Swinger Diaries
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SD 47 How long can you keep the spark alive before you start thinking that you suck at swinging?
August 31, 2017 09:00 - 1 hour - 87.9 MBWe are back from our amazing lifestyle cruise through the Mediterranean and we have so much to talk about! After skipping our usual release date in the middle of this month, we are bursting with stories and reviews of our journey. Please excuse the length of this episode. Although its a long one, we barely scratched the surface of all of our adventures and observations. After that trip, we will surely have diary stories for many years to come. After all, it was truly the trip of a lifetime. ...
SD 46 After your first playdate with a “no kissing” couple, how do you tell them that you don’t want to do it again?
July 31, 2017 09:00 - 59 minutes - 54.8 MBAs we excitedly pack our bags for our much anticipated Mediterranean swingers cruise, we are smashing every sexy outfit we own into the suitcases for what will be the longest vacation of our lives. Unfortunately there won’t be any room for podcasting equipment so, for the first time, we will only be releasing one episode in the upcoming month of August but we promise to return with stories of what is sure to be an epic adventure. As always, in this episode we crowd source the answers to our...
SD 45 Even with condoms, is it too slutty to play during your period?
July 15, 2017 12:51 - 1 hour - 56.5 MBPlease excuse our raspy smokers’ voices as we are still recovering from another awesome Naughty in N’awlins convention! Although we were flattered and humbled by meeting so many fans of our show at NiN who were curious about our impressions of the largest swingers convention in the world, as our regular listeners know, our format isn't really about interviews or event reviews. Instead, we will leave it to all of other podcasting friends to offer their recount of the week. In our traditional ...
SD 44 Does the vanilla world know the best way to finish a soft swap with an uncircumcised cock?
June 30, 2017 09:00 - 58 minutes - 53.2 MBPlay preferences with circumcised men, soft swap finishes, and the vanilla world’s biggest misconception about the lifestyle; those are the topics discussed on this episode. As always, we received so many great responses to our questions and, in particular, people had clear and passionate opinions on all the ways that the vanilla world misunderstands swinging. While we aren't ready to be the poster-children for the swinging lifestyle, we do hope that our little podcast helps the cause of ex...
SD 43 Is it bisexual men or women who are in charge of cheating on profile stats?
June 15, 2017 13:08 - 1 hour - 55.1 MBAn overwhelming number of responses made this episode easy to record. Sometimes our questions solicit more replies than others but these questions must have touched a nerve because we had pages and pages of replies. In this episode we discuss answers to the question about playing with bisexual people and the challenges and intimidations of that delicate situation. Then we give commentary about profile stats and tap dance on the narrow line of using an online profile to put your best foot fo...
SD 42 Have you ever searched Google for a sex toy and thought, "No thank you"?
May 31, 2017 09:28 - 1 hour - 57.4 MBOne of the unexpected but wonderful advantages of this podcast has been the fantastic relationships we have developed with you, our listeners. Through your emails and social media messages, we have discovered that podcast listeners are indeed genuine, curious, engaged and often very sexy, a fact that we have recently verified. For the first time in what is sure to be many more, in this episode we discuss three questions posed by you, our listeners. As always, we crowd-sourced the answers to...
SD 41 What’s the right mix of alcohol and dirty talk that makes you squirt?
May 15, 2017 11:18 - 1 hour - 62.6 MBWith summer upon us and therefore kids out of school, we are trying to figure out how to adjust our habits a little to continue to preserve our sexy secrets from an always inquisitive family. We learned recently how frighteningly important that is. Despite the wonderful benefits of swinging, the vanilla world is not ready for our lifestyle no matter how amazing it is. In this slightly longer than usual episode, as always we cover three new topics. We tell the story of our introduction to sq...
SD 40 How long should you spend watching strippers before going to the swingers club?
