Nicole & Kate Can Relate
128 episodes - English - Latest episode: 4 months ago - ★★★★★ - 24 ratingsWe're Nicole & Kate! Friends, confidants, accountability partners, and we’ve been supporting each other over the years sharing our ups and our downs and hashing out the big questions of life - do we want kids? Can we have it all? How do we stay healthy and keep our businesses running smoothly without major stress and overwhelm? We talk things out ‘cause that’s what real friends do - they provide love, support, and space for one another to share without judgement, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.
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What’s next for Nicole and Kate?
December 31, 2023 03:00 - 20 minutes - 9.48 MBWe shared a little heads up in our last episode, and today we’re going to dive deep into what’s next for Nicole and Kate! In this episode we’ll look back at the last two and a half years of NKCR - all the way from Nicole’s pitch to Kate to start to podcast in mid-2021, to how some of our first episodes were a bit rocky, and finally, why we’ve decided to take a hiatus - at least for now… Points Discussed in this Episode NKCR has been going strong since July 2021! Nicole’s “pitch”...
What does your year in review look like?
December 24, 2023 03:00 - 26 minutes - 12.2 MBLooking back over your year and identifying the things you’ve done that stand out the most - both personally and professionally - is a great exercise in acknowledging and appreciating just how much you’ve accomplished. In this episode we’ll share our own “year in review” as a fun way to close out 2023 on a high note! Points Discussed in this Episode Recapping as a way to appreciate and recognize everything you’ve accomplished BIG news for NKCR and what’s next Nicole shares h...
Wish you could say ‘no’ more often?
December 17, 2023 03:00 - 36 minutes - 16.6 MBSaying no isn’t always easy. You want to be helpful, you want to be supportive, and you of course don’t want to feel that awkwardness about declining when someone asks something of you. But at what cost? In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with saying no and why we think it’s one of the most empowering - and respectful - things you can do. Points Discussed in this Episode When do you find it most difficult to say no? Don’t put pressure on yourself to answer...
How do you strategically plan your entire year?
December 10, 2023 03:00 - 37 minutes - 17.4 MBWhat if you had a single visual representation of all the most important things that are happening in your life - the things you want to commit to - over the next year? In this episode we’ll share exactly how you can make this happen! It’s called the “Preloaded Year”, and we break down the format, how to get started, and why this exercise is so incredibly powerful. Points Discussed in this Episode What is The Preloaded Year? Creating a strong foundation to help you attain your ...
What are your favorite holiday traditions?
December 03, 2023 03:00 - 20 minutes - 9.28 MBIf there’s one thing we get REALLY excited about, it’s the holidays! When this episode goes live we know the holidays will already be in full swing, but we couldn’t help recording a chat to share our own holiday preparations and traditions! Points Discussed in this Episode Spring is in the air for Nicole! The holiday “work” season Our favorite holiday preparations Holiday traditions, including the delicious food, treats, decorations, and time with family! Our plans this hol...
What’s your ‘word of the year’ for 2024?
November 26, 2023 03:00 - 35 minutes - 16.3 MBWhat if you had a single word you could look to for inspiration, motivation, and to help you find focus throughout the year when things get tough, or when you find yourself feeling a little lost? In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with choosing a word of the year and just how powerful it has been for us when it comes to accomplishing our goals and keeping our focus. Points Discussed in this Episode Where we first learned about the ‘word of the year’ exercise...
Have you declared your rules of life yet?
November 19, 2023 03:00 - 28 minutes - 13.3 MBDeclaring our rules of life is something we did back in Episode 75 of Nicole & Kate Can Relate, and today will be our second time revisiting this topic! In this episode we’ll share why we feel so strongly about declaring your rules of life, plus share our original rules of life, which ones we’ve eliminated, and ones we’ve added! Points Discussed in this Episode “Rules” can be interchangeable with whatever resonates with you (goals, values, etc) We revisit our existing Rules of L...
How do you do an annual review?
