Swirl & Sip Podcast
153 episodes - English - Latest episode: almost 2 years ago - ★★★★★ - 34 ratingsWelcome to the Swirl and Sip Podcast –a podcast about life, and going through all the hoods -womanhood, marriage-hood and parenthood all with a glass of wine in hand. Each episode we'll be trying a new bottle of wine, giving our candid thoughts, and diving into those topics that you have when it's just you and your girls. Everything from how we handle making new friends in our 30s, managing money in marriage, and all the ways kids change everything, we're keeping it real and candid in our conversations.
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Tasting Notes - EP 19: The Great Debate
July 01, 2020 13:00 - 21 minutesWe love the conversations that happen around our episodes! In this Tasting Notes, we're hearing your feedback on Episode 19 - The Great Debate! In that episode, we discussed the stigmas around working moms and stay-at-home moms and how we decided what works for us. Y'all had so much to say and we're sharing our favorite listener reactions!EP 19 Episode Resources:Moms: Working vs. Staying Home - https://www.parenting.com/pregnancy/planning/working-vs-staying-home/ Surprising Facts and Research...
EP 25 - #RonaLife
June 24, 2020 11:00 - 47 minutes - 32.6 MBWe never thought we'd be recording Season 1 in the middle of a worldwide pandemic. Juggling kids, working from home, and husbands, all while worrying about the safety of our families is no joke. Covid-19 (aka the coronavirus) has upended the way the world works and it looks like it's going to be here for a while. In the Season 1 finale, we're talking all about how we've managed quarantine life and how it's effected pretty much every aspect of our lives. Everything from how it's changed our ...
#RonaLife
June 24, 2020 11:00 - 48 minutesWe never thought we'd be recording Season 1 in the middle of a worldwide pandemic. Juggling kids, working from home, and husbands, all while worrying about the safety of our families is no joke. Covid-19 (aka the coronavirus) has upended the way the world works and it looks like it's going to be here for a while.In the Season 1 finale, we're talking all about how we've managed quarantine life and how it's effected pretty much every aspect of our lives. Everything from how it's changed our mar...
Classy, Bougie, Ratchet
June 17, 2020 10:00 - 42 minutesAre you a RATCHET Mom?! No, not "ghetto" or "hoochie"...just a mom that still likes to have fun. Do you like to drop it like its hot in front of your husband? Go out and party with your girls? Flaunt your new mom hips?In this episode, we are discussing "ratchet motherhood" and how you can remain true to yourself while still being a great parent. Mom shaming is a thing but just because you're a mom doesn't mean you should be judge on how you are as a person!Episode Resources:Is the Part...
EP 24 - Classy, Bougie, Ratchet
June 17, 2020 10:00 - 40 minutes - 28 MBAre you a RATCHET Mom?! No, not "ghetto" or "hoochie"...just a mom that still likes to have fun. Do you like to drop it like its hot in front of your husband? Go out and party with your girls? Flaunt your new mom hips? In this episode, we are discussing "ratchet motherhood" and how you can remain true to yourself while still being a great parent. Mom shaming is a thing but just because you're a mom doesn't mean you should be judge on how you are as a person! Episode Resources: Is th...
EP 23 - Earning Your Spot at the Picnic
June 10, 2020 06:00 - 1 hour - 43.4 MBIn the US and around the world, the treatment of Black men and women by police and the greater society at large as seemed to finally reach its breaking point. Fact - our country was built on the systematic disenfranchisement of Black, Brown, Indigenous, and other People of Color (BIPOC). But that can change. In this episode, we're speaking to our non-BIPOC listeners (aka our white folks) and sharing our experiences with racism in this country and ways you can be an ally and learn to be an...
Earning Your Spot at the Picnic
June 10, 2020 06:00 - 1 hourIn the US and around the world, the treatment of Black men and women by police and the greater society at large as seemed to finally reach its breaking point. Fact - our country was built on the systematic disenfranchisement of Black, Brown, Indigenous, and other People of Color (BIPOC). But that can change. In this episode, we're speaking to our non-BIPOC listeners (aka our white folks) and sharing our experiences with racism in this country and ways you can be an ally and learn to be anti-...
