Addicts are Emotionally Undeveloped Adults with Dr. Eddie Capparuccii - Part 1

Dr. Eddie Capparucciis the creator of the unique Inner Child Model for the treatment of Problematic Sexual Behaviors. He believes at the heart of most Problematic Sexual Behaviors are unresolved childhood pain points. Dr. Eddie specializes in treating Problematic Sexual Behaviors including pornography. Among his many clients, they have been professional athletes including NFL and MLB players and television personalities. In this episode, Dr. Eddie explains why sex addicts are really emotionally undeveloped adults, and how they can break old patterns and build intimacy.

 

TAKEAWAYS:

[1:55] A little bit about Dr. Eddie Capparucci.

[3:20] Trauma plays a major part in addiction. 

[5:10] Sex addiction goes further than just sex. Men with this issue are emotionally undeveloped. 

[6:10] Addicts aren’t bad people, they’re broken people. 

[6:20] Are therapists just making bad excuses for an addict's poor behavior? 

[9:10] My addict is sober, but they’re still a jerk. What’s going on? 

[11:25] What do you call someone who cheats? Are they considered ill? 

[15:00] Addicts are used to running away from their pain and they will take whatever distraction presents itself. 

[16:55] How can you help an addict take accountability? 

[17:50] Someone struggling with addiction needs to begin to think about their legacy and to tap into a bigger purpose.  

[20:00] What happens if someone is just not motivated to get better? 

[22:45] Dr. Eddie shares how he works with betrayed spouses who feel unlistened to. 

[25:50] Emotional intimacy vs. physical intimacy. What’s the difference? 

[28:15] So many people aren’t taught what emotional intimacy is.

[30:40] Dr. Eddie understands he has an avoidant attachment style. But, by understanding his childhood, this makes perfect sense! 

[32:30] At the end of the day, Dr. Rob and Dr. Eddie are here to help people break patterns and build intimacy. 

 

RESOURCES:

Sex and Relationship Healing

@RobWeissMSW

Sex Addiction 101 

Seeking Integrity

Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men 

Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency

Abundantlifecounselingga.com

Dr. Eddie on LinkedIn

 

QUOTES:

“What do I get? I get very frightened and scared people who can’t sit with pain and have found a coping mechanism of escaping.”
“The addiction isn’t the only piece. It’s the whole presentation that you’ve been giving to the world.”
“People who deal with addiction do not know how to sit with emotional discomfort or distress.”
“I can tell you all the ways I’m a jerk, but learning how to be different is more of a commitment.”