In this podcast, Dr. Shaw continues to review her "Ten Governing Principles" for effective communication with children.  First, she starts off with a recap of all of her recent work, especially her 20+ children's nonfiction picture books for Social and Emotional Learning.  Dr. Shaw then transitions into a brief but potent discussion of her 9th Governing Principle from her new parenting book. The 10 governing principles form the backbone of her guidebook for parents just published recently and available at Amazon.com.  The book has the appropriate title of I Like How You Speak to Me... A Parent's Guide to Effective Communication with Children, and the opening section of that book lists the aforementioned Ten Governing Principles for effective communication. Dr. Shaw promised that for ten straight podcasts she would delve into a discussion of one guiding principle per episode, and this is the ninth of those ten.  Her ninth governing principle, the one she discusses here, is TO BE RESPECTFUL.  In Dr. Shaw's opinion, respect is mutual and respect is earned.  As a parent you don't just "get" respect, you model it and you earn it.  Each of the 10 governing principles is intended to be used in tandem with the other 9, and between this podcast series and her new parenting book, Dr. Shaw shares some great strategies for getting your parent-child communication to actually work.