Narcissists in Divorce: The Narcissist Trap
83 episodes - English - Latest episode: 2 months ago - ★★★★ - 10 ratingsNarcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna tackles head on the issues that occur when divorcing a narcissistic personality type. In this podcast she is often joined by veteran UK solicitor Karin Walker.
In this podcast Dr Supriya offers up her years of experience working in this field, whilst interviewing a variety of allied professionals to also bring you their advice and expertise.
A former family doctor, Supriya is a best selling author in the field of narcissism.
Her new 2024 book, the first of her 'Narcissists in Divorce' series, is now available from Audible as an audiobook, as well as in paperback and Kindle formats. It's called Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving, and it will teach you how to assess whether your partner is a true narcissist. With easy-to-read case histories and in-depth questionnaires, you’ll learn about narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), and how to deconstruct narcissistic behaviours. You'll discover the predictable divorce and separation behaviours to expect from a narcissist, and their impact on you and your children.
You’ll also learn why these relationships are so difficult to break free from, and why you may be struggling. With guidance to help you decide whether or not to leave your relationship, you’ll also learn essential strategies to build your resilience – regardless of what choice you ultimately make.
It will be followed in summer 2024 by the second book in the series - Narcissists in Divorce: From Leaving to Liberty.
(Dr Supriya's other recent book, 'The Narcissist Trap - The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders', explains how anyone can be pulled into a narcissist's orbit - at work, at home, in social circles, and anywhere else, and may be useful for people who are trying to support their loved ones who are divorcing narcissists. The book is also a must read for anyone wanting to understand this damaging condition).
in 2020 Dr Supriya also conceived and wrote, with UK Family lawyer Karin Walker, Narcissists and Family Law: A Practitioner's Guide, the only book about narcissism specifically to educate family lawyers.
Supriya and Karin have trained thousands of family law professionals in how to manage narcissistic divorces. With legal tips, advice for lawyers and more, this podcast is invaluable for anyone who suspects their spouse or partner might be narcissistic, as well for family lawyers, wishing to be able to better represent their clients.
For online courses, including 'Is my Partner a Narcissist?' and 'Demystifying The Narcissist' online courses, visit DoctorSupriya.com. And for more resources, and to contact Dr Supriya, please do visit TheLifeDoctor.org.
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Episodes
How are narcissists made?
August 02, 2021 11:00 - 18 minutes - 12.9 MBIn this episode, Narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna discusses with UK solicitor, Karin Walker, why people become narcissists. She outlines the main types of parenting that can cause a child to develop narcissistic defences, and, when a parent is narcissistic themselves, she highlights the role of the other parent (who might otherwise be an enabler of the abuse) in limiting the damage to the children. Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the a...
When a narcissistic parent wants 'shared care' of the children
July 21, 2021 16:00 - 29 minutes - 20.4 MBIn this, the first episode of Season 2, Narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna and UK solicitor Karin Walker discuss the concept of 'Shared Care', in particular with regards to a narcissistic parent. Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving and The Narcissist Trap :The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders. More resources for you: Listen to the audiobook samp...
Cohabitation and the 'Common Law' - the facts for victims of narcissistic relationships.
June 24, 2021 15:00 - 21 minutes - 15.1 MBIn this episode, UK solicitor Karin Walker and Dr Supriya McKenna talk about the financial issues one needs to consider when cohabiting, whether you are currently cohabiting with a narcissist or whether you have left a narcissistic relationship and are looking to live with a new partner. They discuss the concept of 'common law', and how one might protect themselves when it comes to buying property with a cohabitee. Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissis...
Communication issues in Narcissistic Divorces and The Grey Rock Technique
June 09, 2021 12:00 - 21 minutes - 15.1 MBIn this episode, Dr Supriya McKenna and UK solicitor Karin Walker discuss the communication issues that occur in narcissistic divorces as a result of the narcissist's narcissistic injury and rage. Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving and The Narcissist Trap :The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders. More resources for you: Listen to the audiobook sample o...
No Fault Divorce
May 25, 2021 11:00 - 13 minutes - 9.52 MBIn this episode Dr Supriya McKenna asks Karin Walker how she expects the new UK 'no fault divorce' to impact upon divorces where one of the spouses is a narcissist. Karin also clarifies why it is that in the eyes of the law it does not matter what ground is cited as a ground for divorce, as this will not affect the outcome of the financial or child arrangements. They discuss why it is not necessary to cite all narcissistic behaviours in full detail in an 'unreasonable behaviour' divorce peti...
