Matmonim: Daf Yomi by Rabbi David Lapin

Ketubot 92b Reputation: An Invisible Asset - לא מצי אמר ליה לאו בעל דברים דידי את

Protecting reputation can give one a commercial interest in a case and the right to intervene.  Sources

Ketubot 90a-91b Inheriting Indebtedness - שניה ויורשיה קודמין

While an heir does not inherit indebtedness from his father, he does inherit the obligation to repay his father’s debts from the assets he inherited.  Sources

Ketubot 89a The Burden of Indebtedness - שמע מינה כותבין שובר

The moral indebtedness of a borrower to a lender continues even after the repayment of the debt.  Sources

Ketubot 88b Trust and Micromanagement - מינוהו בית דין ושבע

Feeling trusted is an honor; being micromanaged is an insult.  Sources

Ketubot 86a Legal, Moral and Religious Obligations - פריעת בעל חוב מצוה

There are obligations that would exist even without them being mitzvot. In fact, sometimes a moral or legal obligation is what makes them a mitzvah.  Sources

Ketubot 84a Fear, Insecurity and Love - משום חינא

When an individual feels secure they can more easily dedicate themselves to a cause, to a mission, or to others.  Sources

Ketubot 79a Whistle-blowing - חזי רב נחמן חקלאה

When is whistle-blowing a mitzvah and when is it terribly wrong?  Sources

Ketubot 78a Hybrids and Doubts - אימר בזכותה אימר בזכותו

Complexity comes either from something having many components or from our being unsure from which components it is constituted.  Sources

Ketubot 77b Self-promotion and Self-discovery - ר יהושוע בן לוי

Self-promotion undermines the inner Self.  Sources

Ketubot 76a A Fact or an Assumption? - חזקת ממון וחזקת הגוף

When engaging with people and with human situations, little is fact. Most things we know are assumptions.  Sources

Ketubot 75a Messirut Nefesh for Integrity - כי נשבעו להם נשיאי העדה

Even when an individual’s behavior is merely perceived to be deceitful, it is  prohibited Sources

Ketubot 74b Can You Just Undo Your Vows? - חכם עוקר את הנדר מעיקרו

Understanding the Torah science of annulling vows.  Sources

Ketubot 72a Women’s Hair Covering - יוצאה וראשה פרוע

A framework with which to understand the laws of a woman’s hair covering.  Sources

Ketubot 68a Rich Man Poor Man - אין מחייבים אותו למכור

Should poverty be evaluated by cashflow or by assets?  Sources

Ketubot 67b Loss - אפילו סוס לרכוב עליו

The difference between a poor person who never had wealth and one who once did.  Sources

Ketubot 65b-66a Love and Empathy - אשתו גופיה הואי

Empathy is the ability to feel another’s pain as if it were one’s own.  Sources

Ketubot 64a A Woman has Autonomy Over Her Own Body - זיל לא מפקדת

The differences between men and women manifest in their respective obligations, particularly in the Mitzva of פרו ורבו – the obligation to have children.  Sources

Ketubot 63a The Accumulative Power of Consistency - הדר אזיל ויתיב

The consistent practice of anything accumulates exponentially not linearly.  Sources

Ketubot 62b Playfulness in Marriage - רוצה אשה בקו ותפלות

When a husband acts like a man, his wife values his companionship more than anything. Quote from Ri Migash Sources

Ketubot 59b & 61a Relationship Counseling - יושבת בקתדרא

Important relationship advice even (or especially!) in today’s world of shifting gender roles. Sources

Ketubot 60b Authority and Responsibility - לא מסתייא מלתא

Responsibility is supported by almost miraculous Divine guidance.  Sources

Ketubot 58b Wealthy Wives - איני ניזונת ואיני עושה

A wife has the option of financial independence or dependence on her husband.  Sources

Ketubot 56a Limits to Negotiation - מתנה על מה שכתוב בתורה

Anything can be negotiated in business, but not when it opposes natural law.  Sources

