder, is it good for you? Is it bad for you? Or is it nothing? It’s okay, uh, because it’s so painful.

Sometimes I wonder, is it taking years off my life? The amount of heartbreak that I’ve had over the years and the amount of times that people have just been shitty people and taken your heart out, ripped it out, thrown it on the ground, and just stomped on it and just walked away.

And

you’re like, man, how many times can I have that? How many times m do I have, like, nine lives with it? How many more do I have in m me? And I have no idea. I hope it doesn’t take life, uh, off of me or the years off of me, but it feels like it does, right?

It feels like it does. It feels like it just. It’s the absolute worst. And I’ve talked about it before in a, uh, previous podcast, and there’s different type of heartbreak, and some are.

Some are more. Okay, some I would take, like, let’s say, for, uh, what. When I was, um, in Australia, um, well, I guess I was in Nepal, but I had met this friend in Australia, and then we had gone to Nepal together. And when they left, when we were departing from Nepal was I was going back to Australia, she was going back to France.

And that type of heartbreak was so. Was because you didn’t know the next time that you were going to see this person, you loved every moment with them. It was just amazing. You had never met somebody like them before. One of these days, I’m going to actually share this story with you.

And, uh, it’s a very close story to me. It’s a really big part of who I am and how I think and things that I believe in to this day. And it’s just a huge piece of,

uh.

Um.

Anyways, they were going, and I was going back to Australia. And like I said, you loved every moment with this person.

The way I describe it is meeting somebody from your planet. You’ve gone 29 years of your life living on this planet. Just, like, just not think, just not feeling like you’re from this planet. There’s just no way. There’s no way you’re from this planet. You can’t be, uh, just how people are and how people think or lack of thinking.

There’s just no way that you can be from this planet. So

I went 29 years, and then all of a sudden, I had met somebody from my planet. And it just rocked my whole entire world. It was just crazy. Absolutely crazy. And so,

um, I remember that time in Nepal, and when they were leaving, I was so sad. I was so sad. It hurt so much.

And that’s one type of heartbreak. That’s one type of sadness. And that’s okay. I will take that heartbreak any day of the week. Any day. Absolutely. Uh, maybe when I share the story, when I share the actual story with you, I’ll share more details about, like, how. What I believe in about it and.

It. Um, but that type of heartbreak is one. There’s another type of heartbreak that is, let’s say, your parents passing away. I’ve had my parents. My mom passed away in 2018. My dad passed away in 2020. And that is another type of heartbreak. And it sucks. It so painful.

I m remember

just thinking about it, just kind of stuff. Um, I remember when my dad had passed away.

I saw him in the, um, hospital the night before, and, uh, he wasn’t doing very good.

And, um,

you had no idea that that was going to be the last time that you saw him.

He m just kind of tucked him into bed and said, all right.

We used to always drive him out to this place that was called Shelley, and he loved going out there. He said, when are we going to go to Shelley? And because he wasn’t feeling very good,

I said to him, I said, but when you feel better, we’ll go to Shelley.

I’ll be back tomorrow. M

and so the next day, I got a call from the hospital

that he wasn’t doing good. He had a stroke. And

I think it was later that evening that he passed away.

And so his hat say, um, that’s a different type of heartbreak.

M

and those types of heartbreak, whether you have a friend who’s leaving on to. To do their thing,

person from your planet, or perhaps, uh, it’s a type of heartbreak that is your parents passing away,

those are different types of. Heartbreak. And

even though, let’s say, like, your parents, of course that’s going to be hard, and that’s going to suck.

But I’d still take that type of heartbreak. You’re probably thinking, like, what?

I would take that type of heartbreak over the kind of heartbreak that is more so, like a betray trail.

And maybe this. You’ve experienced it, maybe you haven’t.

And if you haven’t, I hope that you don’t ever experience it, because it is

the worst type of heartbreak to experience

is that betrayal. And it’s when you allow somebody in and you trust someone, m.

And you show them parts of you that nobody gets to see.

And you’re doing it because you trust them. You’re doing it because they mean something to you. You’re doing it because

m.

You respect them.

But

then all of a sudden, there might be a time where they turn around

and they betray you. However they may betray you

for some people, maybe they cheated on you. Maybe they married you or whatever, and they told you all the good stuff, and you had it in your mind. You’re living your life, and you’re so excited, and then all of a sudden, you find out that they cheated on you.

