Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships
444 episodes - English - Latest episode: 7 days ago - ★★★★★ - 613 ratingsMultiamory offers support and advice for modern relationships. Whether you are monogamous, polyamorous, swinging, casually dating, or if you just do relationships differently, we see you and we’re here for you. Multiamory is a proud member of Pleasure Podcasts. For network details, contact [email protected].
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Episodes
348 - Transforming Feelings Into Words
November 16, 2021 13:30 - 1 hourThis week we're discussing transforming feelings into words effectively, which is the basis of most talk therapy and is often fundamental in having successful relationships. We're going over why it can be difficult to put this into practice, as well as some techniques to help next time you're struggling to put your feelings into words. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free e...
347 - Good Enough Sex
November 09, 2021 13:30 - 1 hourThis week's episode is covering the Good Enough Sex model, which was created in 2007 to help improve couples' sex lives. We're going to be going over the twelve dimensions of good enough sex to see what kinds of positive takeaways we can get. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker ...
346 - Is Seeking a Third Ethical?
November 02, 2021 13:30 - 58 minutesThis week we're revisiting the concept of adding a third person to an existing dyadic relationship, the ethics surrounding it, and whether or not it can be approached in a way that respects all parties involved. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emi...
345 - Sex Education with Sam Cat
October 26, 2021 13:30 - 1 hourThis week we're joined by Sam Cat, creator of the website Shrimp Teeth, which provides coaching and resources for how we think about sex, queerness, and polyamory. Sam is here talking about sex education, sex positivity, and more! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jas...
344 - Handling Rejection
October 19, 2021 13:30 - 57 minutesRejection is something everyone has to deal with at some point in their lives. This episode explores rejection, including how to have a better understanding of it and some ways to cope with it when you experience it. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, an...
343 - Autism, Neurodiversity and Relationships with Stevie Lang
October 12, 2021 18:02 - 1 hourThis week we're joined by Stevie Lang! Stevie is an Autistic writer from Australia and has joined us today to speak about some of the topics he writes about, Autism, non-monogamy, kink, trans experience, and sexuality, and to answer some questions from our Patrons. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory...
342 - To Forgive or Not To Forgive
October 05, 2021 13:30 - 53 minutesWhat is forgiveness really all about? Some see it as healing and restorative, and others view it as harmful and invalidating. This episode is covering some of the studies that have been done about forgiveness while we look at its benefits and potential pitfalls. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was...
341 - Cheating in Non-monogamous Relationships
September 28, 2021 13:30 - 1 hourIs it possible to cheat in a non-monogamous relationship? We're discussing this question and a whole lot more during this week's episode on infidelity and non-monogamy. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know ...
340 - Polyamory and Therapy (with Martha Kauppi)
September 21, 2021 13:30 - 1 hourThis week we're joined with Martha Kauppi to talk about her book, as well as discussing how therapists can best serve their non-monogamous clients, some of the most important tools that help make polyamorous relationships thrive, and what to look for if you are seeking a therapist for yourself or your relationship.Martha Kauppi is a therapist, author, speaker, and educator specializing in complex relational therapy, sex issues, and alternative family structures. She trains therapists all over...
339 - The Smorgasbord of Relationships
September 14, 2021 13:30 - 55 minutesThis week's episode is all about the Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord! We're discussing its history and creation, its significance, and how you can use it in your relationships even if you don't identify as a relationship anarchist. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, J...
338 - The Science of Relationship Maintenance
September 07, 2021 13:30 - 1 hourThis week's episode is all about relationship maintenance, or what we can do to ensure our relationships are as positive and fulfilling as possible for everyone involved. We're going to discuss this, as well as what kinds of maintenance are best to do, in this episode. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiam...
337 - Kids, Consent, and Sex Education
August 31, 2021 13:30 - 1 hourThis week's episode we are joined by Ashley Robertson to learn about age-appropriate education about sex and consent for children, as well as how to talk to your kids about non-monogamy. Ashley identifies as a feminine, bi-curious, ethically polyamorous, sexual submissive. With over a decade of experience in the BDSM scene, she isn’t shy of perverse topics. Ashley is an expert question-asker. With three teaching degrees, she’s an educator who is fed up with the idea that learning comes from a...
