Turning Endings Into New Beginnings: 5 Break Up Lessons With Janice Formichella

Are you struggling to move forward? Or are you still in communication with your ex? Maybe you've found yourself in the position of being an option or, worse, a backup plan. Today, we dive into the dynamic world of the “No Contact Rule,” a radical self-care move that empowers you to break free. Breakups happen to all of us, even breakup coaches. This week, we’re joined by Janice Formichella, a seasoned breakup coach and host of the podcast “Breakups, Broken Hearts, and Moving On.” Get ready as Janice shares her 5 Breakup Lessons, hidden truths behind breakups, and why breaking the chains is your ticket to a brighter future. If heartache has you in its grip – you're exactly where you need to be. Tune in for insights, inspiration, and the roadmap to mending that broken heart. I’m Kerry Brett, and Shot@Love starts now.

Janice Formichella is a breakup coach passionate about helping people from all backgrounds beat their breakup, overcome loneliness, and make the end of a relationship the start of a powerful new beginning. Today, she shares 5 Break Up Lessons from her life. Why healing is a roller coaster, why the no contact rule is your secret weapon, how routines help, and why you should keep the details of the breakup on a need-to-know basis. 

Kerry Brett and Janice Formichella cover a lot of ground – topics, including;

Janice’s Journey to Helping Others with Breakups:

Janice's personal experience led her to help others navigate breakups.
·      Emphasize that breakup pain can be eased and the process shortened.
·      Importance of Giving Yourself Grace
·      Acknowledge the difficulty of the initial weeks after a breakup.
·      Taking time off is crucial for self-care during this challenging period.

Lesson 1: Acknowledging the Loss:
·      Losing something that isn't good for you can still hurt.
·      Breakups occur for a reason; it's essential to acknowledge this fact.

 Lesson 2: Keeping Positivity from Past Relationships:
·      Recognize and retain positive aspects from past relationships.·      Janice's affirmations and routines helped maintain self-esteem.

 Lesson 3: Letting Go of Hurtful Words:
·      Discard hurtful words spoken in moments of pain and anger.

 Lesson 4: Dealing with Negative Emotions:
·      Breakups bring out anger, disappointment, and regret.
·      Avoid self-destructive behavior and cope positively with emotions.
·      Journaling and expressing emotions creatively can help.

 Lesson 5: Setting Boundaries and Moving Forward:
·      After a breakup, staying friends or continuing favors is unnecessary.
·      Setting boundaries and focusing on self-care is crucial.

 The No Contact Rule:
·      After clarity on reasons for the breakup, begin the No Contact Rule.
·      Journal about the qualities of a new partner or write a letter to your future self.
·      No Contact helps create space for a new future.

 Leaving the Past Behind:
·      Avoid engaging in discussions about the breakup or damage control.
·      Care less about others' opinions and focus on moving forward.

 Avoiding Revisiting Old Memories:
·      Don't dwell on old memories or hypothetical scenarios.
·      Delete or archive old text messages, screenshots, and block numbers.
·      Emphasize the importance of self-love and acceptance.

To learn more about Janice Formichella, follow her on Instagram @janiceformichella and tune into her podcast Breakups, Broken Hearts and Moving on all platforms.