Maybe that’s it for you. Betrayal is different for everybody,

but it is probably the worst type of heartbreak to experience because

it’s almost, in a way, so,

uh, I don’t know if violating is the word.

What I mean is that you allowed this person in. You trusted them. You let them into your world. You cared for them. M. You maybe said some things. You maybe you maybe were. You let your guard down.

All the walls that you have up and

all the, uh, things that you have that you protect yourself with, you let them in because you trusted them and you thought it was safe and you thought that you could

m and little did you know that one day they were just going to turn around and show you exactly what you meant to them, which was nothing.

And that’s probably the hardest, most

m painful type of heartbreak that there is to experience. And like I said, if you’ve never experienced that, I hope you don’t ever have to experience that. I’m a very strong person. I have a very good mindset. I have a lot of, uh, ways of dealing with things,

but

I have been challenged before,

and it’s extremely tough.

And maybe I’ll share. I don’t know. I don’t know if I’ll share that story because part of me wants to kind of forget that part. Part of me wants to just forget that time in my life and move on and erase that from everything because I feel like that time in my life, that person

doesn’t deserve to be remembered, doesn’t deserve to be a part of my memories.

So you’ll have those m moments and, well, I hope that you don’t have those moments because it sucks. It’s the absolute worst. And I’ve had it a few times, and

I m wouldn’t say I’m closed off. I wouldn’t say that I’m closed off, but I keep people at what I call arm’s length. I keep people at arm’s length. And what that means is basically, people are at a distance, and that’s where they’re going to stay.

And they will only ever know one part of me m and that’s where most people are. They’re at arm’s length with me. You listening to this podcast, you actually get to see. A little bit more. Uh,

I hope you see that, and I hope that you understand that. Hey, um,

you listening to this? Depending on how many you have listened to, you probably know me a lot better than a lot of people that are actually physically in my life. And that’s not to say that I don’t want to be like that with certain people in my life. Maybe I’m just not there yet.

Because a lot of times what happens is you might be very cautious, because you’ve had people, you’ve allowed people in, and you’ve trusted people, and they’ve turned around and just showed you. And that’s probably the hardest thing, is that I’ve put my energy into people. I’ve put, uh, my caring, whatever it is, into people, into the relationship, into what we had, because it meant something to me, and I thought that it meant something to them as well.

And I trusted them, and I allowed them in, and I enjoyed it.

And then all of a sudden, it’s almost like, just like a switch for them, and they could just show you exactly what you meant to them. And that’s the, uh, hardest thing,

because it takes everything. Maybe you opened up. I know in situations that I’ve opened up in certain ways, and I’ve shared things because I trusted them. And you feel so violated that. That trust, that. That sacred thing that you have, and that

the relationship or the connection that you had, that person meant something to you. So much so that you allowed them in. Maybe not fully, but little by little, you were allowing them in. But either way, uh, no matter how little it is that you allow somebody past your guard, you allow somebody to get to that point,

it’s still very like you trusted them. I remember I had one situation, and it was very painful. Trusted someone, and turns out that’s. It just. It just seemed like everything was a lie. Everything that was said, everything that was done, everything, like, the whole thing, everything that you thought was amazing, everything that you thought was beautiful, everything that you thought,

it’s almost like it taints it, and it turns it into a lie. And that’s definitely what’s hard,

is because,

well, I remember in that one situation that, um.

Um. Just trying to think here.

What was really hard about it was that not only did they betray you, so that’s like putting a knife in your heart. Every single day

that passed by

was like them twisting the knife. It was almost like it got worse with time. Like they didn’t have to do anything to make it worse. They literally didn’t have to do anything. And the reason for that is because m it may have meant something to you, it may have been very special to you.

And the fact that they turned around and betrayed you and showed you that you didn’t mean anything to them, that’s the stab in the heart.

But where the knife begins to twist and becomes more painful as the days go on is that you have this hope that they will realize this. They will realize how much they’ve hurt you. They will realize

how much you cherished them, or the situation, the relationship, the connection, whatever it is. And then you have this hope that they would realize that and that you meant everything that was said, that was done. Uh, that was the whole situation. And you have this hope that they will come back and say that they’re sorry.

But fortunately, as the days go by, that they never do.