The Wisdom of Our Mothers
June 03, 2020 06:00 - 49 minutesWe heard it all the time growing up - "wait until you have your own kids!" We don't realize how much our mothers knew (or didn't know) until we because moms of our own. Having a child can fundamentally change your relationship with your own mother. Some of us are fortunate enough to have mothers that respect our parenting choices, while others are habitual line steppers. In this episode, we're discussing all about how that mother-daughter relationship changes once a grand-baby arrives. Wheth...
EP 22 - The Wisdom of Our Mothers
June 03, 2020 06:00 - 48 minutes - 33.4 MBWe heard it all the time growing up - "wait until you have your own kids!" We don't realize how much our mothers knew (or didn't know) until we because moms of our own. Having a child can fundamentally change your relationship with your own mother. Some of us are fortunate enough to have mothers that respect our parenting choices, while others are habitual line steppers. In this episode, we're discussing all about how that mother-daughter relationship changes once a grand-baby arrives. Wh...
Am I A Good Mom?
May 27, 2020 06:00 - 57 minutesNo matter how many times you may hear these things, they simply are NOT true. Had a C-section? You are a warrior. Didn't instantly bond with your baby? Totally normal. It will happen, in time. Breastfeeding is hard AF! Some people may have to exclusively pump. Some may have to formula feed. Who cares?! Fed is best. Every kid is different. There is no way to know exactly what to do in every parenting situation. Unfortunately, there isn't a parenting manual. In this episode, we're discussi...
EP 21 - Am I A Good Mom?
May 27, 2020 06:00 - 56 minutes - 38.8 MBNo matter how many times you may hear these things, they simply are NOT true. Had a C-section? You are a warrior. Didn't instantly bond with your baby? Totally normal. It will happen, in time. Breastfeeding is hard AF! Some people may have to exclusively pump. Some may have to formula feed. Who cares?! Fed is best. Every kid is different. There is no way to know exactly what to do in every parenting situation. Unfortunately, there isn't a parenting manual. In this episode, we're discu...
EP 20 - Are Pinterest Moms Real?
May 20, 2020 11:00 - 43 minutes - 29.8 MBPinterest has taken over as the #1 place to create vision boards of what we want our lives to look like. When it's time to have kids, we moms pin everything from cute meals to extravagant learning activities. But are Pinterest moms real? Does anyone live up to their Pinterest hopes and dreams? In this episode, we're discussing what our own vision boards of motherhood looked like and where we fall short. If this pandemic has taught us anything, it's definitely that finding the time and pat...
Are Pinterest Moms Real?
May 20, 2020 11:00 - 44 minutesPinterest has taken over as the #1 place to create vision boards of what we want our lives to look like. When it's time to have kids, we moms pin everything from cute meals to extravagant learning activities. But are Pinterest moms real? Does anyone live up to their Pinterest hopes and dreams? In this episode, we're discussing what our own vision boards of motherhood looked like and where we fall short. If this pandemic has taught us anything, it's definitely that finding the time and patien...
EP 19 - The Great Debate
May 13, 2020 06:00 - 54 minutes - 37.1 MBMany women start to think about it before the ever get pregnant - will they continue working or will they be a stay-at-home mom. Ever since women were allowed to start working outside of the home, there's been a debate on which one is better. In this episode, we're discussing the stigmas around working moms and stay-at-home moms and how we decided what works for us. But make no mistake, whichever choice you choose, we support. Moms play an important and amazing role everyday whether it's ...
The Great Debate
May 13, 2020 06:00 - 55 minutesMany women start to think about it before the ever get pregnant - will they continue working or will they be a stay-at-home mom. Ever since women were allowed to start working outside of the home, there's been a debate on which one is better. In this episode, we're discussing the stigmas around working moms and stay-at-home moms and how we decided what works for us. But make no mistake, whichever choice you choose, we support. Moms play an important and amazing role everyday whether it's at ...
