Man Alive artwork

Man Alive

340 episodes - English - Latest episode: 16 days ago - ★★★★★ - 1 rating

If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult

Even men at the top of their game find themselves wanting more from life. Whether it's more meaning, a bigger impact, unshakable confidence, a hotter sex life, more money, deeper love, solid friendships or a powerful legacy…

What is true success? How can a man actually reach the end of his life and look back without regret -- having lived and loved fully, rather than having been stuck in fear or a life he was "supposed to" lead?
Man Alive is a series of bold, raw and gritty conversations with experts on success, power, sex, love and legacy for men who...are clear they want amazing lives?!

For the past 15 years Shana James, a dating and relationship expert, has worked with thousands of men and women around the world and collaborated with hundreds of teachers and coaches. She has led workshops for dating companies like Table for Six and Match.com and been matchmaker for an MTV reality show.

Shana doesn't buy into the need for rules, games or limitations. She works with men individually to find their unique power, confidence and leadership abilities, breaking open the boxes that keep them stuck, dissatisfied, or settling for less than amazing in any area of life.

Sexuality Health & Fitness Society & Culture Philosophy dating love sex attraction confidence flirting hacking marriage success
Homepage Apple Podcasts Google Podcasts Overcast Castro Pocket Casts RSS feed

Episodes

#297: Why You Need to Grieve and Help for How to Do It

June 27, 2024 09:00 - 42 minutes - 27.3 MB

Grief is something we all have to face at some point. Today’s episode gives you and understanding of its cycles and offers hope and the pathway through. If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult

8 Essential Conversations For Lasting Love

June 20, 2024 09:00 - 36 minutes - 24.7 MB

With 47 years of research and the ability to predict with 90% accuracy whether couples will stay together or separate, Dr. John Gottman has learned what makes love last. If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult

#296: How Tantra Can Ignite Your Life and Relationships

June 13, 2024 09:00 - 43 minutes - 28.4 MB

Tantra is an ancient teaching that, when explored and brought into one's life and relationships, can energize, enliven, and create a depth of intimacy many people don't even know exists. If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult

The Genitals Project: Healing Beliefs About Sex and Intimacy

June 06, 2024 09:00 - 37 minutes - 32.8 MB

Many men carry a lot of shame about Sex and Intimacy, their sexual desires and performance. Dr. Hazel Grace has created a way for men to find a deeper peace with themselves that makes more love and intimacy possible. If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult

#295: The Transformative Power of Male Compassion

May 30, 2024 09:00 - 45 minutes - 29 MB

There may be times when you have a hard time believing in, or having compassion for, yourself. Today's Man Alive guest, Daniel Ellenberg, talks with me about the importance of men finding compassion for themselves, as well as bringing it to others. If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult

Your Mom May Be Messing Up Your Life – Kristopher Lovestone

May 23, 2024 09:00 - 38 minutes - 32.6 MB

Your relationship with your mom when you were young impacts how you see the world, relate to people, feel loved, ask for what you want, etc. It's easy to overlook the power of this. Today we help you see how understanding your dynamics with your mom allows you more freedom, better relationships and even more success. If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a t...

#294: Shut Down: Why it Happens, and How to Recover

May 16, 2024 14:21 - 37 minutes - 26.4 MB

Men tell me one of the hardest situations they face is when they shut down, especially when someone adds pressure or wants them to open up. It’s common to feel helpless, and ashamed when you don’t know how to recover. Today’s guest helps you understand why you shut down and how to recover.  If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoac...

Are You Actually Living a Meaningful Life? – Chance Taureau

May 09, 2024 09:00 - 45 minutes - 38.3 MB

At some point many of us awaken to the desire to have a more meaningful, inspiring life and leave a legacy for future generations. You can choose an overarching theme for a legacy but what if you saw each moment as an opportunity to respond to people and situations in a way that aligns with your future legacy? If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to ...

#293: How to Stay True to Yourself When a Woman Gets Mad at You

May 02, 2024 09:00 - 48 minutes - 32.4 MB

Today's episode focuses on how to navigate a woman's anger, especially when it's not as conscious as it needs to be to sustain trust and connection. If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult

#292: Improv for Dating and Relationships

April 25, 2024 09:00 - 42 minutes - 30 MB

Many people tell me they struggle to know what to say, on dates and in relationships. They worry about offending people or not being smart or interesting enough. Today's podcast guests, Patrick Short and Tiffany Crotty, have found a way to make communicating easier, and even more fun, and to help people be better. If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time...

