Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships
444 episodes - English - Latest episode: 7 days ago - ★★★★★ - 613 ratingsMultiamory offers support and advice for modern relationships. Whether you are monogamous, polyamorous, swinging, casually dating, or if you just do relationships differently, we see you and we’re here for you. Multiamory is a proud member of Pleasure Podcasts. For network details, contact [email protected].
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487 - Diagnosis: Depression (The Best Thing That Ever Happened to Me)
July 09, 2024 16:00 - 1 hourToday, join us for a hopeful discussion about depression! We'll be sharing some personal anecdotes, some research about depression, and some tips for dealing with depression when you or your partner are experiencing bad mental health episodes. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Treat yourself to some stories to ...
486 - Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center with Rhaina Cohen
July 02, 2024 13:00 - 1 hourToday we're talking about friendship, love, and romance with Rhaina Cohen. Rhaina is the author of the bestselling book The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center. She's an award-winning producer and editor for NPR's documentary podcast Embedded. And she's written about social connection and policy for The New York Times, The Atlantic, The Washington Post and other outlets.Find her on Instagram @rhainacohen, or her newsletter here. If this show is helpful to ...
485 - My Ex Hurt Me Deeply. Can We Still be Friends? Listener Q&A
June 25, 2024 13:00 - 59 minutesWe're back with another full-length Q&A episode answering questions from our supporters on Patreon. For today's episode, we'll be discussing what to do when you're in love with someone who hasn't disclosed that you're in love to their nesting partner, getting clarity on why you might want additional partners, and how to stay friends with an ex who has hurt you badly in the past. If you'd like your question answered on the show, consider joining our Patreon! If this show is helpful to you, con...
484 - Compersion is a Spectrum with Dr. Marie Thouin
June 18, 2024 13:00 - 1 hourToday, Dr. Marie Thouin is back to talk about compersion and her new book on the subject.Dr. Marie Thouin is a Mindful Dating & Relationship Coach who supports people of all backgrounds and relational orientations to create intentional and vibrant love lives. She is a leading expert on the topic of compersion and the author of the groundbreaking book, "What is Compersion? Understanding Positive Empathy in Consensually Non-Monogamous Relationships.” Marie has published seminal research studies...
483 - Why Do We Lead With Fear?
June 11, 2024 13:00 - 1 hourToday, we're talking about fear, specifically how it can affect our relationships and what happens when we lead with fear. We're going to discuss fear and what it means to lead with it in a relationship, as well as some ways we can consciously move away from being led by fear to have happier, more fulfilling connections. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group ...
482 - Un-Diagnose Yourself with Todd Baratz
June 04, 2024 13:00 - 58 minutesJoin us today for a very special discussion with Todd Baratz! Todd is a renowned psychotherapist and sex therapist whose innovative approach to mental health and relationships has established him as a leading figure in his field. In addition to his clinical practice, Baratz is a prolific writer and speaker. His insights are regularly featured in various media outlets, where he discusses topics ranging from romantic relationships to individual mental wellness. He lives in New York City and Los...
481 - Can You "Fix" Your Partner's Insecurities?
May 28, 2024 13:00 - 55 minutesToday we're talking about insecurities, which all of us have in one way or another, and whose responsibility it is to alleviate them. A lot of us are unsure whether it's our own personal work to do or something to work on together with a partner. Therefore, today we'll be discussing the difference between personal insecurities and relationship insecurities, looking at what the science says about trying to manage a partner’s insecurities, and how to create a sense of greater security both in y...
480 - Communication Hacks: Remastered
May 21, 2024 13:00 - 1 hourThis week we have a throwback episode going back six years ago to when we discussed three powerful communication tools to strengthen your relationships: switchtracking, bids, and microscripts. We're going to explore each of these concepts, provide examples of each, and talk about some practical and actionable tips to help you use them to foster better communication in your relationships. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon...
479 - Grief, Breakups, and Hope for What Comes Next
May 14, 2024 13:00 - 1 hourThis week we're talking about breaking up again, specifically about the process of grieving a breakup through the lens of the five stages of grief. Long relationships in particular can have difficult breakups and it can be hard to know where to turn. We're going to explore the stages of grief, healing, and recovery, and hope our musings can be helpful for people going through hard breakups. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patr...
478 - “I’m a relationship anarchist, but no one knows what that is."
May 10, 2024 13:00 - 21 minutesThis week's Q&A episode is circling back to relationship anarchy and how to navigate it when most people either don't subscribe to it or don't even know what it is. If you want your question answered on a future Q&A join our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/multiamory. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Mul...