November 12, 2023 03:00 - 30 minutes - 14.1 MBWhat is an annual review, exactly? And how do you go about doing one? Great questions, because doing an annual review can be so powerful! In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with doing an annual review, including the questions we ask ourselves and how the answers help us prepare for the year ahead. Points Discussed in this Episode The importance of regular check-in’s throughout the year KPI’s and Nicole’s belief that what gets measured gets managed Questi...
How do you stay motivated?
November 05, 2023 03:00 - 32 minutes - 15 MBWouldn’t it be nice if we were always motivated to do things like work on big projects, eat healthy, and workout? In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with motivation - specifically how we use our values and build momentum as ways to keep our motivation strong. Points Discussed in this Episode Intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation What do you do when you’re feeling unmotivated? The importance of being clear about your values Important questions to ask yourself...
How often do you get outside of your comfort zone to try new things?
October 29, 2023 03:00 - 33 minutes - 15.3 MBTrying new things isn’t always comfortable or easy, but the value and benefits of doing so are huge! In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with getting outside of our comfort zone and what it has taught us about confidence, mindset, and more! Points Discussed in this Episode The idea that trying new things sometimes has to be “learned” or practiced The ease of trying new things when you’re younger versus older What is the value of getting outside of your com...
What is the importance of having multiple friend circles?
October 22, 2023 03:00 - 35 minutes - 16.4 MBPerhaps you’ve noticed it, too: You have different groups of friends, and each group is either formed out of a certain circumstance or has been intentionally created because of the place or thing you all have in common. In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with having multiple friend circles - their purpose, why some friend circles are stronger (or last longer) than others, and whether it's critical to keep multiple friend circles intact. Points Discussed in th...
What did we learn from the Barbie movie?
October 15, 2023 03:00 - 51 minutes - 23.8 MBWe weren’t really sure what to expect from the Barbie movie. We had both heard mixed reviews, both had different thoughts about what might happen based on the trailers… But one thing was for sure: we wanted to go into the movie with an open mind. In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with the Barbie movie, including our thoughts on the many themes, references, and the ending monologue on being a woman. Points Discussed in this Episode Our rating of the movie ov...
How do you prepare ahead for travel or visitors?
October 08, 2023 03:00 - 31 minutes - 14.3 MBWe’ve learned a thing or two about how important communication and setting expectations is when traveling with friends or hosting visitors. In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with preparing ahead for the many different scenarios you might encounter with traveling or hosting visitors to make sure you actually enjoy your time! Points Discussed in this Episode Nicole shares a travel experience that made her look at preparation and planning for a trip - especial...
Are you good at being fully present?
October 01, 2023 03:00 - 39 minutes - 18 MBBeing present in every moment is definitely a practice. We all know how easy it is to live in the past and obsess over the future. In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with being fully present, and how we continue to practice awareness and holding ourselves accountable to this. Points Discussed in this Episode Nicole shares a recap of her and Omar’s mastermind retreat, OzCon Nicole’s biggest lesson from this year’s event (and what they won’t be doing next yea...
How often are you actually having fun?
September 24, 2023 04:00 - 33 minutes - 15.2 MBOn any given day, how intentional are you about making your life fun? Laughing for no reason, reminding yourself not to take things too seriously, actually taking part in activities that light you up?... In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences around having fun - specifically how we’ve started to recognize more and more the importance of being intentional about having fun each and every day. Points Discussed in this Episode What activities do you currently do tha...
Have you ever done a time audit?
September 17, 2023 04:00 - 41 minutes - 18.9 MBOur overall theme for today is around preparation and planning, but wow - did we hit a nerve when we started talking about doing a time audit! In this episode we’re going to hear from Nicole about her and Omar’s preparations for their annual retreat, OzCon, and Kate is going to share how she’s preparing to become a mom later this year! Points Discussed in this Episode We hear from Nicole about her and Omar’s upcoming retreat, OzCon Kate shares some ways she is preparing for Bab...
Is a hybrid work model the sweet spot?
