033: Raising Children Away From Family

Parent Driven Development
Episode 033: Raising Children Away From Family
00:28 Welcome, Adarsh Pandit
Adarsh is a self taught coder, scientist and consultant. He is the founder of Cylinder Digital, a software design and development studio, and is on the board of Ruby Together.
This episode we discuss what it’s like to raise a family, while living away from your parents and other family members.
03:00 The difficulties of raising a family away from family
Lack of support
Career trade offs
Finding a sitter
07:01 Home-Ops: The Business Side of Raising a Family
Who can help with childcare?
Realizing the limitations of parents age and health as they get older
Adjusting child care depending on the time, day or event that they are covering for. - who can drive?
13:30 - Coping with coordination
Co-op babysitting
Drop off playdates with neighbors
17:11 Finding the Right Child/Child and Parent/Parent Match
Finding the perfect family match: kids need to get along and parents need to get along
Building rapport with other families to become close enough to ask for favors for pick-up give specific dietary requirements, disciplining other kids and have other parents disciplining your kids
“it’s probably fine” - trusting other parents with your kids
22:15 The Importance of Being a Patient Parent Without Extra Family Support
Effective response to kids
Managing stress - yoga, lots of water, getting outside, eating well
23:37 Work Flexibility
Staying organized as a working parent
Being a consultant has been helpful for Adarsh because he can dial up or down depending on the demands of the children.
The benefits of being at home or working at home - enjoy the time with your toddlers because there will be a day they will not want your attention any more.
30:03 The Trade Offs of Having Two Working Parents
Potential extra PTO for one the parents
One parent typically has a more flexible schedule
32:30 Fail Moments
More poop stories, because poop is always funny. #Fail
36:16 Showing Empathy Towards our Kids
Kids are actually little people with little personalities and their own personal functions, weird!?
Allowing kids to figure things out on their own.
39:30 Genius Moments
Allison invites her son Devin on stage during a conference event and he tells says… “Mommy, I just want to be just like you when I grow up” #genius
KWu’s diaper change at the playground #fail… having a spare outfit in the diaper bag #genius
Adarsh gets his son to poop in the toilet #genius
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KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl)
Allison McMillan (https://twitter.com/allie_p)
Adarsh Pandit (https://twitter.com/adarshp)

Parent Driven Development

Episode 033: Raising Children Away From Family

00:28 Welcome, Adarsh Pandit

Adarsh is a self taught coder, scientist and consultant. He is the founder of Cylinder Digital, a software design and development studio, and is on the board of Ruby Together.

This episode we discuss what it’s like to raise a family, while living away from your parents and other family members.

03:00 The difficulties of raising a family away from family

Lack of support
Career trade offs
Finding a sitter

07:01 Home-Ops: The Business Side of Raising a Family

Who can help with childcare?
Realizing the limitations of parents age and health as they get older
Adjusting child care depending on the time, day or event that they are covering for. - who can drive?

13:30 - Coping with coordination

Co-op babysitting
Drop off playdates with neighbors

17:11 Finding the Right Child/Child and Parent/Parent Match

Finding the perfect family match: kids need to get along and parents need to get along
Building rapport with other families to become close enough to ask for favors for pick-up give specific dietary requirements, disciplining other kids and have other parents disciplining your kids
“it’s probably fine” - trusting other parents with your kids

22:15 The Importance of Being a Patient Parent Without Extra Family Support

Effective response to kids
Managing stress - yoga, lots of water, getting outside, eating well

23:37 Work Flexibility

Staying organized as a working parent
Being a consultant has been helpful for Adarsh because he can dial up or down depending on the demands of the children.
The benefits of being at home or working at home - enjoy the time with your toddlers because there will be a day they will not want your attention any more.

30:03 The Trade Offs of Having Two Working Parents

Potential extra PTO for one the parents
One parent typically has a more flexible schedule

32:30 Fail Moments

More poop stories, because poop is always funny. #Fail

36:16 Showing Empathy Towards our Kids

Kids are actually little people with little personalities and their own personal functions, weird!?
Allowing kids to figure things out on their own.

39:30 Genius Moments

Allison invites her son Devin on stage during a conference event and he tells says… “Mommy, I just want to be just like you when I grow up” #genius
KWu’s diaper change at the playground #fail… having a spare outfit in the diaper bag #genius
Adarsh gets his son to poop in the toilet #genius

Follow & Support

Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at [email protected].

Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.

Support us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.

Panel

KWu

Allison McMillan

Adarsh Pandit