EP12 - Getting through adversity

In today's episode, we are going to dive into adversity and how you can try and get yourself out of it with more ease. I think that is going to be a big part of it and how you can bring back some critical thinking in that process. Welcome everyone. It is Brett Williams from moments of wisdom with Brett Williams.

Today, as I said, we're going to talk about diversity. So perhaps maybe at this point in time, uh, you know, maybe business isn't going so well for yourself or maybe life isn't going so well or whatever it could be. Um, I know I've touched on this in other episodes before, but at the same time, I thought.

Now's a good time because I've been having some conversations with a few people recently and saying that business is a little bit tight. There's a bit of a, I don't know, a bit of a weird energy going on at the moment or whatever it might be. That is, that is causing, uh, businesses to slow down and, and people to be in a bit more of a struggling situation.

Now, of course, there's obviously the economy economic, uh, perspective in there as well. Of course with the likes of COVID and all of the lockdowns is still impacting, uh, clients or like, um, you know, delivery of goods and all of these sorts of things, which is causing issues with business and all of that sort as well.

But, uh, today I just wanted to go into a, I guess, a general overview of, uh, How to bring back in some critical thinking. And some of this has been sparked from a recent couple of comments and one of my YouTube videos, which is actually a slightly different topic, but it sort of brings in some of the principles for today.

And this particular video on my YouTube channel is talking about the three steps to getting over a breakup. Now, the first one in there was very, very applicable to any sort of adversity, uh, when your back's against the wall, all of that side of. You are kind of lost within who you are sometimes because maybe prior to the adversity, you've put all of your identity around being this, that way or the other way about whatever it is, whether that's a status with the business, whether that's your personal status within your social economic or whatever it could be.

And so, as soon as that adversity kicks. All of a sudden that goes out the window, as we say, and at the same point there goes, maybe your confidence, there goes your, your rational and logical thinking because all of a sudden, it's the emotion that's driving the, uh, the process. And so. One of the things that I like to do for myself.

And, you know, in these moments, it can be very, very challenging. And this is something that I spoke about in this particular video is first and foremost, come back to who you are, understand your, your true traits or something that I, I term it as essentially your true traits is who you are at your core.

You could be somebody who is extremely organized. You could be a great listener. You could be somebody who is great at communicating. Uh, you could be somebody who is, you know, a great mum or a great dad, or, you know, a great brother or a great sister or whatever. It could be like these things that. Society in itself, doesn't put any value or weight on, but yet these are the ones to always come back to and put that value in it for yourself.

Because when you can start to remind yourself who you are at your core, then all of a sudden. It starts to bring some of that emotional charge out of it and the emotional drive. And, uh, as I said, the emotions running the show, because if you're constantly thinking, oh gosh, I'm not this, I'm not that well, then all of a sudden you are going to make a silly mistake.

You're going to end up probably digging a deeper hole than what you needed to. I'm sure. Maybe, maybe the path for yourself in that moment is to go and learn a little bit more pain and, and find out what the lesson is at the bottom of the barrel. I really do hope for yourself that that is not the case.

Um, you know, getting down to a very low emotional state depression and that side of things is not a fun place to be. Um, I know I've been there as well and, uh, it's scary as well. The feeling like you're all alone and to feel as though nobody is around you, that has the strength or the stability, the ability to support you or even understand you is, uh, is a big, massive thing.

So if you are going through any of this right now by yourself, then. Really coming back to understanding who you are at your core is going to be the most valuable and most important thing for yourself, because then that way you are taking control of your own life. And you're not reliant on external factors or external external sources to be able to do that for you.

Go and have conversations with people and bounce ideas off them and be able to understand what their viewpoint is on your situation. I agree, but do not get yourself into a, a whinge Fest or anything like that, unless, yeah. Cool. Maybe it's a minute, two minutes. Get off what you need to off your chest, but then turn it into some more, uh, effective and, uh, logical and critical sort of conversation where you can actually start to get some results and answers for what it is that you're actually looking at.