They’ve already stuck the knife in you, and it just twists more and more as the days go on. And. And what’s really tough is that in order for you to move on, in order for you to get past that, what you have to do is you have to come to the realization that that person is a piece of shit, that they are a piece of shit human being.

And that’s what’s tough, is that

you don’t want to admit that. Because what that does is that kind of hits on your ego as well, because you got, uh, taken advantage of. It’s like if someone got taken advantage of, like a credit card scam, you’d feel so violated from that. Or you’d also feel like, man, I used to say all the time, I would never get caught in a credit card scam or whatever it is, right?

But here you are, you get caught in it, you’d be violated. You’d feel a little bit down about yourself because you got into it, even though you thought for sure you would never. And so that is extremely hard. So it’s kind of like a similar feeling like that.

So when the person does this or acts like this,

you’re getting the knife turned as the days go on, and you’re holding on to this little bit of hope

that maybe they’ll say sorry. Maybe they’ll realize what they did.

Maybe

I wouldn’t. Uh, uh, hold your breath for it. Because at the end of the day, most of the time, when someone’s a piece of shit, when someone’s a piece of shit, a lot of times they’re just a piece of shit. Now, I’ve mentioned before, and you can even listen back into another podcast, that one’s called, uh, sorry, ladies, you’re a piece of shit.

A little brutal. Okay, it is. But the thing is that I’ve even mentioned in that podcast how I may have done some shitty things, and I have, but I’ve never done them intentionally. To someone who does not deserve it, there’s a big key difference. If somebody deserves something, I will fucking let you have it.

But if somebody doesn’t deserve it,

there’s no way that I would do ill will onto you unknowingly, unwillingly.

And I may do the thing that is shitty, but I may not realize just how shitty it is. But then afterwards, and I’ve talked about this in that podcast,

that I would realize just how shitty my actions were. And I felt so bad for it. So bad for it. And the reason that. Well, in that podcast, the reason why I was talking about that is because you have no idea how many times I have heard, ladies, I’m sorry.

You are notorious for it. You are notorious for just hurting people willingly, and you don’t care. And it sucks.

I’ve never done that before. Never willingly hurt somebody like that before who didn’t deserve it. But you will, and you don’t care. And you will know. You will voice it, and, uh, you have no ill will about it. It is the most brutal thing, cold hearted piece of shit thing that you can do.

It’s just terrible. So that’s what I’m saying, is that somebody comes in, you trust them, they betray you, and you get that stab in the heart

because you feel so violated from it. But you hold on to this. It meant something to you. It was something to you. And you’re hoping that it meant something to them. You’re hoping that this was just a mistake and that they didn’t mean it.

And as the days go on, that all you get is silence. You get nothing from them. Days turn into weeks. Weeks turn into months. Months turn into years. M and there will have to come a time where you have to let go of it, let go of that little piece of hope and admit that you were taken advantage of.

You were grifted into their fucking scheme.

You were a pawn in their game.

Uh, that’s literally what you have to do in order to get past that. Because then once you’re there now, you can kind of go through that type of grievance, and you can pick yourself up. Now, I’m not saying that it’s easy. Um, I’m just saying. But afterwards, That’s when you can pick yourself up, brush yourself off, and you get back out there.

You get back out there. But when you hold on to that little piece of hope, when you hold on to that little piece where you’re like, that person meant something to me. That time in my life meant something to me. And the words that I said, the actions that I took, those meant something to me.

I didn’t just do those willy nilly. I didn’t just say those things because I had nothing better to say. I did all that. I said all that because it actually meant something to me.

And you don’t want to believe that it meant nothing to them. And that’s one of the hardest things. One of the hardest things that you have to come to a realization, because if it meant something,

they would come back and they would share it with you.

They would. 100%. They would. Now, that doesn’t mean that you would regain them as a friend or whatever,

but, yeah. So that’s how you get past that type of heartbreak. And, uh, I’ve been there. I’ve been there where you’re like, wow,

here. I thought. And then the memories come back of the things that they said, the actions that they took, and just all those things that meant something to you, that were special to you, that you believed them, that you trusted them, and you’re like, wow. And all of those have been tainted.

And, of course, you don’t want to let go of that and say, no, it was all a lie. It was all a lie from their end.

And they show you exactly what you meant to them, and that’s the shitty thing

now. Uh, m

there was something else I wanted to mention.

It was, like, right there, and I just totally could just see it drift off. Just totally, like, it’s gone. Like, shit, man.