336 - Queerplatonic and Alterous Relationships
August 24, 2021 13:30 - 50 minutesThis episode covers the origins of the term platonic, differences in language between romantic and platonic relationships, and alterous and queerplatonic relationships. Learn about these terms and how they have filled an important gap in how we talk about relationships. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multia...
335 - Nonverbal Communication
August 17, 2021 13:30 - 1 hourThis week's episode is about everything but the words! Learn about nonverbal communication, how to better recognize your own nonverbal cues, and actionable tools for how to improve your nonverbal communication skills. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, a...
334 - What Makes a Good Hinge Partner
August 10, 2021 13:30 - 1 hourBeing a hinge partner can be tough sometimes. This episode focuses on some unique struggles that hinge partners may face, some common pitfalls, and what it takes to be a good hinge partner. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme m...
333 - Multiamory Stories: Kori Nicole Williams (Finding Family in Relationship Anarchy)
August 03, 2021 13:30 - 1 hourThis week's episode is another one of our Multiamory Stories, this time with Kori Nicole Williams. Kori is a writer who loves entertainment news and using her platform to help her audience understand others. During this episode, she opens up about her experiences with polyamory and relationship anarchy, queerness, and Christianity. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episo...
332 - Transactional Relationships
July 27, 2021 13:30 - 55 minutesSometimes there are people who only provide assistance or offer something nice when they're getting something (or expecting to get something) in return. This can result in unhealthy power dynamics and so this week, we're exploring why people have transactional relationships in the first place, if they're a negative thing or not, and much more. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to a...
331 - Business Time
July 20, 2021 13:30 - 58 minutesThis episode started as being about special concerns for starting a business with or working with a romantic partner. It grew to also encompass what we can learn from business relationships that can also apply to our romantic ones, and vice versa. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Ded...
330 - Identity in Relationships
July 13, 2021 13:30 - 56 minutesThis episode is about identity. Listen to hear our discussion about all of the research surrounding identity, relationships, and how one can influence and affect the other. Additionally, we're going to go over some tips about how to retain your identity when dating. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory...
329 - Validation Variety Pack
July 06, 2021 13:30 - 1 hourThis episode is a discussion on internal and external validation, what those terms mean, how they're both important to a healthy relationship and life, and how you can work to have a better balance of both. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Ma...
328 - Relationship Standards: Too High? Too Low?
June 29, 2021 13:30 - 1 hourWe've talked about relationship expectations and goals, but what about standards? This episode is diving in to the concept of relationship standards, what "too high" standards vs. "too low" ones may look like, and how to reevaluate them as you go forward with dating. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamor...
327 - Compassion Fatigue
June 22, 2021 13:30 - 56 minutesWhat is compassion fatigue? It's that tension coming from helping those in distress. You'll find out more about it during this episode, as well as the science behind it and some tips on how to take care of yourself and recover from it when caring for others. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was cre...
326 - The View from 30,000 Feet
June 15, 2021 13:30 - 50 minutesThis week is all about philosophy! We're talking about Stoicism, some common issues people face in relationships, how looking at those issues from a bird's eye view can help us deal with them more objectively, and some caveats of Stoicism to make sure everyone gets a fair look at it. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and...
325 - Age, Generations, and Relationships
June 08, 2021 13:30 - 56 minutesDuring this episode, we're covering how age affects relationships, sex, and dating, and how age and generation tend to affect our approach to relationships. Additionally, we'll touch on age gaps in relationships, some challenges they may pose, and how to approach them in a healthy way. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, a...
324 - Toxic Positivity
June 01, 2021 13:30 - 47 minutesThis week's episode is covering toxic positivity (it does exist!). We're going into detail about how toxic positivity shows up in our lives and what we can do to combat it and how to reframe it to be more helpful if we're the ones doling it out. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedek...