September 10, 2023 04:00 - 31 minutes - 14.3 MBWhen it comes to work models there are several options: there’s work from home, there’s an in-office setup, and then there’s a hybrid model, which is a mix of both! In this episode we’ll share our own personal thoughts on a hybrid work model. We’ll also hear from Nicole on how their switch to an in-office model - after working from home for nearly 9 years! - is going so far. Points Discussed in this Episode An update from Nicole on their switch from remote to in office work! Th...
What are the implications of Artificial Intelligence (AI)?
September 03, 2023 04:00 - 37 minutes - 17.4 MBArtificial Intelligence (AI) is something we’re seeing and hearing a lot about lately. What are the implications, the unintended consequences, and how big a disrupter could AI really be in our world? In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with AI and discuss the questions and concerns it has brought up for us thus far. Points Discussed in this Episode What exactly is Artificial Intelligence (AI)? How we’re already using AI in our everyday lives Generative A...
Are you better off believing you can do something, or trying and failing?
August 27, 2023 04:00 - 28 minutes - 12.9 MBHave you ever considered whether there’s a benefit to believing you can do something instead of trying that thing and failing? In this episode we’ll dive deep into the many considerables when it comes to answering this question. How big a role does regret play? And what about our perspectives, experiences, and mindset at different times in our lives? Points Discussed in this Episode Our thoughts on failure (as discussed in Ep 20 of NKCR) How does regret play a role in answering...
Does everything happen for a reason?
August 20, 2023 04:00 - 27 minutes - 12.7 MBYou’ve probably heard the philosophy “Everything happens for a reason”, but do you believe this to be true? In this episode we’ll share our own thoughts and feelings about letting go of control, being okay with things not going the way we planned, and how resisting the inevitable could be holding us back. Points Discussed in this Episode The comfort that comes with believing that everything happens for a reason Are we in control of everything that happens in our life - or nothin...
Do you identify with your generation?
August 13, 2023 04:00 - 46 minutes - 21.3 MBWhether you’re a part of Gen X, Gen Y, Gen Z, or otherwise, it’s probably not often you’ve stopped and asked yourself whether you identify with your own generation. In this episode we’ll share our own thoughts on the different generations - what characterizes each and the ways in which we do (or don’t) identify with our own generation. Points Discussed in this Episode The different generations, starting with the “Silent Generation” Our parents’ experiences and whether we think t...
Book discussion: The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer
August 06, 2023 04:00 - 33 minutes - 15.2 MBAt some point in our lives we’ve all engaged in philosophical discussions about the universe, life, and all these ideas that sometimes feel way bigger than us. In this episode we’re having one of those discussions! We’re diving into The Untethered Soul and sharing a couple of the BIG ideas that stood out for us. Points Discussed in this Episode The voice in your head and separating your Self from those thoughts The “subject” / “object” relationship Who are you? Awareness and...
What’s the best way to give and receive unsolicited feedback?
July 30, 2023 04:00 - 47 minutes - 21.9 MBFeedback can be given and received in many forms. There’s feedback that we request, feedback that’s unsolicited, and sometimes even feedback that we’ve expressed is unwelcome from the start. In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with giving and receiving feedback. We’ll dive into how you know when it’s appropriate to give feedback, and also some things you should consider when it comes to receiving feedback. Points Discussed in this Episode Understanding the c...
What are some of your all-time favorite books?
July 23, 2023 04:00 - 43 minutes - 20.1 MBBooks can have such a profound impact - emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. In Episode 77 on the podcast we shared the books we were reading at that time… In this episode we’ll share our all-time favorites with you! Tune in for our 5 favorite books of all time. Points Discussed in this Episode Nicole’s favorite books My Brilliant Friend - by Elena Ferrante; Ann Goldstein (Translator) - AKA The Neapolitan Novels The Untethered Soul by Michael A Singer The Miracle Morning by...
How could you NOT keep a calendar?
July 16, 2023 04:00 - 40 minutes - 18.7 MBKeeping a calendar might sound like a dry topic, but we’re here to spice things up when it comes to keeping track of your schedule and your time! In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with keeping a calendar and how critical it has been in helping us keep our commitments, make time for the things that are most important to us, and hold ourselves accountable. Points Discussed in this Episode When we started using planners / calendars What we used pre-digital an...
