RelateWell with Dr. Rick Marks
107 episodes - English - Latest episode: about 1 month ago - ★★★★★ - 5 ratingsDr. Rick Marks presents: RelateWell. RelateWell is the vision of Dr. Rick and seeks to help anyone who desires to live a life that is healthy and mature and is able to develop and sustain healthy, caring, loving, and mature relationships in life, love, as parents and even at work. Dr. Rick provides insights, inspiration and tools for personal and relational development. Dr. Rick speaks not just from his years of training and expertise, but also from his healing from a childhood of broken families, addictions, abuse and hurts/pains. He speaks from his journey of healing and from what he learned from his faith and from his mentors.
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Surrender: Path to Emotional and Spiritual Maturity
March 13, 2024 14:00 - 17 minutes - 12.3 MBEver considred that surrendering could be a position of strength and not weakness? Surrendering is about checking our egos and staying in humility and know what I can and can not control. Surrender results in mature connections with God, Self and Others.
Do I Matter to God?
March 01, 2024 01:00 - 32 minutes - 22 MBDid you know that your ability to love others maturely is linked to your ability to love yourself? And that when we feel we do not have value, we matter or are loved or loveable, we sink into low self worth and self esteem. But what if God has declared us valuable, that we matter and that we are loved and loveable? What difference would it make to your life and relationships? Dr. Rick explains.
Live Powerfully Through Humility
February 26, 2024 21:00 - 24 minutes - 16.6 MBDr. Rick talks about the powerful life of a humble person and the types of humility that research indicates. Do you live from humility or a prideful way of being?
You Matter to God! And Here Is How I Know
February 26, 2024 21:00 - 32 minutes - 22 MBWe are all adept at negative thinking about ourselves and sadly, many preachers reinforce this negative mindset on the parishoners and congregations. Yet Psalm 139 tells us something different.
Say This, Not That
January 20, 2024 19:00 - 22 minutes - 15.4 MBEver noticed that something you said you wish you could take back or at least had said it some other way? When in conflict and frustration we make statements that do not lead to connection and understanding, but disconnection, hurt and misunderstanding. Dr. Rick identifies 41 statements people say in conflict (Do not Say This) and reveals a better way to say it (Say This Instead). Tune in.
What If My Family Is Not Safe for the Lonely?
September 11, 2023 23:00 - 53 minutes - 36.5 MBPsalm 68 tells us that God puts the lonely in families. But what if your family was not a safe place. What if families are not safe for the lonely to find and experience true love? What if the church is not a place for healthy connection for the lonely to be placed in? Dr. Rick talks from his personal experience of the true meaning of the arabic word, "asabiya" and how this transformed his life and that of his family. Is your family a place of love and deep connection for God to place t...
He Puts The Lonely In Families
August 31, 2023 10:00 - 48 minutes - 33.2 MBHumans were created for connection, intimate connection with God, Self and Others. Without these essential human biological needs being met (the need for bonding, connection, intimacy) we experience relational pain and move in to loneliness. And it is not good for mankind to be alone. I know! I grew up this way. Dr. Rick shares from a message he presented at Wellspring Church in Hartford, WI on the need for community, the essentialness of family, and that family is not necessarily one's...
Live Life Abundantly: Our Core Value of HREG
July 20, 2023 21:00 - 37 minutes - 25.7 MBImmaturity is rampant today in our society. We have trainings on emotional intelligence, etc. This is all langauge for immaturity. Emotional immaturity to be specific. And I used to be an emotional child and dealt with issues in childish ways in my early years as a chronological adult. What did I do to resolve this issue? My value system I live by now for almost 25 years and continues today. It is my way of being! What is it? I call it H=REG. Tune in. Take notes. Transform your pe...
You've Lost That Loving Feeling: Love As An Emotion
June 29, 2023 20:00 - 23 minutes - 16.2 MBI think the Righteous Brothers were right: you've lost that loving feeling. Many today teach that love is not an emotion, but rather a choice or a decision. Dr. Rick argues that love is an emotion and must be understood and embraced as an emotion in order to have deep, intimate and healthy connections. And this does not apply to romanctic relationships only, but to all relationships.
The Path to Emotional and Relational Health and 4 Questions
June 29, 2023 14:00 - 41 minutes - 28.3 MBThere are four questions every person needs answered in order to become a healthy, mature, and caring individual. Dr. Rick shares his own personal journey regarding these four questions and the challenges and joys of walking the path to healing and finding affirmation in the 4 questions.
Handling Broken Relationships with Dr. Rick
June 17, 2023 13:00 - 38 minutes - 26.2 MBThis message given in Nassau, Bahamas at a church on Sunday morning provides insight into the relational dynamics of what happened in the Garden of Eden and healthy relationships.
