All That Really Matters

The moral of this week's episode: Nothing matters other than your relationship with your child!

What doesn't matter: grades; behavior; attitude; sports
What does matter: Our relationship  

My job as a parent isn't to control my kids' behavior, get them to act a certain way, make sure they're making other people comfortable. It's to show them love and acceptance and show them what a healthy, loving relationship is supposed to look like.

So much pressure is put on parents to make sure our kids act a certain way and don't get in trouble, which can feel really lonely and overwhelming. 

Our kids are not equipped to handle responsibilities that were never meant to be theirs. They're not equipped to handle other people's emotions, behaviors, reactions, or expectations. They have their own stressors, challenges, and needs that might already be overwhelming to them, so adding anything to their plate is virtually impossible for them to manage on their own.

If you have a kid who's struggling - stop focusing on the behavior; shift your focus on the relationship. It can start to feel like the entire relationship is focused on the negative, making it hard to even want to be around one another. If you can refocus on enjoying each other and improving the relationship, the rest will come.

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