Mind Revolution

The High Price of Going it Alone

I’m going to cut right to the chase. If you’re attempting something great – building and growing a business, creating content, working through relationship drama, raising kids, tackling personal projects –  you need support. Period.    And not getting the help you need can make the difference between living a life you love and one you despise.    Somewhere along the way, many of us adopted the notion that the self-made man is the gold standard, the ideal, that our success will be swe...

When Fear Weasels Its Way into Your Dreams

5 Things that Block Your Flow of Abundance and What to do Instead

My take on abundance is that it’s always here, always available. It’s on tap 24/7, ready to pour into your existence. And it’s our scarcity thinking, old stories, and patterns that stop the natural flow of abundance. And all the years of coaching others and my personal work point to this:  No, you don’t have to earn abundance, and you don’t have to wait until you deserve it. It just is.   And I’m talking about abundance in all good things – an abundance of health, wealth, time, laughte...

Creating Positive Habit Loops

You’ve probably heard by now about my Radically Different NLP Money Mindset Rewrite program. It’s a 21-day program that drips encouragement to help you reset your money mindset.    I’ve been getting some great feedback so far. Here’s what I see the most: It’s difficult for people to stick with the program. It’s hard to create new habits!    Sometimes we get bored with a new habit. Or we forget why we wanted to install a new habit in the first place. Or we just get tired and want to d...

The Key to Living Your Vision Now

Our mindset can make a challenge feel like a slow mountain climb or make that same challenge feel like a fun learning opportunity.    This year, one of the themes for my clients inside Soulful Business Revolution has been ease. Everybody in there is focusing on finding more ease so that their goals unfold in a way that feels effortless. They’re discovering that it’s possible to do big things with grace and ease.   I’m tackling some big things myself, and my goals are getting me up ea...

The Making Big Things Happen Mindset Shifts

When I recorded this episode, the 2022 Winter Olympics were underway in Beijing, China. After watching an interview with an Olympic skier, I was struck by the parallels between you and me.    An Olympian may train for decades for a 30-second race or downhill ski run. If that race was all that mattered, that could be pretty depressing. After all, there can only be one winner.    But if the ultimate goal is to get better and improve personally, then every race and workout can be a triu...

Healing Your Relationship with Money

Last week one of my clients got an unpleasant text and said, “I don’t know why they keep doing that!”   My response was, “Let’s read that text again and pretend like it’s your unconscious mind talking to you.”    We uncovered some ideas that she had believed for a long time, but she had been looking at it from "It's them and not me." And when she embraced "This is me because my unconscious mind is me," then we were able to do some magnificent work.    Metaphors and symbols are th...

The Unconscious Indulgence of Pain, Suffering, and Struggle

This past week, a theme popped up multiple times in my work. And it’s a theme that I used to run unconsciously as well. It goes something like this…   “I have to struggle to succeed.”   “People who suffer deserve to succeed.”   “Life is pain.”    “The more I can overcome pain and suffering, the more I prove my worthiness.”   When I was a single mom, I had several girlfriends who were in similar circumstances. We were all hardworking professional single moms who were bring...

Sales, Mindset, Results, and Why it Matters

All my clients are doing something to improve the quality of other people’s lives. They’re good at what they do, and they have every reason to be proud of their work. So, why do so many of them feel reluctant and foot-draggy when it comes to selling?   It boils down to mindset. The reason you have a hard time confidently inviting prospects to become your client so that you can positively impact their lives is the same reason you have a hard time expressing what you want and need in your ...

On Going One Step Further

I’m in the middle of preparing to launch NLP Sales School. I’ll deliver the NLP material in a very digestible style and format that I’ve never seen before. I’m super proud of and excited about this legacy product that I’m creating.   We’re launching in less than a week, and, to be honest, the process of creating this course hasn’t been all sunshine and roses. It’s been a lot of work! This process has been a reminder that there’s a balance I need to strike between striving for excellence ...

Bridging the Gap Between You and You

Carl Rogers, whose work changed the way therapists work with their clients, said that humans are designed for fulfillment, joy, wholeness, and success. We’re created for self-actualization. That’s why we always find ourselves wanting more, striving for more, wanting to be better. We sense that innate potential within ourselves.   It’s like we’re all living with two versions of ourselves at the same time. There’s the self that you are now and the self that you want to be. There’s you expe...

