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Married A.F.

47 episodes - English - Latest episode: 10 days ago - ★★★★★ - 9 ratings

Married A.F. (As Followers) takes a real and fun approach about all relationships from the viewpoint of a follower of Jesus. We will discuss all relationships, marriage, dating, friends, family, work, etc. There is no conversation that is off the table. 

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Episodes

Jealous Much

March 19, 2024 10:00 - 38 minutes - 26.5 MB

Have we slapped an expiration date on the institution of marriage without even realizing it? Tackling the weighty question of matrimonial relevance, this episode wades into the perspectives of young adults who label marriage as passé and scrutinizes the significance of lifelong vows amidst the backdrop of soaring divorce rates. As your hosts, we don't shy away from the tough topics. We return from a week-long hiatus, a sabbatical spent nurturing our own marital bonds, only to find ourselves ...

Money Troubles...Only Fans isn't the Answer

March 05, 2024 11:00 - 41 minutes - 28.3 MB

It's one thing to manage your money, but it's another to manage it together. Stick with us as we tackle the gritty, often avoided conversations about fiscal stress and how faith can shine a light in the darkest of times. We're not just talking dollars and cents. We're talking about what it means to be wealthy in love and life. Discover how our own journey through unexpected expenses, and the need to differentiate wants from needs, has strengthened our bond and our belief in a higher power. L...

Bumpin' Uglies

February 27, 2024 11:00 - 32 minutes - 22.3 MB

Join us as we unpack new research pointing to a generational shift in mindset, and share our heartfelt thanks to you, our listeners, from every corner of the globe—from the buzzing streets of Los Angeles to the sun-kissed shores of Miami. Your voices and stories fuel our passion, and for that, we're eternally grateful. Let's strip back the layers of intimacy, peeling away the physical to reveal the beating heart of communication that defines it. We're here to trade practical tips on how to ...

Situationships & Body Counts

February 20, 2024 11:00 - 31 minutes - 21.9 MB

Amidst the bloom of bouquets and Valentine's Day blitz, we're stepping out to question if society's grand romantic gestures are overshadowing the true essence of lasting partnerships. As we navigate through the maze of modern dating, from the adrenaline rush of the first crush to the sobering moment of a breakup text, our discussion lays bare the humor and humanity of seeking connection in the digital age. Sharing our personal misadventures and triumphs, we uncover the truths of Gen Z's sta...

Waiting Sucks, The Gen Z Bible, and Theo Epstein's Return

February 06, 2024 11:00 - 30 minutes - 21 MB

 I can't contain my enthusiasm as we discuss the return of Theo Epstein to the Red Sox and the fresh hope he brings to our beloved team. The story of Joseph has always been a testament to patience and perseverance, but its relevance hits home as we draw parallels with our own relational sojourn. We muse over the enduring virtues that saw us through trials and tribulations, and the profound influence of these qualities on realizing our dreams. Our reflections extend an invitation to listener...

Marriage Debates, YouTube Dreams, and the Art of Self-Care

January 23, 2024 11:00 - 35 minutes - 24.2 MB

Let's talk about the secret sauce to any robust relationship—taking care of yourself. We're getting real about the sweaty tales from the gym and the quirkiness of our mutual grooming sessions (nose hairs, be gone!). Discover how staying fit together isn't just about chiseled abs but forging an ironclad partnership that thrives through pandemics and life's curveballs. We're getting into the nitty-gritty of how a little discomfort during a workout or a skincare regimen can spell a lifetime of ...

How Bad Has It Gotten

January 16, 2024 11:00 - 32 minutes - 22.4 MB

We take a raw and humorous look at the complexities of marriage, serving up our truths alongside a side of laughter, as we unpack what it means to be hitched in the modern age. Now, don't think we've skipped over the bread and butter of married life—the daily grind, the quirks of growing older together, and the surprises that life tosses your way like confetti. From entertaining tales of "fat eyelids" to the less giggly reality of communication breakdowns, we tackle the reasons marriages mi...

