Thriving in Singleness
97 episodes - English - Latest episode: 9 days ago - ★★★★★ - 18 ratingsBeing single isn't easy. Finding joy in it isn't either. It's easy to feel like you've been left behind, or overlooked. Speaking from experience, singleness is one of the most difficult, yet unappreciated season in life. What is God's purpose in this? What should I be doing with my singleness? How can I maximize this season of life I have been loathing for quite some time now?We're going to tackle these questions and more. You're not the only one with these struggles, and we'll be meeting people who have felt the same way, but have found ways to hand their fears and desires to God and followed the adventures He laid out for them. Everybody's journey is unique, and there may only be a few episodes you can find ways relate to. This podcast isn't going to provide a magic formula, but only God can lead you and speak to you if you open your heart and allow Him to go to work. Join us every episode to find wisdom and inspiration on how you can find joy, purpose, and adventure in this season of life. When you get to the point of letting go and handing it to God, with an absurd amount of confidence that His plan is the best plan, you'd better hold on tight, because it's going to be an exciting, wild ride.Seize the day.Maximize every chapter in your life.
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Episodes
Ep. 85 - Chris Kish: Building a Gospel Community
April 16, 2024 09:00 - 47 minutes - 32.5 MBChris Kish is a legend of his own, diving wish sharks, surfing, snowboarding, living an incredible life in Palm Beach, Florida, however he has mostly been living out his purpose by leading Gospel Communities at Family Church. Chris recently published the book "Becoming the Household", which is about building these communities.
Ep. 84 - Jessica Faith: Living a Fulfilled Life with Unfulfilled Dreams
April 02, 2024 05:00 - 42 minutes - 28.9 MBJessica Faith joins us to share her journey of learning to trust in the Lord through her singleness, as well as to give insight on what it looks like to desire marriage in a healthy way, while trusting the Lord in the midst of singleness.
Ep. 83 - Caleb Kaminski: Waiting on the Lord
March 19, 2024 10:00 - 37 minutes - 25.7 MBCaleb Kaminski joins us for an episode to talk about "the waiting season" and the healthy way to view this as a waiting season as well as a negative way to be viewing this time as a waiting season.
Ep. 82 - Luke Hastings: Masculinity
March 05, 2024 05:00 - 1 hour - 45.4 MBLuke Hastings, also recognized as the Narrowwayman, joins us for an episode to talk about Masculinity, why it is not toxic, and why it is important. We talk about why masculinity plays an important role for men in singleness and why God created men to be masculine.
Ep. 81 - Mylee Bankston: Navigating the Bad Advice
February 20, 2024 10:00 - 49 minutes - 34.3 MBMylee Bankston, author of Is Being Single a Gift, talks about a lot of the bad advice she was given in her singleness and we discuss the truths that counter them. Mylee works in the heart of the music industry in Nashville, TN, and ironically soon after publishing her book, she ended up meeting her spouse and they were married soon after. She still has a heart for singles as we discuss many of the challenges she faced in the midst of her singleness, including how she navigated the bad advice!
Ep. 80 - Jackson Southern: God's Timing
February 06, 2024 11:00 - 48 minutes - 33.1 MBJackson Southern joins us for another episode to talk about what it looks like to trust in God's timing, and the challenges surrounding it.
Ep. 79 - Shannon Flake: Become Obsessed with Grattitude
January 23, 2024 11:00 - 55 minutes - 38 MBShannon, also recognized as The Steady Single on Instagram, joins us for an episode to talk about multiple things, including how becomming obsessed with gratude has helped her in singleness as well as discussion around surrendering, controlling our perspctive, dating, and the importance of masculinity and femeninity.
Ep. 79 - Shannon Flake: Become Obsessed with Gratitude
January 23, 2024 11:00 - 55 minutes - 38 MBShannon, also recognized as The Steady Single on Instagram, joins us for an episode to talk about multiple things, including how becomming obsessed with gratude has helped her in singleness as well as discussion around surrendering, controlling our perspctive, dating, and the importance of masculinity and femeninity.
Ep. 78 - Stacey Szczepanski: Unlocking Love
January 09, 2024 10:00 - 58 minutes - 40.4 MBStacey Szczepanski, author of Unlocking Love joins us for an episode to share about how being catfished lead to her finding calling in her singleness, and how she learned to lean into the Lord more in the difficult times. Stacey and Josh find common ground discussing singleness and the Church while Tom chimes in with his perspective on it as the married voice. Join us for a fun conversation!
