Relationship Helpers
100 episodes - English - Latest episode: almost 5 years ago - ★★★★★ - 59 ratingsRelationship Helpers is a weekly podcast where professional counselors Vincent and Laura Ketchie discuss issues that marriages and families face. They interview professionals in the counseling and helping field, who give insight and helpful tips to improve relationships. If you are struggling in your relationship with your spouse, your kids, yourself, your significant other, your family, your friends, or God, give us a listen!
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050 Personal Growth: For the Mother Who Has Nothing Left to Give
August 06, 2018 06:30 - 47 minutes - 65 MBA never-ending to-do list. Hair that hasn't been washed in days. Jeans that don't fit. Kids who misbehave in public. No matter how hard you try, it's never "good enough." Our guest, Jill McCormick, the self-described "try-hard girl", shares her insights and encouragement for the mom who feels that she does not measure up.
049 Marriage: When Your Spouse Has a Crisis of Faith
July 30, 2018 06:30 - 44 minutes - 60.8 MBCrisis tests the mettle of marriage. If the spiritual foundation is weak, then the relationship is likely to falter. Many spouses struggle when they feel that their significant other is drifting away from their faith. In today's episode our guest Melissa Gendreau provides guidance on how to cope with spiritual imbalance in marriage. She gives helpful tips on how to be a praying spouse and how to help the wayward spouse.
048 Marriage: Am I a Selfish Spouse?
July 23, 2018 06:30 - 34 minutes - 48.2 MBUsually by the time we see a couple for marriage counseling and the complaint of selfishness is the issue, the couple has been married a while. This selfishness comes across as being demanding and commanding with their needs, values, and wants. In this episode, Laura and Vincent discuss how selfish demands causes discord in marriage and tips to alleviate it.
047 Marriage: Is Complaining Ruining Your Marriage?
July 16, 2018 06:30 - 36 minutes - 49.7 MBDo you find yourself making statements like "we never go on dates" or "he doesn't care what I think or want"? Do you find yourself constantly complaining about your spouse? In today's episode, Laura and Vincent discuss "over-generalizations" that come across as complaining. They give tips on how to reduce your complaining.
046 Marriage: Do You Read Your Spouse's Mind?
July 09, 2018 06:30 - 34 minutes - 47.1 MBThe basis for every plot on the sitcom Three's Company was an assumption that had gone wrong. Misconstrued assumptions are funny on a TV show, but they can be toxic in a marriage. In this episode, Vincent and Laura discuss how we "mind-read" our spouses and get it very wrong.
045 Marriage: What Do You Call Your Spouse?
July 02, 2018 06:30 - 31 minutes - 43.9 MBIn marriages, we can get into bad habits of giving our spouse's negative labels. Are you labelling your spouse without really getting to know them? Do you really understand them or are you just making harsh judgements that are extreme? In today's episode, Vincent and Laura discuss how you address your spouse.
044 Marriage: Do You Magnify The Problems In Your Marriage?
June 25, 2018 06:30 - 31 minutes - 43.9 MBWe all have Eeyores and George Castanzas in our lives. These are people that are chronically negative. They are the Debbie Downers that don't see the good things right under their noses. In today's episode, Vincent and Laura are going to discuss "MAGNIFYING." This is our second in a series on anger in marriage.
043 Marriage: How To Avoid The Blame Game
June 18, 2018 06:30 - 32 minutes - 44.7 MBWhen something goes wrong with the communication in marriage, we tend to blame the other person. We feel that we should be understood correctly. We believe that we have done all we could to express ourselves appropriately. Unfortunately, many times we are wrong. We don't see our responsibility in the communication breakdown. In this episode, Vincent and Laura discuss how to avoid the blame game.
