Why the Art of Self Care Involves Healing From Childhood Wounds with Tara Schuster

On episode 84 of Outside The Studio:

How often do you allow yourself the joy of purchasing a small, modest gift for yourself? Tessa Tovar talks to Tara Schuster on her new book, Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies, where she encourages everyone to do just that; get yourself something small and beautiful. Tune in for the story on
Schusters journey from Comedy Central executive to author, what self-care means, and gaining confidence in our bodies.

Previously, Tara served as vice president of talent and development at Comedy Central, where she was the executive in charge of the Emmy and Peabody Award–winning Key
and Peele. Schuster is the author of several books such as Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies and Glow in the F*cking Dark.

Timestamps

(00:00) Intro

(02:30) Tara's background

(05:35) Comedy Central to author

(16:45) Buy Yourself the F*cking
Lilies

(25:15) Holding space for opposites

(31:25) Low level anxiety and emotion wheels (39:35) Repairing the relationship with our bodies

(46:30) Purpose

(52:40) Connect

Key Takeaways

1. At times, we can feel that we are not worthy
of modest gifts to ourselves; small acts of self-care become distant. Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies speaks to that. Buying yourself a small want. Maybe it's in the form of a quality cup of coffee, a side of guacamole that's a dollar extra, or a small bundle of flowers. This
isn't about an expensive purchase that will financially screw you, it's about a loving gesture towards yourself.

2. Low-level anxiety may be the secondary feeling to what we are actually wanting to feel. We may struggle to express or allow feelings such as anger, distress,
or resentment, often because we don't have the vocabulary to even begin describing it. Using an emotion wheel is the perfect tool to ask yourself what you may be actually feeling.

3. Repairing the relationship with our bodies is difficult, especially for women when we are advertised
that everything is wrong with us and we need a grandiose, expensive product that industries are trying to shove down our throats. To start that relationship, beginning with gratitude for a body that's capable of keeping us alive is a simple practice to start.

Connect with
Tara Schuster Website: https://www.taraschuster.com/

Glow in the F*cking Dark: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/673405/glow-in-the-fcking-dark-by-tara-schuster/

Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies: https://www.taraschuster.com/lillies

Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/taraschuster/?hl=en

Twitter: https://twitter.com/taraschustar?lang=en

Connect with Tessa Tovar

Website: https://tessatovar.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tessamarietovar/

LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/tessa-tovar-baa27613

Twitter: https://twitter.com/TBenedicktus

On episode 84 of Outside The Studio:

How often do you allow yourself the joy of purchasing a small, modest gift for yourself? Tessa Tovar talks to Tara Schuster on her new book, Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies, where she encourages everyone to do just that; get yourself something small and beautiful. Tune in for the story on
Schusters journey from Comedy Central executive to author, what self-care means, and gaining confidence in our bodies.

Previously, Tara served as vice president of talent and development at Comedy Central, where she was the executive in charge of the Emmy and Peabody Award–winning Key
and Peele. Schuster is the author of several books such as Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies and Glow in the F*cking Dark.

Timestamps

(00:00) Intro

(02:30) Tara's background

(05:35) Comedy Central to author

(16:45) Buy Yourself the F*cking
Lilies

(25:15) Holding space for opposites

(31:25) Low level anxiety and emotion wheels (39:35) Repairing the relationship with our bodies

(46:30) Purpose

(52:40) Connect

Key Takeaways

1. At times, we can feel that we are not worthy
of modest gifts to ourselves; small acts of self-care become distant. Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies speaks to that. Buying yourself a small want. Maybe it's in the form of a quality cup of coffee, a side of guacamole that's a dollar extra, or a small bundle of flowers. This
isn't about an expensive purchase that will financially screw you, it's about a loving gesture towards yourself.

2. Low-level anxiety may be the secondary feeling to what we are actually wanting to feel. We may struggle to express or allow feelings such as anger, distress,
or resentment, often because we don't have the vocabulary to even begin describing it. Using an emotion wheel is the perfect tool to ask yourself what you may be actually feeling.

3. Repairing the relationship with our bodies is difficult, especially for women when we are advertised
that everything is wrong with us and we need a grandiose, expensive product that industries are trying to shove down our throats. To start that relationship, beginning with gratitude for a body that's capable of keeping us alive is a simple practice to start.

Connect with
Tara Schuster Website: https://www.taraschuster.com/

Glow in the F*cking Dark: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/673405/glow-in-the-fcking-dark-by-tara-schuster/

Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies: https://www.taraschuster.com/lillies

Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/taraschuster/?hl=en

Twitter: https://twitter.com/taraschustar?lang=en

Connect with Tessa Tovar

Website: https://tessatovar.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tessamarietovar/

LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/tessa-tovar-baa27613

Twitter: https://twitter.com/TBenedicktus