Ep. 77 - Brianna Rossi: Single and Standing
December 26, 2023 10:00 - 51 minutes - 35.6 MBBrianna Rossi joins us to discuss the inspiration for her new book, Single and standing. She has such incredible insight about the happy ending she has found which wasn't a relationship, but the joy she found in her singleness prior to finding a relationship. Brianna has been on the podcast a few times before, but now that she released her book, we knew there was much more for her to share. Joint the conversation as it's always a great time with Brianna!
Ep. 77 - Brianna Rossi: SIngle and Standing
December 26, 2023 10:00 - 51 minutes - 35.6 MBBrianna Rossi joins us to discuss the inspiration for her new book, Single and standing. She has such incredible insight about the happy ending she has found which wasn't a relationship, but the joy she found in her singleness prior to finding a relationship. Brianna has been on the podcast a few times before, but now that she released her book, we knew there was much more for her to share. Joint the conversation as it's always a great time with Brianna!
Ep. 76 - Priscilla K: Managing Money in your singleness.
December 12, 2023 06:00 - 47 minutes - 32.4 MBPriscilla K, who runs the instagram page MoneyWithPriscilla, joins us for an episode to discuss money, and singleness, and additionally, we talk about the parallels behind the compounding effect of money and investing and the actions we take in our everyday lives.
Episode 75 - The 5 Core Principles of Thriving in Singleness
November 28, 2023 05:00 - 58 minutes - 40.5 MBThe Thriving in Singleness team have a fruitful discussion of "The 5 Core Principles of Thriving in Singleness". We disuss why each is important to doing singleness well, and why they lead to doing life well! And did I say team? Yes, we're a team now. We're onboarding two new permanent hosts for the podcast! Taylor Cyr and Rachael Kabagabu, who were each recently on the podcast, are joining Josh and I as hosts for the podcast, brining more dynamic to the conversation as we will interchangeab...
Ep. 74 - Rachael K: Turning 30
November 14, 2023 10:00 - 43 minutes - 30 MBRachael K joins us for another episdoe to discuss the challenges and fears of turning 30 years old. As it turns into a time of reflection, forcing trust and surrender in the Lord in what He is doing in your life, it definitely stretches you, and Rachael talks about it very well. Also, stay tuned: Great news coming in episode 75!
Ep. 73 - Taylor Cyr: Being Married To Christ
October 31, 2023 10:00 - 47 minutes - 32.8 MBTaylor joins us for another episode to discuss what it looks like to be married to Christ. We discuss the comparisons between a marriage in the world and being married to Christ. Additionally we talk briefly about anxiety and how Taylor has been able to overcome it.
Ep. 72 - TJ Loeffler - Beauty From Ashes
October 17, 2023 09:00 - 57 minutes - 39.4 MBTJ is a private life coach who left Wall Street in the midst of receiving a promotion, and surrendered himself to the Lord and where God wanted him with his work, his faith, and his relationships. He did meet his spouse soon after his surrender, but he has incredible wisdom to share about the sexual sin he was caught in beginning in his teenage years, and how God has healed and brought him past in through his divine grace. Singleness is heavily on TJ's heart and in this episode he shares the...
Ep. 71 - Kate & JJ Tomlin: Finding your Reason to Thrive
October 03, 2023 09:00 - 52 minutes - 36.3 MBKate & JJ Tomlin from the Heart of Dating podcast join us to talk about their personal experiences in singleness and what they had learned throughout their journey. Have you ever thought about your reasons for Thriving in Singleness, or how you would want to look back on your singleness when you're married? Definitely some tough concepts to ponder. But these are great concepts we tackle in todays episode. Stop by our instagram to let us know what you think!
Ep. 70 - Megan Skees - Living in Expectation
September 19, 2023 10:00 - 48 minutes - 33.2 MBMegan Skees, life coach and host of the Pursuing Truth Podcast, joins us for an episode to discuss her journey of coming to surrender and trust the Lord in whatever direction life may be taking her, and how to live in expectation in the midst of it.
EP. 69 - Exclusive interview with Tom DeLong
September 05, 2023 09:00 - 56 minutes - 38.8 MBReturning from a month-long hiatus, Josh interview's Tom with the questions so many of the listeners have been wanting to know. Tom discusses the life changes he has been through recently along with a deep discussion on where his passion for singleness comes from, even after 9 years of happily being married. Join us for the conversation!
