U Up?

577 episodes - English - Latest episode: 2 days ago - ★★★★★ - 14K ratings

U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com

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Episodes

How Long Should I Put Up With a Guy Texting Me Without Asking Me Out?

May 09, 2018 21:00 - 1 hour

Jar-dana get a letter from a listener who is the only single person in a friend group of couples. Another listener feels stuck in a pen pals situation. When does the texting stop and the real life action start? When should you quit texting back? Another letter asks when it's OK to re-follow your ex on social media. Don't miss some fire red flag or dealbreakers including their house is covered in Batman memorabilia and they sincerely insist their ex is worse than Hitler. Learn more about your ...

How Do You Extend a Vacation Hook-Up?

May 02, 2018 21:00 - 1 hour

Jordana's returned from Coachella. jared's decided that the people who hate on Coachella have officially become more annoying than the people who go. After a tangent into how much Jordana loves tans (a lot, but only natural) a listener asks how to extend the vacation hook-up with a dude in Costa Rica. Can a fling be resurrected? Another listener (who calls J&J Jar-dana) is curious about the right time to explain their mental health history. They wrap up on some red flags or dealbreakers, incl...

What Do I Get a Guy For His Birthday If We've Only Been Dating a Month?

April 25, 2018 20:09 - 1 hour

Jor and Jar start with a listener asking if it's a red flag that dudes always ask her for a pic over the apps. A girl in a new relationship asks for the protocol on her suitor of one's month's birthday - is that a gift or a dinner sitch? A pretty boy writes in to ask why his constantly complimented looks aren't translating to catching more fish in the sea. Finally, a listener writes in to ask about her roomie's new fling where her BF comes over and massages her feet - while all three of them ...

The Reason Guys Don’t Make Plans in Advance

April 18, 2018 21:00 - 1 hour

Jor and Jar talk about scenes in different cities like comedy, music, and magic (are there magic open mics?). After they move on to the complications of hooking up with an ex, they take a letter from a listener who likes her new guy, but has serious qualms with his dog. Another listener asks about guys who have that "creepy Asian fetish." Finally, a woman writes in complaining about how a guy she’s dating can't seem to make the most basic of plans. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit mega...

What's The Proper Post Breakup Protocol?

April 11, 2018 21:00 - 59 minutes

Jor and Jar are joined by hilarious comedian, Matteo Lane for this special ep. Matteo brings a new perspective to the pod as someone who's seasoned at "trolling Grindr." They take a letter from a listener whose friend is convinced that her boyfriend "sleep-texted" his ex, and that he would never actually sext unfaithfully. Another listener is confused about how to handle a long-distance potential suitor; he lives 45 minutes away, does that entitle him to play the field or what? They wrap up o...

How Do I Tell Someone I'm Seeing That I'm a Virgin

April 04, 2018 21:00 - 59 minutes

J-Train and Jordana answer an email from a listener who is struggling with their virginity. Double J explain that it's just not as big of a deal as it may seem. Jordana advocates not even necessarily telling his suitor. A second female listener is a sports fanatic and can't seem to find a guy who's into it. After, a 23-year-old asks a question relating to a GF who has massive jealousy issues and is worried "anything with a vagina" is out to steal him. The Js wrap up playing a game of "Red Fla...

How Soon Should I Get Back on Dating Apps After a Breakup? Ft. Hannah Bronfman

March 28, 2018 21:25 - 1 hour

Jordana and Jared field a letter from a listener who wonders why past boyfriends refused to put their relationship on Facebook. Another letter asks what to do if you're hooking up with a guy but you have your period. A guy asks how to handle the apps after breaking up with his GF after three years, is it OK to start going out and to use pictures she took on his dating profile? She even did the filters... Finally, double J is joined by Hannah Bronfman, DJ and founder of HBFIT, who discusses th...

Should I Hide the Fact That I Smoke Weed on a Dating App?

March 21, 2018 21:03 - 1 hour

Jared and Jordana field a letter from a listener who is both weirded out by the guy who doesn’t ask for the date on a dating app and the guy who asks too soon. Another letter asks how prominent weed should be in her dating profile (esp. when it’s part of her lifestyle). After a fan describes the pod as, “a Yom Kippur sermon without the guilt,” they take a question about sending exes a happy birthday text. Then they play some games including Red flag or Dealbreaker: person who signs their text...