Ketubot 55a Assumptions and Estimations - אומדנא

Assumptions and estimations avoid bureaucracy in halacha and in life.  Sources

Ketubot 54b Subordinating the Self to Another - אם רצה להוסיף אפילו מאה מנה מוסיף

The Ketubah is more than a financial commitment, it is self-subordination of a man to his wife.  Sources

Ketubot 53b Giving Tzedakka Intelligently - לא ניחא ליה דתיתזיל

We should protect those we love not only from harm but also from shame.  Sources

Ketubot 51a-b Passion and Lust - יצר אלבשה

Passion can come from a physical, emotional or a spiritual source.  Sources

Ketubot 41a Cancel Culture לא כל הימנו שיפגום בתו של פלוני

How the Torah’s relative importance of values differs from that of prevailing secular worldviews.  Sources

Ketubot 30a Healthy Living - חוץ מצינים ופחים

Don’t always blame Hashem!  Sources

Ketubot 29a Rape and Seduction - אלו נערות שיש להן קנס

The Torah’s consequence for rapists seems trivial in a modern context.  Sources

Ketubot 28a Women Learning Torah - אסור לאדם שילמד את עבדו תורה

The difference between teaching and learning Torah.  Sources

Ketubot 27a How to Frame and Focus a Question - שני שבילין

Framing our questions in context facilitates greater innovation in our solutions.  Sources

Ketubot 25b-26a Seeing Things as They Are - מסיח לפי תומו

Mostly we see things not as they are but as we are. This can damage our credibility.  Sources

Ketubot 23b Conflicting Assumptions - אני טמאה ואמר עד אחד את טהורה

Your reality could be different from ours.  Sources

Ketubot 22a Authorship and Authority - הפה שאסר הוא הפה שהתיר

With the authorship of a narrative comes authority.  Sources

Ketubot 21b Data and Narrative - אין עד נעשה דיין

Stories, unlike data, carry within them the power of nuance.  Sources

Ketubot 20a-b Self-Esteem and the Esteem of Others - ואי צורבא מרבנן הוא, אפילו עצמו

Reconstituting a memory.  Sources

Ketubot 18b-19a Rather Die than Lie - אין לך דבר העומד בפני פיקוח נפש

The extent and the limits of honesty.  Sources

Ketubot 17a Diplomacy and Honesty - כלה נאה וחסודה

Where to draw the line between diplomacy and honesty?  Sources

Ketubot 16b Nuances in Statistics - איתרע לה רובא

Axiomatic principles overpower empirical knowledge.  Sources

Ketubot 15a How We See Things Can Change What They Are - כל קבוע כמחצה על מחצה דמי

How we define dilemmas, influence how we resolve them.  Sources

Ketubot 14a Reputation, Credibility & Trust - והוא אומר אין מינאי

Preserving a woman’s reputation protects her credibility.  Sources

Ketubot 12b-13a The Law of Attraction - ראוה מדברת עם אחד

Male toxicity: How Halacha deals with the potential for mens’ abuse of their power over women.  Sources

Ketubot 10b-11a The Gender Spectrum - איילונית דוכרנית

Ketubot 9b David and Batsheva - כל היוצא למלחמת בית דוד גט כותב לאשתו

Diminishing dignity is irreversible.  Sources

Ketubot 8a Aspire to Higher Feelings - דאית ליה צערא לינוקא

Aspiration applies not only to accomplishments, but also to emotions.  Sources

Ketubot 8a Aspirational Emotions - דאית ליה צערא לינוקא

Aspiration applies not only to accomplishments, but also to emotions.  Sources

Ketubot 7b Getting Married - ברכת האירוסין

Gender distinction and separation is fundamental to Kedusha.  Sources

Ketubot 6a Accountability and Culpability - דבר שאין מתכון ופסיק רישיה

“It’s not my fault,” really? Sources

Ketubot 5b Hear No Evil - יניח אצבעותיו באזניו

What noise to filter and how to do so.  Sources