What Do You Expect?

December 19, 2023 11:00 - 34 minutes - 24 MB

Ever imagined what it's like to break free from the daily grind and jet off to Hawaii with your partner? Well, buckle up because that's exactly what we're doing! After 15 years of marriage, my wife Monica and I, Matthew, are set to embark on an adventure that includes surfing, volcano exploration and much more! But this episode isn’t just about our exotic plans, we also take a moment to celebrate the success of our podcast. Thanks to you, dear listeners, we've seen a significant increase in ...

Freaking Laugh Already!

December 12, 2023 11:00 - 41 minutes - 28.8 MB

Imagine being married for 20 years, still sharing laughter and playful touches as if you're back in high school. That's our reality, and we want to share with you how we keep our marriage fun and vibrant. We've learned through our personal experiences that laughter truly is the best medicine. Even when we faced a pushy  salesperson, we found humor in the situation and it brought us closer.  Have you ever felt the pressure to be perfect? You're not alone. We discuss the impact of societal ex...

Overcoming Jealousy in Relationships

December 05, 2023 11:00 - 36 minutes - 24.9 MB

Have you ever considered how jealousy works in relationships and marriages? We'll be stripping this complex emotion down to its bare bones, sharing personal anecdotes that expose the reasons behind jealousy, from lack of self-confidence and feelings of inadequacy to the fear of losing one's partner. You'll hear how we've navigated the murky waters of jealousy in our relationship, even laughing at the absurdity of celebrity crushes and their impact on relationships. Interestingly, we've learn...

The Art of Vacationing

November 14, 2023 11:00 - 33 minutes - 22.8 MB

Vacations, those magical times that create memories for a lifetime. Do you ever wonder what makes them memorable? Is it the people we journey with, the meticulously planned itinerary, or the thrill of last-minute adventures? Join our discussion where we delve into the heart of this matter. We also share our perspectives on the intriguing spectrum of vacation styles - each unique and potentially life-altering. From our experiences, we also take a closer look at the subtle difference between a...

Q&A: Another Round

November 07, 2023 11:00 - 37 minutes - 25.6 MB

Does your marriage seem more like a series of negotiations than a sacred union? Are you losing sleep over home safety or the pressure of parenthood? Join us as we unravel the complexities of modern relationships and discuss how to navigate them with grace and understanding. We promise that by the end of this episode, you'll have fresh insights and practical advice to help you find balance and fulfillment in your marriage. Remember when marriage was less about the wedding and more about the ...

Q&A: We Have Thoughts!

October 31, 2023 10:00 - 37 minutes - 26.1 MB

Think back to your first roller coaster ride - the anticipation, the thrill, the exhilaration. That’s where we are taking you in today's episode, as we navigate the roller coaster journey of modern relationships and adventure. We're peeling back the layers on the enigma of declining marriage rates and sharing one listener's deeply personal struggle with a 15-year marriage, strained by anger and controlling behavior. Remember that breathtaking leap of faith you took when you decided to skydi...

Your Kid Isn't Going Pro...Sorry!

October 24, 2023 10:00 - 33 minutes - 23.3 MB

Our latest adventure had us packing up our bags and heading out to Los Angeles, where we walked through the sets of Friends at the Warner Brothers studio, made our daughter's day with Barbie props, and ended up at a Laker game out of the blue. But amidst all the fun, we found ourselves reflecting on the beautiful complexity of family life, the highs and lows of marriage, and the impact sports has on all of it.  Our son Cash's love for baseball gets its well-deserved spotlight as we recount ...

The Sex Menu: Candid Conversations on Sex

October 03, 2023 05:00 - 43 minutes - 30 MB

What if we told you that openly discussing the delicate topic of sex could be the key to a thriving marriage? In our latest podcast episode, we pull back the covers on this often-taboo subject. We'll first dive into the surprising statistics around dwindling satisfaction in our sex lives. Unraveling the fear many couples harbor around expressing their sexual needs, we provide insights on how to initiate these crucial conversations. We delve into a fascinating study revealing couples spend a...

