The One Thing: There's More Than One Thing (Words & Tools) – Paul D. Lowe & Lisa Jayne

Paul is joined for the final part of a five-part series by Lisa Jayne, an Australian educator, mentor, speaker and writer to talk about the final part of her book, ‘The Emotionally Powerful Mother’. They discuss some of the techniques that can be used to love yourself rather than looking for love from others.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

When we become more emotionally aware and we’re more in tune with our emotions we can see that perhaps the one thing that lies at the source of our problems is the fact that we’ve separated from our truest, most empowered state. We’ve walked away from us in order to find love, feel secure, please others, out of obligation to feel OK about ourselves. 
I’ve had the greatest success in feeling peace and joy in my life when I’m paying attention to how I feel, and when I see that it’s that part of me that’s looking for somebody to make me feel loved and secure I recognise it’s my inner child wanting to meet it’s own needs and I’m connected to her now where I invite that part of me to come and see me now and I will feel love for her and embrace her in my imagination. I’m often doing that while I’m interacting in my life.
If someone did something to hurt me or was really unjust, I learned that I really needed to diffuse the emotional charge before talking about it. I’d walk away and take some time, ring up a friend and talk to them about how I feel, go for a walk/run, write, validate you feelings, etc. Then I’m ready to have a look at why I’m feeling what I’m feeling and try to talk to someone about it.
Certain words need to be changed so there’s an awareness of intention behind them: “Worry” goes nowhere and is an endless cycle. “Concern” is a better word to use because it implies there’s something you need to look at, but there is a solution. I used the term “activated” rather than “triggered”, that’s like a gun that causes death, I’d much rather activate a part of myself so I can see where I’m talking back my power.

BEST MOMENTS

‘I realised at one point that it wasn’t me walking into the relationship with my first partner, it was the little girl in me that wanted to feel loved and secure.’

‘I give myself what I’m looking for from other people, if I can do that first I’m less likely to try to create it externally which often doesn’t end up well.’

‘When you actively love the essence of who you are it amplifies and you can feel your whole body respond. It’s a really wonderful feeling.’

‘It’s very easy to be self-critical and hard on ourselves. We are learning how to be in a relationship with ourselves and others in a really healthy and empowering way.’

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272

Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272

Mastering The Game Of Life Book (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679

Mastering The Game Of Life Book (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679

Speaking From Our Hearts Books: Volumes 1-3 (Available on Amazon)
World Game-Changers Group

ABOUT THE GUEST

Lisa Jayne is a tertiary-trained Educator, Speaker and Author whose professional interest lies in making it easier for mothers to raise courageous self-empowered 21st century daughters. 

Her book “The Emotionally Powerful Mother” provides 5 vital keys for a transformative mother-daughter relationship that works to create a new culture around girls – one that keeps them emotionally safe, deeply connected and empowers them both.

Lisa facilitates online masterclasses, workshops and retreats for mothers and daughters and offers a 5-week immersive program for mothers to implement the 5 keys into their everyday life for great success.  With two daughters, Lisa’s work is both practical and current, and teaches emotional skills for life.
https://www.iamlisajayne.com/ 

ABOUT THE HOST

Paul has made a remarkable transformation from existing for many years in dark, desperate despair; to now living a really healthy, happy and fulfilling life.

From an early age, he was in the vice-like clutches of the demon drink and constantly embroiled within a dark cocktail of toxic beliefs, self-hate and destructive violence.

Along with his empathetic and dedicated team of world-class coaches and mentors, Paul’s purpose is deeply transformational:

Developing World Game-Changers…

He is extremely passionate about helping others to find their purpose, have a voice and ultimately, make a real difference.  

This has been built on a long and distinguished history of heart-centred coaching and mentoring.  He has also been responsible for raising significant amounts of funds for many charities and good causes around the world; positively impacting and inspiring thousands of children – mainly from challenging backgrounds – within the UK & worldwide.

Through this World Game-Changers podcast and books, he has been involved in – including being a best-selling co-author – Paul also helps others to get their own inspirational messages and stories out into the world; as well as offering support to many charitable organisations, in their development & fund-raising.

CONTACT METHODS

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