Ep. 68 Kaila Busby: Dating Fast
July 25, 2023 09:00 - 39 minutes - 27.3 MBKaila from the Convos With Kaila Podcast joined us for this episode and one of the highlights she spoke about was how she recently took a dating fast, what that meant, how it benefited her, and when it may be time to consider taking a dating fast. Such an awesome concept that may be worth considering if you are finding marriage has been an idol. Join us for this episdode as we take a deep dive into this concept.
Ep. 67 Mel New: Reject the Hopelessness
July 11, 2023 09:00 - 47 minutes - 32.9 MBMel New is a Christian Dating coach and runs the IYKYK Dating platform, joins us for an episode to discuss online dating, as well as hope in the midst of dating. Join in for the conversation and keep an eye out for her upcoming workshops. Use the code "THRIVING" for a 50% discount!
Ep. 66 - Courtney Leo - Acknowledging the Hard Parts
June 27, 2023 09:00 - 1 hour - 45.5 MBCourtney Leo from the Grace for Growth Podcast joins us for a conversation about how it is important to allow yourself to grieve, and how just because this is difficult doesn't mean you're lacking faith. We also had a great conversation about why dating yourself is important and how good God can be through your singleness, allowing you to live out a better vision for your life. Join us for some real, in-depth conversation.
Ep. 65 - Jackson Southern - Is this a gift or just socks for Christmas?
June 13, 2023 09:00 - 59 minutes - 41 MBJackson Southern joins us for an episode to share how God had altered his heart and brought him to a place of full surrender, and how much joy he has found in his singleness. When we surrender it takes the weight off our shoulders and it allows us to experience life at a totally different level. Listen to his story about what God had tought him in his singleness and where God is leading him next.
Episode 64: Rachel K - Following God's Calling
May 30, 2023 10:00 - 55 minutes - 38.1 MBRachel is a missionary in Kenya and has some incredible insights as to why the mission field has been a great place for her in her singleness, and why it is an incredible option to consider.
Ep. 63 - Daniel Noe - Is My Singleness a Season or a Calling?
May 16, 2023 10:00 - 55 minutes - 38.4 MBDanile Noe joins us and shares what God has taught him about how he sees his singleness as a calling and how we are to be good steward of what He has given us.
Ep. 62 - Esther Weaver - Finding Confidence
May 02, 2023 09:00 - 55 minutes - 38.3 MBJoin Tom and Josh for their conversation with speaker, coach, and entrepreneur Esther Weaver where they discuss changing your insecurities into confidence.
Ep 61. Colleen Chao - How Discontentment can be a good thing
April 18, 2023 09:00 - 49 minutes - 34 MBCollen Chao, author of "In the Hands of a Fiercly Tender God joins us for the episode to share what God had tought her in her extended period of singleness, and how it has helped her through the trials she is currently facing. Listen in to hear about how she recognized her discontentment as a good thing. Incredible perspective and awesome conversation.
Ep. 60 - Philip Wilder - Single isn't Second Best
April 04, 2023 09:00 - 1 hour - 50.2 MBPhilip Wilder, author of Single isn't Second Best, joins us for an episode to share about the inspiration for his book as well as what God had taught him in his marriage, as well as his singleness. He provides encouraging steps to take singleness a day at a time, and trusting the Lord though singleness day by day.
Ep. 59 - David Bruehlmann - Living a life of Purpose
March 21, 2023 05:00 - 59 minutes - 41.2 MBDavid Bruehlmann, the host of Unlock Meaning on Youtube joins us for another episdode to share about how important it is to find purpose in your life and how you are able to seek it out.
Ep. 58 - Brianna Rossi - How Healthy Singleness Translates into a Healthy Relationship.
March 07, 2023 05:00 - 1 hour - 44.4 MBBrianna Rossi joins us for another episode as she is now in a relationship and has a lot to reflect on in regards to how she handled her singleness and how it has been beneficial now that she is in a relationship. And don't mind Josh, as his internet dropped off early on the episode.