True Resilience: Overcoming a Health Scare

September 26, 2023 06:00 - 41 minutes - 28.7 MB

What if your marital bond was tested with a potential life-altering health diagnosis? What if the joy of a newborn was overshadowed by a shocking revelation of cervical cancer? As a couple, we faced this harrowing ordeal, and we are here to share our journey with you. This episode is a candid narrative of our challenging journey. The diagnosis led to a hysterectomy, a surgery that left Monica grappling with immense pain and a recovery period that was longer than we could ever have imagined....

Exploring Secrets, Honesty, and Communication in Relationships

September 19, 2023 05:00 - 39 minutes - 27 MB

Ever wonder why your partner didn't reveal something about their past until much further into the relationship? Or why marriages seem to be an outdated concept for many young adults? Well, you're not alone. Join us in this enlightening conversation as we unravel the mysteries of secrets, honesty, and communication in relationships. We kick off the discussion with a personal anecdote about a unique anniversary surprise – a hidden secret that landed Matthew on the show Wheel of Fortune! Our j...

Season 3 Trailer

September 05, 2023 00:00 - 6 minutes - 4.53 MB

Season 3 is here! New Episodes coming September 18th

I Knew It Was Over When...

April 25, 2023 18:00 - 37 minutes - 25.7 MB

We discuss some of the top reasons and moments when people realized when their  marriage was over. 

Advice From Married People To Unmarried People

April 03, 2023 05:00 - 39 minutes - 26.8 MB

We discuss an article where married people give advice to people who have yet to get married. We picked the highlights that are really great advice for not just people who are not yet married, but even those who are married can take a look at their relationship and begin to put this into practice. 

I Love You...But I Don't Want To Sleep With You!

March 21, 2023 23:00 - 43 minutes - 30.1 MB

We are discussing a new trend of spouse's who no longer sleep with each other. Giving various reasons for more alone time, not having their late night scrolling interrupted, and better sleep...we aren't buying it.

Secrets Married Men Are Keeping From Their Wives - Part 2

March 06, 2023 06:00 - 26 minutes - 18.1 MB

We are continuing our conversation of the secrets married men are keeping from their wives. We talk double lives, money, lies, and a whole lot of cheating between these couples. 

Secrets Married Men Are Keeping From Their Wives - Part 1

February 20, 2023 06:00 - 23 minutes - 15.9 MB

This is part one of a conversation we had on an article where men shared the secrets they have been keeping from their wives. There are double lives, affairs, lies, sheltering feelings, threesomes, and all sorts of chaos to discuss. One thing we can learn, secret secrets are no fun, secret secrets hurt someone...

Trampolines Can Cause Divorce

January 02, 2023 06:00 - 37 minutes - 26 MB

If we had to put together a trampoline, in below freezing temperatures, on Christmas Eve, late a night...we realized it wouldn't end well. Everyone that has kids has experienced this high level stressful moment. Why does this always seem to happen? We dive into those reasons and why men especially are not allowed to have emotions. What would it look like if we just admitted we don't have all the answers and instead consulted the instructions for everything we encounter. 

Is Submission a Bad Word?

December 12, 2022 06:00 - 38 minutes - 26.7 MB

How difficult is it to forgive each other? How difficult is it to forgive yourself? Today we discuss grace in your marriage. Men, how are your wives suppose to submit to you as the bible instructs if you will not submit to Jesus first...simple answer, they can't. We talk about the importance and impact full submission to Jesus will have not just in your marriage but your life. 

Microwaveable Relationships

October 17, 2022 05:00 - 38 minutes - 26.5 MB

We love immediate gratification and crave satisfaction, but we will never achieve it when our relationships are microwaveable. We talk about why we want it now and how we can prevent the destruction it causes. 