The Re-Education of Your Inner Critic - Rebroadcast

Today’s episode is about that voice in your head. The one that second guesses your actions, that says you’re not good enough, that says, “Why do you think that people care about what you have to say?” “Why would anyone want to buy your program?” and even, “Who do you think you are?” That voice is your inner critic.  If you have one — you’re not alone. I recently had a run-in with mine. I launched a program...and it felt like a flop because it didn’t reach my expectations. Now, it wasn’t ...

If Love Were Sitting at Your Kitchen Table (Rebroadcast)

I love the Thanksgiving holiday because it’s a reminder of the abundance we experience every day. But instead of focusing on gratitude for this episode, I want to focus on love.   We have many false concepts about love, concepts handed down to us from others and “affirmed” by our life experience. The ego would have us believe that love comes from others as if it’s outside of ourselves. Many of us grew up believing that love is conditional and is something we need to earn.    If we be...

The Bad Habit Keeping You from Feel-Good Relationships

Science tells us that we’re exposed to somewhere between 2 and 11 million bits of information per second, but we can only consciously process 50 to 60 of those bits. To simplify things, the unconscious mind creates shortcuts to size up information and reach conclusions efficiently.    That strategy works great for lots of things.   When you arrive at a traffic light, you don’t have to think about what the red light means, and you don’t feel confused about what to do when it turns gre...

A Simple Process for Big Appreciation

We’re approaching Thanksgiving, and I’m going into appreciation mode in a big way. My kids call this my sappy time of year because I’m in such deep gratitude for everything from sunrises and sunsets to family and my work. I get misty-eyed from feeling overwhelmed with all the goodness in my life.    A big part of what I’m thankful for is you. Thank you for listening. Thank you for all the messages you send me. It is a joy to share with you what I’ve learned about creating a life you can ...

Creating a Life You Can Love Right Now

We often have the idea that we have to accomplish or acquire things before having a life we love. Actually, the opposite is true. When you learn to love your life right now, you'll more easily be able to accomplish what you want.   It sounds backward, doesn’t it?    What I’ve discovered is that the people that thrive in my programs are the ones that focus on making their present moment the best that it can possibly be.    NLP teaches that a key component to living a happy life is...

5 Ways to Cultivate Self-Love

We’ve just completed our 21-Day NLP Abundance Breakthrough. It was everything I had hoped — and more! After going live nearly every day for three weeks, I was running on empty and in need of a break. When I slowed down and pressed pause, I realized what I was craving most — gentle loving-kindness towards myself.   I’m not talking about self-care. Nor am I talking about eating well, going to the gym, or getting enough sleep. I’m good about that sort of routine self-care.   What was mi...

Taking Ownership of Your Success

Part of being human is having a desire for evolution and change. We are seekers of constant improvement. Sometimes change is hard to come by because there’s no clear path to go from where we are to what we want. This is where determination and resolve come in handy.   I think it’s safe to say that if you’re reading this, you want to take charge of making changes in your life.    You’re ready to take an active role in creating what you want in your life experience.    Great — taki...

The Life-Changing Power of Redefining Deserving

Are you deserving of all good things?   Deep down, do you FEEL deserving?   When I asked the folks in my Abundance Breakthrough that question, I got a mixed bag of answers. Some people said yes, others said sometimes, and some said, “I feel like I have to earn my deserving.”   Many of us grew up with ideas from religion or household rules or other life philosophies about deserving being a prerequisite to having good things, so it’s understandable that the idea of deserving is dee...

The Power of Honoring Your Decisions

According to the principles of NLP, you’re living two realities — your internal reality and the external reality. And your external reality is going to align with your internal reality. This is why you’ve heard me say if you want to know how you’re doing on the inside, look at what’s happening in your environment.    My clients are “getting” this, and they know to look inward when they don’t like what’s happening in their environment.   Case in point — one of my clients is in an indu...

What it Really Takes to Have that Dream Business

Evolving, growing, transforming — this is what the people in my space want (and they’re doing it!) Change is beautiful and thrilling, and it comes with some challenges.   When you're ready to create change, your unconscious mind will begin to show you all the ways that what you’re currently doing doesn’t work. And let me tell you, that can feel frustrating. But it’s just your unconscious mind confirming for you that growth is in order. While uncomfortable, this is just part of the growth...

