Relationships and Relationshits
110 episodes - English - Latest episode: 3 months ago -We discuss anything related to relationships and dating. We go into great detail covering attachment styles, which is also known as attachment theory. We cover the attachment styles known as the secure attachment style, the preoccupied attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, and the fearful avoidant attachment style which is also known as the disorganized attachment style.
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What is an anxious attachment style?
February 07, 2024 14:00 - 13 minutes - 13.5 MBWhat is an anxious attachment style? That is the question I'm answering today. We take a deep dive into the preoccupied anxious attachment style. I go over protest behaviors, activating strategies, some tips for dating as an anxious person, some history of how people become anxious. If you don't know your attachment style there is a link below to help. https://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl Option 2: https://pds.idevaffiliate.com/151.html
AITA: Boy or Girl and Bridesmaids drama
January 31, 2024 14:00 - 7 minutes - 7.58 MBAm I the asshole subreddit is the topic today. I go over a woman who doesn't want her husband to know the sex of their baby because he doesn't show up for any doctors appointments. The other story is a difficult bridesmaid who doesn't want to wear her bridesmaid dress.
AITA: Living in sin and I don't want to be the babysitter
January 17, 2024 14:00 - 12 minutes - 12.1 MBWe are going over two Am I the Asshole subreddits. We will discuss a few adult children having to deal with difficult situations with their parents.
New Year New attachment styles goals
January 03, 2024 14:00 - 12 minutes - 12.7 MBWe are going over two subreddits about the attachment styles. Or attachment theory as some know it. We discuss every attachment style; the fearful avoidant attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the secure attachment style, and the dismissive avoidant attachment style.
What are Attachment Styles?
October 25, 2023 13:00 - 17 minutes - 17.4 MBWe are going over the four attachment styles. We are going over the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the disimissive avoidant attachment style, the fearful avoidant attachment style, and the secure attachment style. Attached Book: https://amzn.to/3XYqMLX Avoidant Book: https://amzn.to/3Dlaovs Attachment Quiz 1: https://pds.idevaffiliate.com/151.html Attachment Quiz 2: https://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl
What are Attachment Styles?
October 25, 2023 13:00 - 17 minutes - 17.4 MBWe are going over the four attachment styles. We are going over the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the disimissive avoidant attachment style, the fearful avoidant attachment style, and the secure attachment style. Attached Book: https://amzn.to/3XYqMLX Avoidant Book: https://amzn.to/3Dlaovs Attachment Quiz 1: https://pds.idevaffiliate.com/151.html Attachment Quiz 2: https://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl
Attachment Style and relationships and minding your own business
October 18, 2023 13:00 - 16 minutes - 15.9 MBWe are talking about questions from Reddit. The first subreddit talks about someone discussing relationships and attachment styles. And the second one is Am I The Asshole subreddit.
Attachment Styles and Dating Tips
October 11, 2023 13:00 - 17 minutes - 17.4 MBWe are talking about attachment styles and dating. I'm going to give you some dating tips I've learned from experience to help you identify someone's attachment style quicker. This way you can figure out if they are a secure attachment style, an anxious attachment style, a dismissive avoidant attachment style, or a fearful avoidant attachment style. And then you can figure out faster if you want to keept that relationship going.
Karen mom and an anxious attached man makes improvement
October 04, 2023 18:55 - 15 minutes - 15.4 MBToday we are talking about a guy who is improving his anxious attachment style when his girlfriend goes out with her friends. And we are asking if a woman who told another parent to fuck off, is she the asshole? Attachment Quiz Option 1: https://pds.idevaffiliate.com/151.html Attachment Quiz Option 2: http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.p Better Help Online Therapy Discount: https://betterhelp.com/relationshipattachments This links are affiliates.
