Training Your Nervous System to Heal Emotional Pain with Dan Sykes

On episode 52 of Outside The Studio:

Nervous System trainer Dan Sykes joins Tessa to discuss how to train your nervous system to recover faster from emotional scars. We live in an amazing moment of time where we have plenty of options to catalyze our emotional healing - that is the central premise of this episode.

In
their conversation, Tessa and Dan explore the differences between the gentle arts and martial arts and how they affect our outlook and behavior, why you shouldn't build a shrine to your pain, why it doesn't make sense to spend decades healing from emotional pain, and how feeling
more can transform your personal life and health.

Dan Sykes is the founder of Somatic Lab Live. Somatic Lab Live is a nervous system training and education platform. It is through nervous system training that Dan was able to build his life back from the ground up after his business,
life, and marriage fell apart.

'Feel more, live more' - Dan Sykes

Timestamps

(00:00) Who is Dan Sykes?

(01:44) How Dan's business, marriage, and life fell apart (and how he built it back up).

(09:34) Getting stuck between sympathetic
and parasympathetic extremes OR Two extreme reactions to pain that most people are stuck within.

(19:08) Why do we allow our emotional pains more time to heal?

(22:31) You can speed up emotional healing. Here's why.

(31:03) Slowing down to speed up healing: 3 sensations
to try to feel.

(41:24) Daily rituals to regulate your nervous system. (cold water therapy and more)

(47:31) Rituals to get ready for sleep

(50:17) What NOT to do when training your nervous system.

4 Key Takeaways

1. Training your nervous
system is similar to music and food. You don't have to stick to any one genre, cuisine, or method. You can pick and choose what works for you and what doesn't. Your nervous system craves consistency and variety.

2. Ancient traditions (eg: yoga) don't use the term 'nervous
system' even though that's what they do. This is because when these ancient traditions were invented, the term 'nervous system' was not yet coined.

3. Psychology and physiology are intrinsically connected 100% of the time. The divide between the physical from the emotional
is artificial.

4. Never count reps when you're training your nervous system. Training your nervous system is about feelings rather than logic.

Links Dan Sykes' Book:

Somatic Fanatic How Training My Nervous System With the World's Master Instructors
Helped Me Beat My Midlife Crisis:

https://www.amazon.com/Somatic-Fanatic-Training-Nervous-Instructors-ebook/dp/B09NHWQRDJ

Connect With Dan Sykes:

Nervous System trainings: https://somaticlab.live/

Connect With Tessa Tovar:

Website: https://tessatovar.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tessamarietovar/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tessa-tovar-baa27613

Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/TBenedicktus

On episode 52 of Outside The Studio:

Nervous System trainer Dan Sykes joins Tessa to discuss how to train your nervous system to recover faster from emotional scars. We live in an amazing moment of time where we have plenty of options to catalyze our emotional healing - that is the central premise of this episode.

In
their conversation, Tessa and Dan explore the differences between the gentle arts and martial arts and how they affect our outlook and behavior, why you shouldn't build a shrine to your pain, why it doesn't make sense to spend decades healing from emotional pain, and how feeling
more can transform your personal life and health.

Dan Sykes is the founder of Somatic Lab Live. Somatic Lab Live is a nervous system training and education platform. It is through nervous system training that Dan was able to build his life back from the ground up after his business,
life, and marriage fell apart.

'Feel more, live more' - Dan Sykes

Timestamps

(00:00) Who is Dan Sykes?

(01:44) How Dan's business, marriage, and life fell apart (and how he built it back up).

(09:34) Getting stuck between sympathetic
and parasympathetic extremes OR Two extreme reactions to pain that most people are stuck within.

(19:08) Why do we allow our emotional pains more time to heal?

(22:31) You can speed up emotional healing. Here's why.

(31:03) Slowing down to speed up healing: 3 sensations
to try to feel.

(41:24) Daily rituals to regulate your nervous system. (cold water therapy and more)

(47:31) Rituals to get ready for sleep

(50:17) What NOT to do when training your nervous system.

4 Key Takeaways

1. Training your nervous
system is similar to music and food. You don't have to stick to any one genre, cuisine, or method. You can pick and choose what works for you and what doesn't. Your nervous system craves consistency and variety.

2. Ancient traditions (eg: yoga) don't use the
term 'nervous system' even though that's what they do. This is because when these ancient traditions were invented, the term 'nervous system' was not yet coined.

3. Psychology and physiology are intrinsically connected 100% of the time. The divide between the physical
from the emotional is artificial.

4. Never count reps when you're training your nervous system. Training your nervous system is about feelings rather than logic.

Links Dan Sykes' Book:

Somatic Fanatic How Training My Nervous System With the
World's Master Instructors Helped Me Beat My Midlife Crisis:

https://www.amazon.com/Somatic-Fanatic-Training-Nervous-Instructors-ebook/dp/B09NHWQRDJ

Connect With
Dan Sykes:

Nervous System trainings: https://somaticlab.live/

Connect With Tessa Tovar:

Website: https://tessatovar.com/

Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/tessamarietovar/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tessa-tovar-baa27613

Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/TBenedicktus