Ep. 57 - Tom & Josh: Why Thriving in Singleness Makes You More Attractive
February 21, 2023 10:00 - 51 minutes - 35.3 MBThere's an interesting thing that happens when you're thriving in singleness. It actually makes you more attractive, builds more confidence, and helps you to be fearless. Josh and Tom breakdown why thriving in singleness makes you more attractive as well as many other aspects of Thriving in Singleness that greatly improve your life.
Valentine's Day Special - You Are Not Alone
February 14, 2023 07:00 - 1 hour - 46.9 MBValentine's Day can be tough. It can put additional pressure on the feelings of loneliness you may already be experience. For this episode, Tom steps out to allow Joshua to lead the discussion with 4 guests from prvious episodes. Sie Gregory, Taylor Cyr, E-man, and Bethany Anderson. Join us for the episode and find some encouragement along the way!
Ep. 55 - JJ Viljoen - Is Singleness Really a Season?
February 07, 2023 10:00 - 46 minutes - 32.2 MBJJ Viljoen joins us for this episode and presents us with the challenge of questioning whether Singleness should be referred to as a season. While Josh is very opinionated on this concept, Tom is conflicted, as he has often referred to this time as a season. Additionally JJ talks more about how freeing it is to let go, and how much easier it is to surrender when you don't give yourself anything to hold onto. You'll want to join in on this episode as there is a lot to unpack.
Ep. 54 - Facing Adversity and Finding Purpose
January 24, 2023 10:00 - 1 hour - 47.5 MBSo many times the challenges are acknowledged in Singleness, but how do we go up against it? And how easy it is to feel like the purpose for our lives is going to come into play when we finally get married and start a family? Our guest today takes these challenges head on in our incredible conversation with actionable steps and great wisdom behind facing adversity and finding your purpose in life.
Ep. 53 - Esther Marie - Single Shouldn't Suck
January 10, 2023 12:00 - 59 minutes - 41 MBEsther Marie is the author of the book Single Shouldn't suck. She shares the incredible perspective that God had given her in Singleness, which inspired her to live an amazing lifestyle glorifying to the Lord. Even though she is currently in a relationship, it not only hasn't taken away from, but it has complemented the lessons she has learned, enabling her to have a healthier relationship that stays pointed towards Christ. Join us for this incredible episode!
Ep. 52 - Melissa Wilson - Unwrapping the Gift of Singleness
December 27, 2022 10:00 - 49 minutes - 33.8 MBMelissa Wilson joins Tom and Josh for a conversation about why she believes singleness to be a gift, and why it is such a difficult thing to accept, as well as why this perspective produces great long term benefits in other seasons of life.
Ep. 51 - Markeisha Tonoi - Don't Lose Yourself
December 13, 2022 12:00 - 44 minutes - 30.7 MBMarkeisha Tonoi from the Authentic Culture Co joins us for an episode to share about her walk in Singleness and the incredible things God has been teaching her.
Ep. 50 - Dating in 2022
November 29, 2022 10:00 - 1 hour - 74.1 MBSo blessed to have made it to episode 50! For this episode Tom and Josh are joined by Jalein Abania, Brianna Rossi, and Caleb Edwards to talk about dating in 2022. We have a round table discussion to hear about the challenges, as well as what makes dating different in 2022.
Ep. 49 - Brandon Heidemann - Are you looking in God's hands or in His eyes?
November 15, 2022 10:00 - 1 hour - 49.3 MBBrandon Heidemann describes himself as "Just a dude who loves Jesus and the adventure He brings". He's a well rounded adrenaline junkie, he runs an adventure camp for kids, called Camp Royal, and he shares about trials he has faced in his life that taught him to grow closer to the Lord through the hardship of it all. He shares the honest challenges of singleness in His late 30's but also about how he's learned to look into God's eyes and not His hands. Searching for who God is instead of wha...
Ep. 48 - Kristen Clark - Finding True Joy
November 01, 2022 09:00 - 58 minutes - 40.4 MBKristen Clark from The Girl Defined Podcast joins us for an episode, and although she is now married and didn't have an extensive season of singleness, there's a lot of things that she would have liked to approach differently with what she knows now. She shares some incredible insight on where we find our purpose, finding true joy, and where we find our identity. The Girl Defined podcast is targeted towards women and they have incredible books as well. Be sure to check them out!