April 30, 2017 13:50 - 56 minutes - 51.8 MBThis episode exposes the fact that some swinging questions are unanswerable. While we got lots of replies to our questions about the length of time for a play session, and a seemingly universal agreement about strip clubs, absolutely nobody seems to know why people enter the swingers clubs after 1:00 in the morning. Its still a mystery. In this show, we give out our preferences and read some of your answers and then we announce that in the next episode we will be asking questions sent in by...
SD 39 Why are there no pics of men getting blowjobs while listening to podcasts?
April 15, 2017 11:34 - 1 hour - 59.8 MBOur quest to crowd source the answers to the unknown mysteries of the swinging lifestyle continues. We are excited by the dozens of responses we again received in order to help us answer our queries and we are thrilled by the surprising number of listeners who have written to pose new questions to ask our audience. We see a “listener question” episode coming soon. In this episode we explore the puzzle of why so many swinging dating profiles have no pics of men. Then we spend some time talki...
SD 38 Do you tell your kids that you secretly kiss your motorcycle?
March 31, 2017 11:11 - 52 minutes - 48.3 MBPaige is not so crazy about these new episode titles but in this show, we answer our customary three questions and this time they deal with motorcycles, advice for curious adult children and the grey area of kissing and telling. We rely heavily on listeners emails about their experiences with the motorcycle culture since we don't have (or want) a bike. Then, we imagine the hypothetical world in which we had to give one of our six children advice about swinging. Lastly, as a couple with a po...
SD 37 Which smoking hot theme leads to the best reconnection sex?
March 16, 2017 11:54 - 56 minutes - 51.8 MBRecorded from the Passion Suite at Desire RM in Mexico, in this episode you'll have to excuse our over-partied, raspy, smokers' voices. Lets just say it was an intense week with the Lifestyle Lounge takeover group. In answering this episodes’s questions, in this show we read listeners’ feedback and give our own opinions as we talk about smokers, reconnection sex and the best themes in the lifestyle. Thank you to all who contributed your opinions. Keep your replies coming. We need your advic...
SD 36 Does playing in the same room help keep the secret of your penis size?
February 28, 2017 13:16 - 1 hour - 56.2 MBWelcome to Book 2 of our diary. Recently, as we happened to come across one of our older episodes, we realized that in the past our show could rightfully be considered by some listeners as a bit… shall we say, dry? Because up until now, we were purposefully and gingerly addressing an audience who are new to this awesome lifestyle, our shows were carefully scripted to give as much information as possible, but now our intended audience (and our style) shifts as we begin to discuss the more nu...
SD 35 Sure, money can’t buy love but how much does swinging cost?
February 15, 2017 12:38 - 51 minutes - 47.6 MBAs we wrap up Book One of our podcast, we answer the last of our initial newbie questions about the swinging lifestyle. Swinging is our hobby and like any other recreation, we are willing to spend a little money for our entertainment. How much to spend is a personal choice, but for us swinging is so fun and rewarding that we prioritize it and make room for it's expenses in our budget. In this episode we discuss the range of costs for the different swinging activities and as always, we give ...
SD 34 Do you really have to go to a lifestyle friendly resort for a swinger vacation?
January 31, 2017 12:20 - 56 minutes - 51.3 MBBig changes are coming to Swinger Diaries. As we approach 35 episodes, we feel as though we've accomplished our initial goal of answering the most common newbie questions through our show topics. Its now time for Book Two on our diary in which we turn our attention to more complicated, advanced and challenging swinger topics. In this episode, we announce an upcoming change to our format and make a request of our listeners who have gained something form our podcast. We were introduced to the...
SD 33 How do you stay in Swinger Shape?
January 15, 2017 15:02 - 47 minutes - 43.2 MBBecause for us swinging is really like dating for couples, we always want to look our best and feel our best in order to have the confidence we need to make a great first impression on new friends. Unfortunately, like everyone else, we have our own body issues that we are constantly battling to overcome. This is a very personal episode in which we openly discuss our own insecurities about our bodies. We talk about the efforts and commitments that we make in order to constantly improve our f...