Attachment styles and the holidays
September 27, 2023 13:00 - 10 minutes - 10.6 MBI am discussing attachment styles during holidays or significant events. The main focus will be on the avoidant attachment style. They tend to not like significant events and their attachment system may become triggered. I will also discuss the anxious attachment style. Attachment Quiz 1: https://pds.idevaffiliate.com/151.html Attachment Quiz 2: https://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl Attached Book: https://amzn.to/3XYqMLX Avoidant Book: https://amzn.to/3Dlaovs...
AITA: Naan drama and sloppy seconds
September 20, 2023 13:00 - 8 minutes - 9.17 MBAm I The Asshole today covers naan bread drama and sloppy seconds. A boyfriend has special rules for his girlfriend with them sharing naan bread. And two sisters having drama due to having dated the same guy. Who will be the asshole?
Managing my anxiety when they need space
September 13, 2023 13:00 - 10 minutes - 10.4 MBThis episode covers two Reddit questions from the anxious attachment style subreddit. Attachment Style Quiz Option 1: https://pds.idevaffiliate.com/151.html Attachment Style Quiz Option 2: https://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl Better Help Online Therapy Discount: https://betterhelp.com/relationshipattachments Attached Book: https://amzn.to/3XYqMLX Avoidant Book: https://amzn.to/3Dlaovs
An avoidant anxious relationship
September 06, 2023 13:00 - 11 minutes - 11.9 MBIn this episode we discuss the anxious avoidant trap. This is a challenging relationship where you have an anxious attachmen style in a relationship with an avoidant attachment style. This relationship tends to be long and dysfunctional. The anxious attachment style person wants closeness and intimacy. The avoidant wants space and is uncomfortable with intimacy. The anxious attachment style has learned to calm down their attachment system by being cloeser to their partner. The avoidant attac...
Anyone have experience becoming more secure?
August 30, 2023 13:00 - 13 minutes - 13.1 MBA subreddit asks if anyone has had success becoming more of a secure attachment style. I read the question and some comments of some who have had some success become more of a secure attachment style. One of the key things for single people is to choose a partner who doesn't trigger your attachment style. The comments are coming from those with a preoccupied anxious attachment style. If you don't know your strongest attachment style I have two attachment style quizzes to help you out. The...
Attachment Styles Strange Situation Test
August 09, 2023 13:00 - 12 minutes - 12.2 MBI am discussing the Strange Situation Text used to group peole into four attachment styles. The strange situation test is a widely used experimental procedure in developmental psychology to assess attachment patterns between infants or young children and their primary caregivers. The children were aged 12 to 24 months. The main objective of the strange situation test is to observe and understand how children react to brief separations from and reunions with their caregivers in a controlled...
An anxious attachment style person overthinking texting
August 08, 2023 13:00 - 8 minutes - 8.5 MBA question from a anxoius attachment style subreddit. It says. I've just started seeing someone new. We're just a couple of dates in, but on the surface it's going great. We get on crazily well, I'm really attracted to her and things have already gotten physical. This isn't my first rodeo though and unsurprisingly considering my broken picker, I'm seeing some serious red flags. I'm already picking up on mixed signals and there's signs she has patterns of emotional unavailability. Afte...
Can two avoidant attached people have a relationship?
August 07, 2023 13:00 - 7 minutes - 7.99 MBIn this subreddit we have a couple who are a fearful avoidant and a dismissive avoidant originally but have been moving towards becoming a secure attachment style. But during a situation the dismissive avoidants responds how an avoidant would. The other person responds correctly due to her attachment style work. The question asked was. What healing looks like for two insecurely attached partners actively working towards security. As a fearful avoidant who leans anxious attachment style, ...
Attachment Style history
August 02, 2023 13:00 - 9 minutes - 9.72 MBToday I'm going over the history of attachment styles. If you are like me you'd like to know about the history of the things you learn. I go over the beginnings of attachment theory and talk about the pioneers, John Bowlby, Mary Ainsworth, and Mary Main. If you don't if your strongest attachment style is the secure attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, or the fearful avoidant, also known as the disorganized attachment style, ...
A Fearful Avoidant asks “How much time is too much time with someone new?”
