If we could all write our own love story. Would it have a happy ending? Probably not. Because often we only remember the pain. But, there are people out there who are fighting for a happy ending, who continue to write and now use their stories to help others. You're about to hear more from one of those folks. Ryan Hartley knows the heartache and scars that come from abandonment.


In this episode, we learn to Lead FOR LOVE and not from Love. There are no shortcuts to success, some days we have to let our story write itself out but it doesn’t have to be all about pain. Pain can give us clarity if we listen to our hearts but not everyone has to go through it. Find out why Ryan believes this.



One of the most inspirational speakers who has ever shared his story on this show. Through the course of his story, Ryan teaches us lessons in compassion and vulnerability and shows us an intimate side of it. It challenges the notion that while there isn’t always a happy ending, we always have a choice to shape our lives and go where we are loved.


We must fill our cups first in order to share from a place of abundance. As long as we are taught to LEAD with LOVE, there really is no such thing as failure.


We write our own life stories. As men on purpose, we do not shy away from Love, we embrace them. Join and learn with us how to lead with Love from these other episodes 173 and 209


In this episode, you will learn about


02:12 - Ryan’s pain of abandonment

03:44 - Never asked for help

04:17 - Why do people do naughty things

06:20 - Parenting & leadership journey

07:03 - Heart-centered

09:45 - We all have pain

10:31 - I go where I’m loved

14:23 - Leading for Love, not from Love

16:43 - Started listening to my heart

18:54 - Faith and Leading from Love, not for Love

20:07 - Power of Choice - I get to choose where I go

25:51 - I got the clarity of my purpose through pain

31:10 - Do we have to go through pain?

33:34 - When we get to help others overcome

39:54 - Fill the cup ourselves first

44:35 - Heaven or Hell

49:40 - Doubting who we are

50:30 - Taking responsibility for your life

54:20 - Discipline = Freedom & devotion = fulfillment

56:41 - Marriage counseling and the origin of Ian’s coaching

57:58 - Extreme ownership


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Websites: ryanhartley.co.uk

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Instagram: @ryanbhartley

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