I Need a Dad: A Testimony of Healing by Dr. Rick Marks
June 16, 2023 22:00 - 46 minutes - 32 MBDr. Rick shared his testimony on his journey of healing from his father wound at a regional conference for the Association for Marriage and Family Ministry.
Humility: The Better Way Part 2
February 15, 2023 18:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBHumility and empathy is required to become a mature leader, a mature adult and to be effective relationally in all relationships. Yet, humility still seems to be elusive to most as it appears to most as weakness. Yet, research is clear that to live a life of humility is to live powerfully. Dr. Rick and Angelia discuss the definition of humility, it's traits and how to identify it. Accordingly, they discuss what it takes to become a humble and mature individual. This is the second of two...
Humility: The Better Way Part 1
February 15, 2023 18:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBHumility and empathy is erquired to become a mature leader, a mature adult and to be effective relationally in all relationships. Yet, humility still seems to be elusive to most as it appears to most as weakness. Yet, research is clear that to live a life of humility is to live powerfully. Dr. Rick and Angelia discuss the definition of humility, it's traits and how to identify it. Accordingly, they discuss what it takes to become a humble and mature individual.
New Years Resolutions: Yes or No?
January 05, 2023 22:00 - 59 minutes - 41.2 MBIt is 2023 and many folks love to make new year resolutions. It almost seems a tradition that many feel they have to perform. Yet, many do not make resolutions? What re the most common resolutions? Do most people complete their resolutions? And what are the arguements against making resolutions? Dr. Rick and Angelia explore these ideas and concepts around this annual conversation.
Human Flourishing! What Does That Mean
January 05, 2023 22:00 - 59 minutes - 41.2 MBHarvard has a center that studies human flourishing. There is a national intitiative that uses the domains for human flourishing as a foundation for helping ministers to flourish. Human flourishing has been studied by many and these agree that there are six domains to human flourishing. Dr. Rick and Angelia discuss flourishing and the six domains and how we can flourish in our own lives and relationships.
Jesus.Mary and Their Relationship
November 22, 2022 18:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBMany adult children do not respect their parents today with an increase in abuse, neglect, and disrespect growing. What was the relationship like between Jesus and his mother, Mary? What can we learn from this? Are traditional roles of men and women affecting this trend in neglect? Dr. Rick and Angelia are joined by Roger Henderson to discuss.
Handling Stress During Holidays
November 22, 2022 18:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBHolidays have a tendency to be stressful for many reasons. Dr. Rick and Angelia take on this subject so families can enjoy the meaning of the holiday without the stressors that take away from that meaning.
The Effects of Divorce Part 1
November 19, 2022 00:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBResearch for over a generation reveals the devestating effects of divorce on the couple as well as the children and family. Divorce also has devestating effects on society. What are the effects of divorce and what can a couple do to turn hurt and pain into love again? Dr. Rick and Angelia discuss in this two part series.
The Effects of Divorce Part 2
November 19, 2022 00:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBResearch for over a generation reveals the devestating effects of divorce on the couple as well as the children and family. Divorce also has devestating effects on society. What are the effects of divorce and what can a couple do to turn hurt and pain into love again? Dr. Rick and Angelia discuss in part two of the series as well as how a RelateWell Relationship Intensive can heal a hurting marriage. Learn more about the intensives at www.drrickmarks.com.
Church, Family, and Sexual Abuse
October 30, 2022 01:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBMore and more in mainstream media outlets we are hearing about the prevelance of childhood sexual abuse by church leaders and pastors. And just as prevalent is the cover up of sexual abuse by church leaders. Dr. Rick and Angelia discuss the role of the church and family in clergy sex abuse, how to identify these predatorial pastors and the actions necessary to protect our children.
Til Death Do Us Part: The Benefit of Longevity in Marriage
October 30, 2022 01:00 - 59 minutes - 41.2 MBIn our wedding vows we vow to love til death, yet that is not a vow most adhere to today in culture. It is more like, "til death do us part or I am no longer happy." Yet, research reveals that longevity and commitment in marriage has many mental health and relational benefits. Dr. Rick and Angelia explore why commitent to love in marriage til death is better.
The Stages of Family Life
October 30, 2022 01:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBJust as individuals have a developmental cycle that they go through, so do families. Borrowing from family systems theory and Scripture, Dr. Rick and Angelia identify the stages of family life from single adult to end of life and all the developmental stages inbetween.
Handling Broken Relationships with Faith
October 01, 2022 13:00 - 38 minutes - 26.2 MBDr. Rick speaks at Calvary Baptist Church in Nassau on how to handle broken relationships and how faith can become a healthy and mature way to heal one's self and gain understanding of the brokenness.