August 01, 2023 13:00 - 3 minutes - 4.62 MBIn this question from the avoidant attachment subreddit a fearful avoidant, also known as a disorganized attachment style person, is wondering how much time is too much time when starting to date someone new. The person believes they are dating an anxious attachment style person. And that person already wants to spend hours with the fearful avoidant person, which of course can scare off an avoidant attachment style person real quick. If you don't know if your strongest attachment style is...
No contact from a dismissive avoidant but I need my shoes back
July 31, 2023 13:00 - 7 minutes - 7.93 MBI am reading from a anxious attachment style subreddit in which a woman is breaking no contact because she needs her shoes back from her ex. Anytime you break no contact you risk more issues. If you don't know if your strongest attachment style is the secure attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, or the fearful avoidant, also known as the disorganized attachment style I have two links to help you out. The first link is a qui...
Common Avoidant Attachment Style Traits
July 26, 2023 13:00 - 10 minutes - 10.3 MBI am discussing the common avoidant attachment style traits. This can help you in the dating world and also if you are already in a relationship with an avoidant. Or it can help the avoidant attachment style person identify the things they may do that can harm a relationship. These traits are coming from the authors of the book Attached and some of my own findings. If you don't know if your strongest attachment style is the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the secure attachment style...
Avoidant attachment frustrations with lack of community
July 25, 2023 13:00 - 4 minutes - 5.04 MBWe are discussing an avoidant subreddit today. The avoidant attachment style person is frustrated by the lack of community. I go into why that is. If you don't know if your strongest attachment style is the secure attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, or the fearful avoidant attachment styles, also known as the disorganized attachment style I have 2 links to help you find that out. The first one is quick and has some classes t...
An avoidant attachment boyfriend needs a break
July 24, 2023 13:00 - 9 minutes - 9.66 MBI am discussing a question from an anxious attachment style subreddit. The anxious attachment style person is having issues with their avoidant attachment style leaning boyfriend wanting to have a long relationship break without communication. She says he is mostly a secure attachment style but his actions don't point that way. If a break in needed in a relationship one person shouldn't dictate all of the boundaries. If you don't know if your strongest attachment style is the preoccupied a...
Text from the Ex
July 19, 2023 13:00 - 33 minutes - 32.1 MBI got a text from an ex. And I'm sharing some of my story and throwing in some attachment styles knowledge in between.
My anxious attachment ways dictating my relationship
July 17, 2023 13:00 - 7 minutes - 8 MBTodays Reddit subreddit we discuss an anxious attachment person struggling wiht their anxious ways dictating their life. If you don't know your strongest attachment style is the secure attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, or the fearful avoidant attachment style, also known as the disorganized attachment style I have a quiz below to help you figure that out. http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl Attached...
Common Anxious Attachment Style traits
July 12, 2023 13:00 - 8 minutes - 8.46 MBWe are discussing eleven common things a preoccupied anxious attachment may do. If you don't know your attachment style I have a link below. This way you can see if your strongest attachment style is the secure attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, or the fearful avoidant attachment style, also known as the disorganized attachment style. Attachment quiz: http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl "Attached" book...
A dismissive avoidants struggle
July 11, 2023 13:00 - 5 minutes - 6.09 MBThe podcast episode goes over an avoidant attachment style subreddit question about how to fix the avoidants struggle in relationships. This dismissive avoidant does not miss his partner when she is gone and he isn't good about hiding it. If you don't know if the secure attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, or the fearful avoidant, also known as the disorganized attachment style is your strongest attachment style. I have an atta...
Protest behavior talk from an anxious attachment style
July 10, 2023 13:00 - 5 minutes - 6.46 MBToday's subreddit comes from an anxious attachment style subreddit. The person discusses protest behaviors. I go over the common protest behaviors that the anxious attachment person may do in a relationship. I go over attachment styles in the podcast. I talk about the secure attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, and the fearful avoidant attachment style, also known as the disorganized attachment style. "Attached" book: ...