042 Marriage: Need a Referee For Your Marriage?
June 11, 2018 06:30 - 39 minutes - 54.5 MBToday's guest is Dr. Barry Ham, the author of "Living on Purpose" and "Unstuck: Escaping the Rut of a Lifeless Marriage." He has decades of experience in private practice counseling families. Although he does not wear a referee shirt to counsel, he does get in the midst of heated and difficult situations to help. Dr. Ham gives valuable advice on how to hand these situations and how to thrive in life.
041 Personal Growth: How To Avoid Being a Victim
June 04, 2018 06:30 - 7 minutes - 10.7 MBHave you made statements like, "Why does this always happen to me?" or "I never get a break." If so, then you may be operating with a victim mentality. In this episode, Laura gives tips about how to get out of the victim mindset.
040 Parenting: Protecting Your Child From Pedophiles
May 28, 2018 06:30 - 37 minutes - 51.1 MBProtect your children from pedophiles. Today guest, family therapist Tracy Lamperti has done extensive work with sexual abuse victims. She explains the grooming process that pedophiles use and how prevent it. She provides questions to ask caretakers and facilities where your children interacts.
039 Personal Growth: Alcoholism and Other Addictions in the Family
May 21, 2018 06:30 - 46 minutes - 64 MBGrowing up with a parent who is lost in addiction causes you to view the world in a different way. Today's guest Kimberly Dewberry discusses how her worldview was skewed in her childhood and the ways that it affected her adult life. Kimberly gives helpful advice on how to overcome unhealthy, codependent habits.
038 Marriage: A Pre-Marital Checklist
May 18, 2018 01:42 - 30 minutes - 43.9 MBSave yourself the cost of a divorce lawyer and have these discussions now with your spouse to be! Vincent and Laura discuss important questions that you must ask your fiancé. Even if you are already married these questions will benefit your marriage.
037 Parenting: Build a Loving Family With Adopted Children
May 07, 2018 06:30 - 36 minutes - 51.7 MBConsidering adoption? You would like to explore it, but you have some reservations. In this episode, Naomi Quick gives level-headed advice on the decision to adopt and the adoption process.
036 Marriage: 4 Things New Dads Need To Hear
April 30, 2018 06:30 - 20 minutes - 30.5 MBSometimes new dads get lost in the excitement of a new baby. Sometimes they feel left out. In today's episode, Vincent and Laura discuss four things wives can say to connect with their husbands.
035 Personal Growth: Leaving a Spiritual Legacy with Elisa Pulliam
April 23, 2018 06:30 - 32 minutes - 47 MBLearn how to leave a spiritual legacy from Elisa "Lisa" Pulliam. Lisa shares her story of coming to Christ from a non-church home. She gives practical advice on Bible study and spiritual discipline.
034 Personal Growth: Conquering Sexual Sin with Nate Danser
April 16, 2018 06:30 - 33 minutes - 47.7 MBNate Danser of Pure Life Ministries offers advice for those struggling with sexual sin. Nate shares his experience of recovering from this addiction. He gives encouraging tips for men and their wives in similar situations.
033 Parenting: Why I'm Not Disappointed In My C-Section
April 09, 2018 06:30 - 19 minutes - 28.5 MBAfter doing extensive planning for a natural child birth, Laura and Vincent describe their experience with a C-section to promote April's National Cesarean Awareness Month which is sponsored by The International Cesarean Awareness Network. Their mission is "to improve maternal-child health by preventing unnecessary cesareans through education, providing support for cesarean recovery, and promoting Vaginal Birth After Cesarean (VBAC)."
032 Marriage: The Key To a Thriving Blended Family with Willie and Rachel Scott
April 02, 2018 06:30 - 33 minutes - 47.3 MBA blended family is when a couple forms and bring children from their previous families together. This undeniably brings in stress for the couple, as roles are questioned - do you replace the children's other mother or father? How do you best treat everyone equally? Willie and Rachel Scott, founders of Better Than Blended, answer these questions and share their secrets to a thriving family.