The Kelley's - Part 2

October 12, 2022 05:00 - 45 minutes - 31.5 MB

In this episode we finish our conversation with Jeremy and Brittany Kelley. We lay out the importance of finding people to do life with.

"He Is Faithful, Even When We Are Not"

October 03, 2022 05:00 - 44 minutes - 30.9 MB

Special guests Jeremy and Brittany Kelley are on the show this week. This is going to be part 1 of our conversation because we lost track of time and went much longer than expected. We talk about how God brought these two together and the Jeremy was an HR nightmare. We also discuss the value strong friendships have on your marriage. 

Why Are You The Way That You Are?

August 26, 2022 00:00 - 50 minutes - 35 MB

From snoring to sheet stealing to bad driving to mismatched socks to bad habits...why is your spouse the way that they are? This may be a question you ask yourself on a daily basis. We let it out to begin this episode to explore the things that may drive us crazy, but how to not let those things become actual problems in our lives and relationships. 

They Aren't Wearing Any Clothes

August 15, 2022 05:00 - 38 minutes - 26.6 MB

Monica was out of the country in Juarez, Mexico last week. Matthew decided he would go to the gym after dropping the kids of for their first day of school. He was not expecting to see what he saw when he got there. As he described it, "No one was wearing any clothes". This lead to the conversation of temptation being all around us all the time. How can a marriage successfully navigate the temptation from the enemy attacking us every single day. 

I Don't Have Time For That

August 08, 2022 05:00 - 1 hour - 41.8 MB

We are running everywhere we go. We are rushed, anxious, and stressed. After we had been living with a rushed mentality for the last few months, we came to a realization of "why are we running everywhere we go, when Jesus walked everywhere he went".  We are missing so much because we are going too fast. How much could your life, career, family, health, and relationships benefit if we just slowed down?

No Idea What We Are Doing

May 02, 2022 05:00 - 50 minutes - 34.8 MB

Our first show in nearly two months. We talk about what we have been up to the last couple months. How we unexpectedly became little league baseball coaches, spring break at Universal Studios, golfing in Colorado, and everything in between.  

Phone Servants

March 06, 2022 00:00 - 47 minutes - 32.6 MB

Is our phone our master or our servant? We uncover the truth of the addiction we have with our phones, social media, and technology. Social media takes away from actual social interaction and our marriages, relationships, and families are suffering because of it. Also, please don't be a 10%'er...

Why Do We Divorce?

February 07, 2022 06:00 - 59 minutes - 41 MB

Half of all marriages end in divorce...HALF!!! If your best friend is married and so are you, according to statistics one of you will be getting divorced. Why do we think that happens? On this episode we break down why people get divorced, discuss the needs of men and women, our experience with our viral video, and the importance of homework!

A Firm Foundation

January 17, 2022 06:00 - 1 hour - 45.8 MB

How sturdy is your relationship's foundation? When storms come is everything still standing? Is everything still in one piece? One constant we know for sure is that in this life we will all face storms. The only way for us to survive these storms is to have a rock solid foundation. In this episode we talk about priorities. What that should look like not just for our relationships but for us as individuals.  

Water Your Flowers

January 10, 2022 06:00 - 1 hour - 47.8 MB

Do you like what you see when you look in the mirror? The majority of us do not. We compare ourselves to how others physically look, how fat someone else's wallets may seem, how happy that couple always looks, or how someone is killing it at the parenting game when in REAL reality it does NOT matter. So stop it! It's time to make a change! God created YOU! God does not make mistakes! Whatever reasons we may have to not like what is looking back at us in the mirror we were given freewill. So ...

Right vs. Real

December 13, 2021 06:00 - 1 hour - 58.6 MB

Today's episode we talk about relationships with differing opinions and viewpoints.  It is ok to have a different thought or idea than someone else and not attack them for thinking differently that you.  We learn that LOVE conquers all, that we are called to love all people.  