Disrupting Your Limiting Money Story

People are social creatures, and we organize ourselves into cultures, societies, governments, groups. And here’s the thing about these groups — most people here are living in a self-sacrificial environment. At an unconscious level, we’re taught that the individual is subservient to the group, and the group is more important than the individual.   Is it any wonder that most of us have a hard time embracing our desires and dreams when we’ve been conditioned to feel guilty and selfish if we...

On Choosing Your Personal "Hard"

There’s no such thing as small changes. All change is BIG.    Some changes might seem small, but when you shift to something outside of your usual patterns or take a path that diverges from your typical choices, that’s no small feat. Continue to make small, incremental changes, and you can dramatically change your life’s trajectory.    But change is scary because getting out of the comfort zone is uncomfortable.    I always tell my clients that intentional change is optional. You...

THIS Could be Keeping You from Living Your Best Life

To get what we want in life, we need to balance thinking and doing, and connecting emotionally and spiritually with what we want. A lot of the work I do with my clients is about creating the emotional and spiritual space for the things they want in their lives.    This emotional-spiritual collaboration lets us get what we want with a greater sense of ease, purpose, and fun.   The problem is that our internal resources go largely untapped. We simply haven’t been trained to cultivate a...

The Value of Making Tough Inward Turns

Over the last week, a theme was running through the people in my space — one of frustration. Many clients and students felt that they were doing all the right things but they weren’t getting the outcomes they wanted. It was happening in their businesses, sales, and relationships. By the end of the week, I had to use NLP to release frustration for myself!   If you can subscribe to the NLP idea that you are the sum total of your conscious and unconscious choices and can believe that you ca...

Misconceptions about Creating a Dream Life

If you’re here, you’re probably like most of my clients. You want to have something in your life experience, but it’s not here yet. Or, there are some things in your life experience that you don’t like.    Bottom line, you want change in your life.    For many of us, things are great in most areas of life, but there are one or two challenging areas. These areas are where our conscious and unconscious minds don’t align.    In NLP, we say there are two types of problems: The prese...

The Power of Surrender and Trust

When you turn on a garden hose, do you wait impatiently for the water to come out of the spout? Of course not.   You know it’s coming eventually, so you trust that water’s going to pour out of there any second.   When you plug in the hairdryer, do you wonder if it will work? Probably not.   When you drive on a two-lane road, are you afraid that the oncoming traffic will hop into your lane? I hope not.   When you go to bed at night, are you concerned that the sun might not ris...

One Simple Change for Big Results

NLP places a premium on the ‘L’ -- linguistic. Language. The language we use matters. And the language we use gives us all sorts of clues about what we believe.    Today we're talking about two different linguistic assumptions. See if you spot these in your own thinking.   The first is cause and effect, the linguistic structure behind beliefs. It's simply the idea that one thing causes another.  Cause and effect is all about the “how”.  Like I must work hard to have money — meaning H...

Quantum Leap Thinking to Change Paradigms

This week is Integration Week inside our Soulful Business Revolution Program which means that I’ve got more time on my hands. I used this time to revisit an old book that I’ve read again and again, Price Pritchett’s You2. — it’s a quick read and so worth the time.    The book reminded me that the fastest way to get from where you are to where you want to be is to work from the inside out. No doubt, there are things in the physical world that will need to change or to happen, but working ...

Letting Your Purpose Lead the Way

I’ve been studying self-development since learning English as a kid. But I have memories, even as a young girl, of being mesmerized by Gloria Steinem’s inspiring messages, seeing her on Mexican TV, as her words were translated into Spanish.    As an adult, my love of self-development led me to breathwork, meditation, books, fitness, and eventually to NLP, and then to coaching others. Over the years, I’ve evolved and have discovered my why for being here and doing what I do. It’s what lig...

Managing Negative Emotions Effectively

Why do negative emotions stick around longer than positive ones?    It’s because we’re wired with a negativity bias. It’s nature’s way of keeping us safe. But it doesn’t feel good.   Negative emotions have a way of spiraling into more than just negative feelings. What may start out as a negative emotion can lead to a limiting belief, an away-from orientation, negative outcomes, fewer resources, and even a general place of disempowerment that doesn’t feel good.   Don’t get the ide...