Is It Messed Up That My Boyfriend Goes to Strip Clubs?

March 14, 2018 20:52 - 1 hour

J&J start with a letter from a listener who sent a "Red flag or dealbreaker" as an opening line on a dating app and revealed he doesn't respect girls who put out on the first date. Jared talks about his tendency to post pics of his insane messages to girls. This segues into a conversation about how best to open on dating apps (and how to deal with the inevitable rejection/non-response). Another listener hooks up with a smoker, but she's not sure if she can deal with the habit since her grandm...

What Do Guys Really Think of Fake Boobs?

March 07, 2018 22:10 - 1 hour

Jared and Jordana discuss their partying and drinking habits. J&J agree on rose. Jordana confesses to being the type of drunk that loves to start fights. After they take a letter from a listener asking why girls talking about boob jobs is so taboo. Finally, an "independent betch" asks how to deal with her needy boyfriend (at least, that's how she sees it). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How Many Dates Should You Wait Before Adding Someone On Instagram?

February 28, 2018 21:56 - 1 hour

Jared has an awkward hook up after masturbating 700 times. A listener tells the story of watching a gay porn and hearing familiar music, namely the 'U Up' theme song. Another fan asks when the right time to add a dating partner on social media might be. J&J then take a letter about a guy who requested a Venmo refund for a cheeseburger after a first date that went nowhere. Also, is sleeping with a dude on the first date always a bad move? Probably, especially if it's with the guy whose dating ...

How to Plan a Date Without Looking Desperate

February 21, 2018 22:23 - 57 minutes

Jordana and Jared start off talking about the heart DM on Instagram (is it sincere?). Then they take a letter from a compulsive planner who is curious how far ahead it's appropriate to plan in a dating context. After a listener asks what he should if he's in a long-term relationship (over two years), but he doesn't see it going anywhere. They wrap things up answering whether a dating partner who kisses their family on the mouth is a "red flag or a dealbreaker." Learn more about your ad choice...

Stop Instagram Stalking Your Exes with Whitney Cummings

February 14, 2018 22:06 - 1 hour

After talking about various verbal dealbreakers such as “golly” and “oh my gosh,” Jordana and Jared take a letter from a listener asking how to act if she runs into a 25-year-old college student after he ghosted her. They talk about Instagram stalking and other weirdos that linger in the “viewed by” section of social media apps. At 0:47, Jordana is joined by Whitney Cummings. talking about her new film, The Female Brain, and how men and women differ. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit me...

Do Women Have More to Gain From Marriage Than Men?

February 07, 2018 22:05 - 1 hour

Jared and Jordana talk about how to handle Valentine’s Day as a single person, having reasonable standards, and what men and women have to gain from marriage. After, they discuss people who are resistant to “the apps.” Do you live in the Now? It’s time to get better at dating online— though they’re not sure which gender has it better in our Hinge-driven world. They also respond to a letter from a listener caught between a girlfriend and a dream crush. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit m...

Is It OK to Talk About Your Ex?

February 01, 2018 06:07 - 1 hour

Jordana and Jared have a fascinating discussion about exes, matchmaking, and being nosy about people's relationships. They take two questions posed by listeners. The first comes from a distressed lover scorned by someone who randomly started bringing up their ex. Number two deals with a bizarre boy who switches from smooth Romeo to college frat bro who doesn't want anything serious. And don't miss a classic would you rather: date someone who smokes pot everyday or someone who does crystal met...

How Much Porn is Too Much Porn?

January 25, 2018 05:28 - 1 hour

This week Jordana and Jared discuss micro-cheating and whether or not men and women can really be just friends. They answer questions from a listener whose boyfriend turns into a caveman when he gets angry and another listener who is offended by the fact that her boyfriend watches porn. They play games involving dating someone with cats and a ‘Live Laugh Love’ sign in their room. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If You’re Not On His Instagram It’s Not Official

January 18, 2018 05:21 - 1 hour

This week Jordana and Jared discuss how long you should wait before putting the person you’re dating on social media. They answer questions from a listener who wants to know if she should stop having sex with a guy because he’s a Trump supporter and another listener who wants to know what the etiquette is for confirming a first date. They play "Shoot, Fuck, or Marry" and "Red Flag or Dealbreaker" about people who want to be stay at home parents, live off their parents, and have weird voices. ...