The Narcissist's New Partner (or 'Supply')
May 25, 2021 11:00 - 12 minutes - 8.68 MBIn this episode, Narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna and UK solicitor Karin Walker explain why it is that narcissists move so quickly from one partner to the next, without needing to grieve from the loss of the relationship. They also discuss why the former partner of a narcissist should refrain from trying to save the narcissist's new partner from the narcissist. Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books Narcissists in D...
The cycle of idealise and devalue
May 24, 2021 16:00 - 17 minutes - 12.1 MBDr Supriya McKenna and UK solicitor Karin Walker discuss one of the hallmarks of a narcissistic relationship - the addictive cycle of idealise and devalue, and how that can present - one of the key things to look out for for anyone trying to determine whether their partner is a narcissist. Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving and The Narcissist Trap :The Mind-Bendin...
Tips for divorcing a narcissist from family lawyer Karin Walker
May 24, 2021 10:00 - 26 minutes - 18.5 MBIn this episode, family lawyer Karin Walker shares her insights into how to best navigate the Family Court process where a narcissist will be manipulating the system. Useful not just for the spouse of the narcissist, but also for lawyers and mediators, she explains the realities and pitfalls of the court system, and how exactly a narcissist will exploit it. She delves into the issue of how narcissists will weaponise the children by withholding contact from the other parent, by making false a...
Avoiding court delays in narcissistic legal battles
May 20, 2021 13:00 - 28 minutes - 19.8 MBIn this episode Narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna and UK solicitor Karin Walker discuss the delays in the family court and how best to get out of the system. They talk about how moving over to the private system will yield a faster, fairer and cheaper resolution, if the narcissist can be persuaded to agree. They explain how to do this, and why it is that your lawyer might not yet be aware of these better options for your case. Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subje...
Narcissists and their children
May 13, 2021 13:00 - 22 minutes - 15.1 MBIn this episode narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna explains the complicated relationship that a narcissist has with their children. She delves into the concept of how the narcissist sees their children as extensions of themselves and how this manifests. She also discusses the idea of parental love from a narcissistic parent, the effect that a narcissistic parent can have on a child and the recommended method of 'parallel parenting'. Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the ...
BBC Radio Sussex and Surrey talks with Karin Walker about the difficulties faced when divorcing a narcissist
May 05, 2021 13:00 - 16 minutes - 11.4 MBIn this episode, originally broadcast by BBC Radio, top UK family lawyer Karin Walker discusses the difficulties faced when one is divorcing a narcissist. She explains why it is so important to raise awareness of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and how a narcissist will not be different with their new partner, regardless of how things may seem. More resources for you: You can check out our Amazon number one bestseller, 'Divorcing a narcissist - the Lure, the Loss and the Law' here. It...
BBC Radio Sussex and Surrey talks with Karin Walker about the difficulties faced when divorcing a narcissist
May 05, 2021 13:00 - 16 minutes - 11.4 MBIn this episode, originally broadcast by BBC Radio, top UK family lawyer Karin Walker discusses the difficulties faced when one is divorcing a narcissist. She explains why it is so important to raise awareness of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and how a narcissist will not be different with their new partner, regardless of how things may seem.
What is 'Narcissistic Supply' - and why does it matter so much?
April 27, 2021 14:00 - 13 minutes - 9.32 MBIn this episode narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna talks about 'narcissistic supply', what it is and how it lies behind all narcissistic behaviours in a person suffering from NPD. She explains why it is so important to understand, and how empowering this understanding is for the victims of narcissistic relationships - something which really has the capacity to reverse the power dynamic. Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the ne...
What types of people are attractive to narcissists?
April 21, 2021 12:00 - 12 minutes - 8.87 MBIn this podcast, top UK family lawyer Karin Walker and Dr Supriya McKenna talk about the personality traits of people who narcissists find attractive, and why it is that those types of people can find themselves lured into long term narcissistic relationships. Karin and Supriya are the authors of "Divorcing a narcissist: the Lure, the Loss and the Law" aimed at helping the partner of a narcissist work out whether they are in a narcissistic relationship and, if they choose to leave, helping...