Feeling Your Way to Success

Some people are into hobbies like writing, painting, music, or fitness.    Me? I’m into self-improvement. Self-improvement is my thing, and it’s been my jam for a long time. As a teenager, I read self-help books for fun. I even put myself in therapy when I was 17. My mom found out when she got a call from Kaiser. So, yeah, that was me, feeling the desire, even as a teen, to gather as many tools and resources as possible to better myself and my life.   You might not be a self-developm...

NLP Model to Train Your Brain

There’s a powerful tool in NLP called the negotiation model. The idea — it’s easier to reach an agreement the more ambiguous the concept up for debate is - think of something like “dinner”, chances are everyone in your family can agree that having dinner is a good thing. . Get more specific about what’s for dinner, and it’s harder to reach a consensus.   The goal of the negotiation model is to reach agreement with as much specificity as possible. When there’s disagreement, the model says...

How Your Unconscious Mind Prevents You form Crushing It in Sales

Recently, I surveyed 40 people, and every one of them cringed when we talked about sales and money.   These are people who are interested in growing a business — why would they have such a reaction? Business owners need sales to make money and money makes a business a business.   NLP teaches that the unconscious mind is “a highly moral being,” meaning it upholds beliefs. And the morality your unconscious mind works so hard to uphold is the one that you’ve taught it through your belie...

End-All Be-All for Client Retention

For the last week or so, I’ve been reflecting on my first job at age 16. I got a job at Carl’s Jr. (a fast food restaurant) to carry customers’ trays from the counter to their tables. I also made sure the dining room was tidy and kept an eye on the stock levels of the ketchup packets and napkins.   I wanted to do the best job I possibly could.   Before long, I took care of the customers in the entire large dining room on my own — and got tips! Have you ever seen someone tip a fast-fo...

What You Know Vs What You Want

When people join my 12-month mentorship and coaching program, they have a goal or dream in mind. They know what they want, and they join to get help to take them there. They come excited, ready, and willing to do the work to bring their dreams to life.    A principle in NLP is ‘the map is not the territory,” meaning that while we can agree that reality exists, our individual version of reality is subjective and will never ever be the same as someone else's.   Have you ever heard some...

3 Steps to Tap Into Courage and Embrace Change [Rebroadcast]

Change is hard, no matter its source. Some types are harder than others. And all types can be life-changing in a positive way. I see three types of change in my clients: You’re starting something new. You’re ready to start that business or embrace a new career or leave your comfortable gig for something else. This type of change involves leaving the Comfort Zone and creating new neural pathways that will support your success. It takes effort.  You’re in a phase of growth. You’re accum...

Balancing Being and Doing

I look to the people in my space — private clients, those in the Soulful Business Revolution program, and those in the private Facebook group — for inspiration before I recorded this podcast. One thing that’s been coming up lately is the concept of balance. And, wow, we can really be hard on ourselves when we feel like we’re missing the mark.   I believe that the best way to view “balance” is to see it as a concept to aim for because perfect balance doesn’t exist in real life. Our lives ...

The Winning Combination for All Pursuits

My life and business are about achieving outcomes — in my life and the lives of my students and clients. I’ve discovered some patterns related to the way we go about transforming our lives and pursuing outcomes.   These are observations from my life and those in my space, so we’re talking about a group of go-getters who desire personal growth and transformation. These are people with goals, ambitions, and a desire for excellence.   Spoiler alert: You can achieve success and positive ...

The perils of having a magic bullet mindset

Magic bullet promises are everywhere – on your phone, your desktop, and your television. Everywhere you look there’s an offer of an easy fix to lifelong problems. While the promise is alluring, we have to dig deeper to find the evidence of true results. We’re bombarded with quick-fix messages that tell us that…   if you do this one thing, you're going to have this amazing result one email can absolutely dramatically shift your business one Facebook Live is going to get a bunch of peop...

