Non-Monogamy Help
139 episodes - English - Latest episode: 14 days ago - ★★★★★ - 45 ratingsNon-Monogamy Help is a relationship advice podcast for people in non-monogamous or polyamorous relationships. With the help of a therapist with over a decade of experience, your host Lola Phoenix, answers the questions your questions about rules, hierarchies, unicorns and more.
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Episode 130 - Deprioritised
April 12, 2024 15:00 - 26 minutes - 20.3 MBIf you know you’re being deprioritised and you just feel you can’t leave, can you actually make it work. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com. ...
Episode 129 - Struggling to Be Together
March 29, 2024 16:00 - 18 minutes - 14.7 MBYou can’t live your life only making decisions based on what will or won’t disappoint other adults. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com. Email ...
Non-Monogamy Help Trailer
March 22, 2024 16:14 - 1 minute - 963 KBWhat's Non-Monogamy Help about? I explain it. Head to nonmonogamyhelp.com for more details. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 128 - Stopping Emotions
March 08, 2024 16:00 - 18 minutes - 13.1 MBIs there really a way to stop your emotions in their tracks or fully control them especially if you’re in a difficult housing situation? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jo...
Episode 128: Stopping Emotions
March 08, 2024 16:00 - 18 minutes - 13.1 MBIs there really a way to stop your emotions in their tracks or fully control them especially if you’re in a difficult housing situation? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com. Email [email protected] with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyh...
Episode 127 - Polyamory for Straight Dudes
March 01, 2024 16:00 - 13 minutes - 9.66 MBGiving my best recap of what straight men might face when it comes to the lifestyle of polyamory. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com. Email ask@no...
Episode 127: Polyamory for Straight Dudes
March 01, 2024 16:00 - 13 minutes - 9.66 MBGiving my best recap of what straight men might face when it comes to the lifestyle of polyamory. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com. Email [email protected] with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact --- Send in a voice message...
Episode 126 - Living With Partners
February 16, 2024 16:00 - 20 minutes - 14.4 MBLiving with people is already hard but living with a new partner and a metamour you don’t have a connection with can add to the challenge. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at al...
Episode 126: Living With Partners
February 16, 2024 16:00 - 20 minutes - 14.4 MBLiving with people is already hard but living with a new partner and a metamour you don’t have a connection with can add to the challenge. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your qu...
Episode 125 - De-escalating from Polyamory
February 02, 2024 16:00 - 24 minutes - 17.4 MBIs there a way to do polyamory without doing polyamory or de-escalate when you figure out that polyamory is not for you? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com...
Episode 124 - Reasonable Boundaries
January 21, 2024 12:22 - 24 minutes - 22.6 MBKnowing what boundaries are “reasonable” and which aren’t can be complicated in polyamory, especially when difficult feelings are involved. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question or recor...
Episode 123 - Keeping Things Equal
January 13, 2024 18:39 - 19 minutes - 13 MBHow do you keep things equal between your partners especially when it comes to introducing them to family? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.c...
Episode 122 - Jealousy vs. Envy
December 22, 2023 16:00 - 17 minutes - 16 MBSometimes long distance is difficult and the emotions it makes you feel aren’t always jealousy. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact --- Se...
Episode 121 - Q&A
December 08, 2023 16:00 - 31 minutes - 21.3 MBI asked on my Instagram @NonMonogamyHelp for people to submit questions they had. Here's the result! That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact --- Send i...
Episode 120 - Forced Primary
November 17, 2023 16:00 - 21 minutes - 14.1 MBYou’ve been happy as a secondary but slowly your partner is requesting more and more time after a recent breakup. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact --- Se...
Episode 119 - Brutal Honesty
November 03, 2023 16:00 - 24 minutes - 16.9 MBYour partner outright tells you that they plan on prioritising someone over you. It’s harsh but is it what should happen? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact --- Sen...
Episode 118 - Don't Ask, Don't Tell
October 20, 2023 15:00 - 29 minutes - 20.9 MBWhen you agree to a DADT relationship with a closeted partner but it’s not moving fast enough into a more polyamorous relationship. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact --- Se...
Episode 117 - Metamour Management
October 06, 2023 15:00 - 25 minutes - 17.7 MBSometimes knowing way too much about your partner’s relationship with their metamour can seriously impact your relationship. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/sho...
Episode 116 - Authentically Polyamorous
September 22, 2023 15:00 - 28 minutes - 18.9 MBTelling the difference between a couple of bad dates and polyamory just not being for you can sometimes be difficult. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-m...
Episode 115 - Compersion Required
September 08, 2023 15:00 - 22 minutes - 15 MBIs it unethical or wrong to not want to date someone who doesn’t feel compersion? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 114 - Creeping Paranoia
August 25, 2023 15:00 - 31 minutes - 29.6 MBA partner who reacts to a little bit of paranoia by accusing you of calling them a liar isn’t the best sign of moving forward in conflict in a relationship. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https...
Episode 113 - Slowly Losing Time
August 11, 2023 15:00 - 27 minutes - 18.4 MBYou’re slowly and slowly losing the time you have with a metamour and you’re not quite sure how to navigate their boundaries around their time. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters....
Episode 112 - Happiness Is An Inside Job
July 28, 2023 15:00 - 25 minutes - 17.5 MBStaying with someone to make them happy may not be what you think it should be. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 111 - Friend Without Benefits
July 14, 2023 10:30 - 21 minutes - 14.2 MBA friends with benefits situation that seems like it might go into something more because your FWB complains about their partner may seem ideal but it’s actually not. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice messa...
