It’s Not Trauma, it’s a Programming Experience with Paul Cope - Episode 240

It’s not trauma, it’s a programming experience! So the question becomes how do you reprogram yourself? Where we go wrong with personal development is that we address our traumas with the objective to eliminate them. But in reality, this doesn’t work. We are programmed by our painful childhood experiences and unless we work on re-programming ourselves, we make the same mistakes for decades, even for a lifetime.

Paul teaches us how to cope. There’s something lurking in the background of your life, destroying your self-worth, undermining your feelings of happiness, and sapping away at your fulfillment. In the vast majority of cases, the culprit is trauma. Some of the greatest revelations that occurred in people’s lives weren’t brought on by painting over the surface. In the episode, Paul says, we need to go to the dark place, our dark place, because that’s what we need to address. The crucial part is, it’s entirely up to us, we have to choose to do so.



It means unpacking and changing everything about ourselves: our lifestyle, our mindset, everything. We need to confront all of our core issues so we can replace them with new ones: positive and empowering ones that take us towards health and happiness. This is where we start doing the inner work necessary to deal with deep-set issues like anxiety, depression, or any other challenges that are triggered because of something that happened to us in the past.

We each have to be the programmer of ourselves and turn what we learned into who we are today. By doing this we become a byproduct of our own experiential programming. We can look at all of the traumas in our life as an opportunity for growth and change.



We as humans were intended to be happy, peaceful people. Don’t choose to be anything less than what we were designed to become because of the past. Join other men on purpose that choose to overcome generational trauma and check out these other episodes 173 and 209

In this episode, you will learn about:

00:06:11 Paul’s Story

00:12:23 Suicidal tendencies

00:14:09 Breaking point

00:20:59 Context of t rauma for children

00:22:31 Perfectionist trauma story

00:23:13 Unpacking it all

00:27:46 Eliminate what doesn’t serve you

00:24:24 Generations of trauma

00:25:19 Lifestyle change

00:35:15 People who changed their lives

00:36:11 Programming experience

00:37:30 Failure of traditional personal development

00:38:37 It’s simple but not easy

00:42:25 Change is a choice

00:52:11 Ian’s turning points

01:07:57 Spider in hand example

01:08:39 It’s just a story from the past

01:12:13 The airport story

01:16:43 Different stories and trauma recap

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