478 - "How to put RA principles into practice when most people you interact with don't subscribe to it?"
May 10, 2024 13:00 - 21 minutesThis week's Q&A episode is circling back to relationship anarchy and how to navigate it when most people either don't subscribe to it or don't even know what it is. If you want your question answered on a future Q&A join our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/multiamory. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Mul...
477 - I Love You But I Don't Like You
May 07, 2024 13:00 - 1 hourThis week, we're exploring the difference between loving someone and liking someone. We're specifically discussing how it is we can love someone but also not like being around them very much, and if one feeling is more important than the other. We'll also be talking about how knowing the distinction between liking and loving can help us show up in our relationships, and as always we'll have some takeaways to help you navigate these distinctions.Take the Love & Like test we talk about in the e...
476 - "My monogamous partner fell in love with someone else."
May 03, 2024 13:00 - 15 minutesThis week's Q&A episode is tackling emotional and sexual exclusivity and navigating polyamory as someone mostly adjacent to it. Interested in having your question answered on one of our future Q&A episodes? Join our Patreon community at patreon.com/multiamory. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was c...
475 - Is It Better to Settle in Relationships?
April 30, 2024 13:00 - 1 hourToday we're talking about what it means to "settle" in a relationship. We'll be discussing if it's okay to settle and what realistic expectations of a relationship should be, compromise, and whether or not we should hold out for a perfect relationship. We're going to look at research and surveys about finding partners who meet expectations, weigh some pros and cons of compromising versus never settling, and how someone can know if they're settling or being too inflexible. If this show is help...
474 - "How can I know if sneakiarchy is happening in my relationship?"
April 26, 2024 13:00 - 22 minutesThis week we're tackling a question about sneaky hierarchy, aka sneakiarchy. We're talking about how to recognize it in future relationships, how to recognize when you might be creating it by accident, and more. If you want your question answered on a future Q&A episode, consider becoming a member of our Patreon community! Visit www.multiamory.com/join to sign up. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can...
473 - Love Languages Might Be Bullsh*t
April 23, 2024 13:00 - 55 minutesToday we're talking about love languages, and taking a critical look at them to discuss whether or not they're actually as important as we make them out to be. We're going to go over some of the key assumptions behind the love languages and of course, look at what the research has to say. And finally, we discuss both the potential benefits and the possible pitfalls of relying too heavily on the love languages as a framework. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing communi...
472 - "Is it possible to get ahead of couples' privilege?"
April 19, 2024 13:00 - 24 minutesThis week's Q&A episode is discussing couples' privilege and how to be cognizant of when it may affect interactions with other potential partners. If you want to submit a question to be answered on one of the extra Q&A episodes we're doing for the next few months, become one of our Patreon supporters at www.patreon.com/multiamory. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episod...
471 - The Science of Possessiveness
April 16, 2024 13:00 - 59 minutesToday, we're talking about feeling possessive over a partner, the psychology and science behind it, and how even when non-monogamous, possessive feelings can still arise and create challenges for us. We'll even be discussing some times when a little bit of possessiveness can be a good thing! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episo...
471 - Possessiveness Might Help Your Non-Monogamous Relationship
April 16, 2024 13:00 - 59 minutesToday, we're talking about feeling possessive over a partner, the psychology and science behind it, and how even when non-monogamous, possessive feelings can still arise and create challenges for us. We'll even be discussing some times when a little bit of possessiveness can be a good thing! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episo...
470 - "I want foreplay to start at breakfast."
April 12, 2024 13:00 - 22 minutesThis week's question from our Patreon supporters is discussing initiating sex, foreplay, and mismatched communications. If you want to submit a question to be answered on one of the extra Q&A episodes we're doing for the next few months, become one of our Patreon supporters at www.patreon.com/multiamory. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions...
469 - Discomfort is Good For You
April 09, 2024 13:00 - 1 hourNobody LIKES feeling uncomfortable...but today we're going to be looking at a few ways we sometimes avoid discomfort that may be making the problem worse instead of better. We're taking a good hard look at the emotions a lot of us prefer to avoid, how distractions and quick fixes aren't the best things to do all the time, and explore some techniques for reclaiming your ability to feel your emotions and improve your relationships. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing co...
468 - "I want to fix our desire mismatch, but my partner doesn't."- Listener Q&A
April 05, 2024 13:00 - 18 minutesThis week's question for our Q&A episode is addressing mismatched desire during busy, long-term partnered life and being stuck in "practical mode." If you want to submit a question to be answered on one of the extra Q&A episodes we're doing for the next few months, become one of our Patreon supporters at www.patreon.com/multiamory. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episo...