SD 32 What exactly is in your swinger bag?
December 31, 2016 14:44 - 1 hour - 56.9 MBOpening up a couple’s swinger bag is like digging through a woman’s purse. Its very personal. It exposes a lot about the people who own it. Its full of intimate private details about them and the way they play. Most swingers develop a bag of necessities for their lifestyle adventures. We have too. Inspired by questions from listeners that ask about the details of our playtimes, and with the understanding that not all listeners invest the time to hear every one of our past shows for the ans...
SD 31 Aren't you nervous about sharing your pictures?
December 15, 2016 12:31 - 1 hour - 59.2 MBIn today’s digital age when we all carry camera phones with us at all times, we've become very used to the idea that it is common and safe to share our images freely with friends and on social media but when you get into swinging, privacy becomes a huge concern. Almost everyone in the swinging lifestyle keeps this part of their life a secret and would not want their friends and family knowing what they did last Saturday night. In this episode, we talk about the two reasons we take sexy pict...
SD 30 Will we find sexy people our age to play with?
November 30, 2016 12:24 - 44 minutes - 41.1 MBOne of the touchiest topics in the swinging community is the subject of age and as a result we have avoided this topic for a long time now but if you’re new to swinging, you are understandably curious about this obvious question, “How old is too old and how young is too young to swing?” While we hear plenty of politically correct answers to this question like, “You're only as old as you feel" or “Age is just a number”, it is disingenuous and foolish to ignore the obvious fact that we are...
SD 29 Isn't it hard to flirt again?
November 14, 2016 12:31 - 43 minutes - 40 MBFlirting is a skill and just like any other, if you don't practice it regularly, you can get a little rusty. One of the first realizations for new swingers is that it’s probably been a long time since they've flirted with others and they often need to brush up on their moves. In this episode, we remind listeners of the basics of flirting. We walk through what a typical evening in a club is like for us and talk about our personal flirting styles. As always, we give practical tips and tech...
SD 28 Don’t swingers wear gold chains and polyester?
October 27, 2016 11:22 - 54 minutes - 49.8 MBNow, come on. The stereotype of the 70’s swingers is obviously, just not a reality anymore. In truth, as you might expect, swingers are actually very fashion savvy. After all, the whole reason swingers go out to parties and events is to meet new friends and make connections and we all know how important first impressions are. Inspired by many emails from listeners asking us about what to wear to a swinger’s party, in this episode we talk about all aspects of swingers’ fashion. From jeans t...
SD 27 What's it like to be in an orgy?
October 14, 2016 11:28 - 48 minutes - 44 MBThe idea of an orgy is one of the most common fantasies that lures newbies into the lifestyle and while it is true that the excitement of a pile of writhing naked skin really is as amazing as people imagine, like everything in the lifestyle, orgies have their advantages and disadvantages too. In this episode we discuss the difference between group sex and orgies. We also talk about our experiences in orgies and what we like and don’t like about them. We explore tips to make your experience...
SD 26 Really? You don't seem like swingers
September 30, 2016 11:29 - 58 minutes - 53.2 MBWe all have different faces that we use for various settings in our lives. We naturally change our styles and attitudes when we are at work, at church, at sporting events, in front of our kids, when we are relaxing with friends and even on lazy Sunday mornings. We all have many moods and many sides and for us, there is nothing more obvious than the difference between our “vanilla” personalities and our “swinger” personas. In this episode we describe each other's personalities in both setti...
SD 25 Do swingers really get to live out their fantasies?
September 15, 2016 13:06 - 47 minutes - 43.8 MBFantasies are a huge part of everyone's sex life and so many swingers get into the lifestyle to fulfill the fantasies they've developed through open conversation and pillow talk with their partner. In this episode we discuss how our fantasies developed and how we began to realize that in the lifestyle, because exciting fantasies are so frequently fulfilled, many swingers actually begin to develop a whole list of experiences they would like to have. Like many swingers we have really develo...
