SL 365 | Day 21 | "You're in Charge of Your Own Self-Love"

Here's a secret: if you're not the person with the final say over your life, your body, your future, your health & wellbeing...then, you're not the person with the final say over whether you love yourself or not. Autonomy is a non-negotiable in the practice of self-love. If you're looking to someone else to make decisions or to tell you what to do, then you're going to be asking them whether or not it's appropriate for you to love yourself. And guess what? They're going to answer, "Sure, right after you love me first!"  This dynamic will not make for a healthy or even sustainable, let alone enjoyable, self-love practice. Autonomy isn't something we are given; we must claim it. You might need to make a grand gesture, or you might just need to start setting healthy boundaries and remaining firm on them. Tap into the resources you DO have and use them in your quest for true autonomy. Only when we are fully in charge of our self, can we fully love our self.