What types of people are attractive to narcissists?
April 21, 2021 12:00 - 13 minutes - 9.59 MBIn this podcast, Narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna talks with UK solicitor Karin Walker about the personality traits of people who narcissists find attractive, and why it is that those types of people can find themselves lured into long term narcissistic relationships. Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving and The Narcissist Trap :The Mind-Bending Pull of the Grea...
Living with your narcissistic ex during divorce
April 12, 2021 06:00 - 27 minutes - 18.7 MBIn this episode narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna and UK solicitor, Karin Walker, discuss strategies for coping if you have to co-occupy the same house during your separation and divorce when your ex is a narcissist. In this detailed and informative podcast amongst other things they explain why it can be difficult to have your abusive ex removed from the house, how a narcissist will increase their boundary violations, and how to limit communication with the narcissist to protect oneself...
Living with your narcissistic ex during divorce
April 12, 2021 06:00 - 25 minutes - 17.4 MBIn this episode top UK family lawyer, Karin Walker, and Dr Supriya McKenna discuss strategies for coping if you have to co-occupy the same house during your separation and divorce when your ex is a narcissist. In this detailed and informative podcast amongst other things they explain why it can be difficult to have your abusive ex removed from the house, how a narcissist will increase their boundary violations, and how to limit communication with the narcissist to protect oneself emotionall...
What is narcissistic ‘hoovering’?
April 04, 2021 09:00 - 9 minutes - 6.85 MBIn this episode Dr Supriya McKenna and top UK family lawyer, Karin Walker, discuss the phenomenon of ‘hoovering’ (the predictable ways in which a narcissist will try to suck their spouse, who is on the verge of leaving, back into the relationship). They also draw parallels between how the lawyer and spouse are treated by the narcissist, and how a lawyer who wishes to terminate their professional relationship with a narcissist will be subjected to the same hoovering tactics as the spouse.
What is narcissistic ‘hoovering’?
April 04, 2021 09:00 - 10 minutes - 7.56 MBIn this episode narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna explains to UK solicitor, Karin Walker, the phenomenon of ‘hoovering’ (the predictable ways in which a narcissist will try to suck their spouse, who is on the verge of leaving, back into the relationship). Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving and The Narcissist Trap :The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders...
Radio interview with Karin Walker and Dr Supriya McKenna - part 3.
March 28, 2021 10:00 - 18 minutes - 12.6 MBIn this radio interview top UK lawyer Karin Walker outlines narcissistic personality disorder from the lawyer’s perspective. Dr Supriya McKenna explains the difficulties with trying to get a narcissistic individual diagnosed and they both give their top tips for those separating from a narcissistic spouse. More resources for you: You can check out our Amazon number one bestseller, 'Divorcing a narcissist - the Lure, the Loss and the Law' here. It's available in paperback, and, for discre...
Radio interview with Karin Walker and Dr Supriya McKenna - part 3.
March 28, 2021 10:00 - 18 minutes - 12.6 MBIn this radio interview top UK lawyer Karin Walker outlines narcissistic personality disorder from the lawyer’s perspective. Dr Supriya McKenna explains the difficulties with trying to get a narcissistic individual diagnosed and they both give their top tips for those separating from a narcissistic spouse.
Radio Interview with Karin Walker
March 18, 2021 13:00 - 15 minutes - 10.4 MBIn this radio interview, the second of the three part series, leading family lawyer Karin Walker explains how a narcissistic individual will behave in the divorce process, what you as the spouse need to be aware of and what the divorce lawyer needs to understand. She touches on out of court dispute resolution methods, and specifically why classic mediation and the collaborative method are best avoided when one of the couple has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. She also explains why Hybrid ...
Radio interview with Dr Supriya McKenna
March 11, 2021 15:00 - 24 minutes - 17 MBThis is a radio interview during which Dr Supriya McKenna explains the characteristics of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and why it is so easy to fall for, and stay hooked to, a narcissist. Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving and The Narcissist Trap :The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders. More resources for you: Listen to the audiobook sample of...
Separating from a narcissist? Some tips to help you prepare.
March 08, 2021 15:00 - 13 minutes - 9.56 MBIn this episode Narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna and UK solicitor Karin Walker discuss just some of the important things you need to consider as you move into the separation phase of your divorce with a narcissist. New relationships, the need to look for a balanced outcome and what to be prepared for are just some of today’s topics. Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to ...