031 Personal Growth: Could You Be Abused and Not Even Know It?
March 26, 2018 06:30 - 27 minutes - 39.1 MBAbuse in relationships come in many different forms: sexual abuse, spiritual abuse, physical abuse, and emotional abuse. Sometimes it is difficult for a victim to recognize the abuse. They may have coped by rationalizing it away. In this episode, Laura and Vincent define abuse so that victims may acknowledge it and begin to heal.
030 Personal Growth: With Or Without a Relationship: Learn To Love Yourself With Christy Johnson
March 19, 2018 06:30 - 43 minutes - 51.3 MBEver avoid being in your own company? A struggle with being single can push you into unhealthy relationships as a way to fight the fear of being alone. Today's guest is Christy Johnson, a former 'Love Junkie' who constantly sought love through others and not through God and herself. She's a speaker, author, and life coach. Her mission is to support women and feed their soul health. She provides hope and tips to healthy singlehood.
029 Personal Growth: Finding Hope Through Sexual Abuse with Paula Mosher Wallace
March 12, 2018 06:30 - 43 minutes - 41.4 MBSadly, sexual abuse is rampant. One in four women and one in six men are affected by sexual abuse. In today's episode, Paula Mosher Wallace shares her own experience with childhood sexual abuse, how it affected her adult life and how she has healed from it. You will find many resources in the podcast and show notes.
O28 Personal Growth: Domestic Abuse with Holly Ashley
March 05, 2018 07:30 - 44 minutes - 42.2 MBOur guest today, Holly Ashley, is a domestic violence victim advocate. She describes the signs of domestic abuse and how to get help which include a danger assessment and safety plan. She advocates the need to follow the biblical principles of a loving marriage, and the need to trust God.
027 Personal Growth: When Power Is Abused At Church with Athena Dean Holtz
February 26, 2018 07:30 - 37 minutes - 44.6 MBThe church is the place we go to strengthen our bond with God, even more so when in moments of need. We hear from today's guest, Athena Dean Holtz, on how she got wrapped into a church cult for over 12 years, and how she got out of it.
026 Marriage: Disappointed in Your Spouse?
February 19, 2018 07:30 - 25 minutes - 37.6 MBHave you ever felt like you didn't matter after Valentine's Day? Your spouse remembered and did do something, but it was not what you really wanted. Or your spouse didn't do anything at all, but you didn't mention your disappointment or you shrugged it off. In this episode, we talk about mistakes we make that lead to disappointments and how to fix them.
025 Marriage: The Balance Between Home and Work Life
February 12, 2018 07:30 - 34 minutes - 49.5 MBUnless you are born with a lot of wealth, work is necessary for you to live. So what is the proper balance of work and home life? Both activities require your time and effort. In this episode, Vincent and Laura discuss what a healthy work and home life should look like. They give specific tips to help couples who work at home or have a business together.
024 Personal Growth: Brenda Knowles on the Power of Being an Introvert
February 05, 2018 07:30 - 32 minutes - 39.6 MBSome people feel energized when they're in the company of other people, others feel energized in solitude. Our guest today, Brenda Knowles, is the latter, and she shares her experiences of being an introvert.
023 Marriage: Dr. Corey Allen on Marriage, Sex, and Liking Yourself
January 29, 2018 07:30 - 33 minutes - 25.2 MBMany partners strive for the 'perfect marriage' and to be the 'perfect partner'. At its core, you grow up through marriage as you learn how to give, stand on your own two feet - and have children. Spiritually, we become better Christians in a relationship. Dr. Corey Allen joins us in today's interview, where we discuss what makes a happy marriage.
022 Marriage: Should I Snoop On My Spouse's Phone?
January 22, 2018 07:30 - 28 minutes - 40.9 MBMy spouse sure has been secretive lately? I wonder what's going on. Have you ever felt this way. Laura and Vincent discuss phone privacy in a marriage and the pros and cons of snooping on your spouse's phone.