What was I talking about here?

Yeah. Heartbreak. It’s just absolute worst. Getting that stab in the chest. Well, m actually, this is what I was going to say. This is what I was going to say. So going back to you feeling you feel violated from having been taken advantage of, you trusted someone, you put your guards down for them and you allowed them in and, ah, they just spit on all of that.

Well, unfortunately, they are a shitty person.

Now, there’s different kinds of shitty people in the world. There’s m the kinds of shitty people that you can look at them like. You give me five minutes with somebody, I most likely can tell you whether that person’s a shitty person or not. Doesn’t take me very much. Show me a couple of photos, I can tell right away.

I’m like, that guy’s a fucking weep.

How do I know this? There’s body language. There’s just certain things. There’s easy things that you can just quickly see. You’re like, yes, all right. You fucking just told me everything I needed to know within a couple of photos, a couple of conversations and, uh, a couple of visualizations of your body language and you told me everything I needed to know.

Now, sometimes, uh, I have a different thing. I do what is called placing. I will place people very good at it, extremely good at it. And that’s where the being violated part is so tough, because you’re so good at this one thing. Now, I’m not saying, okay, there’s a lot of people out there.

They’re like, I’m really good at judging character. They’re not, okay? They’re not. Most people who say that are not. And unfortunately, I get drugged into this group of people because I actually am. I very much am.

And I hate that there’s all these just idiots who say that you’re just like, dude, if you were actually good at, uh, judging people, then you would probably judge yourself first. Look at you, dude. Look at you. Come on. Come on. Okay. You can’t even judge that, okay? There ain’t no way you’re judging other people.

Okay? So, uh, yeah, just, uh, not that guy.

That’s where the violating part really comes in. We’re going to talk about that in a second. So you have shitty people. And, uh, within a conversation or two, maybe sometimes you can just see photos and you just know right away. You’re like, yeah, I already know. So I place people.

So I’ll place people Where they are doesn’t mean

and.

and.

that that’s 100%,

but I’ll place them. And as I gather more information, so maybe I only have certain information. Maybe I only have photos to make my judgment on, but maybe I grab a few things from those photos, and I’m like, okay, well, from these photos, I can see this, which tells me this, us.

And then I can base a judgment on that. So I will place them. I’m going to place you over here, and it’s not permanent. It’s just, as I gather more information, you may be moved and placed elsewhere, hopefully in a better place than I. If. If I placed you in a bad place.

And then let’s say I actually see the person on a video, maybe I hear their voice, maybe I see their body language on a video, I will have more information, and then I can definitely place them. Even better. Like, m okay, I’ll place you. Um, I was in the right direction.

Now you’re really in that direction, unfortunately. And so then maybe I actually meet the person in person. Now I gather more information, and so m then I’m able to really place this person. So it’s all about gathering information. Now, ladies, ladies, we’ve talked about this a lot on this podcast, and the thing is that this is what you need to do, okay?

This is what you need to do, is gather information about people before getting into a relationship with them. You want to know why the fucking divorce rate is so high? You want to know why you keep ending up with fucking idiots and dweebs that you’re stuck in relationships with?

Because you don’t gather the information. You just fall in love with some fucking dweeb that comes along, and then all of a sudden, you’re in a relationship with them, and it’s just like, then six months down the road, you’re fucking complaining. It’s like, well, what do you expect? And so you have to gather that information, right?

Like, if you would have taken your time, gathered the information, you would have known.

But, yeah, that’s what I’ll do. So very good at it. Very good at placing people. I do place people where they’re very neutral. I’m like, I don’t really have a, uh, place for this person. They’re neither good, they’re neither bad, but I will place them just in the middle.

Like, that’s where they are. That’s where they are. It’s not good, it’s not bad. There’s just nothing. Just whatever. And. And, uh, maybe as I get to know them more often, over time. That will determine where I place them. All depends on the situation, everything, but still. So anyways, you have the obvious shitty people.

So we’re talking about shitty people. There’s different types of shitty people. You have the obvious shitty people that are just blatant in their shittiness. They don’t care. They’re just a shitty person. Whatever. They’re rude. They’re just a shitty person. You can see it. You can smell it, you can feel it.