I Need A Dad!: Dr. Rick's Personal Testimony
October 01, 2022 12:00 - 46 minutes - 32 MBDr. Ricks shared his story of healing and growing from a deep father wound at a conference for champions for marriage and family. Dr. Rick talks candidly about his journey and how his childhood and God's healing turned his life around.
Narcissistic Love Bombing and Humor in Marriage
September 28, 2022 17:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBIs love bomnbing healthy when you meet someone? Is it a sign of potential nacrissism? What does it mean and how can it be harmful? Also, what role does humor play in a healthy marriage? Dr. Rick and Angelia tackle these topics in this episode of RelateWell with Dr. Rick Marks.
The Beauty of Rejection in Marriage and Relationships
September 28, 2022 17:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBWe tend to see rejection as a negative. Let's be honest, who wants to be rejected? But did you know that there is a beautiful side of rejection? Dr. Rick and Angelia reveal when rejection can be beneficial for a marriage. Take notes as they reveal the things you want to reject for a healthy marriage and relationship.
Rekindling Love: Ways to Show Love Again
September 26, 2022 23:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBEvery relationship has its struggles and sometime love gets lost. Or as the song says at someone lost that lovin feeling! When couples relationships suffer from lost love over time they tend to create more hurt. Angelia and Dr. Rick discuss ways to show love which will lead to reconnection and a renewed sense of Us! Tune in...
Do Men Love As Deeply As Women
September 26, 2022 22:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBDr. Rick and Angelia tackle the subject regarding the emotional connection and bonds between women and men and are joined by their Producer, Roger. Do men love as deeply as women? Listen in and learn...
Emotional Neglect and Self-Worth Part 2
August 31, 2022 21:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBDr. Rick and Angelia contnue the discussion of the different forms of emotional neglect and their effects on one personally and relationally. They then explore the concept of Self-Worth as being linked to emotional wellbeing and one's understanding of their belief that they exist, have needs, and are entitled to their needs being met in healthy and mature manners. Part 2 looks at the way we misunderstand our emotions, how to use the rational mind to regulate the emotion brain, and how hugg...
Emotional Neglect and Self-Worth Part 1
August 31, 2022 21:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBDr. Rick and Angelia discuss the different forms of emotional neglect and their effects on one personally and relationally. They then explore the concept of Self-Worth as being linked to emotional wellbeing and one's understanding of their belief that they exist, have needs, and are entitled to their needs being met in healthy and mature manners.
Benefits of Premarital Counseling
August 19, 2022 20:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBPlanning a wedding takes a lot and is really for just a day. Planning a marriage is more important as this is more than the wedding day; it is preparation for a lifetime of love and togetherness. It is the development of Us. Research reveals the benefit of premarital counseling and education to couples and Dr. Rick and Angelia explore the value of premarital counseling. Dr. Rick says it is more about the 50 year plan than the 5 year plan. Tune in!
Problem Assumptions Couples Make
August 19, 2022 19:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBMarriage and relationships can be wonderful, thriving, connecting, intimate, spontaneous, passionate and loving and mature. However, assumptions can create hurt and damage over time. There are common assumptions that couples make in their relationship that creates hurt and pain over time and can damage not just each other, but each person's heart as well. Dr. Rick and Angelia explore these assumptions and what to do different.
Core Equation for Maturity in RelateWell: H=REG
July 21, 2022 13:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBDr. Rick talks about his history of growth and how four words kept coming to him as a way to life his life in order to live a healthy and mature inner peace and a strong relational Usness with his wife and others. These four words he identifies as the equation H=REG: Humility = Respect, Empathy and Goodwill. Dr. Rick and Angelia discuss the core values of RelateWell and how they impact one's life towards healthy and loving mature relationships and emotional maturity.
Spirituality and Relationships
July 21, 2022 13:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBSpirituality is a growing discussion today in life and health. The 12-Steps of AA is based on spiritual principles. Many write on and seek a spiritual life to find their peace and healthy relationships. Spirituality is hard to define however. Dr. Rick and Angelia discuss spirituality, its various types, and how it impacts one's individual and relational life.
Growing up Fatherless
July 19, 2022 22:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBFatherlessness, both physical and emotional, is a national problem and the effects of absent fathers has a greater negative effect on boys than girls. Dr. Rick and Angelia discuss the nature of fatherlessness and its effects on children, in particular boys.
Love IS an Emotion!
July 19, 2022 22:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBMany preachers and teachers instruct that love is an action, a decision, and not an emotion. How would you like acting loving towards someone you have no feelings of love for? Dr. Rick and Angelia discuss the nature of love as an emotion and the idea that the feelings of love are based on how you treat another person consistently.