EP 18 - Keeping That Spark Alive
May 06, 2020 06:00 - 50 minutes - 34.4 MBWhether you've been together for one year or twenty years, it's so important to keep things new and fresh in your relationship. Throw some kids into the mix and sometimes you can feel like you and your partners have somehow turned into nothing more than roommates. In this episode, we're talking about how to rekindle that spark in your relationship and how to find ways to date your spouse. Dating is stressful enough when you're single but just because there's a ring on it doesn't mean it s...
Keeping That Spark Alive
May 06, 2020 06:00 - 51 minutesWhether you've been together for one year or twenty years, it's so important to keep things new and fresh in your relationship. Throw some kids into the mix and sometimes you can feel like you and your partners have somehow turned into nothing more than roommates. In this episode, we're talking about how to rekindle that spark in your relationship and how to find ways to date your spouse. Dating is stressful enough when you're single but just because there's a ring on it doesn't mean it shou...
Who Raised You?!
April 29, 2020 12:00 - 1 hourYou've heard it before - there's no handbook when it comes to raising kids. But what's prety consistent for most parents is the parenting style they fall into. While there are pros and cons to each, learning which one you lean towards can help you understand what type of parent you are. In this episode, we're talking the five common parenting styles and where we think we fall. Everything from free-range parenting to attachment parenting, we've got opinions about them all! Episode Resources:P...
EP 17 - Who Raised You?!
April 29, 2020 12:00 - 58 minutes - 40.5 MBYou've heard it before - there's no handbook when it comes to raising kids. But what's prety consistent for most parents is the parenting style they fall into. While there are pros and cons to each, learning which one you lean towards can help you understand what type of parent you are. In this episode, we're talking the five common parenting styles and where we think we fall. Everything from free-range parenting to attachment parenting, we've got opinions about them all! Episode Resour...
EP 16 - I Do, You Don't
April 22, 2020 06:00 - 46 minutes - 31.7 MBWe talk A LOT about marriage on this podcast - and hey, it's because we're both married. But marriage isn't the goal for a lot of people and that is a perfectly valid thing! Forget the stigma, today's it's all about the #nomarriage club! In this episode, we're talking with special guest Marcus (aka Sasha's best friend) about why he has decided marriage isn't for him, and why it's not something that sound necessarily be aspirational or mean that your any less of an adult if you choose not t...
I Do, You Don't
April 22, 2020 06:00 - 47 minutesWe talk A LOT about marriage on this podcast - and hey, it's because we're both married. But marriage isn't the goal for a lot of people and that is a perfectly valid thing! Forget the stigma, today's it's all about the #nomarriage club! In this episode, we're talking with special guest Marcus (aka Sasha's best friend) about why he has decided marriage isn't for him, and why it's not something that sound necessarily be aspirational or mean that your any less of an adult if you choose not to p...
EP 15 - Snap Back?
April 15, 2020 11:00 - 45 minutes - 31.4 MBWe've said it time and time again - having a baby changes everything. And for most women, the biggest change of all happens to our bodies. What happens when the baby comes and you look in the mirror and realizes things just ain't sitting the way they use to. In this episode, we're talking all about our struggles with our post-baby bodies and how we're working on our own personal snap backs while learning to love our new bodies. Because self-love is so important, even when you look a little...
Snap Back?
April 15, 2020 11:00 - 46 minutesWe've said it time and time again - having a baby changes everything. And for most women, the biggest change of all happens to our bodies. What happens when the baby comes and you look in the mirror and realizes things just ain't sitting the way they use to. In this episode, we're talking all about our struggles with our post-baby bodies and how we're working on our own personal snap backs while learning to love our new bodies. Because self-love is so important, even when you look a little di...
EP 14 - Love Me In A Special Way
April 08, 2020 11:00 - 46 minutes - 31.9 MBHow many times have you done something to show your partner some love to only have them act unappreciative? Most likely it was because you were speaking YOUR love language and not THEIRS. In this episode, we're talking Love Languages and the book "The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts" By Gary Chapman. We're talking all about how our own love language has changed over the years and how learning to love your partner in the way they receive love can do wonders for your relatio...