Happy Thanksgiving

November 25, 2021 22:00 - 41 minutes - 28.8 MB

Special Thanksgiving Day Episode...It is a family affair! Monica is BACK!!! We are also joined by our children Cashman and Elke.  We talk about our day, Christmas presents, Fortnite, Monica's organized preparedness, and just a fun family conversation.

Married AF / Monica Update!

November 23, 2021 06:00 - 14 minutes - 10.2 MB

We know, we know, we know it has been a few weeks...we are sorry!  So we recorded this short update episode as Matthew updates everyone on Monica's recovery from shoulder surgery.  We will be back very very soon with new episodes.  

Real Friends w/ Mark & Jenn Browning

November 01, 2021 05:00 - 56 minutes - 38.6 MB

We had the honor of hosting our dear friends Mark and Jenn Browning on the podcast this week.  We dig a little into their faith journey and the impact community has had in their lives.  How true and all healing comes from other people in your life.  We learn what it is like to be friends with us and how important it is to find people who do not want anything from you, but want everything for you. 

The Mistakes We Make

October 18, 2021 05:00 - 1 hour - 49.1 MB

Today we rehash Monica's trip to Disney World last week...4 parks in 1 day is quite the accomplishment.  Monica's Halloween decorations are all the rage this year.  Congratulations to Stephen and Alejandra on the engagement.  This got us thinking about the mistakes that newlyweds make in what their expectations of what marriage is going to look like.  We talk about what we experienced in the early years of marriage and what the game changer was for us.  Listen till the end to know what to ex...

Dudes Weekend

October 11, 2021 05:00 - 12 minutes - 8.64 MB

This more of an update than an episode...While Monica and our daughter Elke are running all over Disney World, literally all over Disney.  They have been to every park in one day.  So our 9 year old son Cashman hangs out with me, just to say hello.  We will be back next week and every week with more episodes.  We are going to go into overdrive and talk about some really difficult topics over the next couple months.  Buckle up, I hope you are ready!

Ditched for Disney

October 04, 2021 05:00 - 53 minutes - 36.6 MB

The Boson Red Sox have officially made the 2021 American League Wild Card Game!  We could not be more excited!  We watched the 9th inning live, so we apologize for our excitement.  Monica is taking a last minute girls trip to Disney next weekend.  We talk about how that happened and how in our marriage years ago this would not have been ok.  How keeping score in your relationship is a game that nobody wins.  We discuss Monica's wrestling career and how we made a life altering decision concer...

Are We Just Roomates?

September 27, 2021 05:00 - 59 minutes - 41 MB

It is Ryder Cup Sunday and the US is dominating and it seems that no one cares but Matthew.  We address the issue of couples becoming just roommates.  Matthew lived in a house in college that had Rats, Bats, and Alligators?  We talk how God should be number 1 and the foundation of all relationships, but our spouse or significant other should be number 2.  Learn your love languages, they are a game changer.  

The 7 Year Itch

September 20, 2021 05:00 - 57 minutes - 39.2 MB

Matthew tells Monica the only woman he would ever cheat on her with.  We celebrate 13 years of marriage this week.  The Red Sox are on a winning streak and are so close to a playoff berth.  We learn that Matthew has problems with losing at anything.  We dive into Monica's career paths, and how God can place us and use us for His good in any atmosphere we find ourselves in.

The Relationship Contract??? Seriously

September 13, 2021 05:00 - 50 minutes - 34.5 MB

We discuss a news article about a couple who has been dating 2 weeks creating a 17 page contact for their relationship.  Is this crazy behavior? Or are they on to something here?  Is Tinder the current day version of hot or not?  Buzzsprout - Let's get your podcast launched! Start for FREE Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.

Here We Go!

September 06, 2021 21:00 - 54 minutes - 37.5 MB

We were created for relationships with each other and believe we do not focus enough of our time on our relationships.  We talk about the creation of Married AF.  We learn what the AF actually means.  Monica talks about her obsessive love for Halloween and how Matthew is scared of clowns.