Deciding to Heal: How a Widow Got Her Groove Back with Rosemary Mupambwa

Rosemary Mupambwa is a courageous woman who got tired of crying herself to sleep after her husband’s death in 2000. Ultimately, she realized that crying about her situation as a single parent and a widow was self-destructive. Furthermore, Rosemary never received an apology from the people that caused her grief. Her book, Exhume or Heal, A Widow’s Memoir, Getting Her Groove Back, became Rosemary’s healing manual. Now Rosemary is on a mission to help women heal from their grief and trauma from their past, broken relationships. Also, she helps them get back into the dating scene with a bang after a long dry spell. 

Episode Highlights:

Rosemary was married for nearly 12 years before her husband was taken away from her. Furthermore, she became widowed when she was in her late 30s with young children. Rosemary and her husband were lecturers at a college and her husband had a business. Consequently, she went from three incomes to one after his death. Rosemary talks about the times that she really missed her husband: for example when her children graduated from college. The circumstances surrounding the death of her husband led Rosemary to experience betrayal and a feeling of abandonment. Also, her husband's family turned their back on her. Her father sold some of his goats to help Rosemary out financially. Rosemary's father passed away two years later and her in-laws did not support her. Wanting revenge was causing Rosemary pain. In addition, she suffered from health issues. Her husband’s family changed her husband's death certificate to "divorced". When her husband passed away, Rosemary was out of town attending her brother's funeral. Eventually, Rosemary moved from Africa to the United States and then to Canada. Rosemary explains the challenges she had in getting her children to move from Africa to live with her in Canada. To save enough money to bring her children to Canada, Rosemary had to work three jobs. She also went to college to get a degree so she could get a better job. Rosemary lost her mom to cancer and then her youngest brother in February 2019. She was in shock and denial about the death of her brother. One of her friends in Canada invited her to a retreat for women and reluctantly, she attended. The retreat was her turning point. Writing her book was healing. And, she realized healing is a choice. Next, Rosemary shares some relationship advice. Looking for love after a dry spell is challenging for women and Rosemary explains why. Next Rosemary explains her term "dating smart". Dating from a desperate mode will not result in a good outcome. Next, Rosemary explains how a woman can get a man to respect her. Ultimately, Rosemary hung onto her pain for nearly 19 years before deciding to forgive and heal. Finally, it's up to the individual to make the decision to heal.

Resources Mentioned: 

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