Love Me In A Special Way
April 08, 2020 11:00 - 47 minutesHow many times have you done something to show your partner some love to only have them act unappreciative? Most likely it was because you were speaking YOUR love language and not THEIRS. In this episode, we're talking Love Languages and the book "The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts" By Gary Chapman. We're talking all about how our own love language has changed over the years and how learning to love your partner in the way they receive love can do wonders for your relationsh...
Where My Girls At
April 01, 2020 11:00 - 49 minutesHaving a "mom tribe" can be one of the key things that help you get through motherhood. Ladies who have been or are in the same space as you can serve as a sounding board, coach, or sometimes just your wine buddy. And they don't always have to be moms! Our single friends can be a lifeline to the world we use to know! In this episode, we're talking all about our mom tribes - the friends who hold us down, lift us up, and drink wine with us when we need a moment. Our ladies help trough all the m...
EP 13 - Where My Girls At
April 01, 2020 11:00 - 48 minutes - 33.2 MBHaving a "mom tribe" can be one of the key things that help you get through motherhood. Ladies who have been or are in the same space as you can serve as a sounding board, coach, or sometimes just your wine buddy. And they don't always have to be moms! Our single friends can be a lifeline to the world we use to know! In this episode, we're talking all about our mom tribes - the friends who hold us down, lift us up, and drink wine with us when we need a moment. Our ladies help trough all th...
EP 12 - Becoming...Mama
March 25, 2020 11:00 - 1 hour - 42.5 MBEven through nine months of pregnancy, you're never really prepared for that moment when you become a mom. As in...labor. Every woman experiences childbirth differently and no matter how many classes you take or women you talk to, you ultimatly have no idea what your experience will be like. In this episode, we're talking the stories of how we became moms - our sons birth stories. We're keeping it real and telling you all those things you might not expect about all the moments leading up t...
Becoming...Mama
March 25, 2020 11:00 - 1 hourEven through nine months of pregnancy, you're never really prepared for that moment when you become a mom. As in...labor. Every woman experiences childbirth differently and no matter how many classes you take or women you talk to, you ultimatly have no idea what your experience will be like. In this episode, we're talking the stories of how we became moms - our sons birth stories. We're keeping it real and telling you all those things you might not expect about all the moments leading up to b...
The Ties That Bind Us
March 18, 2020 10:00 - 53 minutesGrowing up how often did you hear "We've always done it this way" without ever really knowing why. In many families, the way we parent, even the way were are as people, is passed down from generation to generation without explanation. Only tradition. In this episode, Shara's husband Brandon joins us as we talk breaking those generational curses. We're talking everything from why we want to make better health decisions to how we want to parent our sons. _______________________________________...
EP 11 - The Ties That Bind Us
March 18, 2020 10:00 - 51 minutes - 35.6 MBGrowing up how often did you hear "We've always done it this way" without ever really knowing why. In many families, the way we parent, even the way were are as people, is passed down from generation to generation without explanation. Only tradition. In this episode, Shara's husband Brandon joins us as we talk breaking those generational curses. We're talking everything from why we want to make better health decisions to how we want to parent our sons. ___________________________________...
The Choice Is Yours
March 11, 2020 10:00 - 55 minutes"When are you having a baby?" "When are you having another baby?" "You'll change your mind." If you're a woman of child-bearing age you've heard these questions many, many times. We've heard it all too. Right after we were congratulated on getting married came the kids questions. And it can be exhausting. In this episode, we're talking all about how we made the decision on what the perfect family size means for us. We talk about everything from how we came to the decision on how many kids to ...
EP 10 - The Choice Is Yours
March 11, 2020 10:00 - 54 minutes - 37.5 MB"When are you having a baby?" "When are you having another baby?" "You'll change your mind." If you're a woman of child-bearing age you've heard these questions many, many times. We've heard it all too. Right after we were congratulated on getting married came the kids questions. And it can be exhausting. In this episode, we're talking all about how we made the decision on what the perfect family size means for us. We talk about everything from how we came to the decision on how many kids ...