SD 24 What do you wish you knew when you were newbies?
August 31, 2016 11:26 - 42 minutes - 39 MBAs we say on just about all of our shows, one of the main reasons we started this podcast was to help curious, nervous newbies navigate their way into the wild, sexy, but daunting world of swinging, because we remember what it was like to be new, intimidated and very scared. In this episode, we look back at our original fears and apprehensions about the lifestyle and we explore the question; if we could go back and talk to the frightened, timid, vanilla couple that we were when we stumbled...
SD 23 Why do you tell your stories?
August 22, 2016 00:35 - 36 minutes - 33.7 MBAfter a long sabbatical Penn and Paige are back! In all honesty, when we said goodbye and signed off almost a year ago, we believed that was the permanent conclusion of our show but over the past few months a few unexpected things happened to us. First was the flood of kind sentiments of support sent to us by email and on social media sites, most of them thanking us for the difference we had made in peoples' lives and marriages. We had no idea how many people we had touched and we wer...
SD 22 Is swinging really a lifestyle?
August 22, 2016 00:13 - 49 minutes - 45.5 MBThe term “lifestyle" is so loosely used that lots of alternative interest groups claim to be in "The Lifestyle” but what does that mean? If swinging is a lifestyle, does it change the way you live? Does it change your attitudes about life and as a result can't it become all-consuming and addictive? In this episode we talk about the frequency of our swinging experiences and give some tips for avoiding burn out. We also reflect on how the swinging lifestyle has changed us for the better. Ou...
SD 21 Are all single guys in the lifestyle creepy?
August 22, 2016 00:02 - 44 minutes - 41.1 MBSingle men are a very complicated topic among swingers. Some couples are creeped out by them and avoid any contact and others specifically seek them out. Just like any other group of people, there are awesome single men and there are creeps in the lifestyle. Although there are tons of options available to couples for play with a single man, in our experience, single guys who are charming, sexy, respectful, honest, clean, and charismatic are the real "unicorns”. In this episode we discuss ...
SD 20 Isn’t there anything you don’t like about swinging?
August 21, 2016 23:55 - 1 hour - 56.9 MBTwenty episodes is a bit of a milestone for us. When we first began recording, we had no grand ambitions for our show, but we had information to pass on and so many fun memories that we wanted to share. Swinging has been an awesome adventure for us and we are proud to advocate for its joys and benefits but just like any activity, even our favorite hobby has annoyances and frustrations. We pride ourselves on offering listeners candid, honest, practical tips and advice about swinging so in ...
SD 19 We Gotta Swinger Diary Part 2
August 21, 2016 23:48 - 1 hour - 54.9 MBIf we could subtitle this episode in our usual style of inquiry, the question of this show would be: "How could it be that sharing your spouse with someone could possibly enhance your marriage?" Its hard to put into words a clear explanation to that question so we hope this show's account illustrates the answer. In the swinging lifestyle its rare for us to find a connection with another couple in which all four of us are attracted intellectually, physically and emotionally to each other bu...
SD 18 What’s a hotel takeover like?
August 21, 2016 23:41 - 53 minutes - 48.5 MBWe are back from Naughty in N'awlins 2015 and we have got some sexy stories to tell. This event created the first and largest collection of swinging lifestyle podcasters ever assembled in one place and it was awesome fun. In this episode we discuss hotel takeovers and give some specific examples of how the NiN convention was an epic one. One of the unique experiences that we had at the event was the connection made with fantastic new friends, Mr. and Mrs Jones from the We Gotta Thing Podc...
SD 17 Aren’t you worried that one of you will fall in love?
August 21, 2016 23:34 - 52 minutes - 47.7 MBLets be totally honest, if you are not in a rock solid committed relationship, then swinging is probably not right for you. Most swingers are so secure in their own relationships that they have no interest in more than just social friendships with anybody but their partner. In the swinging lifestyle, nobody is looking to take anybody else's spouse. We all love many people in our lives and that love doesn’t diminish our commitment to our life partner. We love our family, our job and even o...