Like, they are just a shitty person. Right? Sometimes it’s a little bit harder to see. Some people don’t have quite the skill to be able to see and recognize that this might be a shitty person. But if you do look hard enough, you do take into certain things. You may be able to, uh, see that and realize that they are.

Now, let me ask you a question. So if you picture a shitty person, what would make a shitty person even more shitty?

Like, think about that. A shitty person. They’re very rude. Maybe they talk to you condescending. Maybe they are just whatever it is, they’re not thoughtful. They’re just whatever it is, they’re just a shitty person. Whatever a shitty person is to you, that’s them. But they’re blatant. You can see it.

They’re just loud about it. They’re out public, and it’s almost embarrassing when they’re in public. They’re just a shitty person. Right now. The thing is, what would make that shitty person even more shitty?

I’ll tell you.

It’s when they can hide just how shitty of a person they are.

So, uh, for most, there’s a shitty person. You can see it. M and maybe it might take you, maybe not right away. There are some people you can see right away, they just open their mouth, you know, that person’s a shitty person. Like, just right away, there’s those types of people.

Then there’s the types of people that in the beginning, they might seem really nice, but then all of a sudden, you give them enough time, you’ll be able to easily see that they’re, uh, like, hey, wait a minute. You’re actually a pretty shitty person. A pretty shitty person. But it.

And that could be, let’s say, three months or six months. You finally realize that

now there’s the other types of shitty people who are really good at hiding just how shitty of a person they are. And this is where someone like. Myself, who is actually good at judging a character. This is where someone like myself,

maybe I connect with this person. Maybe I think that they’re good. They kind of pass the tests, the litmus tests, whatever you want to call it. The. The social, uh, societal, um, uh, tests, whatever it is. They seem to be a good person. And you’re like, wow, this is a cool person.

I could jive with this person. I like this person. I’m going to spend time with this person. I’m going to let this person in.

Now, these people, this is where the detrimental violation comes in. This is where it’s extremely hard, especially if you’re the kind of person that, you know, you’re good at judging character, and you’re like, I would never be taken by some shithead, whatever. But these people, they are so good, so good at hiding just how shitty of a person they are, that you will let them in.

M you will be open, you will trust them. You will share a piece of your space with them,

and you will feel comfortable. They will make you feel comfortable,

and you enjoy it. You’re like, wow, this is amazing. I really like this. I really enjoy this connection. I really enjoy this safe place that I can be and share these pieces of me.

But this person is so good at hiding just how shitty of a person that they are,

that one day they will show you their true colors.

A lot of times, unfortunately, they just take, uh, the COVID right off. They just rip the band aid, uh, off. It just comes to a point where it’s just.

They can’t hide it anymore. They don’t care. They just don’t care. And all of a sudden, bam, they unveil their true character.

And this is where it is so painful because it is so violating. Because you had no idea that there was, uh, Wolf and sheep’s clothing. Not usually. You could see. You could see the oddities that this was a wolf and sheep’s clothing. There are some people that just come in and they try to have the sheep’s clothing, and you’re just like, bro, who are you trying to kid?

Okay? Who you try to kid? And then there’s some people, you got to look a little bit more. Takes a little bit time. You’re kind of like, ah, I don’t know about this guy. I don’t know. Yeah. Kind of leaning towards he’s a shitty person. And then all of a sudden, give enough time, and then all of a sudden, bam, you can find out.

But then there’s the other people. They are so good, so good at hiding just how shitty of a person that they are.

You cannot see that they are wearing sheep’s skin, that they are a wolf in sheep’s clothing. You cannot see it. You can’t see the seams. You can’t see the oddities. Everything is just perfect.

And, ah, these ones,

they are the most painful. They are the most damning, they are the most violating. They are the most just. You feel so

hurt.

It is incredibly tough. And unfortunately,

I don’t know what you do to get past that. I’ve, uh, had situations where people have just done that, and they’ve shown me their true colors of who they are, what they are, what I meant them, what I mean to them, actually, what the situation truly meant to them.

And

it is just so. It is so tough. It is so tough. And you try and think, like, okay,

was there any situation? Was there any time in there? You think back and you try to wonder, was there somewhere where I could have seen the zipper. I could have seen the little incorrect seam of the sheep’s clothing. Was there a moment? Was there a time? And you cannot find it.