Ways for the lawyer to spot a narcissistic client
February 28, 2021 10:00 - 11 minutes - 7.96 MBIn this episode top family lawyer Karin Walker and Dr Supriya McKenna discuss key things to look out for as a family lawyer trying to identify a narcissistic client. Narcissistic clients cause havoc in the legal system, and need careful management by their lawyer in order to prevent complaints, protect their own professional reputation and avoid becoming a tool of abuse against the narcissistic client’s spouse in the divorce process.
Ways for the lawyer to spot a narcissistic client
February 28, 2021 10:00 - 12 minutes - 8.68 MBIn this episode Narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna and solicitor Karin Walker discuss key things to look out for as a family lawyer trying to identify a narcissistic client. Narcissistic clients cause havoc in the legal system, and need careful management by their lawyer in order to prevent complaints, protect their own professional reputation and avoid becoming a tool of abuse against the narcissistic client’s spouse in the divorce process. Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling auth...
Out of court dispute resolution - the do’s and don’ts in narcissistic divorces
February 15, 2021 10:00 - 23 minutes - 16 MBIn this episode solicitor Karin Walker shares with Narcisissm expert Dr Supriya McKenna the best ways to keep the narcissistic individual out of the expensive UK court system during the divorce and financial resolution process. They also discuss those methods of dispute resolution that do not work with narcissists, and why. Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving and T...
Preparing the divorce lawyer for the narcissist’s behaviour
February 08, 2021 10:00 - 12 minutes - 8.56 MBNarcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna discusses with UK solicitor Karin Walker, the sorts of behaviour that a divorce lawyer representing the spouse of a narcissist will come into contact with at the hands of the narcissist on ‘the other side’. They also discuss how the lawyer can inadvertently find themselves becoming a tool of financial abuse for the narcissistic party, either as their representative or as their spouse’s representative. Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author i...
Preparing the divorce lawyer for the narcissist’s behaviour
February 08, 2021 10:00 - 12 minutes - 8.76 MBTop UK family lawyer, Karin Walker, explains the sorts of behaviour that a divorce lawyer representing the spouse of a narcissist will come into contact with at the hands of the narcissist on ‘the other side’. We also discuss how the lawyer can inadvertently find themselves becoming a tool of financial abuse for the narcissistic party, either as their representative or as their spouse’s representative. Read more in our book for family lawyers, “Narcissism and family law - a practitioner’s ...
Practical tips for finding a divorce lawyer who understands Narcissism.
February 01, 2021 10:00 - 16 minutes - 11.5 MBIn this episode Narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna and UK solicitor Karin Walker discuss how crucial it is for a spouse separating from a narcissistic individual to find a divorce lawyer who understands the specifics of narcissistic personality disorder. They also give tips as to how to find the right lawyer for their divorce. Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving ...
Practical tips for finding a divorce lawyer who understands Narcissism.
February 01, 2021 10:00 - 15 minutes - 10.7 MBIn this episode Dr Supriya McKenna and Karin Walker discuss how crucial it is for a spouse separating from a narcissistic individual to find a divorce lawyer who understands the specifics of narcissistic personality disorder. They also give tips as to how to find the right lawyer for their divorce. Karin Walker is one of the UK's top family lawyers, and Dr Supriya McKenna is a GP turned educator, coach and mentor in the field of narcissistic relationships. Together they have written 2 boo...
Introducing narcissism in divorce
January 25, 2021 10:00 - 12 minutes - 8.88 MBLeading UK lawyer Karin Walker and her co-author, Dr Supriya McKenna, discuss what inspired them to write their books about divorcing a narcissistic personality type. These groundbreaking books were written to educate family lawyers about narcissistic personalities and to help the spouse of the narcissist to prepare for the fallout. “Divorcing a narcissist - the lure, the loss and the law” and “Narcissism and family practice - a practitioners guide” are available from all good booksellers,...
Introducing narcissism in divorce
January 25, 2021 10:00 - 14 minutes - 9.68 MBWell known narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna and UK lawyer Karin Walker discuss what inspired them to write their books about divorcing a narcissistic personality type. The Please note that the legal contributions, by Karin Walker, refer to UK law only. Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving and The Narcissist Trap :The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders. ...