SD 16 Have you ever been to a house party?
August 21, 2016 23:26 - 42 minutes - 39.3 MBInfamously, house parties are the most intense situation for play. They can be very intimidating but good house parties are often some of the most exciting experiences in the swinging lifestyle. In this episode we talk about tips and suggestions that will help insure that you select the right party for you and give advice on how to get comfortable with the potentially high-pressure situations that are part of the house party scene. In our sexy diary story we remember a great house party...
SD 15 Aren’t all swingers in to kinky sex?
August 21, 2016 23:21 - 45 minutes - 41.7 MBBack when we started swinging and everything was new and wild, we were easily intimidated, awed and even freaked out by some of the things we were exposed to and by some of the variety of sexual preferences that people seemed to enjoy. A new friend of ours once gave us some good advice to help encourage us to explore our interests. He told us… "Remember, its only kinky the first time.” As an alternative sexual lifestyle, most people would probably consider swinging to be kinky, and in a wa...
SD 14 Where should we go for our first lifestyle vacation?
August 21, 2016 23:13 - 55 minutes - 51.1 MBLike so many swingers, we started in this lifestyle by taking a chance and traveling to a distant, exotic location where we could just watch, learn and then eventually participate in the sexy fun. The experience was so amazing that we have returned many times and have had the pleasure of visiting most of the other lifestyle friendly resorts and events too. We travel often for sexy fun. In this episode we answer the most frequently asked question from our email and discuss our recommendatio...
SD 13 Do you really go on dates with other couples?
August 21, 2016 23:05 - 48 minutes - 44.8 MBInspired by questions from listeners about how we seemingly find so many awesome sexy people in our travels who become entries into our Swinger Diaries, on this episode we expose some of the truths about a few of our dating failures. After all, while we do go on dates with other couples, of all the ways to meet potential play partners, we have found that a two-on-two date is the least probable to end in a connection. Unfortunately, that high pressure situation is fraught with tension, o...
SD 12 Are swingers amazing lovers?
August 21, 2016 22:55 - 48 minutes - 44 MBWe all know that practice makes perfect and since swingers have lots of sex, it would be a reasonable assumption that they are amazing lovers. While this point is true for some swingers, just like any other skill, some are better than others. In this episode we discuss the skills and attitudes that make for a good lover. We also talk about the trickiness of having sex with new partners and the challenges and awkward situations which nervous excitement and distraction sometimes creates in t...
SD 11 Rules? What are your rules?
August 21, 2016 22:49 - 55 minutes - 50.6 MBIf you are curious about the swinging lifestyle and you do any research, the most common advice found in articles, blogs or podcasts is, “Before you do anything, make sure to discuss your rules.” So, what exactly are these rules? Is there a checklist somewhere? How do you go about discussing your rules if you don’t know where to start? Everybody has rules. The term “rules" is just a synonym for boundaries, limits or even preferences. In an effort to begin to explore the endless numbers of...
SD 10 Isn’t swinging really just cheating?
August 21, 2016 22:41 - 1 hour - 59 MBFlattered by messages and questions that we have received from our listeners, in this episode we answer one of our most frequently asked email inquiries. Many people wanted to know about the countless conversations and baby steps that moved us from being a faithful, conservative, monogamous couple who had never even fantasized about inviting others into our sex life, to becoming ... that dreaded "S-word". Like most swingers, there was no pivotal moment or monumental decision that marked ou...
SD 09 Aren’t you worried that God will punish you with and STD?
August 21, 2016 22:24 - 51 minutes - 47.1 MBPaige was not happy when the idea of these topics came up. Neither religion nor STIs are sexy conversation topics, but we know they are high on the list of curiosities and concerns when it comes to swinging. Originally, we had two separate topics, "Isn't swinging against your religion?" and "Aren't you worried about STDs?", but Paige protested having two separate episodes about such unsexy topics so we combined them into one show. As classic swingers, our views on these topics are more mai...
