034: Extracurricular Activities

Parent Driven Development
Episode 034: Back to School and Extracurricular Activities for Kids
00:59 Welcome, Barrett Clark
Barrett Clark is a data programmer, speaker and author of Data Visualization ToolKit. He is a longtime member of the Ruby community and a co-organizer of RailCamp South. Married for 22 years, Barrett and his wife have two teenage boys and a new dog.
Ruby community
Family: 2 highschool teenage sons (senior / sophomore) both in band.
Parent advisors and past president to children’s band team
01:46 Extra curricular activities for kids
Barrett’s son involved with band
The parents get involved as well, to have the kids know that you value them and their interest
carpools with fellow parents
08:25 Extra cirrculars taking up more time than school and work. How to deal?
Helping kids see the importance of prioritizing (school, dating, work, band, etc)
12:20 Helping kids find their “thing” + Overly committing kids to activities to help them find a passion
Signing your kids up for more activities
Kids getting wiped out from over activity
Teaching kids the importance of community at a young age
15:15 Help kids find their community
Friends of similar interests and ideals
Creating deeper bonds
Certain activities lend towards a larger community than others. gymnastic - girls range from 12-18, while sports often limit to one age group
17:13 Becoming a part of your kids activities
More time with your children
Build your own community amongst the other parents involved with your kids
Flexibility in being involved “part-time”
20:51 Uninvolved parents vs. involved parents
Single parents
Younger kids in school
Parents helping each other get their kids to activities
Making sure other kids have support if their parents aren’t there or too busy
25:45 Ways to keep busy parents in the loop: build greater community
Film concerts, games, etc for distant family members or busy parents to help keep them involved
Building the community feel past just teammates and classmates
27:28 Discussing the organization of extra cirrculars before getting involved
Sit down and discuss with your child. what’s important to you most? will you have time for all these sports and clubs?
Ask about the history of the organization and decipher if it’s the right fit for you and your child
30:02 How to deal with “that parent” + learning to manage other parents in your kids activities
Don’t yell at refs
Overly involved parent envy
32:14 The financial side
Fundraisers - parents typically have to get involved as well
Writing a check vs. spending the time on fundraisers
Kids take responsibility (older kids)
Parents budgeting for future extracurriculars for kids
Non-negotiable extracurriculars for kids - kids choice vs. have-to’s
Budgeted financial support for activity or sport
42:35 Genius / fail moments
The volleyball team offers a weekend trial for students to try without commitment. #genius
New favorite child when they take on your same activity
Barrett plays catch up with son’s college applications - the struggles motivating your child and parent strategy #geniusfail
Middle school back to school night, too many teachers and no quality time #failmoment
Allison’s son on a mission to find Sukana bread… except she doesn’t know what it is #fail
Kwu’s son’s first haircut goes awry #fail So Kwu stepped up, orders tools and cuts his hair at home now #genius
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Panel
KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl)
Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton)
JC Avena (https://twitter.com/jcavena)
Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p)
Josh Puetz (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) Special Guest: Barrett Clark.

Parent Driven Development

Episode 034: Back to School and Extracurricular Activities for Kids

00:59 Welcome, Barrett Clark

Barrett Clark is a data programmer, speaker and author of Data Visualization ToolKit. He is a longtime member of the Ruby community and a co-organizer of RailCamp South. Married for 22 years, Barrett and his wife have two teenage boys and a new dog.

Ruby community

Family: 2 highschool teenage sons (senior / sophomore) both in band.

Parent advisors and past president to children’s band team

01:46 Extra curricular activities for kids

Barrett’s son involved with band
The parents get involved as well, to have the kids know that you value them and their interest
carpools with fellow parents

08:25 Extra cirrculars taking up more time than school and work. How to deal?

Helping kids see the importance of prioritizing (school, dating, work, band, etc)

12:20 Helping kids find their “thing” + Overly committing kids to activities to help them find a passion

Signing your kids up for more activities
Kids getting wiped out from over activity
Teaching kids the importance of community at a young age

15:15 Help kids find their community

Friends of similar interests and ideals
Creating deeper bonds
Certain activities lend towards a larger community than others. gymnastic - girls range from 12-18, while sports often limit to one age group

17:13 Becoming a part of your kids activities

More time with your children
Build your own community amongst the other parents involved with your kids
Flexibility in being involved “part-time”

20:51 Uninvolved parents vs. involved parents

Single parents
Younger kids in school
Parents helping each other get their kids to activities
Making sure other kids have support if their parents aren’t there or too busy

25:45 Ways to keep busy parents in the loop: build greater community

Film concerts, games, etc for distant family members or busy parents to help keep them involved
Building the community feel past just teammates and classmates

27:28 Discussing the organization of extra cirrculars before getting involved

Sit down and discuss with your child. what’s important to you most? will you have time for all these sports and clubs?
Ask about the history of the organization and decipher if it’s the right fit for you and your child

30:02 How to deal with “that parent” + learning to manage other parents in your kids activities

Don’t yell at refs
Overly involved parent envy

32:14 The financial side

Fundraisers - parents typically have to get involved as well
Writing a check vs. spending the time on fundraisers
Kids take responsibility (older kids)
Parents budgeting for future extracurriculars for kids
Non-negotiable extracurriculars for kids - kids choice vs. have-to’s
Budgeted financial support for activity or sport

42:35 Genius / fail moments

The volleyball team offers a weekend trial for students to try without commitment. #genius
New favorite child when they take on your same activity
Barrett plays catch up with son’s college applications - the struggles motivating your child and parent strategy #geniusfail
Middle school back to school night, too many teachers and no quality time #failmoment
Allison’s son on a mission to find Sukana bread… except she doesn’t know what it is #fail
Kwu’s son’s first haircut goes awry #fail So Kwu stepped up, orders tools and cuts his hair at home now #genius

Follow & Support

Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at [email protected].

Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.

Support us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.

Panel

KWu

Chris Sexton

JC Avena

Allison McMillan

Josh Puetz

Special Guest: Barrett Clark.