SL 365 | Day 46 | "Hand me that Self-Love over there, would ya?"

There's nothing more important in a healthy self-love practice than regular intimacy with ourselves. Just as you would establish and foster a time & place for intimacy in a loving relationship with another person, you can also foster intimacy with yourself. This is both a physical act (acquiring tools and storing them lovingly) and a mindset shift; namely, replacing shame & secrecy around self-touch with specialness, joy, and curiosity. Do a bedside table (or drawer/shelf) makeover... What does your bedside table say about your desire for intimacy? Is it full of dirty tissues & old chapsticks you no longer use...? Or is it clean, neat, organized, attractive, and filled with the things that foster rest & pleasure? If not the latter, ask yourself why that is the case. Do the mental work first, and then setting up the physical space will become more ease-full. Alternatively, go ahead and set up your physical space to support self-intimacy and then, in the appreciation and, frankly, in the convenience, your mindset will shift over time. The secret is out: most adults pleasure themselves on a regular basis. Let's stop hiding it, and showcase our toolkit--or, at the very least--honor it and place it appropriately & lovingly nearby the place where this intimacy happens.