Do things happen because of fate or because of destiny?
July 09, 2023 04:00 - 32 minutes - 14.8 MBFate and destiny are two massive ideas. But when deciding which one is responsible, maybe it doesn’t have to be one or the other; perhaps both can play a role in how our lives turn out? In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences wrestling with fate and destiny, specifically when it comes to our relationships, our businesses, and where we are in life. Points Discussed in this Episode The definitions of fate and destiny Whether we have control and freewill, or whethe...
What boundaries do you have set?
July 02, 2023 04:00 - 36 minutes - 16.9 MBBoundaries are so important when it comes to protecting your time and energy, holding yourself accountable, and managing the expectations of those around you. But what boundaries do you have set? In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with setting boundaries and the massive impact boundaries have had on our time, schedules, relationships, and our work. Points Discussed in this Episode What exactly are boundaries? Boundaries help create balance and prevent you ...
Celebrating 100 Episodes on NKCR!
June 25, 2023 04:00 - 38 minutes - 17.7 MBWe made it, friends! Happy Episode 100! In this episode we look back at four of our favorite episodes and share an update on whether we’ve changed our minds about certain thoughts and ideas we’ve previously discussed! Points Discussed in this Episode Episode 1: Do I want to start a family? This seemed like a very appropriate episode to revisit because it’s as if we’ve come full circle: Kate is expecting! Kate recaps what the past couple of years have been like, how her and John...
What are the different ways you can give back?
June 18, 2023 04:00 - 36 minutes - 16.7 MBWhen you think about giving back, the first thing that comes to mind might be by way of donating to a cause monetarily. But there are so many other ways you can help! In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with giving back - in all different ways - including a 500km bike ride for a charity called Hands Across the Water that Nicole has just signed up for! Points Discussed in this Episode Nicole signs up for a 500km bike ride in Thailand! Reasons why you might s...
Which is better: Remote work or in person?
June 11, 2023 04:00 - 38 minutes - 17.8 MBEvery business operates differently, especially when it comes to their policies around remote work versus in-person work. But which is better? In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with remote work versus in-person work, and we’ll talk about whether we believe there’s a solution that’s best for all types of business and employees. Points Discussed in this Episode Nicole’s recent experience switching from remote work to in person The perspective is very differe...
Are we living up to our rules of life?
June 04, 2023 04:00 - 32 minutes - 14.8 MBBack in episode 75 of the podcast we shared our rules of life - sort of as a “New Years special” to help start the year off strong! In this episode we’re recapping our rules of life and scoring ourselves on how well we’ve been doing. Because we believe checking in with yourself and recapping is critical when it comes to staying on track! Points Discussed in this Episode Why we thought it was important to check in with ourselves (we’re almost half-way through the year!) Kate rev...
How do you handle a break from the norm?
May 28, 2023 04:00 - 25 minutes - 11.7 MBBeing out of your routine, or making a big life and/or business shift that requires you to adjust to a new normal, isn’t always easy. How do you find your flow? How do you navigate things you didn’t even know were coming? In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences - individually! Kate is on a 23-day river cruise in Europe and totally out of her normal routine. And Nicole & Omar just made a big business decision that has them adjusting to a new normal. Tune in for a ve...
Do you consider yourself a minimalist?
May 21, 2023 04:00 - 23 minutes - 10.8 MBWe’re both big fans of minimalism. Simplicity, organization, and reducing possessions. But can minimalism be taken to an extreme? In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with minimalism, including how we were first introduced to the concept and what role it plays in our lives today. Points Discussed in this Episode The definition of “minimalism” How we were introduced to the concept of minimalism Are there extreme cases when it comes to minimalism? Clutter, ...
How do we make burnout a topic we can openly discuss?