323 - You Won't Like Me When I'm Angry
May 25, 2021 16:30 - 53 minutesThis week we're talking about anger, the beneficial aspects of it as well as the harmful and unhealthy ways we express it sometimes. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on...
322 - From the Kitchen Table to the Parallel Universe
May 18, 2021 13:30 - 1 hourThis week's episode covers the "spectrum of entwinement," in polyamory, or the different forms and styles of polyamory people practice, how much entwinement they entail, what healthy vs. unhealthy versions of each style look like, and more! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Wi...
321 - Navigating Big Life Changes
May 11, 2021 13:30 - 55 minutesThis episode is all about the stress that big life changes brings about, whether or not the change is good or bad. We're going to talk about some of the effects of this stress, why it happens, and some ways to deal with it to make things easier on you and your partner(s). If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Mult...
320 - Limerence and NRE: The Dark and Light Sides of the Force
May 04, 2021 13:30 - 54 minutesThis week's episode is all about the fun and the not so fun parts of new relationships and crushes: New Relationship Energy versus Limerence. We'll go into some of the psychology about it and how it's being researched, as well as how you can minimize limerence's negative effects. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and mor...
319 - What Are Your Values?
April 27, 2021 13:30 - 56 minutesHow do you know what your values are? Our values help us know what's important to us individually and how to react in difficult situations. We'll be discussing some research about values, how they develop, and how to figure out what yours are. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker...
318 - Party For One: Dating Yourself
April 20, 2021 13:30 - 1 hourThis week's episode is all about how to date yourself! Having adequate alone time is vital, but if you don't know how to utilize it or if you're frightened of it, that can put a damper on its positive impact. We'll give you some tips during this episode! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created...
317 - Multiamory Stories: Michelle Hy (Polyamorous While Asian)
April 13, 2021 13:30 - 51 minutesThis week is a one-on-one interview with Michelle Hy, creator of the Polyamorous While Asian Instagram account and an advocate for spreading awareness about non-monogamy in BIPOC communities in order to affirm those who practice it. This episode is what we hope to be a start of more interviews from individuals in the community to discuss origin stories and the different perspectives of our peers. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners a...
316 - Fight, Flight, Freeze, or Fawn
April 06, 2021 13:30 - 57 minutesThis week's episode is about trauma responses: fight, flight, freeze, and the lesser known fawn. We're taking a dive into the ways these manifest and the psychology behind them, so stay tuned! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our them...
315 - RADAR Troubleshooting
March 30, 2021 13:30 - 1 hourHow do you even begin to pitch RADAR check-ins to a partner? What if you have a big fight or disagreement surrounding a RADAR? This episode is all about troubleshooting when you're running into issues regarding relationship check-ins! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston,...
314 - Deconstructing Jealousy
March 23, 2021 13:30 - 55 minutesIt's been a while (4 years!) since we've really talked about jealousy, so this week we're revisiting the topic. This episode is deconstructing jealousy, from what its definition is to how it manifests. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack...
313 - Compersion Season 2: Roundtable Discussion
March 16, 2021 13:30 - 1 hourThis week's episode we're joined by Jackie Stone, the creator of the web series Compersion, and four of the actors in it: Derrick, Jammie, Loren, and Ka. It's been four years since Jackie was on the show and she's finally back to talk about season 2 of Compersion! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory w...
312 - Psychological Flexibility is (also) a Triangle
March 09, 2021 13:30 - 1 hourThis week's episode is all about psychological flexibility: what it means, how it looks in real life, and the benefits it can have on your relationships, particularly for those of us in non-traditional and non-monogamous ones. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Li...
311 - Metamour March
March 02, 2021 13:30 - 57 minutesTo kick off the month of March, this week's episode is a series of interviews from some of our Patreon subscribers about their relationships with their metamours! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did ...
