Non-Monogamy Help
140 episodes - English - Latest episode: 4 days ago - ★★★★★ - 45 ratingsNon-Monogamy Help is a relationship advice podcast for people in non-monogamous or polyamorous relationships. With the help of a therapist with over a decade of experience, your host Lola Phoenix, answers the questions your questions about rules, hierarchies, unicorns and more.
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Episodes
Episode 85 - Insecurity and Comparisons
June 24, 2022 15:00 - 25 minutes - 23.9 MBYou want to be non-monogamous but you can’t stop feeling a way about your partner commenting or liking pictures of others. How do you deal? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://pod...
Episode 84 - Disclosure and Outing
June 10, 2022 15:00 - 20 minutes - 19.2 MBYou’re in a not so open minded city. How do you tell people you want to date that you’re currently in a polyamorous or open relationship? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podca...
Episode 83 - Recycled Dates
May 27, 2022 15:00 - 35 minutes - 32.5 MBWhat happens when you’re trying non-monogamy for the first time, but you and your partner can’t come to an agreement on things like not going to the same places they’ve taken a metamour? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your questi...
Episode 82 - Dating Metamours
May 13, 2022 15:00 - 15 minutes - 13.9 MBWhen your shared partner is making you both feel like you’re a triad when you’ve never agreed to that… it can get a little awkward. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters....
Episode 81 - Just FOMO
April 29, 2022 15:00 - 18 minutes - 17 MBThinking about the things you might be missing out on doesn’t, in fact, make you a jerk. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 80 - Trying to Convince
April 08, 2022 15:00 - 15 minutes - 10.5 MBIf you’re trying to convince your partner to be polyamorous, you may not be able to “fix” them wanting monogamy. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/sho...
Episode 79 - Outside Veto
April 01, 2022 10:42 - 19 minutes - 13.8 MBThis week's episode is about what happens when a mutual friend is unhappy with the relationship building happening between you and someone else. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on our website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 78 - Not Good Enough
March 11, 2022 17:00 - 21 minutes - 14.6 MBSometimes when your partner wants non-monogamy you can be left feeling like you’ve failed or not done enough. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on our website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/...
Episode 77 - Making the Leap
February 25, 2022 17:00 - 16 minutes - 11.2 MBIf non-monogamy is a no go, should you say goodbye to a five year relationship on a hunch? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on our website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/m...
Episode 76 - No Way Out
February 11, 2022 17:00 - 28 minutes - 20.6 MBIf you feel you’re between crushing emotions and a family breakdown, you might feel like there’s no way out. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on our website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/n...
Episode 75 - Overreacting
January 28, 2022 17:00 - 16 minutes - 12.4 MBYour short term partner is snapping and says it’s a joke and your long term partner says you’re overreacting. How do you deal? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on our website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spo...
Episode 74 - Dating Family
January 14, 2022 17:00 - 18 minutes - 13.1 MBIn starting out in polyamory, most people want to make rules — like no dating friends or family. It’s worth thinking more about that rule. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on our website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! More about Non-Monogamy Help: Read the column Subscribe to the newsletter Become a patron ...
Episode 73 - Caveat Emptor
January 01, 2022 17:00 - 19 minutes - 14 MBIt’s easy to think you might be interest in non-monogamy, but what if you have some conflicting feelings when theory becomes practice? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 72 - Caveat Emptor
January 01, 2022 17:00 - 19 minutes - 14 MBIt’s easy to think you might be interest in non-monogamy, but what if you have some conflicting feelings when theory becomes practice?
Episode 72 - Problematic Pedestal
December 17, 2021 17:00 - 22 minutes - 15.8 MBWhen you put one partner on a pedestal, it can cause a lot of constant anxiety. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 71 - Feelings and Friends
December 03, 2021 17:00 - 19 minutes - 11.5 MBWe create rules sometimes about what our partners can do because we’re afraid of losing them, but sometimes the rules we make don’t actually change anything. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 70 - Half Ghosting
November 12, 2021 17:00 - 19 minutes - 8.91 MBWhat happens when your mutual partner ghosts you, but not your partner? Rejection sucks, but this feels a bit different. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What happens when your partner and your best friend don’t get along? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 69 - Self-Sacrificing Too Much
October 29, 2021 17:00 - 25 minutes - 17.4 MBIf you’ve given a partner 10 years in monogamy, but they expect you to be happy and feel compersion after deciding to be polyamorous, you might be self-sacrificing a little too much. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What’s one major way your values have changed in the last 10 years? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 68 - Mismatched Ideals
October 15, 2021 17:00 - 21 minutes - 15.2 MBIf your partner is polyamorous but you are non-monogamous is your relationship doomed? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What is your ideal polyamory or non-monogamy set-up? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 67 - Mismatched Ideals
October 15, 2021 17:00 - 21 minutes - 15.2 MBIf your partner is polyamorous but you are non-monogamous is your relationship doomed? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on our website. Discussion Topic - What is your ideal polyamory or non-monogamy set-up? Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! More about Non-Monogamy Help: Read the column Subscribe to the n...