Ep. 47 - Bethany Beal - Compromizing, Boundaries, and Surrender
October 18, 2022 08:00 - 48 minutes - 33.4 MBBethany Beal, from The Girl Defined Podcast, joins us for an episode to talk about her walk through singleness and how God had taught her not to keep marriage as an idol. She walks through standards she held and why it was ok to compromize in certain areas that didn't take away from what God had for her. She shares the boundaries she maintained in her dating relationship and the benefits she experienced in holding true to them. Lastly she shares about how God taught her to surrender, and sh...
Ep. 47 - Bethany Beal - Compromizing, Boundaries, and Surrender
October 18, 2022 08:00 - 48 minutes - 33.4 MBBethany Beal, from The Girl Defined Podcast, joins us for an episode to talk about her walk through singleness and how God had taught her not to keep marriage as an idol. She walks through standards she held and why it was ok to compromize in certain areas that didn't take away from what God had for her. She shares the boundaries she maintained in her dating relationship and the benefits she experienced in holding true to them. Lastly she shares about how God taught her to surrender, and sh...
Ep. 46 - Ben Bennett - Finding Meaningful Connection
October 04, 2022 08:00 - 45 minutes - 31.3 MBBen Bennett, who co-authored the book "Free to Thrive" with Josh McDowell, joins us for an episode to be real about his singleness and what God has been teaching him through it, as well as how building meanful connections with friends has helped him find how God provides in singleness. Ben has been working for the Josh McDowell ministry for 5 year now and he shares about the incredible things God has been doing in the years he has been in the ministry.
Ep. 45 - Arlene Carrillo - Learning Who You Are in Loneliness
September 20, 2022 09:00 - 52 minutes - 36.4 MBArlene is a fitness instructor specializing in Lagree, as well as formerly being crowned Miss Bakersfield. She shares what God has tought her primarilly with living in California during the pandemic, that although community is very important, it's also important to be alone and learn about yourself and focus on doing the things your love and are passionate about.
Ep. 44 - Jalein Abania - Purity and Singleness
August 23, 2022 09:00 - 1 hour - 51.4 MBJaleina is a well known social media personality who has been working closely with The Chosen to bring the story of Jesus to life. In our episode she shares about how living in purity has been helpful for her to enjoy her singleness and focus on the purpose God has given her for this time. She also shares about how she transitioned to finding joy in her singleness as well as how she gets respect from her friends and community, and why it is so important to be respected.
Ep. 43 - Bethany Anderson - One is a Whole Number
August 09, 2022 09:00 - 49 minutes - 34.2 MBBethany Anderson, creator of The Hope Adventure, shares her journey of singleness in the midst of her faith, as well as her work as a full time missionary. We address important questions like "If God put the desire of marriage in your heart, does that meen it's definitely going to happen?". Certainly an uncomfortable question to address. Bethany refers to herself as a "Seasoned Single" and has so much value to share about what she has learned, and how wonderful her journey has been.
Ep. 42 - Brianna Rossi - I Don't Hate Singleness Anymore
July 26, 2022 09:00 - 53 minutes - 37 MBBrianna Rossi, creator of Single and Standing joins us for an episode as she shares the joys she has found in her singleness. Even though she grew up with a strong desire for marriage, she shares her journey as she learned to trust God with whatever His plan is for her, even if His plan is for her to be single. She discusses some of the joys she has found both in her travels and in her everyday life. It't tough to let go of the idea of getting married and find true joy in where God has you r...
Ep. 41 (part 2) E-Man - Missionary Dating
July 05, 2022 09:00 - 55 minutes - 38.4 MBWe pick this episdoe up rigth where we left it off with our conversation about Missionary Dating and dig in deeper into the conversation around singleness, and what God has been doing in E-man's life.
Ep. 41 (part 1) E-Man - Reaching the Unreached.
June 28, 2022 05:00 - 45 minutes - 31.3 MBE-Man is from Bakersfield California and works for a mission called City Serve, networking with churches across the country distributing food and goods to families in need. When he's not working with City Serve he is volunteering his time in the mission field with Mission One Eleven. He shares about his incredible experience working in Missions and how God has been moving in incredible ways and providing opportunities to help others and share Christ with the unreached. Work as a missionary ...
Ep. 40 David Bruhlmann - To Everything There is a Season
June 14, 2022 09:00 - 58 minutes - 40.4 MBDavid is a missionary in Cambodia and the author of Single for a Season. He shares of the different places God has taken him in life, as well as the challenges he has faced in singleness, being let down, and ultimately trusting God in wherever he takes him in life.