Managing fear to make room for goodness

Part of your brain’s job is to keep you safe. One way your brain attempts to keep you safe is by alerting you to threats and dangers through a strong emotion — fear.   It’s important to remember that fear and danger are two different things.    Just because we feel fear doesn’t mean there is an inherent threat or we’re in imminent danger. Many times — a threat is perceived but not at all real.   And sometimes, what feels like fear is really just the discomfort we feel from pushin...

How you know IT is happening

If you’re like most listeners, you’re on a self-development journey. Perhaps you have a big, juicy goal or dream you want to realize. And you’re doing the work to achieve it.   A student asked me recently, “Does ‘doing the work’ mean a lot of paperwork?”   No.    ‘Doing the work’ focuses on what you want, saying it the way you want it, taking action that aligns with your goals, staying consistent, walking that narrow path to your excellence, and doing it consistently.    That...

3 Success Superpowers in You Right Now

A while back, I wanted to get a Ph.D. in psychology. I didn’t have a bachelor’s degree, so it was going to take a while. So Ron asked, “Why don’t you learn how to do something else where you can help people?”   Then I remembered that my Ph.D. therapist had decided to become a life coach; I trained as a life coach in 2006 to better serve my real estate clients (weird, I know, but it worked!). At that time, I discovered a thing called “NLP.” As I read more, I felt intrigued and a little ap...

The Success Reality Check

When I set my mind on something, I go out and make it happen. I feel quite successful, and then I do it again. I did this with my real estate business and my one-on-one NLP breakthrough coaching.    Then, something happened.    I found myself feeling this undeniable urge to make a greater impact and reach a larger number of people. So I decided to take my in-person business online.   Only I didn’t know the online space. As far as the nuts of bolts of making this online business t...

Life Lessons I Learned from Recording 100 Podcast Episodes

This marks my 100th podcast episode, and I’m having all the feels -- of satisfaction, accomplishment, joy, fulfillment...and I’m grateful that you are here, and I’m thankful for each of you who have been part of this fabulous journey with me.   I had been putting off recording this episode for a while, and it was beginning to feel like I was stalling. I knew that I wanted it to be about lessons I had learned from recording 100 episodes, but I wasn’t sure of the direction I wanted to take...

On Identity, Visibility, and Showing Up

My mom is here visiting me this week. We were sitting out back together enjoying a glass of wine, and she said to me, “I think you finally found it. I think you finally found your calling.” She, of all people, knows how long I spent trying to figure out my path. And she’s right — I’ve found it! Actually, I knew this was my calling since I was in my 30’s, but I wasn’t ready to go for because I hadn’t yet done the internal work. The last 5 years, however, have been the most fulfilling. And...

Doing THIS Will Make All the Difference

NLP is all about learning how to control your state intentionally. The tricky thing about negative emotions is that they’re more automatic and more powerful than positive ones, so we have to work more to get into and maintain positive states.  Just like a puppy, the unconscious mind requires training.  One of my clients had a breakthrough recently. She’d been “doing the work,” which involves focusing on what she wants, listening to hypnosis to stay relaxed, paying close attention to her ...

The re-education of your inner critic

Today’s episode is about that voice in your head. The one that second guesses your actions, that says you’re not good enough, that says, “Why do you think that people care about what you have to say?” “Why would anyone want to buy your program?” and even, “Who do you think you are?” That voice is your inner critic.  If you have one — you’re not alone. I recently had a run-in with mine. I launched a program...and it felt like a flop because it didn’t reach my expectations. Now, it wasn’t ...

When OK is the Best that You Can Do

Any transition can feel hard. You’re out of your regular routine, and you sometimes feel off-kilter as you’re juggling change and having to make decisions that you wouldn’t usually be affected by. I recently went through such a time. We put our house on the market in the fall of 2020. We had potential buyers in the home, were in and out of escrow three separate times (with the same buyer), thought we might move to Washington state, then decided on a house in Tennessee (and we bought it sit...

Feeling your way to achieving your dreams

Emotions are in the unconscious mind’s domain — and how you’re feeling is one of the ways your unconscious mind communicates with you.  This is great because we get such good information. And emotions are powerful. Not only do they tell you how you’re doing, but they can also motivate, propel, and energize, adding fuel behind a particular direction or goal. This is why state management is so important and is such a key component of NLP. By accepting that all emotions are valid — hey, t...