310 - Polyamory Reminders with Evita Sawyers
February 23, 2021 13:30 - 1 hourThis week we welcome onto the show Evita "Lavitaloca" Sawyers, non-monogamy coach, speaker, educator, and creator of “Today’s Polyamory Reminder,” as well as subject of the groundbreaking documentary "Poly-Love." Evita answers some of our questions about her polyamorous journey and "Today's Polyamory Reminder," as well as her concept of polyamory and how it has changed. Find more of her on Instagram at @Lavitaloca34 or on Facebook! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing ...
309 - Love is a Triangle
February 16, 2021 13:30 - 48 minutesThis episode is exploring the triangular theory of love, which was a model set forth in order to understand the different permutations of love and relationships. The struggle to define love has existed throughout the centuries and this is only scratching the surface of the philosophy behind love and the studies done on it. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, grou...
308 - Fun Matters
February 09, 2021 13:30 - 1 hourOur culture doesn't always recognize the importance of having fun. This episode takes a look at some research on fun and enjoyment and discusses how we often think the best measure of success is productivity. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily ...
307 - Chosen Family
February 02, 2021 13:30 - 54 minutesThe concept of chosen family emerged not too long ago, and in this episode we're exploring its origins, meaning, which communities use the term nowadays, and what legal protections there are or that can be taken for chosen family members. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Wins...
306 - Bonding Styles with Dr. Eli Sheff
January 26, 2021 13:30 - 1 hourDr. Eli Sheff joins us (again!) this week for her third appearance on our show to talk about her research on polyamorous families, as well as some different variations of polyamory and whether or not one of those variations may be right for you. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedek...
305 - Why Won't You Listen?
January 19, 2021 13:30 - 57 minutesThis week's episode tackles active listening, why it's so difficult to listen sometimes, the importance of learning to listen well, and some ways to practice becoming a better listener with your partner(s) and friends. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, ...
304 - Community Diversity and Tokenism with Crystal Byrd Farmer
January 12, 2021 13:30 - 54 minutesCrystal Byrd Farmer, a polyamorous writer and speaker from North Carolina. She is the website editor for Black & Poly and a board member for the Foundation of Intentional Communities. This week, she's joining us to talk about her book The Token: Common Sense Ideas for Increasing Diversity in Your Organization and to allow us to pick her brain about diversity, tokenism, relationships, and more. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at p...
303 - Is Your Partner Going to Change?
January 05, 2021 13:30 - 1 hourThis episode is about change. It's a common saying not to date someone with the hopes of changing them, but human nature is change, so throughout this episode we're discussing what kind of change is reasonable to expect from a partner and how to tell if or when it's actually taking place. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes...
302 - Challenging Polyamory Concepts for Advanced Students
December 15, 2020 13:30 - 1 hourThere are a lot of common beliefs and well-established ideas within the polyamorous community. But how many of these are just touted as gospel because they're important changes to the compulsory monogamous ideals of society? In this episode we're exploring how some of these ideas might not be universally true and challenge the polyamory status quo. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access...
301 - Solo Polyamory with Tristan Taormino
December 08, 2020 13:30 - 1 hourThis week we're joined by Sex Out Loud podcast host, award-winning author, sex educator, and speaker Tristan Taormino to talk about solo polyamory and relationship anarchy. Tristan has edited 25 anthologies and written 8 books on the subject of sex and relationships, including Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships. She is also the founder of The Open List, which details healthcare and other professionals who have experience working with alternative sexualities and ...
300 - 300th Episode!!!
December 01, 2020 13:30 - 1 hourWe're so happy to have everyone who has stuck with us along this journey! For our 300th episode, we're talking about Multiamory's origins and how everything began for those who don't know it yet. Join us for some retrospection this week! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winst...
299 - Thirsty Sword Lesbians with April Walsh
November 24, 2020 13:30 - 1 hourJoin us with April Walsh, a game designer and civil liberties attorney, to talk about Thirsty Sword Lesbians, a kickstarter table top role playing game she designed. April's goal with her games is to centralize queer storytelling and celebrate queerness, and throughout this episode she talks about her experience making a queer table top game and some of the features of Thirsty Sword Lesbians. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at pa...