How Many Drinks Should I Have On A Date?

January 11, 2018 05:00 - 1 hour

This week Jared and Jordana discuss if it’s possible to not drink while dating. They answer questions from a listener who wants to know why the guy she slept with texts her all day even though he lives in in another state. They also respond to a listener who is tired of dating girls who are overly sarcastic and not sweet enough. They play 2nd Date Dealbreaker involving calorie counting, over-ordering, and being a messy eater. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What’s The Best Way To Dump Someone?

January 04, 2018 04:46 - 1 hour

This week Jordana and Jared discuss why a girl might not have sex with a guy she lets sleep over. They answer questions from a listener who wants to know why guys Snapchat her more than they text her and a guy who wants to know if it’s okay to dump a girl he’s been seeing for 4 months over text. They play 2nd Date Dealbreaker involving STIs and farting. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Should You Have ‘The Talk’? The Great Debate

December 28, 2017 12:51 - 1 hour

This week Jared and Jordana discuss why guys like Instagram Models’ photos. They answer questions from a girl who’s anxious she won’t get a New Years kiss and other listeners wondering when an appropriate time to initiate exclusivity is. They play games involving dating a bad tipper and dating a closed mouth kisser. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Blowjobs Are a Selfless Act

December 21, 2017 06:41 - 1 hour

This week Jordana and Jared talk about what girls and guys think of oral sex. They answer questions from a listener who wants to know how many times is normal for a guy to not be able to get it up and a male listener who is ashamed of his lack of sexual experience. They play a game called “would you go on a second date” where they discuss dating dealbreakers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Don’t Text for A Specific Response

December 14, 2017 04:18 - 1 hour

This week Jordana and Jared discuss lingerie and who should text first after a first date. They answer questions from a listener trying to move on from a 10 month relationship and another one who has an issue with guys no longer being interested after 3-4 dates. They play red flag or dealbreaker about messy apartments, still living with your parents, and posting inspirational quotes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Girls Trying Not To Be Crazy Is What’s Gotten Guys Laid for Centuries

December 07, 2017 05:15 - 1 hour

Jared and Jordana discuss who should pay on dates, and what you “owe" someone you’re having sex with in terms of honesty. They answer a listener’s question who wants to know what it means when a guy who ghosted you keeps liking your Instagram picture and another guy who wants advice on how to hit on girls at bars. They play red flag or dealbreaker involving being loud in movie theaters, dating someone who has done porn, and dating someone who has never said ‘I love you.' Learn more about your...

Is it ever okay to fake an orgasm?

November 30, 2017 18:14 - 48 minutes

Jared and Jordana discuss why girls fake orgasms and what the best solution is to get them to stop. They answer questions from a male listener who doesn’t want a relationship but finds himself doing “relationshipy” things with girls he’s hooking up with and another listener who wants to know how to define her relationship. They play Shoot Fuck Marry and Red Flag or Dealbreaker involving crying in public and taking your shirt off while having sex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaph...

You're Not Better Than The App

November 23, 2017 15:38 - 1 hour

Jared and Jordana discuss how to be put yourself out there on dating apps and whether or not a guy can ever truly be 'not in the mood.' The give advice about how to ask a guy out in a low key way and how to let go of your boyfriend's transgressions from years ago. They play red flag or dealbreaker regarding eating habits and same-sex infidelity. They debate texting vs calling and personal grooming. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Guys Want a Girl That Their Dad Would Want to Have Sex With

November 15, 2017 19:34 - 57 minutes

In their premiere dating podcast, Jared and The Betches discuss how your dating app profile picture can affect what kind of guys or girls you attract and what types of photos you should avoid. They answer questions from a listener who wonders if a visiting hook up was just using her for her bed and another who wonders why her new boyfriend rarely wants to have sex. They play red flag or dealbreaker with a few dating scenarios.

Why Does My Boyfriend Rarely Seek Out Sex?

November 15, 2017 19:34 - 1 hour