021: Monica Day on How to Have Better (Wilder, More Connected) SEX

Today’s guest is Monica Day, a self-described “instigator.” The topic of discussion today is how to create more intentional eroticism in your life. We all want to be swept off our feet and experience animal passion, but we also crave safety and security.

Monica is going to tell us how those two ideas aren’t at odds. We’ll also talk about how to have more and better sex as well as how to manage this if you tend to be a bit shy. You won’t want to miss today’s juicy episode!

Some of the highlights of the show include:

The paradox of passion: What it is and why it’s important to balance the domestic and the erotic parts of your personality. How to rekindle the spark when you’re juggling work, kids, house, and all of the other obligations that accompany adulthood. Why fairy-tale romance is damaging the way we as a society and as individuals approach sex. The importance of playfulness, curiosity and communication when it comes to building up our sexual lives. What you can do to focus more on sensuality and sensations when it comes to your sexuality and your relationship. Some of the exercises that are in Monica’s book; these can help you shift the way you think about sex and sensuality. Thoughts on overcoming shyness and awkwardness when discussing needs and wants with your partner. The silent vow that many people take that can lead to the death of desire and even of the relationship in general. Why waiting to be in the mood doesn’t work.

Links and Resources:

Monica Day

The Sensual Life

Play Wild, Stay Safe

Mating in Captivity

 

Quotes:

“Our sexual energy is dynamic; it’s not static. It’s not something that lives in the closet with your sex toys... it’s responsive to where we are in our lives.”

“The industry of romance has crippled us from being able to come to sex from a primal place.”

“You can have a paradigm shift with your mind, but it’s a very different thing to have a paradigm shift with your body.”