Limerence and the anxious attachment style
July 05, 2023 13:00 - 20 minutes - 19.8 MBWe are talking about limerence and the anxious attachment style. Limerence and the anxious attachment style have a lot of similarities. If you don't know whether you are a secure attachment style, an anxious attachment style, a dismissive avoidant attachment style, or a fearful avoidant attachment style, which is also known as the disorganized attachment style, here is a link to help you out. http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl
Dating tips from a former fearful avoidant
July 04, 2023 13:00 - 7 minutes - 8.05 MBIn this subreddit episode we go over dating tips that were given by a former fearful avoidant attachment style, also known as a disorganized attachment style. This person is currently a secure attachment style but was a fearful attachment style before therapy and some work. This person goes over how to spot a dismissive avoidant and a fearful avoidant while dating. Attachment styles knowledge is a good way to improve your chances of figuring out people's attachment styles quicker making it b...
Lack of sex for the anxious attachment person
July 03, 2023 13:00 - 9 minutes - 9.62 MBA subreddit about a relationship in which sex is becoming distant and the anxious attachment style person is getting triggered. This anxious attachment style person is asking for help on how not to feel like something is wrong in the relationship. If you don't know whether you are an anxious attachment style, a dismissive avoidant attachment style, a secure attachment style, or a fearful avoidant attachment style, also known as a disorganzied attachment style I have a link to help you out....
How do you make the anxious avoidant relationship work?
June 28, 2023 13:00 - 7 minutes - 8.29 MBHow do you make the anxious avoidant relationship work? We talk about tips on how to make a relationship work with a preocupied anxious attachment person and an avoidant attachment style.
The intimidating avoidant attachment style
June 27, 2023 13:00 - 5 minutes - 6.13 MBWe are discussing a subreddit in which an avoidant attached person keeps being called intimidating by men she is dating. The avoidant is asking for help.
An anxious attachment person who is happy but still anxious in a relationship
June 26, 2023 13:00 - 5 minutes - 5.72 MBThis episode goes over a Reddit subreddit in which an anxious attachment style person is happy in a relationship but is still anxious. And they worked on their anxiouis attachment style while single for 5 years.
Secure attachment style core wounds and needs
June 21, 2023 13:00 - 5 minutes - 5.97 MBI discuss the secure attachment style core wounds and needs. The last several weeks I covered this topic for the fearful avoidant, the dismissive avoidant, and preoccupied anxious attachment style.
Anxious person needs the boyfriend response and do avoidants want kids
June 19, 2023 13:00 - 7 minutes - 7.57 MBWe discuss subreddits about an anxious attachmen style person needing her boyfriend for help with soothing. And someone asks if avoidant attachment people want kids less than the othe attachment styles.
Needs of the Fearful Avoidant
June 14, 2023 13:00 - 10 minutes - 10.5 MBWe are talking about the fearful avoidant. This attachment style is also known as the disorganized attachment style. We will discuss the needs, characteristics, emotional patterns and a few other things for the disorganized attachment/fearful avoidant.
Anxious attachment social media stalking and a dismissive avoidant deactivating strategy
June 12, 2023 13:44 - 12 minutes - 12.8 MBWe are talking about an anxious attachment style person struggling with the ex getting married. She discovered this on Reddit. And we are talking about a dismissive avoidant attachment style who has a deactivating strategy that keeps making him feel trapped in the relationship. In this podcast we talk about the secure attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, and the fearful avoidant attachment style, also known as the disorganized ...
Anxious attachment style needs, boundaries, and core wounds
June 07, 2023 13:00 - 11 minutes - 11.4 MBWe are going over anxious attachment style needs, boundaries, core wounds, emotional patterns, and a few other things. The anxious attachment style usually grew up with inconsistency. You will see how that inconsistency leads to the core wounds here.
Love letter to the anxious attachment and a fearful avoidant moving in with their partner
June 05, 2023 13:00 - 10 minutes - 10.3 MBAn anxious attachment style person writes a letter to fellow anxious attachment style people. And a fearful avoidant/disorganized attachment struggles with the thought of moving in with their secure attachment style partner.