467 - "You're gonna need therapy until you die" - A Conversation with TherapyJeff
April 02, 2024 13:00 - 1 hourToday we're joined by Jeff Guenther, also known online as TherapyJeff! Jeff has joined us to talk about what he does, therapy, non-monogamy, and much more!Jeff Guenther, aka TherapyJeff, is, according to him, the most handsome therapist on the internet and is an international treasure who made Portland Oregon cool when he moved there in 2005. Jeff dedicates his time to creating short videos for TikTok and Instagram, and hosting his weekly podcasts, 'Big Dating Energy' and Problem Solved.’ Hon...
466 - "I have lost all enthusiasm for my relationship." - Listener Q&A
March 29, 2024 13:00 - 19 minutesDuring this mini episode, we're answering just one question from our Patreon community. Today we're discussing reframing relationships, de-escalation, and acceptance. If you'd like to have your question answered on a future mini episode, visit patreon.com/multiamory and become one of our Patreon supporters! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussi...
465 - Is Single Life Superior? Why Independence Matters for Everyone
March 26, 2024 13:00 - 43 minutesBreakup season has passed, so we're going to spend an episode talking about independence is important for everyone, regardless of your relationship status. We'll go over some research and demographics, some common misconceptions about singlehood, and finally, some lessons we can all take to heart about being independent and prioritizing our own desires. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get a...
464 - This Is Why You Struggle with Honesty
March 19, 2024 13:00 - 1 hourToday, we're talking about honesty, and what makes it difficult to be honest with a partner. We all have difficulty with being honest sometimes, whether it's sharing a negative opinion about something or disclosing information about other partnerships. We're going to go over some of the research about what sometimes stops us from being honest in our relationships, and share some tools that can help you feel more comfortable being vulnerable and honest with people you love. If this show is hel...
463 - You're Not as Open-Minded As You Think
March 12, 2024 13:00 - 1 hourToday we're talking about being open-minded: what it means, how it's often misunderstood, and how we're probably not as good at it as we think we are. Typically people think of open-mindedness as a good thing, especially among younger folks, but it's hard to research it, given how difficult it is to objectively measure. We'll be going over some of the research that has been done on open-mindedness, as well as some actionable tips about how to actually be more open-minded in everyday life. If ...
462 - Deepening Connections Through Slow Love
March 05, 2024 14:00 - 1 hourToday, we're talking about slow dating and slow love, which was brought to our attention by Damona Hoffman in episode 456. We'll go over what slow love is, whether it's the answer to NRE woes or not, some of slow love's benefits and pitfalls, and how to decide if it's something that's right for you or not. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussio...
461 - My Partner Won’t Admit Their Jealousy - Listener Q&A
February 27, 2024 14:00 - 56 minutesToday we have another Q&A episode, so we're diving into some listener questions. Some of the topics we're covering are what happens when just one relationship in a triad has to end, how to support a long distance partner, how to build confidence when you’ve been a “late bloomer” regarding sex and relationships, and what to do when a partner will not acknowledge their own jealousy. If you want to have your own question answered in a future Q&A episode, consider joining our Patreon community! I...
460 - Multiamory Presents: Navigating Jealousy in Non-Monogamy (Multiamory’s Interview on Better in Bed with Sara Sense)
February 20, 2024 14:00 - 1 hourToday's episode is an interview we did with Sara Sense of the Better in Bed podcast about jealousy and navigating it in the context of relationships and non-monogamy. Sara Tang is a certified sexologist and coach based in Hong Kong. She believes that sex is a skill and everyone can learn how to get better in bed. She is most passionate about helping people who had a limited sex education or culturally conservative upbringing feel more connected and confident with their sexuality. She started ...
459 - Non-Monogamy in the Workplace Part 2
February 13, 2024 14:00 - 1 hourFor our second part of our non-monogamy in the workplace series, we're talking about how to actually go about opening up at work, what kinds of changes your organization can do to make the most impact the fastest, and why companies should care about being accepting and open. To tackle these topics, we're sharing some excerpts from an interview with Dr. Lily Lamboy from the OPEN Workplaces Initiative. Dr. Lily Lamboy is a social impact executive, educator, and researcher who currently serves a...
458 - Non-Monogamy In the Workplace Part 1
February 06, 2024 14:00 - 57 minutesToday's episode is the first part of a two-parter series on being out as non-monogamous at work. We're going to explore pros and cons being out at work, some tips on making the workplace a more welcoming place for diverse relationships, and some ways to help you decide if being out at work is the right decision or not for you. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, ...