Uh, you know, whatever challenges that are in your life at that point in time. So. Really understanding who you are at you call. So for me, it's things like I'm a great listener. I'm really patient. I have, I have the ability to be able to communicate. And that's, that's a huge one itself because if you lose the re the, the memory or the belief that you can actually communicate, then no matter what, if your back's against the wall, then you're going to basically shut down and you're not gonna.

Get out of that situation as easily as what you possibly could have, because you're going to forget that you can actually just string a sentence together that could cool. It might be a little bit messy. You might say something is a little bit stupid. You might say something that you kind of didn't want to, whatever it might be.

But at the end of the day, you do have the ability to string a sentence together and ask a question of somebody or to promote something that you're doing or to, whatever it is you have that ability to complete. Secondly coming into, um, being somebody who's resilient. Um, I know for myself over the years, you might look at yourself and go, you know what, I'm just always getting beaten down and laughs against me and stuff like that.

Well, cool. Eh, might've been part of the results and part of the experience that you were having. I'm not going to deny that. Um, but at the same time, like what is the empowering element with it? And I would say that it's the fact that you are resilient, that you keep getting back to. Does it suck to have to keep back, getting back up 100%?

It sucks. It's not fun. It, you can wish that life was some other way, but at the end of the day, if what you're getting out for is important to you get, you know, within yourself. I keep getting up time in and time out. And whether that's business, whether that's family, if you've got kids and you know, you just utilizing the fact that you, you, you're doing it for your kids right now to keep getting up that next morning and just keep moving forward and figuring out how to get another job or figuring out how to start a business or.

Whatever it might be at the end of the day, if that compelling reason that is the reason for you getting up each day is compelling enough. As much as you want to whinge about it right now, you just know that you're going to get back up no matter what. So knowing that you're resilient and owning that fact, knowing that you're somebody who is, who has the ability to figure things out.

We live in a beautiful day and age right now in the sense that information is literally everywhere. It is at your fingertips. I know growing up when we were looking in the, you know, encyclopedias and stuff like that, you would get that one edition come through and then, you know, there'll be a bunch of information in those.

And then all of a sudden that information would go. Uh, become older. So you need to buy the next cycle PDs and you would have to keep topping up the information that way. Whereas obviously it right now, you know what, hopefully even through listening to any of my podcasts, whether at this one or any of the other ones, hopefully you've been able to find something that you're looking for and be able to get that one piece of information that you're chasing right there.

And so we have that ability. So being somebody who will figure. Cool. You've got an issue. You've got a situation, you've got an adversity. It's a simple Google search, a way to find out a way out of that adversity. And so owning that. And not beating yourself up by the fact that that is who you, who you have to be every single time I'm resilient.

Same, same, like the fact that you keep getting knocked down. You keep getting back up at the end of the day. I think if, if we don't have any resilience there in this human experience that we call life is actually going to be extremely challenging. So from that side of things, really just owning all of these elements for yourself.

So, um, when you do start to come back to. Knowing who you are, who you are at your core. What that then allows you to do is to actually start critically thinking and logically thinking about the actual situation that you're in, which may not actually be as bad as what you made it out to be, to start off with.

Then on the flip side, you can actually start roadmapping a plan out of that situation. And whether that is to start reaching out to different places for, for work or whether that's, um, you know, Tidying up, you know, the current environment right now, just to be able to invite people over or whatever it could be, anything, but at the end of the day, you can then start creating that, that critical plan.

So from that side of things is, uh, is all that, so got the cat wanting to get into the office here, but anyway, that being said, I'm going to round it out there. So hopefully you do have some information and value out of here at the end of the day, if you are facing adversity right now, that is the one thing that I want to say first and foremost, come back to knowing who you are, your core.

And from there, you'll be able to have a start, a roadmap and a game plan to get out of there. So that being said, That everything is working well for yourselves and all the best. And thank you for tuning in. If you got value out of this episode, then please by all means, share it, comment it like it. And if you do get value out of any of the other episodes and as a whole, then I strongly appreciate any sort of ratings five-star ratings or anything like that.

Be absolutely amazing. So that being said, guys, really do appreciate it. And I'll speak to you on the next episode.