Divorce Support for Dads

April 18, 2024 09:00 - 35 minutes - 29 MB

Divorce is challenging enough on its own. Add to that the responsibility to take care of your kids and navigate with your ex. Robin Choe gives hope for dads going through divorce! If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult

#291: The Need For Healthy Anger in Your Life and Relationships

April 11, 2024 09:00 - 40 minutes - 26 MB

While it’s human to feel angry, unhealthy expressions of anger can create pain and break trust. Instead learn the keys to express anger in healthy ways, to create closeness and connection. If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult

Is the Masculine Feminine Distinction Helpful for Men?

April 04, 2024 14:37 - 43 minutes - 38.3 MB

While I’ve seen men feel more powerful and confident as they embrace “masculine” qualities, I’ve also seen many men suffer and struggle, feeling unmanly or not good enough. This episode explores masculine / feminine dynamics, to see whether and how taking them on can be useful for men.  If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching...

#290: Create an Extraordinary Marriage

March 28, 2024 09:00 - 48 minutes - 33.8 MB

Today's guest is the founder of the Dad Edge community, which has a mission to empower men to create legendary marriages, create epic connections with their kids, master personal finances, optimize health (physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual), and become a leader within their family.  If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoa...

What Makes a Woman Trust You

March 21, 2024 18:23 - 38 minutes - 32.4 MB

Relationships endure breaks in trust – big and small. What does it take for a woman to trust you in the first place, or to rebuild trust when it’s broken? Our guest, Ashlynn Mitchell shares what helped her trust again after betrayal.   If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult

#289: Sneak Peek: Live Relationship Coaching

March 14, 2024 09:00 - 1 hour - 39.5 MB

We recorded this episode so you'll feel less alone, and so you'll have an example of a man who is willing to go deeper than his walls and protections. If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult

#288: 5 Keys to Living Fully

March 07, 2024 10:00 - 36 minutes - 24.7 MB

You are not destined to feel deadened, deflated, or defeated. You deserve to feel vital, inspired and full. If you don't know what you want, or you feel stuck in creating it, today's guest guides you to live fully and make life worth living! If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult

#287: Where to Find True Freedom

February 29, 2024 10:00 - 44 minutes - 29.9 MB

Men often want freedom, but it can elude them. Today's guest shows you where to look for freedom, and what makes it more likely for you to have it. If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult

15 Minutes to End Overwhelm and Increase Productivity

February 22, 2024 10:00 - 41 minutes - 35.4 MB

We can now accomplish more than ever, but we’re also more distracted and frazzled by the pace of our work than ever. How do you get your work done and stay on top of your tasks? The Perfect Day Method helps you make small commitments to become less overwhelmed and more productive at work.   If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoac...

#286: The Power of Authentic Masculinity - David Chambers

February 15, 2024 10:00 - 40 minutes - 27.9 MB

Authenticity is a source of incredible power that is often overlooked. While it can take some time to know and free yourself, it's worth the time and energy, because it exponentially supports you having more connection, support and pleasure in your relationships, for the rest of your life.  If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoac...

Own Your Sexual Needs, Restore Your Sexual Honor, Have More Sex

February 08, 2024 19:39 - 1 hour - 52.7 MB

Alison Armstrong and I discuss how you can communicate your sexual needs more effectively, and how men and women can better understand each other, so everyone gets to have a more fulfilling, connected, and hotter sex life.  If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult

#285: Make Sure Your Alcohol Use Supports Your Health

February 01, 2024 10:00 - 30 minutes - 20.2 MB

How do you know if your alcohol use is harming your brain function, hormones, sleep and capacity for peak performance? Today's guest shares about his experience and how you can reach your optimal health, especially as you age. If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult

#284: To Be a Powerful and Loving Man

January 25, 2024 10:00 - 43 minutes - 27.5 MB

It can seem like love and power are somehow at odds with each other, especially as a man. But the reality is that you can be both powerful AND loving at the same time. Martin Luther King said it best: "POWER without love is reckless and abusive and LOVE without power is sentimental and anemic." If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajames...

Simple Experiments For Better S*x

January 18, 2024 10:00 - 35 minutes - 31.2 MB

Many people are overwhelmed and confused by complicated techniques and positions that are supposed to create spark and passion. This episode gives you simple experiments for a hotter and more connected love life.  If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult

#283: From Hard Times to Freedom

January 11, 2024 10:00 - 40 minutes - 27.3 MB

Many men find it challenging to stay inspired amidst all the demands on their time and attention. When they realize that some of the energy drain comes from old wounds that formed an internal protector, they start to make the shift toward freedom. Today's guest shows you how to turn hard times into the freedom you seek. If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule ...