May 14, 2023 04:00 - 41 minutes - 19.2 MBBurnout. Is there a stigma around sharing that you’re overworked, exhausted, stressed out, and can’t handle the pressures you face on a daily basis? And is it different whether you’re a man or a woman? In this episode we’ll explore these questions by diving into an article a friend shared with Kate earlier this year titled, Is burnout finally 'high-profile' enough for leaders to act? Points Discussed in this Episode Applauding Jacinda Ardern for her confidence in speaking out abo...
Are we experiencing a friendship crisis?
May 07, 2023 04:00 - 24 minutes - 11.5 MBIt’s not the first - or the last time - we’ll talk about friendship on this podcast! We believe creating and maintaining friendships is one of the most important things you’ll do in life. In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with friendships, plus, we’ll discuss a post that was shared by a friend that poses the question, “Are women experiencing a friendship crisis?” Points Discussed in this Episode What role the pandemic has played in creating and maintaining ...
What TV shows are you watching right now?
April 30, 2023 04:00 - 39 minutes - 18.3 MBWe all know that some of the best recommendations for things come from friends, and TV shows are no exception! In this episode we’ll share some of our favorite TV shows we’re watching right now with the hopes you’ll discover one or two you can enjoy, too! Points Discussed in this Episode Our TV habits growing up versus now When we typically watch TV Nicole’s introduction to Korean dramas The show Kate is watching right now (plus her favorite dramas) Our favorite Docu Series’...
Should you say yes to that event?
April 23, 2023 04:00 - 35 minutes - 16.2 MBHave you ever received an invite or an opportunity to speak at, attend, or participate in an event, retreat, or mastermind - and then had a really hard time deciding whether to say yes or no? In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with deciding whether to commit to an event or other opportunity. Because honestly, it’s not always a super easy decision to make. Points Discussed in this Episode The boxes that need to be checked right off the bat in order for an opp...
How did Nicole’s team retreat turn out?
April 16, 2023 04:00 - 31 minutes - 14.5 MBIn our last episode on the podcast we shared our own personal experiences hosting retreats - and specifically how Nicole has been planning for the team retreat her and Omar just finished hosting! In this episode Nicole is sharing all: a complete recap of their team retreat, including what went well, and her biggest lessons learned! Points Discussed in this Episode Overall recap: How did the retreat go?! Diving into the things that “could have gone wrong”, like travel and delays,...
How do you plan a team retreat?
April 09, 2023 04:00 - 28 minutes - 13.1 MBHave you ever attended or hosted a retreat before? I’ve done both, and holy wow…They require a lot of planning and preparation! But they’re so worth it. In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences hosting retreats - and specifically how Nicole has been planning for the team retreat her and Omar are hosting and that they leave for the same week we’re recording this episode! Points Discussed in this Episode Why Nicole & Omar decided to host a team retreat (this is thei...
Special Feature: Cass Sethi on our personal stylist experience in Tokyo!
April 02, 2023 04:00 - 33 minutes - 15.3 MBYou’ve heard about our girls trip to Tokyo several times now, and today we’re bringing you an extra special, in-person episode with repeat guest (and our third mastermind member) Cassandra Sethi. In this episode you’ll hear the three of us chat in Tokyo together about our AirBNB Experience with a personal stylist! Points Discussed in this Episode Choosing a personal stylist AirBNB Experience Expectations versus what we got What we noticed about the differences in style between...
Nicole & Kate are back from Tokyo, Japan!
March 26, 2023 03:00 - 51 minutes - 23.7 MBIn Episode 83 here on the podcast we talked about how we planned our girls trip to Tokyo, Japan! We shared how we chose the location, the hotel, the activities we wanted to do, and even how we set expectations beforehand (we were going to be living together after all!) In this episode we’ll share a trip recap! We break down what went well, what we’d do differently next time, and how our trip went overall. Points Discussed in this Episode We score ourselves 1 - 10 on the location...
How do you get out of a negative state of mind?
March 19, 2023 03:00 - 32 minutes - 14.8 MBThere are any number of things, people, and situations that can put us in a negative state of mind. Knowing this, how do we get out of that negative state of mind? In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with how we identify when we’re in a negative state of mind, and the steps we take to get out of it. Points Discussed in this Episode The power of our minds and how we can choose our response - and the space we give ourselves before responding Covid, running a ...