Episode 110 - Live Q&A #1
June 23, 2023 15:00 - 1 hour - 39.2 MBI hosted my first Live Q&A on Instagram and got a lot of interesting questions. If you missed it, check it out here and be sure to follow @NonMonogamyHelp. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://...
Episode 109 - Wanting More Time
June 09, 2023 15:00 - 17 minutes - 12.5 MBIs the drive to go out and get another partner to “balance” things out just childish? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 108 - Gendered Energies
May 26, 2023 15:00 - 27 minutes - 25.7 MBThere’s a lot behind being worried about being judged as a thruple but also wanting masculine energy for an upcoming child. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/...
Episode 107 - When To End It
May 12, 2023 15:00 - 22 minutes - 21.2 MBIf you’re not sure whether or not to stay together but you want to stay together for the children, is that a possibility in polyamory? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.co...
Episode 106 - The Third Wheel
April 28, 2023 15:00 - 31 minutes - 28.8 MBDating two people who have a history together is going to trigger some anxiety within you. Maybe you’re not jealous — you’re just normal. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify...
Episode 105 - Becoming Monogamous
April 14, 2023 15:00 - 16 minutes - 15.1 MBTherapy can’t make someone monogamous who doesn’t want to be and it can’t make someone non-monogamous who doesn’t want to be. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/sho...
Episode 104 - Primal Panic
March 31, 2023 15:00 - 23 minutes - 21.8 MBThis letter encapsulates why I feel like attachment labels can be extremely unhelpful for people who experience anxiety during polyamory. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify...
Episode 103 - Rose Tinted Glasses
March 17, 2023 16:00 - 23 minutes - 21.4 MBPicking polyamory because you don’t politically agree with monogamy doesn’t necessarily mean that you won’t experience any negative emotions. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spo...
Episode 102 - Clear Communication
March 03, 2023 16:00 - 16 minutes - 15.2 MBPolyamory won’t solve an issue where you don’t believe people when they tell you they are interested in you and this podcast explains why. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotif...
Episode 101 - Reconciliation or Retribution
February 17, 2023 16:00 - 21 minutes - 20.3 MBYour new non-monogamous relationship has begun from cheating — and your partner wants to keep dating the person they cheated with. How do you rebuild trust from that? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice messag...
Episode 100 - Monogamy Is Not A Belief
January 27, 2023 16:00 - 34 minutes - 32.2 MBYou can ask yourself if monogamous people can “change” or you can ask yourself why you keep choosing to expect monogamous people will change for you. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcas...
Episode 99 - Long Distance Jealousy
January 13, 2023 16:00 - 24 minutes - 23.1 MBIt’s hard when you’re in a long distance relationship and someone else gets to be with your partner when you can’t. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-mono...
Episode 98 - Mixed Signals is a Signal
December 30, 2022 16:00 - 18 minutes - 17 MBLearn how to step away from not only mixed signals but also from managing your partner’s other relationships. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-h...
Episode 97 - When to Say When
December 16, 2022 16:00 - 20 minutes - 18.7 MBNon-monogamy is *not* about building a series of unfulfilling relationships until you reach a permissible stasis. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monoga...
Episode 96 - Needing Distance After Dates
December 02, 2022 16:00 - 24 minutes - 23 MBYour partner comes home from a date and needs reassurance, but you can’t give it in that moment. Is this something to overcome? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/...
Episode 95 - Secretly Non-Monogamous
November 18, 2022 16:00 - 16 minutes - 15.3 MBIf you’re not sure if you’re really non-monogamous or not, how do you label yourself on dating sites to make sure you’re not doing something wrong? Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 94 - Clashing Triggers
November 04, 2022 16:00 - 44 minutes - 41.3 MBIt triggers you to open the relationship but it triggers your partner to close it. Is there any way to solve it? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/sho...
Episode 93 - Meeting Metamours
October 21, 2022 15:00 - 20 minutes - 18.8 MBA metamour not wanting to meet you is not always a sign of insecurity or jealousy but demanding to meet and be friends with a metamour might actually be about insecurity. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send ...
Episode 92 - Unclear Boundaries
October 07, 2022 15:00 - 28 minutes - 26.7 MBSometimes people are jerks and sometimes experiences help us learn when we can also step away. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-hel...
Episode 91 - Hierarchies and Ethics
September 23, 2022 15:00 - 33 minutes - 30.7 MBSome people think having a “primary” partner is always an unethical decision but isn’t prioritising a long term marriage logical? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.sp...
Episode 90 - Breakup News
September 02, 2022 15:00 - 17 minutes - 16.5 MBMentioning that you’re going through a breakup is not an expectation of emotional support to new partners, friends or anyone else. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.s...
Episode 89 - Mismatched Drives
August 19, 2022 15:00 - 29 minutes - 27.4 MBWill opening a relationship help if one partner expects spontaneous sex but the other is dealing with a stressful job and anxiety medication? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://p...
Episode 88 - One Rule to Rule Them All
August 05, 2022 15:00 - 20 minutes - 19 MBSometimes making a rule causes the exact problem that the rule is designed to prevent. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message
Episode 87 - Showering Rules
July 15, 2022 15:00 - 18 minutes - 16.7 MBWhen having strict rules makes you feel controlled, coming to a compromise with a partner who wants a specific thing can seem impossible. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podca...
Episode 86 - No Exes as Friends
July 08, 2022 15:00 - 23 minutes - 21.7 MBYour new partner demands, during a period of grief, that you stop being friends with an ex and now might not be the best time to push back on the ultimatum. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice mes...
Episode 85 - Insecurity and Comparisons
June 24, 2022 15:00 - 25 minutes - 23.9 MBYou want to be non-monogamous but you can’t stop feeling a way about your partner commenting or liking pictures of others. How do you deal? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email [email protected] with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://pod...