021 Personal Growth: Dr. Pauline Dillard Discusses Postpartum Depression and Birth Trauma
January 15, 2018 07:30 - 37 minutes - 35.9 MBPostpartum depression needs to be talked about. It is more common than what our research or statistics report. Birth trauma ALSO is a taboo subject that needs more discussion. Today, Dr. Pauline Dillard illuminates the importance of having these discussions and what can be done to help families struggling from PPD and/or birth trauma.
020 Personal Growth: Feeling Like the Appendix of the Body of Christ
January 08, 2018 07:30 - 7 minutes - 12.4 MBUnsure about your place in the church? How do you fit in? Laura encourages ways to get involved and to get out of your comfort zone.
019 Personal Growth: Why I Don't Like Before & After Photos
January 01, 2018 07:30 - 8 minutes - 13.7 MBNo matter where you look you can't avoid before & after photos. What message do they send? Laura discusses her opinion on before & after photos.
018 Personal Growth: Luann Grambow on Selfless Love
December 25, 2017 07:30 - 35 minutes - 51 MBHave you ever thought of yourself as selfish? In today's episode, counselor Luann Grambow discusses how people who struggle in their relationship are suffering from a divided heart. They are not fully able to meet the needs of their spouse because they are not serving the needs of God. She discusses how serving the needs of God will naturally improve the marital relationship and will in turn, serve the needs of the spouse.
017 Marriage: Date Night
December 18, 2017 07:30 - 21 minutes - 31.7 MBWhen is the last time that you and your spouse went on a date - just the two of you without your kids or friends? Vincent and Laura talk about the importance of dating your spouse.
016 Personal Growth: Dr. Gregory Jantz Discusses Depression
December 11, 2017 07:30 - 30 minutes - 44.1 MBHave you been stuck in a rut for a long time? Eating disorder specialist and best-selling author, Dr. Gregory Jantz discusses how you can get out of that pit and thrive. He talks about his whole-centered approach to treating mental illnesses, using a team instead of just one person. Dr. Jantz gives hope and understanding.
015 Personal Growth: Why Don't Sexual Harassment Victims Speak About It?
December 04, 2017 07:30 - 25 minutes - 37.1 MBWhy are these victims of sexual harassment just coming out with their stories now? Have you wondered why? Have you been a victim yourself, or have you been a perpetrator? Laura and Vincent talk about reasons that victims are just talking about it now years later and the mentality behind sexual harassment.
014 Parenting: Dr. Jonathan C. Robinson discusses "Teachable Moments"
November 27, 2017 07:30 - 34 minutes - 48.7 MBKids misbehaving? Is there a disconnect between your children and you? How close are you to your teenager? Dr. Jonathan C. Robinson discusses how to train up your child with healthy morals. He gives helpful tips about how to communicate with your child effectively.
013 Marriage: Stress-Free Family Holiday
November 20, 2017 07:30 - 49 minutes - 69.7 MBHow are your holidays? Are you relaxed and at ease during them? Do you feel refreshed afterwards or do you feel like you just survived? This episode talks about the stressors of the holidays. Numerous tips and strategies are discussed to help you thrive during the holidays.
012 Marriage: William Zajac Describes the "Unbeatable Marriage"
November 13, 2017 07:30 - 33 minutes - 48.2 MBIs your marriage just going through the motions? You're in a perilous situation and maybe don't realize it. Many couples loose focus and do not work on their marriage. Before they know it, their marriage is gone. William Zajac has interviewed over 400 couples and discovered what makes marriages last. He shares the secrets of his findings.
011 Personal Growth: Anxiety Attack or Panic Attack?
November 06, 2017 07:30 - 33 minutes - 60.8 MBDo you know the difference between an anxiety attack and a panic attack? Learn the physical and emotional symptoms of anxiety and panic attacks. Learn how to cope with them and how to help a loved one who is struggling with them.
010 Personal Growth: Nicole Greer Encourages You To Pursue Your Calling
October 30, 2017 06:30 - 35 minutes - 49.7 MBDo you know your calling? Vincent interviews Nicole Greer, the Vibrant Coach. Nicole discusses how the 21st century is no longer about getting a college degree and getting married. Learn how to live with joy and passion in your work.