How to Live a Regret-Free Life

January 04, 2024 10:00 - 36 minutes - 32.5 MB

Most people don’t create their lives so as to reach the end without regrets. It’s easy to think you have a lot of time to accomplish and create, but the truth is you have no idea when life will be over. Here’s how to have fewer regrets when you reach the end… If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult

#282: How Men Can Be Fully Human

December 21, 2023 10:00 - 42 minutes - 27.4 MB

As a man, allowing yourself to be and show your full humanity can feel dangerous, especially when it involves showing emotions and admitting to struggles. Today's guest invites you to be Fully Human, and offers this as a path to a more successful and fulfilling life.  If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/consult

#281: Eat and Train for Your Unique Body Type

December 14, 2023 10:00 - 40 minutes - 25.9 MB

Men are dying younger and living sicker than women, and are more likely to suffer from many physical conditions, including heart disease. We don't want this to be you! Today's guest, Phil Catudal, father, author and trainer to celebrities, teaches you to train and eat for your unique body type.  If you're not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we'll schedule a time to talk: shanajame...

To Say or Not to Say: Communication that Creates Closeness

December 07, 2023 10:00 - 32 minutes - 30.7 MB

It’s not easy to bring up struggles, disappointments or frustrations in relationships. But have you noticed that when you don’t say anything, resentment can build while spark and trust fades? In today’s episode Tony Fonderson and I discuss how to communicate in a way that creates connection rather than breaks it.   

#280: How to Maintain Vitality and Fulfillment as You Age

November 30, 2023 10:00 - 42 minutes - 31 MB

As you age, you really can continually grow and evolve, becoming more fulfilled, not less!

#279: Shadow Work: A Missing Link to True Power and Great Sex

November 16, 2023 10:00 - 41 minutes - 27.6 MB

One of the biggest consequences of bypassing, or avoiding, the darker parts of yourself, is that people will often feel less trust, respect and attraction for you. Shadow work is a powerful way to gain access to your power, to intimacy and ease in relationships, and to greater levels of success and impact. Today's guests talk about how to reclaim parts of yourself you've left behind, or have never accessed.  

5 Ways to Have Better Dates and Relationships in Midlife

November 10, 2023 17:43 - 26 minutes - 23.4 MB

Midlife dating and relationships have their challenges but they are also an opportunity for incredible connection, healing and passion. This episode gives you five ways to have better love in midlife.  

#278: The Many Benefits of Spiritually Intelligent Leadership

November 02, 2023 09:00 - 35 minutes - 23.6 MB

Today's guest has done the research to show that bringing humanity and spirituality into business is actually great for a company's bottom line.

#277: The Importance of Tears AND Crying Out

October 26, 2023 09:00 - 35 minutes - 24.4 MB

Men's tears and cries for help tend to be rare, because most men have been conditioned to keep it to themselves. But this has caused a huge crisis. Men tend to reach their breaking points alone, and without support. It is heartbreaking and needs to change. Today's guest is on a mission to make this change. 

Emotional Cross-Fit for More Power, Freedom and Love

October 19, 2023 09:00 - 38 minutes - 29.9 MB

These days the pressures of life, paired with cultural expectations, create stress and suffering for men. Dan Doty leads men to become freer, more powerful and have more love in their lives with this one simple practice.

#276: Stronger, Hotter Relationships and Understanding Consent

October 12, 2023 09:00 - 38 minutes - 25.6 MB

With a depth and breadth that may surprise you, today’s podcast guest, Dr. Eric Fitzmedrud, delves into everything from consent to discovering your erotic landscape, to help men have stronger relationships and a hotter sex life!

Men’s Stories as a Path to Healing for All

October 05, 2023 09:00 - 31 minutes - 28.5 MB

Every man has experiences in life that shape the unique and courageous man he has become. Sharing these stories can be freeing and healing, not only for the man who shares them, but for other men who hear and identify with the pain, triumph and possibility they illuminate. What stories are you holding on to, that in sharing would set you free?

#275: How to Evolve by Choice When Sex is Hardwired by Nature

September 28, 2023 09:00 - 40 minutes - 44.1 MB

How can heterosexual men develop more meaningful sex and conscious relationships, even when they are hardwired for sex? Today's podcast guest, author of Sexed, talks about how to get beyond conditioning from media, porn, and the sexual industrial complex, so sex can not only be more pleasurable, but also more intimate, and even transformational.

