54. First Phone, Hard Conversations, Sex Talk

On last week’s episode, I brought up the topic of kids having access to the internet and porn. It might seem like a far-fetched idea for a podcast about toddlers, but these issues come up a lot sooner than you think. Today I’ll discuss how to introduce these concepts to your children slowly and gently, without overwhelming them with more information than they’re ready for. This episode is all about planting the seeds early for blossoming conversations.
The internet, texting, and social media have ushered in a new era of parenting, but having an open dialogue with your kids from an early age will encourage them to come to you with their problems later on, and develop the valuable skills they’ll need to be able to tackle tricky situations by themselves as well.

The Finer Details of This Episode:

Phone use is a tough topic that will come up sooner than you think, and it will lead to other issues such as access to the internet

You can start having miniature conversations now to help develop the skills they’ll need when they enter the tween years and their peers are using phones or internet

The idea that someone would wait until their child is 11 or 12 to have “The Talk” with their kids is astounding to me - there is way too much information to cover all at once

The mechanics of sex are the easiest part of this conversation

Feelings, hormones, masturbation, and the pleasure aspect are much harder to discuss, but very important

You don’t need to wait until they start asking you questions, but look out for signs that you’re giving more information than they need

If you’re approaching this as one single conversation in your “teacher voice,” your kid will not listen to you - these conversations should happen on the fly, often in the car

When you keep it casual, the information just becomes information - it’s not loaded

Use anatomically correct body terms, but also teach them slang so that they understand what other people might call them

Arming kids with the right information will help in matters of sexual consent later on

Have a book with labels to refer to when you talk about sex and puberty

How I introduced the idea of masturbation in my own parenting experience

Your child will probably get their first phone around 10 or 11

Prepare your child and let them know what to expect during puberty

Having an open dialogue will encourage your kids to come to you later when they experience a sticky situation

Why you may need to track your child’s phone as they get older

There’s a fine balance between giving your kids privacy and room to make mistakes, but also making sure they’re safe

Kids need to be able to make their own mistakes - this helps them develop valuable skills and problem solving as young adults

Links:
Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com
Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU
Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - 
https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738
Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?
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On last week’s episode, I brought up the topic of kids having access to the internet and porn. It might seem like a far-fetched idea for a podcast about toddlers, but these issues come up a lot sooner than you think. Today I’ll discuss how to introduce these concepts to your children slowly and gently, without overwhelming them with more information than they’re ready for. This episode is all about planting the seeds early for blossoming conversations.

The internet, texting, and social media have ushered in a new era of parenting, but having an open dialogue with your kids from an early age will encourage them to come to you with their problems later on, and develop the valuable skills they’ll need to be able to tackle tricky situations by themselves as well.

The Finer Details of This Episode:

Phone use is a tough topic that will come up sooner than you think, and it will lead to other issues such as access to the internet
You can start having miniature conversations now to help develop the skills they’ll need when they enter the tween years and their peers are using phones or internet
The idea that someone would wait until their child is 11 or 12 to have “The Talk” with their kids is astounding to me - there is way too much information to cover all at once
The mechanics of sex are the easiest part of this conversation
Feelings, hormones, masturbation, and the pleasure aspect are much harder to discuss, but very important
You don’t need to wait until they start asking you questions, but look out for signs that you’re giving more information than they need
If you’re approaching this as one single conversation in your “teacher voice,” your kid will not listen to you - these conversations should happen on the fly, often in the car
When you keep it casual, the information just becomes information - it’s not loaded
Use anatomically correct body terms, but also teach them slang so that they understand what other people might call them
Arming kids with the right information will help in matters of sexual consent later on
Have a book with labels to refer to when you talk about sex and puberty
How I introduced the idea of masturbation in my own parenting experience
Your child will probably get their first phone around 10 or 11
Prepare your child and let them know what to expect during puberty
Having an open dialogue will encourage your kids to come to you later when they experience a sticky situation
Why you may need to track your child’s phone as they get older
There’s a fine balance between giving your kids privacy and room to make mistakes, but also making sure they’re safe
Kids need to be able to make their own mistakes - this helps them develop valuable skills and problem solving as young adults

Links:

Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com

Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU

Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - 

https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738

Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?

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