SD 08 So, you just have sex with anybody?
August 21, 2016 22:16 - 41 minutes - 37.9 MBMany people imagine that swingers are just indiscriminate sex-crazed maniacs who are only interested in random hookups and wild orgies and while sex is a big part of the swinging lifestyle, the truth is that all swingers are actually very selective about who they wish to share their bodies with. In this episode, we talk about how swinging is like dating for couples and just like in the dating scene, there are things that turn you on and turn you off about other people. Swingers are really...
SD 07 What’s a unicorn?
August 21, 2016 22:08 - 48 minutes - 44.2 MBThe fantasy of inviting a third person into your bed for sexy fun is the most common introduction into the swinging lifestyle. Usually this new playmate is a bisexual single woman to whom no commitments are expected other than carnal pleasure. In the swinging lifestyle these rare, desirable, beautiful, women are affectionately called unicorns. We've had the pleasure of play with many unicorns over the past few years and while every experience has been fun and sexy, threesomes have a tricky ...
SD 06 …but nobody knows that you’re swingers, right?
August 21, 2016 21:59 - 50 minutes - 45.8 MBIts so sad that we have to hide the fact that we are swingers, but we do. The vanilla world is not ready to see our sexy adventures for what they are, an extension of our fantastic, loving, consensual, adoring, marital sexlife. Instead, most people imagine that all swingers are sexually addicted cheaters, who are easy, kinky and perverted. With that untrue and unfair reputation, we have no choice but to do what the majority of other swingers do and hide our lifestyle from friends, family, a...
SD 05 Whats it like in a swinger club
August 20, 2016 20:02 - 50 minutes - 46.4 MBSwingers clubs are a wild combination of bar, nightclub and sex party. They are one of our favorite venues for a lifestyle evening adventure. Throughout our travels we have partied through hundreds of nights of exciting swingers club action and explored dozens of different clubs around the country. In this episode, we give tips and advice about what makes clubs so fun, how to find them, and what to expect when you visit. From what to bring, to what you'll find in the back rooms of an on-p...
SD 04 How can you get naked with other people?
August 20, 2016 19:55 - 48 minutes - 44.4 MBGetting naked in front of other people can be a terrifying idea. Everybody has body issues. Just the idea of letting others see us in our bathing suits is very intimidating. Getting naked around others is like the insecurity of slipping off your shirt on the very first day of summer at the beach... times a hundred. At its core, swinging is about sex and when you have sex, you're going to be naked. That fact alone is a roadblock that sadly takes this amazing adventure off the table for som...
SD 03 Don’t you get jealous?
August 20, 2016 19:47 - 48 minutes - 44.2 MBThis episode discusses the most problematic issue in the swinging lifestyle for new and experienced swingers alike... Jealousy. We discuss the most common progression of experiences among swingers and the importance of taking each step cautiously and slowly using "baby steps" to help control potential jealousy. We don't have all the answers, but using our years of swinging experience, we also talk about other techniques and hints that we have found to be especially helpful in limiting and...
SD 02 Where do you meet other swingers?
August 20, 2016 19:39 - 40 minutes - 18.4 MBIn this episode, we discuss the next of the most common questions that we imagine people would ask if they found out that we are swingers and talk about meeting couples at online dating sites, parties, clubs and lifestyle resorts. Our diary entry this time is about how we met a particularly sexy couple and the fun play session that we all enjoyed on a rooftop bed at Desire.
SD 01 Why do you do it?
August 20, 2016 13:45 - 42 minutes - 19.4 MBIn our first episode we, Penn and Paige, explain our motivation for this podcast and answer the first of our questions. In this show, we explain how the Lifestyle has enriched our lives and enhanced our marriage. As in all of our episodes, we make a story entry in to our diary. This one is about an unexpected anonymous experience in the Swinger’s Cruise playroom.