457 - Creating Lasting Sexual Connections with Emily Nagoski
January 30, 2024 14:00 - 1 hourToday we're welcoming back Emily Nagoski to talk about her newest book, Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections. Emily is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestselling Come As You Are, and coauthor, with her sister, Amelia, of New York Times bestseller Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle. Her next book, Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections will be out in January 2024.Emily earned an M.S. in...
456 - F The Fairytale with Damona Hoffman
January 23, 2024 14:00 - 1 hourToday we're welcoming back Damona Hoffman, the Resident Love Expert of The Drew Barrymore Show and OkCupid's Official Dating Coach. Damona is the host of the long-running podcast Dates & Mates, which has just begun airing its 10th season. She is also an advice columnist for the LA Times and a writer on dating and relationships for the Washington Post. Damona can frequently be seen on Access Daily sharing the latest dating news. We're going to be discussing her upcoming book, F the Fairytale: ...
455 - My Brain Understands, But My Body is Panicking (with Orit Krug)
January 16, 2024 14:00 - 1 hourWe're excited to have a special episode this week! Today Dedeker is flying solo and having a fantastic conversation with board-certified dance/movement therapist Orit Krug. Orit Krug is an award-winning Board-Certified Dance/Movement Therapist and Licensed Creative Arts Therapist. Orit helps individuals & couples expand their capacity for self-love and intimacy in relationships by processing past trauma stored in the body. Orit is polyamorous, partnered, and a parent to a toddler.Dedeker and ...
454 - When Someone You Love Wants to be Monogamous
January 09, 2024 14:00 - 1 hourHappy New Year to all! Our first episode of 2024 is diving into a discussion about shifting from non-monogamy to monogamy. We'll be talking about why someone might want to go back to monogamy, what the potential benefits or negative consequences of doing so are, and what you should be asking yourself if you're considering it for yourself. We'll also be discussing how to make the transition back to monogamy more ethical and respectful and giving some pointers to ease the process for everyone i...
453 - Your Regrets are Here to Help You
December 19, 2023 14:00 - 52 minutesToday, we're talking about regret. Regret often gets a lot of negative feedback and a bad rap, often being called a useless negative emotion, but we're going to dive into some of the psychology research that indicates how regret can help us gain insight, motivation, and direction. We'll be discussing different types of regret, how regret can influence our relationship choices, and how to use regret to make positive changes in our lives. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our ama...
452 - Navigating Unrequited Feelings - Listener Q&A
December 12, 2023 14:00 - 1 hourToday we're doing our last Q&A episode of the year! We'll be tackling one final batch of listener questions ranging from unrequited NRE, insecurity and hypersexuality, determining if conscious monogamy is right for you, and more! If you're interested in submitting a question for a future Q&A episode, consider becoming one of our Patreon supporters at patreon.com/multiamory! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamor...
451 - Multiamory Presents: Defining Non-Romantic Relationships and More (Multiamory's Interview on The Wright Conversations)
December 05, 2023 14:00 - 56 minutesToday we've got a very special episode: we're sharing an interview we did on Rachel Wright's show The Wright Conversations. In this episode we discuss going to therapy with family members, divorce, defining non-romantic relationships, inclusivity in relationship studies and much more! Rachel has a variety of interesting guests on her show every week, so be sure to check out other episodes of The Wright Conversations too! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community o...
450 - Polywise: A Conversation with Jessica Fern and Dave Cooley
November 28, 2023 14:00 - 58 minutesToday we're excited to share a conversation with Jessica Fern and David Cooley about their new book, Polywise. Jessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Coach, and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Jessica is the author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and NonMonogamy, The Polysecure Workbook: Healing Your Attachment and Creating Security in Loving Relationships, and Polywise: A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships. Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-pa...
449 - When Life Demands Get in the Way of Love
November 21, 2023 14:00 - 1 hourThis week we're taking some time to explore what happens when life's demands and outside stressors take a toll on even solid relationships. Things like busy schedules, financial woes, health issues, or other obligations can absolutely limit the time and energy you have for a relationship. We’ll be discussing strategies for collaborating through life’s ups and downs, keeping communication strong, getting creative with quality time, and more in today's episode. If this show is helpful to you, c...