EP 09 - Talk Money To Me!
March 04, 2020 07:00 - 47 minutes - 32.8 MBWe've all heard what they say - money is the #1 cause of divorce. In the U.S. most folks aren’t taught how to deal with their finances. There’s no “Money 101” course in high school or college. Often, we’re left to piece together what we saw our parents do and throw in some things we may have learned along the way. In this episode, we're talking all about our money mindsets and how we came to learn about handling our coins. In our own marriages, we handle the money a little differently but...
Talk Money To Me!
March 04, 2020 07:00 - 49 minutesWe've all heard what they say - money is the #1 cause of divorce. In the U.S. most folks aren’t taught how to deal with their finances. There’s no “Money 101” course in high school or college. Often, we’re left to piece together what we saw our parents do and throw in some things we may have learned along the way. In this episode, we're talking all about our money mindsets and how we came to learn about handling our coins. In our own marriages, we handle the money a little differently but we...
Retreat, Refresh, and Reset
February 26, 2020 07:00 - 49 minutesThe ladies of Swirl & Sip definitely love to see the world. Between the two of us we've been to several countries and two continents (besides the U.S). Traveling is not only a great way to experience new cultures and places but is an amazing way to bring back that spark that you may have forgotten about in your relationship. In this episode, we're talking all about how travel can save marriages and your sanity with our guests Brianna - one half of Waunderlust Travel. Her and her hubby have se...
EP 08 - Retreat, Refresh, and Reset
February 26, 2020 07:00 - 48 minutes - 33.5 MBThe ladies of Swirl & Sip definitely love to see the world. Between the two of us we've been to several countries and two continents (besides the U.S). Traveling is not only a great way to experience new cultures and places but is an amazing way to bring back that spark that you may have forgotten about in your relationship. In this episode, we're talking all about how travel can save marriages and your sanity with our guests Brianna - one half of Waunderlust Travel. Her and her hubby have...
The Family We Choose
February 19, 2020 10:00 - 52 minutesParents...we've all got them. Having our own healthy relationships with our parents can be its own challenge but when they turn into in-laws...the whole game is flipped! What do you do when his mama really ain't feeling your new role in his life or when your dad does the unexpected pop-up without notice?!In this episode, we're talking our own relationships with our in-laws and how we manage the relationships we have with the folks that raised our partners. Everything from the good and bad, we...
EP 07 - The Family We Choose
February 19, 2020 10:00 - 51 minutes - 35 MBParents...we've all got them. Having our own healthy relationships with our parents can be its own challenge but when they turn into in-laws...the whole game is flipped! What do you do when his mama really ain't feeling your new role in his life or when your dad does the unexpected pop-up without notice?! In this episode, we're talking our own relationships with our in-laws and how we manage the relationships we have with the folks that raised our partners. Everything from the good and bad,...
EP 06 - #BrownLove
February 12, 2020 10:00 - 45 minutes - 31.2 MBWhat comes to mind when you see #blacklove? The hashtag exists because positive examples of successful Black relationships need to be seen since the media doesn't always portray what many couples are experiencing. But when only 1/2 of that couple is black, do you still fall into that #blacklove space? In this episode, we have our first guests Ashleigh and Rajesh on to what it means to be in an interracial relationship and how that affects everything from how others see us and how we plan o...
#BrownLove
February 12, 2020 10:00 - 46 minutesWhat comes to mind when you see #blacklove? The hashtag exists because positive examples of successful Black relationships need to be seen since the media doesn't always portray what many couples are experiencing. But when only 1/2 of that couple is black, do you still fall into that #blacklove space? In this episode, we have our first guests Ashleigh and Rajesh on to what it means to be in an interracial relationship and how that affects everything from how others see us and how we plan on r...
