Part 2 of 3: Bus Driver - You Should be in Control, Not your Emotions

In the bus of your life, which one would you rather be? A driver or a passenger? Many people are passengers on their bus. Only few people are driving the bus and are in control.

 

In the last episode, we talked about how to get out of the middle of the road and get on the sidewalk with three techniques of breathing, grounding and physical awareness. Today, we're going to be discussing how to become the bus driver of your life, instead of a passenger on the bus.

 

Imagination Time

 

Imagine a bus that's full of passengers and a bus driver. The passengers on this bus are your emotions and the bus driver is you.

 

Who's driving the bus? Is it you or is it one of your emotions? 9 times out of 10 it's an emotion.

 

When we lack the ability to calm our mind and listen to our emotions, they tend to take over our buses and drive to whatever destination or whatever route they want, regardless of you and what you want.

 

All emotions are valid. If you're ignoring what is going on, they're going to become stronger and louder.

 

Let's discuss the monster under the bed versus the stranger coming into your window. Think about your four-year old even if you don't have one.

 

When they come out of the room and they tell you there's a monster under their bed. Do you believe there's a monster under their bed? No. You calm down the child. Maybe you check under the bed for them and then you send them back to bed.

 

Imagine the same four-year old comes out and tells you someone is wiggling their window. Is it possible someone could be trying to break into your house?

 

Life is full of ‘monsters under the bed’ fears and ‘strangers breaking into my window’ fears.

 

If you don't know how to identify which is which, then you will react to all fears the same way.

 

How to Identify Fear

 

Listen to what your emotions have to say.

 

Emotions have a point, they exist for a reason. We'll keep going with the fear theme.

 

Fears point is to keep you safe. That's all it wants to do. Anything even slightly outside your comfort zone will send it into panic mode.

 

Think of the four-year old child. The child will respond to the monster under the bed the same as someone wiggling their window.

 

You have to know the difference of which fear it's worth looking into and which is worth just soothing the four-year old and putting him back to bed.

 

We want to get to the point of being able to recognize which is which, so we can respond appropriately.

 

How you respond is key. When you listen and respond to your emotions, your emotions feel that they are least being heard, and will continue to let you drive the bus without a full blown coup.

 

What Happens When You Start Listening to Your Emotions Versus Just Trying to Ignore Them.

 

They become less monsters in your head and heart.

 

They become what they simply are: an emotion.

 

Emotions are temporary. They're only here for a time and then they move on.

 

Some cars drive slower than others, but they do move. Imagine yourself driving a bus and fear has something it wants to say. Instead of freaking out and just letting it take the wheel, you ask it to sit up next to you in the passenger’s seat.

 

Your emotion is allowed to tell you what is going on. It is here you get to decide the next steps. Does this fear need further investigation or action like a stranger coming through your child's window?

 

Or is it a false alarm like the monster under the bed and it just needs to be soothed made to understand that you've heard it, but you know better and that will be moving forward.

 

Either way you get to make the decision, not the emotion.

 

Practice the techniques from episode one and then also start incorporating listening to what your emotion is trying to say.

 

All that's on that bus is different versions of you just trying to give you input. If you can learn to hear what they have to say, you can make better decisions on where to take that bus. What routes to take that bus. How fast or slow to drive that bus. When to drive that bus and when to stop and slow down.

 

All of it is just feedback and you can learn that your emotions are friendly tools that you can use to better understand yourself and how you are reacting to the world.

 

When you're armed with that type of information, you can make more empowering decisions.

 

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TRANSCRIPT BELOW

 

Welcome to Rich in Differences, I'm your hostess with the mostess, Brooke.

Hey pop tarts, hope you had a wonderful week and I'm back again to do part two of our series on emotional handling.

So, last episode, we talked about how to get out of the middle of the road and get on the sidewalk with three techniques of breathing, grounding and physical awareness. So, today, we're going to be discussing how to become the bus driver of your life, instead of a passenger on the bus.

Here we go again, with this imagination. Imagine a bus that's full of passengers and a bus driver, the passengers on this bus are your emotions and the bus driver is you.

Now, I want you to see who's driving the bus, is it you or is it one of your emotions? Nine times out of ten, it's an emotion. When we lack the ability to calm our mind and listen to our emotions, they tend to take over our buses, and drive to whatever destination on whatever route they want, regardless of you, and what you want.

So, all emotions are valid and if you're ignoring what is going on, they're going to become so strong that they will take you over.

Let's discuss the monster under the bed versus the stranger coming into your window. Think about your four-year-old, even if you don't have one or want one. And they come out of the room and they tell you there's a monster under their bed.

Do you believe there's a monster under their bed? No. You calm down the child, maybe you check under the bed for them and then you send them back to bed.

Now, imagine the same four-year-old comes out and tells you someone is wiggling their window. Is it possible someone could be trying to break into your house? Oh yeah, there is. So, a real fear is started.

Life is full of monsters under the bed fears and strangers breaking into my window fears. If you don't know how to identify which is which then you will react to all fears the same way. Alright, so what do you do? You listen to what your emotions have to say. Emotions have a point, they exist for a reason.

So, we'll keep going with the fear theme. The first point is to keep you safe, that's all it wants to do. Anything even slightly outside your comfort zone will send it into panic mode. Think of the four-year-old child, the child will respond to the monster under the bed the same as someone wiggling their window. But you have to know the difference, which fear it's worth looking into? And which is worth just soothing the four-year-old and putting him back to bed?

So, we want to get to the point of being able to recognize which is which, so we can respond appropriately. But that is the key: how you respond. When you listen and respond to your emotions, your emotions feel that they are least being heard, and will continue to let you drive the bus without a full-on coup.

So, what happens when you start listening to your emotions versus just trying to ignore them? They become less monsters in your head and heart, they become what they simply are, an emotion. Like in episode one, the emotion will drive on by, emotions are temporary, they're only here for a time and then they move on. Some cars drive slower than others, but they do move. So, imagine yourself driving a bus and fear has something it wants to say? Instead of freaking out and just letting it take the wheel, you ask it to sit up next to you in that seat that is like just behind the driver but to the right. You know, which one I'm talking about. Here, your emotion is allowed to tell you what is going on. And it is here you get to decide the next steps. Does this fear need further investigation or action, like a stranger coming through your child's window? Or is it a false alarm, like the monster under the bed? And it just needs to be soothed, made to understand that you've heard it, but you know better and that we will be moving forward.

Either way you get to make the decision, not the emotion. So, practice the techniques from episode one and then also start incorporating listening to what your emotion is trying to say.

Really, all that's on that bus is different versions of you, just trying to give you input. If you can learn to hear what they have to say, you can make better decisions on where to take that bus, what routes to take that bus, how fast, how slow to drive that bus, when to drive that bus, when to stop and slow down, all of it is just feedback. And you can learn that your emotions are friendly tools that you can use to better understand yourself and how you are reacting to the world. And when you're armed with that type of information, you can make more empowering decisions.

In the next episode of this three-part series, we will be discussing the last part of emotional handling and that is talking to another person and the importance of getting some outside feedback.

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