Parent Talk: Guest Vicki Tiede, The Porn Invasion

The Porn Invasion is a three-part Choose NOW Ministries blog series by Vicki Tiede and a Parent Talk podcast episode with guest Vicki Tiede and host Nicole O'Dell.

The Porn Invasion Part One: Oh, be careful little eyes what you see. 

Let’s just, for a moment, peek behind a door that you might prefer to keep closed. Regardless of how great a parent you are or how careful you’ve been about raising your children in the church, the fact of the matter is porn has a pervasive Internet presence and tempts even the best kids.

The Porn Invasion Part Two: Is your child viewing pornography? Now what?

Before you overreact, you need to find out if this was your child’s first exposure. If it was, then have a frank discussion, move the computer, and get some filtering software on your computers, notebooks, Smartphones, etc. – STAT! (See my recommendations in the article.)

If you’re pretty certain this is not a first-time exposure, then it’s time to have a very frank conversation with your son/daughter. Be prepared; you will most likely face resistance. Whether or not you’ve had conversations about porn in the past, most kids won’t stand before a parent and say they think looking at porn is a good idea. In their gut, they know it’s wrong and depending on what they’ve watched … very wrong! So in all likelihood, they are going to deny their use and vehemently deny that they have a problem.

The Porn Invasion Part Three: What should we tell the kids about our porn invasion?

That's an obvious question to ask if pornography has invaded your home and is tearing apart your marriage. Here’s a hard fact that’s difficult to swallow: according to a survey*, in 67% of cases in which one parent was acting out sexually (pornography, adultery, etc.), the children knew before there was an official disclosure.

This Parent Talk episode w/ guest Vicki Tiede

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