How do you know what to let go of?
March 12, 2023 03:00 - 31 minutes - 14.6 MBLetting go - or “quitting” something - isn’t always easy, but it can absolutely help you expand and grow. In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with letting go of things that are no longer serving us, or that we simply don’t enjoy as much as we used to. Points Discussed in this Episode What we believe about “quitting” Should you quit things you love? Why quitting / letting go of things you feel like you “need” is a good idea Letting go of things you might be...
Special Feature: Michele Hansen on toxic positivity
March 05, 2023 03:00 - 44 minutes - 20.4 MBToxic positivity isn’t a term many people are familiar with - us included. First Michele introduced Nicole to the idea, and then Nicole introduced Kate to it. In this episode we’re removing all barriers to discuss how social pressures are preventing us from validating our own - and others - emotions, along with the toll it’s taking on our overall well being. Points Discussed in this Episode What is toxic positivity exactly? All emotions are valid; to deny yourself certain emot...
Nicole & Kate plan their trip to Tokyo, Japan
February 26, 2023 03:00 - 32 minutes - 14.9 MBWe’re both ecstatic because we have a girls trip coming up - that we’re going on together! That’s right, friends… Nicole and Kate are jet-setting to Tokyo to meet up with our third mastermind member, Cass, for a week of relaxation, fun, business brainstorming, and exploring. In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with planning this trip: the intention behind it, how we sorted out all the details, and so much more! Points Discussed in this Episode Setting the int...
Book discussion: Who Moved My Cheese? by Spencer Johnson
February 19, 2023 03:00 - 33 minutes - 15.4 MBWe all experience change in our lives, but how we anticipate it, react to it, and adapt to it varies greatly. In this episode we’ll share a discussion on the book Who Moved My Cheese?, a fable that follows the moves of 2 mice and 2 “littlepeople” as they make big life decisions in response to change. Points Discussed in this Episode How do we instinctively react to change? How our experiences impact our reaction to change as we get older or more mature Which character we relat...
What’s one thing you’ve changed your mind about recently?
February 12, 2023 03:00 - 35 minutes - 16.5 MBWhat’s one thing you’ve changed your mind about recently? It’s probably not a question you ask yourself often - if ever. But your answer can be incredibly revealing of growth, a perspective shift, and more. In this episode we’ll share a few things we’ve changed our minds about, and what these shifts in our beliefs have taught us. Points Discussed in this Episode You’re wrong about everything; you’ll change your mind about everything How change leads to growth Beliefs and rewrit...
Special Feature: Kara Lamerato on having kids - and starting a business
February 05, 2023 03:00 - 54 minutes - 25.2 MBKara describes it like this: “You know the image of the duck in the pond, and the legs are flailing underwater madly, but the duck just looks like it’s sailing along no big deal?... That’s pretty much a summary of how I feel most of the time!” In this episode Kara pulls back the curtain and shares very candidly what it was like to be the first of her friends to start a family, the defining moment when she knew she had to quit her 9-5 job, and how she managed to start her own busine...
When’s the last time you took goal setting seriously?
January 29, 2023 03:00 - 30 minutes - 13.9 MBWhether you love it or hate it, there’s no denying that goal setting works really well for a lot of people. But when’s the last time you actually took goal setting seriously and held yourself accountable to accomplishing your goal? In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with goal setting and talk about recent experiences we’ve each had with setting and accomplishing goals! Points Discussed in this Episode 100 Day Goal Challenge on Kate's Take Win the Year Mini...
How is decision fatigue affecting your everyday life?
January 22, 2023 03:00 - 32 minutes - 14.9 MBDo you ever get to a point in the day where you simply can’t think straight? You’re being asked to make decisions and choices, but you just feel exhausted! Yep… that’s decision fatigue. In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with decision fatigue and some of the ways we’ve learned to combat it. Points Discussed in this Episode What is decision fatigue? How decision fatigue might show up in our everyday lives Some helpful tips to combat decision fatigue, star...