Military Marriages with Jacquelyn Hatcher
June 22, 2022 22:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBJackie Hatcher is the wife of retired US Army Special Forces soldier, Eddie. They spent over 20 years on active duty as a married couple and went through many challenges. They learned together how to have a healthy and loving marriage and family in the context of military life. Jackie shares with Dr. Rick her experiences and what she learned along the journey in order to have a strong and healthy marriage and family in the midst of the structures, deployments and unknowns of military fami...
Understanding Military Family Challenges with Chaplain Scott
June 22, 2022 22:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBRetired Navy Chaplain Scott Schubert spent many years in the Navy and some of those in Iraq. He ministered to military families and not just those in the U S Navy. Chaplain Scott shares with Dr. Rick (himself a Navy veteran) the challenges and blessings of military families and how to navigate through those challenges to develop a loving and caring marriage and family.
Benefits of Pre-Marital Counseling
June 08, 2022 13:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBWedding season usually runs from May through the end of Summer. It is a time of great joy for many couples as well as a time of great expense. Many think some spend too much money on one day, and not enough on the success and health of the relationship. Pre-Marital Counseling research reveals the benefit for the couple's success, or as Dr. Rick likes to say, "it is for the 50 year plan, not the 5 year plan." Dr. Rick and Angelia discuss the benefits...
How Work Can Impact Your Marriage
June 08, 2022 13:00 - 59 minutes - 41.2 MBWere you aware that work and work relationships can have a negative impact on your marriage? We all need to work. Yet, we also need to be wary of how our work and work relationships impact your relationships with your spouse and family. Dr. Rick and Angelia discuss the negative impact that work can have on one's marriage and family and how to protect your most valuable relationship: your marriage and family.
Understanding the Potential of Personal Development
May 27, 2022 17:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBHave you ever thought that personal development might be more important than professional development? And if so, why might that be? Dr. Rick and Angelia take on the topic of personal development, what it is, and how it relates to living a healthy and mature life and relationships.
Toxic vs Healthy Masculinity
May 27, 2022 17:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBThere is much being said about things being toxic these days. And one of these phrases is "toxic masculinity." What does this really mean? What is healthy masculinity and what is unhealthy masculinity? How do you identify them? Dr. Rick and Angelia take on this issue on this podcast.
How to Overcome Loneliness
May 10, 2022 22:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBThis is Part two of a two part discussion on loneliness. Dr. Rick and Angelia explore what one can do to counteract the negative effects of loneliness and find the ability to live life healthy, mature and connected.
Keep Romance Alive in Marriage
April 29, 2022 14:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBMany marriages, over time, lose that lovin feeling. There is even a song about it by the Righteous Brothers made famous in the movie Top Gun. Yet, it is true that romance in marriage is important for a life long healthy and loving marriage relationship. Dr. Rick and Angelia discuss the effects of workplace romances, disconnection, and how this relates to a loss of romance in marriage. Keep that Lovin Feeling!!! Romance helps!!!
Loneliness: Understanding It's Damaging Effects
April 29, 2022 13:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBLoneliness is epidemic currently in the West and in particular in the USA. Yet, the damaging effects of loneliness on physical and mental health is and has taken its toll on individuals and families. What leads to loneliness, what is it, and what are those effects? In Part 1 of Loneliness, Dr. Rick and Angelia discuss this topic and in Part 2 provide solutions.
Love Yourself to Love Others
April 29, 2022 13:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBYou have heard it said that to love others one must learn to love themself. And research proves and Christianity teach this principle. But why? How does healthy and mature self-love, rooted in humility, allow for the healthy and mature loving of others? Dr. Rick and Angelia explore...
Procrastination: Hinderance to Transformation
March 30, 2022 15:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBTransormation must be intentional. Nothing happens without intentionality. All personal transformations in one's personal life or relationships requires intentional thought, plans and actions. However, procrastination is the enemy. Dr. Rick and Angelia discuss the nature of procrastination and how it affects one's ability to become the best version of one's Self.
Traits of Healthy Relationships
March 30, 2022 15:00 - 59 minutes - 41.1 MBWe are all seeking to have and enter in to healthy and loving and mature relationships. But what do these look like? Dr. Rick and Angelia discuss the traits of healthy relationships and how these impact one's personal life and relationships.
Four Types of Regret and How to Live A Happy Life
March 16, 2022 15:00 - 1 hour - 42.6 MBWe all have regrets. It is a part of life. However, some people have so many regrets they affect their mental and emotional health. What are the four types of regrets and how can we choose to live a healthy and happy life? Dr. Rick and Angelia explore.