#274: Overcoming Men's Collective Fear of Pleasure

September 21, 2023 09:00 - 33 minutes - 23.6 MB

Because pleasure is so enjoyable, it can be surprising  to know that many people are afraid of, or have some kind of resistance to, pleasure. Overcoming the blocks to experiencing pleasure is something every man deserves! Today's podcast guest focuses on showing you how.

Shining Light On Sexual Blindspots

September 14, 2023 09:00 - 38 minutes - 33.3 MB

Talking about sex as a man, whether in the realm of your desires or health, can be embarrassing or even seem to threaten your manhood. But this leaves many men at risk of everything from an unsatisfying sex to risk of early death. Bryan Stacy's sudden diagnosis changed his life and made him an advocate for helping you feel safe to have conversations about sex.

#273: Beyond Superficial Sex: Creating Real Intimacy

September 07, 2023 09:00 - 40 minutes - 30.2 MB

Many men spend a whole lifetime having sex that is superficial or one dimensional, missing out on emotional and energetic levels of pleasure, and the exponential experience of feeling your partner's pleasure in your body, in addition to your own. Today's Man Alive guest talks about how to get beyond this, to go where most men don't know they can go in intimacy and sexuality.

#272: The Necessity of Embodiment for Modern Men

August 24, 2023 09:00 - 38 minutes - 24.7 MB

Embodiment is one of the most powerful resources a man can tap into, but most men don't understand what embodiment actually is. Today's guest is a Navy Seal turned mental health expert, who has tapped into the wisdom of the body for stress-relief and success. He looks at health from a different perspective, incorporating the ancient traditions and philosophies of Africa, India, Europe, and North and South America to support our physical, emotional, mental and spiritual well-being. 

Radical Brilliance: How To Discover Your Unique Purpose In Life – Arjuna Ardagh

August 17, 2023 09:00 - 37 minutes - 34.4 MB

What is YOUR Purpose? When you learn and follow the natural cycle of life you are more likely to both feel brilliant AND bring your impactful creations to the world. Arjuna Ardagh has distilled a powerful map that allows you to step into your brilliance!

#271: How to Make Sure You're Not Losing Yourself

August 10, 2023 09:00 - 47 minutes - 30.5 MB

How much are you currently creating your life based on your own truth and aliveness, versus going along with a life that someone else expected or demanded of you? There's no time like the present to check in with yourself. You may not need a major life overhaul, but in each relationship and situation you can start to make sure to honor yourself and make choices that are good for you. 

Vulnerability That Works at Work

August 03, 2023 09:00 - 33 minutes - 29 MB

Many men experience being vulnerable as a huge risk, especially at work. In this episode we discuss the types of vulnerability that make you more respected and create an effective and enjoyable work environment.

#270: BEDucation: Pleasure Based Sex Education For Adults

July 27, 2023 09:00 - 39 minutes - 26.1 MB

High-quality, up-to-date, and accessible sexual education resources for adults is not always easy to come by. This is the mission of BEDucated, a company founded to empower grown-ups with pleasure-based sex education. In today's episode we talk about adult sexual phases, how to open beyond taboos and what makes it more likely for you to experience more connection and pleasure. 

What Women Want That Men Often Overlook or Don’t Understand

July 20, 2023 09:00 - 44 minutes - 37.7 MB

Women can be confusing and ask you to act in what seem like contradictory ways, at the same time. Tobin Zivon talks about how to “please” a woman without becoming a “pleaser” – a man who lacks his own boundaries or spine!

#269: Overcome Life's Biggest Challenges Rather Than Being Overcome By Them

July 13, 2023 09:00 - 33 minutes - 21.8 MB

When you are suddenly faced with a challenge you don't know how to overcome it's easy to go into overwhelm, or be overtaken by fear or grief.

Strength, Freedom and the Hero’s Journey

July 06, 2023 09:00 - 40 minutes - 36.1 MB

As we get older, life becomes more complex. We find ourselves in the midst of loss, challenges, heartbreak — inevitable experiences that are not easy to deal with. Today’s guests walks men through these challenging times to reclaim their power and innocence. 

#268: The Importance of Men Taking off Their Masks

June 29, 2023 09:30 - 35 minutes - 22.8 MB

Most men are taught to wear masks from a young age, to prove their worth through a societal construct of "manliness." These days we can see the pain and isolation this has caused men. Today's guest shows you how to break down these constructs to reclaim yourself and your life.