Presenting: Private Parts Unknown: How a Happy Ending Massage Expanded Her Mind on Sex, Pleasure & Non-Monogamy with Courtney Kocak
November 17, 2023 14:00 - 15 minutesToday, we’re sharing a preview of one of our favorite podcasts: Private Parts Unknown. Private Parts Unknown is a Bourdain-style podcast exploring sex, love, relationships, gender, and seductive subcultures around the world. Join host Courtney Kocak and expert guests for hilarious, sex-positive conversations — destigmatizing everything from abortion to Ashley Madison, polyamory to PMDD, sex work to Shibari, and more. Travel series include Helsinki, Finland; Mexico City, Mexico; and Tokyo, Jap...
448 - A Polyamory Devotional: Conversation with Evita Sawyers
November 14, 2023 14:00 - 59 minutesToday we're rejoined by Evita Sawyers, who was last on the show back on episode 310. Evita is back to talk about her new book, "A Polyamory Devotional: 365 Daily Reflections for the Consensually Nonmonogamous." Evita “Lavitaloca” Sawyers is a non-monogamy coach, speaker, and educator. Creator of “Today’s Polyamory Reminder”. Her approach is both frank yet empathetic and she is appreciated for her vulnerable openness about her own challenges in non-monogamy and helping others to grow.Check out...
447 - De-Escalation to Re-Escalation: Listener Q&A With Amanda Katherine
November 07, 2023 14:00 - 1 hourToday's episode is another Q&A, this time with Amanda Katherine from the Live Your F*ck Yes Life. Amanda Katherine (she/they) — — is on a mission to help you face your fears, speak your truth and get you one step closer to living your f*ck yes life. She has worked as a trauma informed coach, writer and facilitator since 2016 and as an artist, actor and storyteller for the better part of two decades. In 2018, they launched their podcast, Live Your F*ck Yes Life — the space to be for conscious ...
446 - Multiamory Presents: Navigating Abuse as a Non-Monogamous Person (Dedeker's Interview on Initiated Survivor)
October 31, 2023 13:00 - 36 minutesToday we have a special episode highlighting an interview Dedeker did on the podcast Initiated Survivor, hosted by Kelsey Harper. Kelsey is a clinical psychologist and a survivor of sexual violence, and on her show she speaks directly with other survivors to hear their stories and offer practical skills for reclaiming their lives. Dedeker shares her experience with intimate partner violence within a non-monogamous context, since there are very few (if any) resources for survivors of violence ...
445 - Yes, Some People Need Drama
October 24, 2023 13:00 - 58 minutesToday we're diving deep into the world of drama! Have you ever met someone who just seems to thrive on it? Or maybe you've seen a bit of that drama-lover in yourself? We're going to be talking about why some of us need drama in our lives (there's science behind it!), and discussing some of the behaviors and whys behind a need for drama. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free ...
444 - Assert Yourself Without Being an Asshole
October 17, 2023 13:00 - 55 minutesToday we're talking about the five different communication styles in order to help us identify some of the healthy and unhealthy ways we might be expressing ourselves. If we can learn to assert ourselves in a healthy, respectful way, it can improve the quality of our relationships, along with overall wellbeing and happiness. We'll go over some tools and techniques we can use to start improving our quality of communication. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community...
443 - Why Aren't You Being Fair? Exploring Aggressive Fairness in Polyamory
October 10, 2023 13:00 - 1 hourToday we're talking about aggressive fairness in non-monogamy. We all want equitable relationships, but in a relationship style as fluid as non-monogamy there is often more to consider than simple fairness. We'll be exploring what aggressive fairness means and looks like, discuss what fair means for a relationship (non-monogamous and monogamous), and talk about some helpful ways you can find solutions to the questions around equity and fairness. If this show is helpful to you, consider joinin...
442 - Do You Trust Your Partner With Your Emotions?
October 03, 2023 13:00 - 55 minutesToday we're discussing emotional safety and how our close relationships can provide a safe and comforting way to enhance our positive emotions and regulate our negative ones. Unfortunately, many relationships are lacking the feeling of safety and support necessary to facilitate honest emotional expression. We are going to look at a couple recent research questionnaires that set out to measure these qualities of our relationships and see how we can use them to improve our own romantic and plat...
441 - Multiamory Presents: The Art of Boundaries (Dedeker's Interview on Help Existing)
September 26, 2023 13:00 - 1 hourThis week we're highlighting an interview Dedeker did on Rachel Krantz's show, Help Existing. Rachel is also the author of Open: An Uncensored Memoir of Love, Liberation, and Non-Monogamy. Rachel and Dedeker have a great conversation about boundaries, covering topics like, How do you figure out what your boundaries are? How should you go about communicating boundaries in a way that is both firm and compassionate? How can you remain flexible and open to change without having porous boundaries?...