Attachment styles in relationships explained: Dismissive needs, boundaries, and coping mechanisms
May 31, 2023 13:00 - 11 minutes - 11.1 MBAttachment styles in relationships explained for the dismissive avoidant attachment style is the topic today. We discuss the needs, boundaries, coping mechanisms, characteristics of the dismissive avoidant when it comes to relationships.
Reddit stories: When should I mention my anxious attachment style and anxious situationship struggles.
May 29, 2023 13:00 - 10 minutes - 10.4 MBWe answer two Reddit subreddits on attachmen styles. When should you mention your anxious attachment style to the person you are dating is the first question. The second question we answer is in relation to anxious attachment struggles in a situationship.
4 attachment styles explained
May 24, 2023 13:00 - 17 minutes - 17.3 MBWe are explaining the 4 attachment styles. The 4 attachment styles are the secure attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, and the fearful avoidant attachment style, which is also known as the disorganized attachment style. We will explain each of the 4 attachment styles when it comes to relationships. 4 attachment styles explained is a topic that will give you a beginning foundation of all things related to attachment styles.
Reddit relationship advice: Situationship boundaries and the beginnings of an anxious avoidant trap
May 22, 2023 13:00 - 12 minutes - 12.3 MBI am giving relationship advice from two Reddit subreddits. I will be discussing boundaries, or lack of and an anxious avoidant trap in the early stages. These subreddits will cover all four attachment styles, the secure attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, and the fearful avoidant attachment style, which is also known as the disorganized attachment style.
Avoidant Attachment Style Boundaries
May 17, 2023 14:54 - 5 minutes - 5.88 MBWe are talking about the dismissive avoidant attachment style and the fearful avoidant attachment style, also known as the disorganized attachment. We are discussing how these two types of attachment styles are with boundaries in a relationship.
Destructive avoidant attachment style patterns and secure people are good for the soul.
May 15, 2023 13:00 - 9 minutes - 9.57 MBIn these two Reddit subreddits we are discussing the questions and answering them. The first is someone who went from avoidant attachment style people to a secure attachment style man. The secure attachment style person tends to be good at communication, they don't play games, the won't hide their true feelings for you, and they are generally good at helping to lower your anxious attachment style and/or avoidant attachment style. In the next subreddit a man is tired of his dismissive avoi...
Anxious Attachment Style and boundaries
May 10, 2023 17:27 - 10 minutes - 10.8 MBWe are talking about the anxious attachment style and boundaries. Each attachment style has a way they deal with creating boundaries. Today we are going to focus on the anxious attachmen style boundaries. Unfortunately the anxious attachmen style is not good with setting boundaries. I will explain the lack of anxious attachment style boundaries in the episode.
Fearful avoidant attachment style dating struggles and quit looking at their social media anxious people
May 08, 2023 17:01 - 10 minutes - 10.6 MBWe are talking Reddit subreddits about a fearful avoidant attachment's dating struggles and an anxious attachment style person looking at the ex-situationships social media. Fearful avoidants, also known as disorganized attachment struggle with dating. And in this situation the fearful avoidant would prefer to slow things down for all dating. And they want to know how to communicate that. Then we have an anxious person looking at the ex's social media and got replaced quickly. And they used ...
What is a fearful avoidant?
May 03, 2023 13:00 - 7 minutes - 7.52 MBFearful avoidants are the topic in this episode. I go over the basics of the fearful avoidant which is also known as the disorganized attachment style and also the anxious avoidant attachment style.
Anxious situationship and an anxious attachment styles strong codependency
May 01, 2023 17:09 - 9 minutes - 9.82 MBWe are talking about anxious attachment style situationships and anxious attachment style relationships. Both of these people I'm talking about today are to codependent on the other person. Anxious attachment style people tend to rely too much on their partners and haven't learned to be independent.