E75. The Spectrum of Aliveness - with Shems Heartwell, Life & Relationship Guide

Taking Off The Mask

English - February 09, 2022 00:00 - 54 minutes - 124 MB
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Previous Episode: E74. Prioritizing Resonance in Schools - with Roni Habib, Speaker & Founder of EQ Schools

Next Episode: E76. Coming of Age - with Preston Lee, Filmmaker & Senior at Marin Catholic High School

“I think of it as simply more ‘spectrum of aliveness’… What happens is if our spectrum of aliveness is narrow because we’re not feeling much - we feel numb, we don’t have sexual energy on tap, we don’t feel joy - it’s usually because there’s some stuff that’s bottled up in us that’s taking up bandwidth or real estate in our system.” - Shems Heartwell.

Ever Forward Club’s Ashanti Branch is joined by Shems Heartwell. As a Life and Relationship Guide, Shems has been honing his craft for 20 years. And what’s resulted is a unique way of coaching and mentoring that is on the leading edge of the human potential movement. But like all of our episodes, this conversation doesn’t just focus on the major successes - it goes back to a time when Shems’s “spectrum of aliveness” was closed up, and how he still searches to broaden that spectrum today. We hope you enjoy learning more about Shems, his life, and his masks!

(2:15) Ashanti's introduction.

(7:30) Shems introduces himself, how he met Ashanti, and how he helps men, groups, and couples show up for themselves and each other.

(12:50) Shems shares the front of his mask - bright, intelligent, kind

(14:50) Shems shares the back of his mask - fearful, sensitive, judgmental.

(17:10) Ashanti shares the front of his mask - serious, hard-working, funny.

(19:50) Ashanti shares the back of his mask - fear, childhood wounds, I cry - and how acknowledging these things allows him to push himself to show the world his true value.

(24:50) Ashanti shares what he told himself - and what he let go - when looking into a mirror in the woods.

(28:50) Shems and Ashanti discuss the importance of allowing feelings to move through our system and be expressed.

(38:10) Shems shares how he believes we can open up our “Spectrum of Aliveness.” Then, he shares what it was like growing up with his father, and the mixed bag of emotions, environments, and experiences it created. Ashanti relates by sharing his unhealthy relationship with sugar.

(45:10) Whether it’s food, alcohol, entertainment, etc., we can all use these things to “check out”. Shems and Ashanti discuss the need to identify when we have reached an unhealthy threshold, and the need for a community to help support us when we try to numb those who have retreated into a certain numbness.

(51:50) Shems shares where you can get in touch with him.

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Connect with Shems Heartwell:

Website: shemsheartwell.com

Navigator Project: navigatorproject.org

Instagram: instagram.com/shemsheart

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Connect with Ashanti Branch:

Instagram: instagram.com/branchspeaks