Episode 67 - Temporary Monogamy
October 01, 2021 17:00 - 34 minutes - 31.3 MBCan an aversion to non-monogamy come from relationship anxiety and trauma? Discussion Topic - What have you changed your mind about in terms of how you want to live your life? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 66 - Hidden Metamour
September 17, 2021 17:00 - 15 minutes - 14.1 MBEven if you have confusing boundaries and you’re not “official”, lying by omission can still feel like cheating. Discussion Topic - What is a non-monogamous setup that wouldn’t work for you? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 65 - No Longer Primary
September 03, 2021 17:00 - 20 minutes - 18.9 MBHow do you force yourself out of apathy if you feel the partner you want to settle down with is slipping away? Discussion Topic - How has your ideal lifestyle changed over time? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 64 - What Rules to Have
August 20, 2021 17:00 - 18 minutes - 14.5 MBWill the rules you want to put in place prevent what you think they will prevent? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 63 - Visualising Your Partner
August 06, 2021 19:00 - 22 minutes - 18.7 MBWhat if you can’t see your partner with someone else in your head without feeling terrible? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 62 - More Metamour Toxicity
July 23, 2021 17:00 - 18 minutes - 14 MBYour partner’s partner’s partner doesn’t seem like they’re good for your metamour, but what can you actually do? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogam...
Episode 61 - PTSD and Polyamory
July 09, 2021 17:00 - 27 minutes - 18.9 MBA previous abusive experience of a polyam relationship is causing floods of emotions on your second try. Should you stop? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/no...
Episode 60 - Temporarily Open
June 18, 2021 17:00 - 22 minutes - 15.7 MBCan opening your relationship temporarily work to address an incompatibility? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 59 - Feeling Disconnected
June 04, 2021 17:00 - 18 minutes - 12.6 MBIf COVID caught a relationship when it was just forming, is it worth picking back up again if you’re feeling disconnected? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/n...
Episode 58 - Sexual Incompatibility
May 21, 2021 17:00 - 25 minutes - 18.3 MBAfter more than a decade, your partner wants to open up because he’s not happy, but you think things are going too fast. What do you do? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify....
Episode 57 - Begging For Time
May 07, 2021 17:00 - 21 minutes - 14.9 MBYou’ve started in a new triad but you’re feeling like the third wheel and no one is spending time with you. What do you do? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/...
Episode 56 - Escalating Past a Metamour
April 23, 2021 17:00 - 17 minutes - 12.2 MBYour partner is escalating your relationship and it’s making your metamour jealous. What can you do? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 56 - Escalating Past a Metamour
April 23, 2021 17:00 - 18 minutes - 16.5 MBYour partner is escalating your relationship and it’s making your metamour jealous. What can you do? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What does an “escalation” in a relationship mean to you? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 55 - How Much is Too Much
April 09, 2021 17:00 - 25 minutes - 18.1 MBHow much is too much to know about your partner’s other relationships? Where is the line? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 54 - Sacrificing Too Much
March 26, 2021 17:00 - 31 minutes - 22.1 MBWhen you're trying your best with polyamory but it feels like if you don't get it right, you may get divorced. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-...
Episode 53 - Forgiving Mistakes
March 12, 2021 17:00 - 28 minutes - 21.3 MBYou have a metamour who thinks someone you're dating is a bad person. What do you do? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 52 - Anxious After Marriage
February 26, 2021 17:00 - 20 minutes - 15.4 MBAnxiety that's so overwhelming can make you feel like non-monogamy isn't for you at the time. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 51 - Conversion Therapy
February 12, 2021 17:00 - 20 minutes - 14.3 MBWhen you don't want to be polyamorous anymore and you're considering therapy to convert yourself back. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/mes...
Episode 50 - What Is Love?
January 15, 2021 17:00 - 20 minutes - 14.7 MBYour partner expects you to commit to monogamy eventually but you're not sure if you've ever been in love. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help...
Episode 49 - Wanting Monogamy
January 01, 2021 17:00 - 20 minutes - 13.4 MBA partner comes to you asking if you'd consider monogamy and then changes their mind later on, but you're still stuck on wanting it. What do you do? https://anchor.fm/dashboard/episode/e1s4f46 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 48 - Too Much NRE
December 18, 2020 17:00 - 33 minutes - 23.7 MBIs 18 months enough time to give someone to decide if they want polyamory? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 47 - Harem Boy
December 04, 2020 17:00 - 29 minutes - 20.8 MBShould you judge a guy who says that all men want a harem of submissive women? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 46 - STI Risks
November 20, 2020 17:00 - 32 minutes - 22.6 MBHow worried should you be about STI risk as an immunocompromised person? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 45 - Sex Work and Polyamory
November 06, 2020 17:00 - 15 minutes - 10.3 MBWhat resources are available for someone who asks about dating a sex worker? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 46 - Sex Work and Polyamory
November 06, 2020 17:00 - 15 minutes - 13.8 MBWhat resources are available for someone who asks about dating a sex worker? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on Patreon. Discussion Topic - What do you blame your parents for? Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! More about Non-Monogamy Help: Read the column Subscribe to the newsletter Become a patron F...
Episode 44 - You Don't Need 5 Partners
October 23, 2020 17:00 - 17 minutes - 11.8 MBWhat happens when you struggle to find partners but your domestic partner does not? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 43 - What if It Ends?
October 09, 2020 16:59 - 26 minutes - 19.3 MBWhat happens when our biggest fear is losing our current relationship? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 42 - The Dreaded Veto
September 25, 2020 17:00 - 32 minutes - 22.4 MBWhen you've conceded to many rules but your partner demands you dump another, what do you do? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 41 - No Rules Just Wrong
September 11, 2020 17:00 - 31 minutes - 21.8 MBIn trying establish rules, does that make you less "ready" for non-monogamy or polyamory? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 40 - Polyam is Valid
August 14, 2020 16:55 - 16 minutes - 11.9 MBWhat if you're struggling to see the relationship you have as valid if they're married to someone else? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/me...