Be Real

Today you’re being reminded to be real.

It can be more important to focus on being real than on being nice.

Nice is what women are often taught to be.

The good girls, the looking after people, the prioritising the needs of others before themselves.

They can be taught be pleasant and not make a fuss.

To be the peacekeepers, the bridge builders.

Authenticity is replaced with a façade of niceness.

Boundaries are trodden on, if they even existed at all.

It’s time to honour yourself, your feelings and your energy.

Protect your space.

Be discerning about who or what you allow in, or at least what of theirs you take on.

Be true to yourself.

Show up in the realness of who you are.

You can still be nice, but this time it will come from a place deep within, fuelled by love and connection, and not from a place of ‘should’.

You will be nice from a place of power and choice, and not a place of fear, habit or expectation.

In this very moment, pause, and take a breath. As you allow yourself to be real.

Today’s SHEro Action:

Today’s SHEro action is to acknowledge those areas where you wear the façade of ‘niceness’.

Where you put others needs before yourself, because it’s expected of you.

Where you don’t speak up about your thoughts, feelings or needs, because you’re concerned about how you will be received.

How can you be more real today, in a way that feels safe and authentic to you?

Perhaps it could be in what you do, what you wear, or who you spend your time with.

Maybe it’s spending time journaling about your truth so that you start to be real and honest with yourself first.

Pause, and take a breath. As you allow yourself to drop any façades that aren’t yours to carry.

Today’s Affirmation:

“I choose being real over being nice”

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