057: How to have GREAT Stories | 30th Birthday

I spent my 30th birthday in London. 6 months prior I had decided that I was going to be successful by 30, which at that point only meant that I wanted my bank account overflowing with extra funds by then.  Not exactly the best foundation for success, by the way.
However, It seemed serendipitous that the graduation of the event was on the turn of decades for me, and I thought everything would pull together because it was so perfect.
I've never had a huge desire to go to London, it's mainly due to the lackluster weather and cuisine they're known for. For that reason, I should've realized my plan was flawed already, but we are good at talking ourselves into things that seem perfect, aren't we? It's like seeing the best shirt ever in a store, only to try it on and realize it really doesn't suit you, yet it's so hard to walk away from that perfect (but actually not perfect at all) shirt.
London as a city ended up being nicer than I thought, besides the exchange rate obviously. If I was a Brit, I would travel 90% of my time and get everything for 90% off.
I stayed with 2 different new-ish friends in London. If there's any advice I'd give to people starting as early as possible, it's to befriend people who have that travel itch, or who are from different countries. There's nothing better than having a familiar face and a comfy homey bed in a foreign place.
Back to my birthday, I spent it at the Ritz, at the business event with 15 chicks. Old world glam, besides being impressive in itself, doesn't interest me too much. Having all the tiny details attended to is fun, but I really just want to tell everyone to go up a bit on the relaxing and true smiles. Getting everything you want should be a happy experience filled with lots of laughs.
I did, however, get a delicious birthday cake brought out by the staff, which was crazy yum. So their cake bakers get an A+.
What the business event that day taught me about most of all is that everything is connections. Life is about relationships. What really matters is the people you interact with. I don't get very emotional but the people who did, I noticed that all of their emotions traced back to people. It was never: "that $1000 didn't make me happy" or "my Facebook ads have ruined my life;" it was "I was abandoned when I was younger and it's affecting me. It was "my mom said something to me and it's shaped my life negatively" or "my husband doesn't quite agree with me and I need to please him first" or "I don't want to outshine my sister" or "I don't want others to not trust me because someone broke my trust and I don't want people to feel the way I did."
If we can realize that it's actually our "people pleasing" that is holding us back in almost every scenario (test it for yourself), we could go crazy crazy further than we ever knew was possible. 
It's actually insane.
Please give some time to think about who you're unnecessarily trying to please in your life. This can include your kids too. I recently reminded my mom that it's more exciting for us kids to see her passionately pursuing her dreams rather than trying to please us by being there at every beckoning.
What's this require? Boundaries. Knowing you deserve more. Making it non-negotiable. Quitting using old stories as a crutch. Moving past the fear. Giving way more time to yourself. Taking action immediately. And most importantly recognizing all of your excuses and stopping all complaining.
You'll find it really empowering to hear all the "buts" you're using and having to turn them into immediate possibilities.
My latest "but" sentence was simply in my head. Those are some of the worst, by the way, because they are the stories you tell yourself on repeat without realizing. Things like "I want to start posting on social media regularly but It's a busy time right now and I don't want to be inconsistent." With one sentence, you've successfully rationalized an excuse to yourself.