EP 05 - But You Say She's Just A Friend
February 05, 2020 07:00 - 46 minutes - 31.9 MB"But you say she's just a friend...". In 2020 how do really feel about our partners having friends of the opposite sex? Some will say they have no problem with it while others insist that men and women can't be "just friends". In this episode, we discuss why being open to your partner having opposite sex friendships can actually be a good thing for you and Sasha's own struggle with being the only girl member of her friend group. ________________________________________________________ Lik...
But You Say She's Just A Friend
February 05, 2020 07:00 - 47 minutes"But you say she's just a friend...". In 2020 how do really feel about our partners having friends of the opposite sex? Some will say they have no problem with it while others insist that men and women can't be "just friends".In this episode, we discuss why being open to your partner having opposite sex friendships can actually be a good thing for you and Sasha's own struggle with being the only girl member of her friend group. ________________________________________________________ Like wha...
EP 04 - Who Needs A Maid When I've Got You?!
January 29, 2020 07:00 - 36 minutes - 25.3 MBHow do you manage who takes care of what at home? Are you a "Susie Homemaker" or are you bringing home the bacon? Or both? Modern marriages mean that sometimes those gender roles no longer apply. In this episode, we discuss how we we divide up the chores in our households are why it works for us. Sometimes that means the hubby does the laundry while we manage the finances. But however it's broken down, finding a system that works can sometimes be a big challenge! __________________________...
Who Needs A Maid When I've Got You?!
January 29, 2020 07:00 - 38 minutesHow do you manage who takes care of what at home? Are you a "Susie Homemaker" or are you bringing home the bacon? Or both? Modern marriages mean that sometimes those gender roles no longer apply. In this episode, we discuss how we we divide up the chores in our households are why it works for us. Sometimes that means the hubby does the laundry while we manage the finances. But however it's broken down, finding a system that works can sometimes be a big challenge!______________________________...
Instructions Not Included...
January 22, 2020 07:00 - 41 minutesWe all know that becoming a parent is not something you can really prepare for. We're all left wondering if we're doing things the right way. Not only does parenthood change us, but it changes our relationships with our partners. In this episode, we discuss how having our sons changed our marriages and the things we hope to teach them as they grow. Whether it's changing communication styles or breaking the cycle of toxic masculinity, parenthood has definitely changed everything! _____________...
EP 03 - Instructions Not Included...
January 22, 2020 07:00 - 40 minutes - 27.5 MBWe all know that becoming a parent is not something you can really prepare for. We're all left wondering if we're doing things the right way. Not only does parenthood change us, but it changes our relationships with our partners. In this episode, we discuss how having our sons changed our marriages and the things we hope to teach them as they grow. Whether it's changing communication styles or breaking the cycle of toxic masculinity, parenthood has definitely changed everything! _________...
Adjust, Adapt, Repeat
January 15, 2020 07:00 - 46 minutesWhich is harder - becoming a wife or becoming a mom? The answer may be pretty straightforward for some but making the adjustment to any new role can be a challenge.In this episode, we discuss how we made the adjustment to becoming wives and moms and the role that we found harder to adapt to. We're talking taboos of not feeling that instant motherly love and how hard it is to be a wife after becoming a mom. ________________________________________________________ Like what you heard? Subscribe...
EP 02 - Adjust, Adapt, Repeat
January 15, 2020 07:00 - 45 minutes - 31.3 MBWhich is harder - becoming a wife or becoming a mom? The answer may be pretty straightforward for some but making the adjustment to any new role can be a challenge. In this episode, we discuss how we made the adjustment to becoming wives and moms and the role that we found harder to adapt to. We're talking taboos of not feeling that instant motherly love and how hard it is to be a wife after becoming a mom. ________________________________________________________ Like what you heard? Subs...
That Decade on Decade Type Love
January 08, 2020 07:00 - 49 minutesRelationships ain't easy and being with the same person for years and years can be a challenge. Growing up and growing old with someone takes skill - and wine!In our first episode, meet the ladies behind Swirl & Sip and hear about how we've managed to find ourselves in relationships that have been at least a decade long. We talk about how we met, growing up with our partners, and get real on what it means to be with someone for so long. ________________________________________________________...