009 Grief/Loss: Secret Sisterhood of Miscarriage
October 23, 2017 06:30 - 32 minutes - 45.3 MBOne in four pregnancies end in miscarriage. Laura and Vincent discuss their experiences with miscarriage. They talk about the secrecy behind miscarriage. They give advice on how to help someone who has had a miscarriage and what to say or not to say to them.
008 Parenting: John Stengel Discusses the Dangers of the Internet
October 16, 2017 06:30 - 37 minutes - 52.1 MBVincent interviews John Stengel, founder of JSCM Group, a cyber security business. John explains how easy it is for kids and adults to access the negative parts of the internet. He gives helpful tips on ways to keep your children safe.
007 Parenting: "11 Ways Parents Sabotage Their Kids' Future & How To Stop"
October 09, 2017 06:30 - 36 minutes - 50.9 MBTherapists Vincent and Laura Ketchie talk about ways they see parents harm their child's future unknowingly. First, they help parents identify these negative behaviors. Secondly, they discuss how this behavior harms the child's development. Lastly, they give helpful tips on how to turn these negative ways into positive ones.
006 Personal Growth: Steve Benson Talks About the Walls In Peoples Lives That Keep Them From Love
October 02, 2017 06:30 - 46 minutes - 64.6 MBAuthor and Christian therapist Steve Benson discusses his book "Embracing Love: Living on the Other Side of Disconnected Relationships." All of us have some sort of self-protective wall that we have built in our lives. Unfortunately, these walls can keep love out, as well as keep us from loving the way God wants us to. Today's show invites you to look inward to see what may be keeping you from loving the best you can and provides ways to tear down those walls.
005 Marriage/Affairs: Vincent & Laura Discuss "Seven Signs Your Marriage Is Susceptible To an Affair"
September 25, 2017 06:30 - 35 minutes - 48.9 MBVincent & Laura discuss some of the signs that your marriage may be in trouble. Marriage is difficult. Successful, romantic marriage takes a lot of hard work. Vincent & Laura talk about some the attitudes and bad behaviors that undermine a healthy relationship. You will learn what you need to work on in your marriage and how.
004 Parenting: Traci Lester Talks About "The Birds and the Bees Without the Butterflies"
September 18, 2017 06:30 - 32 minutes - 44.3 MBTraci Lester, author of the book "How to Talk About The Birds and the Bees Without the Butterflies", discusses talking to your kids about sex. She talks about the importance of the discussion, and how you as a parent should be the expert in your child's mind.
003 Parenting: Vincent & Laura discuss "When Your Help Doesn't Help"
September 11, 2017 06:30 - 29 minutes - 41 MBVincent and Laura discuss how in today's culture, women often feel that they must entertain those who come to visit, even when they are in need of an extra set of hands. Laura explains how not being direct can actually frustrate the people wanting to give help. She gives examples of ways to communicate directly with those who visit to get the maximum results.
002 Communication/Marriage: Dr. David Ludwig Discusses His Communication Typology "Painters & Pointers" and more
August 31, 2017 14:54 - 37 minutes - 25.8 MBDr. David Ludwig has a PhD in psychology and a masters of divinity. He is a professor, author, and pastor. He describes his communication typology: "Painters and Pointers". Dr. Ludwig also describes the power of "We" - togetherness in a relationship. He gives detailed descriptions of how couples have succeeded in working on their marriage by using his techniques.
001 Communication/Marriage: Laura and Vincent Discuss "Five Behaviors That Break Down a Conversation"
August 31, 2017 14:46 - 29 minutes - 21 MBVincent Ketchie, LPC and Laura Ketchie, LPC talk about ways that conversations are harmed: talking too fast or over someone, not considering the other person's point of view, closed body language, and device distractions. They give helpful tips and describe ways to improve your conversations.