It. So unfortunately, you can’t necessarily learn from it. And that’s the shitty thing, because like everybody else, you can pretty much learn from it. You’ll learn. Maybe it’s their body language, maybe it’s the things that they said. Maybe it’s their tone of voice, maybe it’s the things they didn’t say.

Maybe it’s, uh, uh, their eyes. Maybe it’s, uh, their eyes. All kinds of other things that you can learn from. And you can take that away so that next time you’re like, hey, this guy’s seeming a little shifty.

I don’t really think he’s being fully honest. But then there’s those people that are truly, truly a master at hiding just how much of a piece of shit they are, just how terrible of a person that they are. I don’t even want to call them a human being because I don’t think that a human being could do to another human being what these people can do.

Yeah, that’s the toughest one because you can’t necessarily learn from it. Then what that does, unfortunately, is, uh, you’re kind of stuck between a rock and a hard place. Part of you wants to be jaded, and you can easily be jaded from it. And you can say, I’ll never trust anybody again.

I’ll never fucking allow anybody in. I’ll never. And it’s easy to do that. But I’ll tell you right now, do not do that.

It’s easy to do that because

you’re kind of masking the pain that you feel. You’re kind of masking it with hatred. You’re masking that pain that you feel from being so violated. You’re masking it with anger and hatred. And it kind of takes away from the pain and the hurt. And you think that it’s good.

And you’re like, okay, well, uh, I’m going to be angry at this person,

but you don’t actually know that. You’re actually just, well, you’re putting anger on your heart.

Your heart is not to be filled with anger. Your heart is not to be filled with hatred. Your heart is to be filled with love. As, ah, as cliche or as corny as it sounds,

that’s what it’s to be filled m with.

And so it’s easy to mask the hurt with anger and.

Hatred. It’s easy to do that. Don’t do that. But in order to not do that, in order to move past that,

you have to go through and feel the pain and the hurt that they put you through. And it’s almost like you have to massage that out of you. M m and it sucks. I know it sucks. I’ve been there her. Just that gnawing pain. Like I said, it’s just that knife in the heart.

And if it’s really bad, like I said, the twisting of the knife, because every single day that goes by shows you and tells you that you meant absolutely nothing to them. Everything that was said, everything that was done, it was absolutely nothing. It was all lies. It was all bullshit.

Not from your end. From your end. It was 100% from your end. You meant everything. Everything that you said, everything that you did. But unfortunately, it sucks to have to come to that realization that they’re just a shitty person. And some shitty people are very good at hiding just how shitty of a person they are.

They’re masters at it. I don’t know, maybe there’s some areas where you could have seen it,

but they’re very good. They’re very good and it sucks. But I’ll tell you right now that I’ve been through a lot of shit. I’ve been through a lot of, uh, people earning my trust and betraying it. And, uh, I’ve been through it all. I’ve been through it all. And the thing that I can say is that I’ve been through it, through it,

not going through it. I don’t allow it to stop me.

It will slow me down. It will hurt. Absolutely. Like, it sucks. You’re laying in bed and you’re just hurting.

You’re going through the memories and all that stuff and it sucks. I know it sucks. But the thing is that in order to get through it, you have to go through that. How long it’s going to be, I don’t know. Uh. And it all depends on a lot of things because like I said, in some situations you have to admit and accept that they are a piece of shit.

And only until you can accept that. Only until you can accept that you meant nothing to them. Only that when you can accept that, then you can move on. So if you hold on to that bit of hope that they’re a good person, You hold on to that bit of hope that, uh, they’re going to say something, that they’re going to admit that they were wrong, that you’re holding on to, that, the longer

you’re going to draw it out and you’re not going to get past it.

It sucks to have to admit that and accept that, and it hurts because then you’re like, I meant nothing to them.

All of that trust that I gave them, all of what I said, all of what I did, uh, all of it.

You thought it was special. You thought it meant something. You thought it was something. And it was nothing from their end. None of it.

So, anyways, guys and gals, I hope you got something out of this. Nathan. Unplugged freedom. You can follow me on Instagram. I do have a telegram. You can find unplugged freedom on telegram. I do want to try and keep up with that a little bit more, and I’ll probably record another one or two when I’m on the road here.

Anyways, let me know what you thought. Let me know. Have you experienced heartbreak? Have you experienced these kinds of people that are a wolf in sheep’s clothing that you gave your trust to, that you opened up to, and they turned around and took that trust away?

Anyways, Nathan, unplugged freedom.